Loneliness Really Sucks!

[Divameow77]

My husband and I have been separated for over a week now and tonight I am feeling especially lonely.
I'm home with a sick baby while my friends are at a birthday party. They keep sending me text messages to try and include me, and cheer me up, but I think it's just making me feel worse.

[TInCanCommunications]

1. Cheer up

Things ALWAYS get better.

Don't know why.

They just do.

[Divameow77]

2. Thanks

What's weird is I usually am the last person to throw a pity party for myself, but damn, this is so hard.

I know things always get better, I just need to remind myself of that once in awhile.

[BikeWriter]

6. I know the feeling. What's her name moved out several years ago.

Good luck!

[TInCanCommunications]

7. I love alone time, myself

I go crazy if I don't get some time to read, watch some boob tube without worrying whether the wife wants to watch it ... play the guitar. Play some music.

Surf the net.

Lotsa stuff to do.

Loneliness can be cool. Use it while you got it. It won't last long.

[Whoa_Nelly]

3. Where's your husband?

Are you separated, like a move out of marriage, or is he just away?

[Divameow77]

8. He moved out last week

and it looks like we are headed for divorce. We've been married almost 5 years and I feel like it's the right thing to do but then nights like this make me think twice. I know I need to be strong.

[Whoa_Nelly]

11. It's a really tough thing, especially wiht a baby

hang in there! :hug:

[auntAgonist]

4. I know it seems real

dark for you right now, it will get better, I promise!
I hope the baby isn't too sick. sick at all isn't a good thing especially when you're there alone to handle the situation. I'm glad your friends are thinking of you and at least sending you messages to try to cheer you up. sort of like on here eh? :)

:hug: It's not much of a :hug: just a cyber :hug: but it's a :hug: for you and a :hug: for the baby too!

hang in there !! It's always darkest before the dawn and you'll have sunshine soon!


aA

[Divameow77]

10. He just has cold

but a 3 year old with a cold can be pretty miserable.

Thanks for your kind words and hugs.

[BikeWriter]

13. I always hated it when my babies were ill...

Hang in there, Sweety!

[I Have A Dream]

5. Sorry that you have to go through this, divameow77. However...

at least you have good friends who really care about you. I hope your baby gets better really soon and that you can then do something nice for yourself.

:hug:

[Redstone]

9. Good that you came to the Lounge, feeling like you do.

There are a whole bunch of nice people here who will do whatever they can to try to lift your spirits.

No need to apologize. Most of us have felt as you do now, and have had people help us out of it.

I can't offer you much except to tell you that it does get better. May not seem that way to you right now, but trust me: It does get better.

Hang in there.

Redstone

[Divameow77]

12. I agree

my mom has been a fan of DU for a long time and introduced me to the lounge. I'm glad she did. There are tons of nice people here, I have seen that many times. DU has been my first experience with a message board and it has been good.

[Redstone]

15. The only other "message board" I ever got involved in is one that works

against "street spam." Remember all those "Work From Home" signs you used to see on all the telephone poles everywhere? Don't see any of them anymore, do you? It's because of that group I belong to.

But that group, though effective, was not the kind of community that DU is.

If someone had told me a few years ago that I'd get involved with an Internet group and end up feeling like I was part of a community, and that I'd consider many of the other people in that group to be true friends without ever having met them, I'd have dismissed the idea as lunacy.

But here I am. I like this place, and I do consider a whole bunch of these people to be friends (which is not something I say lightly or easily)...

I've gone through the separation blues. And, unlike, most fathers, I did have my son with me, so I understand more than most guys about having the primary responsibility for the kid along with the other anxieties. It ain't easy. But it isn't forever, either.

Just remember, it does get better.

Redstone

[BikeWriter]

16. Thanks for helping the Diva, Brother. You are a...

positive force in The Lounge.

[Deja Q]

14. Listen to them.

I should have realized.

[RevCheesehead]

17. Isn't it wonderful to have the internets?

And how fortunate that you've found this place. :)

I'm sorry you're going through a rough time right now. I'm sure it hurts like hell, because you are mourning the loss. Even if it's a good or amicable separation, there's still loss.

When you're ready, I offer you the following prayer, for persons who are going through a divorce. I hope it can bring some comfort to you.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=237x756

And remember, we're here for you. :hug:

[Divameow77]

18. Thank You

I just saved that :hug: