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Mayberry Machiavelli (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 03:46 PM Original message |
Went to my first open casket viewing funeral this weekend. |
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momophile (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 03:50 PM Response to Original message |
1. I can pretty much trust that a person is dead... |
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Whoa_Nelly (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:39 PM Response to Reply #1 |
26. When one of my closest life-long friends died suddenly |
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momophile (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:50 PM Response to Reply #26 |
31. thanks for sharing, Whoa_Nelly |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-24-06 01:43 AM Response to Reply #26 |
79. How wonderful for you to go through that, Whoa! |
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TallahasseeGrannie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 08:08 PM Response to Reply #1 |
42. My mother in law died 12 years ago in NJ |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-24-06 01:00 AM Response to Reply #42 |
78. Wow. My m-i-l wants to be |
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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 03:52 PM Response to Original message |
2. Almost every wake has been open casket that I have gone to |
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azmouse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 03:54 PM Response to Reply #2 |
5. Same here. |
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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:01 PM Response to Reply #5 |
9. Plus it gives you a chance to critque the undertaker's work |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 06:14 PM Response to Reply #5 |
33. same here |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 03:52 PM Response to Original message |
3. I've only been to one and won't repeat it |
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trof (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 06:31 PM Response to Reply #3 |
36. I'm with you. I think it's barbaric. |
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TallahasseeGrannie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 08:11 PM Response to Reply #3 |
43. But it isn't supposed to be |
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redwitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 09:01 PM Response to Reply #3 |
55. Maybe it isn't meant to be a comfort to acquaintances. |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 09:40 PM Response to Reply #55 |
62. Perhaps |
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redwitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 09:44 PM Response to Reply #62 |
64. oh, didn't realize it was funeral and not wake. |
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bertha katzenengel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 03:52 PM Response to Original message |
4. I've seen two. I was told it was disrespectful to the family not to pass |
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Der Blaue Engel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-24-06 02:12 AM Response to Reply #4 |
82. I refused to look at my mother's body at her funeral when I was 14 |
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bertha katzenengel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-24-06 08:46 AM Response to Reply #82 |
84. My mother was never "available" for viewing. Thank God. I was eleven. |
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Mayberry Machiavelli (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 03:54 PM Response to Original message |
6. I will add that I work in a field where viewing dead bodies is not new or |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 03:57 PM Response to Original message |
7. My family always has open casket |
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jane_pippin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:01 PM Response to Original message |
8. I see why it's done, but I don't like it. |
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momophile (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:07 PM Response to Reply #8 |
11. I'm there with you. Talk about scarring a child. nt |
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jane_pippin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:10 PM Response to Reply #11 |
12. Yeah, except I was 23 at the time. |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:38 PM Response to Reply #11 |
25. Open casket viewing does not automatically scar a child; |
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momophile (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:41 PM Response to Reply #25 |
28. okay, not automatic... |
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TallahasseeGrannie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 08:15 PM Response to Reply #11 |
45. OH, now THAT I agree with |
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GoddessOfGuinness (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:37 PM Response to Reply #8 |
24. Nobody should be forced to look on a dead body. |
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redwitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 08:58 PM Response to Reply #8 |
53. Most of the funerals I have been to were open casket |
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mohinoaklawnillinois (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 09:41 PM Response to Reply #53 |
63. Same here redwitch. I've only been to a few wakes |
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redwitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 09:57 PM Response to Reply #63 |
65. How wonderful and unusual to have such a happy memory |
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mohinoaklawnillinois (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 11:04 PM Response to Reply #65 |
66. Thanks, redwitch. I have no doubt that they were in the room with us. |
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jane_pippin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 11:21 PM Response to Reply #53 |
67. I think in my case it was because it was my grandma--this grandma |
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redwitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-24-06 12:41 AM Response to Reply #67 |
75. oh, sorry! |
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Miss Marmelstein (650 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:05 PM Response to Original message |
10. When I was in High School.... |
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djeseru (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:11 PM Response to Original message |
13. The hardest one was my dad. |
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zanne (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:17 PM Response to Reply #13 |
16. Me too, djeseru. |
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djeseru (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:26 PM Response to Reply #16 |
19. I was 21. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 09:09 PM Response to Reply #13 |
59. Hardest one was my mom, and when they closed it prior to service |
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NNadir (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:11 PM Response to Original message |
14. I actually hate these things. |
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Der Blaue Engel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-24-06 02:26 AM Response to Reply #14 |
83. My mother died 25 years ago of the same thing |
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Book Lover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:17 PM Response to Original message |
15. It helps me but I certainly understand those who don;t like it |
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SeattleGirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:19 PM Response to Original message |
17. My dad's was open casket but I refused to look. |
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prolesunited (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:40 PM Response to Reply #17 |
27. I have that issue as well |
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SeattleGirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:45 PM Response to Reply #27 |
30. Photo boards are wonderful, and do contribute to |
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TallahasseeGrannie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 08:18 PM Response to Reply #17 |
47. My dad had alzheimers |
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SeattleGirl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 11:42 PM Original message |
In your case, looking was a good thing |
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NashVegas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 08:49 PM Response to Reply #17 |
51. My Grandmother's Was Open and I Wish I Had Looked |
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dr.strangelove (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:23 PM Response to Original message |
18. I always appreciate it |
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LaraMN (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:29 PM Response to Original message |
20. I never look., anymore. |
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Shine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:29 PM Response to Original message |
21. I've been to many open casket funerals. |
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seemunkee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:32 PM Response to Original message |
22. I hate them |
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GoddessOfGuinness (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:34 PM Response to Original message |
23. It helped me, when my father passed away... |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:42 PM Response to Original message |
29. can't do 'em |
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dryan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 04:57 PM Response to Reply #29 |
32. Have been to both..... |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 06:21 PM Response to Original message |
34. it's so natural to me |
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Kali (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 06:28 PM Response to Original message |
35. Death is a natural part of our existance - I think its moslty a good thing |
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Initech (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 06:31 PM Response to Original message |
37. My aunt's two years ago was open casket and it was pretty unreal |
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mvd (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 06:42 PM Response to Original message |
38. First of all, sorry about your friend's death |
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Mayberry Machiavelli (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 07:02 PM Response to Reply #38 |
40. It wasn't terribly disturbing.. just strange. My friend was a real "live |
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Saphire (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 06:47 PM Response to Original message |
39. been to them all of my life, and my main reason for wanting NOT |
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jus_the_facts (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 07:27 PM Response to Original message |
41. I went to my first *viewing* when I was 5...my great uncle.... |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 08:14 PM Response to Original message |
44. I've done both kinds of funerals |
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bigwillq (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 08:17 PM Response to Original message |
46. So sorry on the loss of your friend. |
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YellowRubberDuckie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 08:26 PM Response to Original message |
48. I understand that.. |
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BuelahWitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 08:33 PM Response to Original message |
49. I thought it was strange when I went to my first closed casket |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 08:43 PM Response to Original message |
50. I don't understand the fear that "the dead body will be your last memory" |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 09:03 PM Response to Reply #50 |
56. I agree with you Lydia |
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Fox Mulder (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 08:51 PM Response to Original message |
52. I was 20 at my grandpa's funeral. |
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RumpusCat (548 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 09:00 PM Response to Original message |
54. Not open casket, but I saw my grandmother's body |
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Missy Vixen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 09:09 PM Response to Original message |
57. Been there, done that |
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ccjlld (246 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 09:09 PM Response to Original message |
58. When my paternal Grandmother died |
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redwitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 09:20 PM Response to Reply #58 |
60. I don't get that either. |
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Mayberry Machiavelli (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 09:23 PM Response to Reply #60 |
61. A heart LOL to that, glad I wasn't drinking milk/soda.... |
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cmf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 11:40 PM Response to Original message |
68. Open casket viewings are normal where I am from |
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Floogeldy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 11:42 PM Response to Original message |
69. My parents came from large families. |
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Whoa_Nelly (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-24-06 12:50 AM Response to Reply #69 |
76. Wow! You, too? |
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Floogeldy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-24-06 12:54 AM Response to Reply #76 |
77. Yes and there you have it! |
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GrumpyGreg (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 11:48 PM Response to Original message |
70. he first casket viewing I went to was my father--I was 5 years old. |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jan-23-06 11:56 PM Response to Original message |
71. To me, wakes are brutal. When I die, please, why should |
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TK421 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-24-06 12:24 AM Response to Original message |
72. I understand why viewings are comforting to some people, but when it's |
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Flying Dream Blues (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-24-06 12:31 AM Response to Original message |
73. I understand the difficulty and I think it's difficult, too, but |
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Beausoir (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-24-06 12:38 AM Response to Original message |
74. I grew up with this custom. There is no shame in death. |
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Floogeldy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-24-06 01:45 AM Response to Reply #74 |
80. Well said. |
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babylonsister (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Jan-24-06 01:46 AM Response to Reply #74 |
81. There are also cultures that do the funeral pyre; that's |
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