Looks like a good friend of mine who is in the Iraq

[MissHoneychurch]

is coming back from his tour. Haven't gotten an email from hin in the last two days. He said he would finish his tour around this time so .... YAY!!!!!!!!

:bounce:

and he is coming to Germany for a visit in February

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

1. My ex boyfriend ( the one who had me down in the dumps last summer )

is back on American soil as well . And you know what ? I have no hard feelings . From my side I have decided not to contact him because I am much better without him . He has no idea that I know he is home and I don't expect him to contact me either . Just glad that he is home safely honestly . On with life I guess . I grew up - this is a sign that I grew up because I am not bitter about him anymore so go me .

[MissHoneychurch]

2. that is really good

that you are not bitter. Kudos for that :hug:

Even though you don't love him anymore, he is still a person you were very close with and it still is a good feeling that he is back safe.

That friend of mine was on his second tour. Fortunately both times only half a year. And I am always glad that he stays on base in the Iraq, that way I know he is safe.
I am looking forward to see him in February.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

5. Have a very good meeting with your friend .

I remember back to the last conversation that I had with my ex and we talked about our lives going in different directions . I could have been stupid and kept dragging something that was empty along the way but I knew that we had come to the cross in the road and that I had to cross the road with him by my side . I took a deep breath after I said my " goodbye " and went along my way . That was one of the bravest things I ever did I tell you . The feelings that I had for him are no longer there . He did have a girlfriend after me while he was in Iraq though it was long distance and from what I saw , he loved her and I was happy that he had found comfort with someone else - through everything he has been through , he deserves happiest , if not with me , with someone else . Unfortunately , for reasons unknown to me , they are no longer together . Another sign that I grew up , I am sad that this relationship fell apart for him - even though the way we ended was very sad , and it had me not eating for about 6 days - it was good to see him happy , as I am happy too in my life . I don't know what the future brings but I don't know if he wants to talk to me again . You never know the way life turns out , we could end up talking again in the future as friends . In the end , we had a great time and I wish him well .

[MissHoneychurch]

7. I know what you mean

at one point one ex-bf told me he might have to go to the Iraq (later I found out he went to Bosnia instead. Even though I didn't love him anymore or didn't want anything to do with him anymore I was still thinking about him and hoping he was safe downrange. As I said before, you might not love the person anymore but it is still someone you were VERY close with for some time. No matter how the feelings are now, you want them to be safe.

I hope everything works out for him. He and you are still young. I am sure he will find the right woman for him.
"Goodbye" is sometimes a very hard thing to say. I just told a guy that the other day. He was playing with my feelings. Even though I really liked him I had to tell him I don't see any sense to continue our aquaintance. It was hard, but I did the right thing. As did you.

[hickman1937]

3. Is he home and safe?

Good. He may be changed though. Maybe I'm just paranoid. I grew up in the viet nam era.

[MissHoneychurch]

6. haven't heard back from him yet

but it was the same the last time. Suddenly his emails stopped and next thing I knew he was in Germany (to visit).
Since he wasn't outside the base I don't think he changed too much. He was in no danger zone.

[NMMNG]

4. Woo Hoo!

:woohoo::woohoo::woohoo:
:woohoo: :woohoo:
:woohoo:

[MissHoneychurch]

8. This is how I feel exactly

:hug: