Do you have an ex with whom you will alway be a little bit in love?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

[ZombieNixon]

1. Maybe...

[supernova]

2. Nope

Out of my life permanently. And I like it that way.

[Radical Activist]

3. at least one

Its hard to fall completely out of love, but one in particular I will always have feelings for.

[LaraMN]

4. Nope!

:rofl:
and that does require emphatic laughter!

[La Lioness Priyanka]

5. why is that funny?

:P

[LaraMN]

8. If you met anyone I actually "dated" prior to being married,

you'd understand! A plethora of wierdos (and not "good" wierd, either!):scared:

[djeseru]

6. Yes, each one in their own way.

Something very personal passed between them and I, and perhaps we didn't end up in the best of circumstances, but none of them ended badly.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

7. Only with who they presented themselves to be

not with who they ended up being which was a 180

[no name no slogan]

10. I hear you loud and clear nsma

:hug:

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

11. It's the shits

when you tell someone what all the issues and barriers are in your life UP FRONT and they claim to accept you and understand and then use those very issues to kick you in the gut with as they fly out the door to the next good thing claiming it was all you and never again look you in the eye. Then they wonder why you're pissed!

You just need to trust karma sometimes.

[Name removed]

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[Arkham House]

9. *Sigh*...yes, indeed...

--here come the violins on the soundtrack...LOL...it was the fall of 1974, I was a senior in college, and met a lovely freshman girl from Oklahoma...and it was love at first sight...we had our kid's names all picked out, it was blissful...then she went home for the summer, and I got a letter from her saying she was going to become a nun...:-(...or is it :-)?... Anyway--you're welcome to laugh if you want...I couldn't even be jealous of The Other Guy....LOL...but I still think of her...

[Fenris]

12. Nope.

Dead, gone, and buried.

[flamingyouth]

18. Really?

No cruises to Alaska planned? :D

[Fenris]

19. Really.

:)

[The Governor]

13. Sure...In love with what they used to be...

[petronius]

16. Exactly - and who you used to be a well

We all have fond memories of old relationships, but I'd bet a lot of us are viewing these old relationships through rose-colored glasses, and with a great deal of nostalgia for perceived 'golden days of youth'.

Welcome to DU!

[NNadir]

14. I can't remember my exs.

I'm too old and I've been with the same person for all the years that are important.

[Omphaloskepsis]

15. Yes.. I manage to think about her every single day.

It sucks.

[bridgit]

17. hell fucking no sweetheart...

those days are done, tagged on their toes & pigeon holed

[sir_captain]

20. Yes, and it's the same person for both your polls

funny how that works, isn't it?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

30. that is funny

but i dont think you can truly hate someone you havent loved

[merh]

21. Yes, if you truly love someone, I don't know how you stop loving them.

Even if they break your heart or you realize the relationship isn't healthy.

I don't know how to stop loving them, but I don't let the loving of them interfere with my ability to find self worth and to get on with my life.

I just spent an hour with one of the first to break my heart. He got another girl pregnant and married her and broke my heart, but to this day, I can honestly say I love him. He still makes my heart melt, but I don't act on it and I respect the fact that he belongs to another. Because I love him, I wouldn't want to cause him any difficulties and I wouldn't want to hurt his loved ones.

Life is not simple, love is not one dimensional and if it is real love, it doesn't die, it just evolves to a different level.

And I temper this post by saying "this is just my opinion and how I feel."

[La Lioness Priyanka]

28. i completely get that

[RetroLounge]

22. Yes, and maybe one more on the way...

sigh...

RL

[Left Is Write]

23. Not really, though there are a couple I will always think of fondly.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

24. Yes my first boyfriend/ former fiance .

[miss_american_pie]

25. Maybe

He wasn't an ex and always is a long time. :shrug:

[LeftyMom]

27. I have an ex who is a very close friend

but we were always more friends and partners than in love with each other. We get along better now that we've given up the romantic pretense and accepted that we can be friends and raise a great kid without pretending to feelings we don't have. I love him in the sense that he's a very good friend, as close as family really, but not that way.

[Amaya]

29. Yes

n/t

[Redstone]

31. Not me, cool.

That past is gone, and I like the present very much.

No regrets. No longing. No "what if."

(And I continue to stay in touch with a number of my ex-paramours, on a friendly basis. and with Mrs R's blessing. But there's no fanning of the old flames.)

Redstone

[kwassa]

32. I thought it would never end but it finally faded away

after a number of years. About 6, in fact.

And, a new and excellent relationship. That does wonders for forgetting. Almost 11 years in that.

[rustydog]

33. Yes, my son's mother..a good person

[Benfea]

34. Not at all, and I'm glad.

I'd really rather not have future relationships screwed up by past relationships.

[bigwillq]

35. Not "in love"

but one in particular will always be close to my heart.
It didn't end on a sour note, he was just my first love and he needed to go his separate way to clear up some problems. I had to go my separate way because he was the first and I needed to experience the things I needed to since I had just recently "come out".

No hard feelings towards him. I think we are both better off apart but I still think about him from time to time although he's currently on the other coast.

[Ariana Celeste]

36. Yes of course

He was the first that I can honestly say that I loved. :)

We learned a lot from each other. And I know I must have meant a LOT to him because I was the only g/f he ever brought home to his mama. He was very hesitant to bring anyone home for various reasons, one of which was that his mother was/is bipolar. It's not that he was embarrassed, this guy loves his mama more than anyone on earth. It's that he didn't think anyone he had dated would understand- didn't trust them. But he trusted me, and found that not only did I understand, but that I was willing to help him with her- and sit with her when she was feeling low (but just good enough to allow someone in her room to be around her.)
Eventually we ended up splitting up, because we both had a lot of issues, and we felt it wasn't fair to one another to involve each other in our own issues until we had them better sorted out.
Unfortunately, his mother didn't understand and didn't like me at all anymore because it broke his heart (mine was broken too... but I understand why she didn't or wouldn't see that). We ended up dating again for a short period later on. Stayed friends for awhile. But there was way too much feeling there and whenever one of us was dating another person we would end up fighting and not speaking for weeks or months. And what made that worse is he had become very good friends with my brother.
And he still is, and I haven't spoken to him in a long time since I have been out of state. I tried to contact him a few days ago when I saw that he was online and a member of myspace- he hasn't logged on yet- I hope he will be willing to speak to me. I wish nothing but the best for him. He's been through a lot of emotional hell in his life, and he deserves to be happy.

:).

[ScreamingMeemie]

37. yes, that's why I had to find him and get him to marry me.

:hi:

[Ptah]

38. More than a little bit.

The mother of my children.

Ask me anything.

[Oeditpus Rex]

39. She was also my best friend

Maybe the best friend I'll ever have.

I miss that a lot more than I miss her as a lover.

[Pale Blue Dot]

40. There are several I still care about, including my ex-wife,

but none I would ever want to date again.

[Alexander]

41. Hell no!

Especially since pretty much all of them decided to become nympho sluts after we were through.

[Laelth]

42. You mean, an ex I might still like to sleep with?

Sure, if I weren't married.

But I'd still dislike her after I slept with her.

-Laelth

[BlueIris]

43. Egh. I had to put no. Now that all the therapy had helped me see

all the exes were abusive assholes to varying degrees...it's not possible for me to nurture any love for them. Especially because of the gruesome way all the relationships ended (not that there were that many of them). Maybe if I had normal exes...