I hate Valentine's Day

[Atmashine]

When I was single it sucked. Now with marriage it's like a 24 hour quest for the Perfect Romantic Day Ever.
And if one thing goes wrong: "You ruined Valentine's Day"! Auggh. Gag me. It's a very hostile day when you're forced to be all mooshy-love-bunny, but all I really want is just to have a fun day where it doesn't feel like I'm being tested. I wish it would go away. It's not a very good holiday.
With that said, now I have to go get some flowers before my wife senses the taint of what I said.

[kick-ass-bob]

1. If it's that forced, then it will show

and you both will still have a crappy day.

[samplegirl]

2. I love valentines day

always thought of it as a un-stressful, happy occasion and a reminder to show all those you love a gesture of love.
I never thought of trying to make it the perfect romantic day.
Just spending time and remembering the most important words in
the English language

[cleofus1]

3. i feel the same way...

but sometimes we have to consider how our wives/girlfriends feel...no matter how much of a hallmark scam i think valentines day is...

i know when my wife gets a dozen red roses and some balloons delivered to her at work she feels very very good...loved even...go figure...i go ahead and forget my feelings on the subject and just go for the gesture...it her case it is appreciated...

[Brewman_Jax]

4. I do, too

but I don't have a girlfriend for Valen...uh, Feb. 14. Getting birthday and anniversary correct is hard enough. To add, it's looking like a possible one is not going to happen--she doesn't sound ready for one at this point in time.

On a better note--I saved a bunch of money by switching to Geico. :rofl:

[Atmashine]

5. Here's a picture of me on V Day

[LaraMN]

6. Heh. I haven't even figured out what I'm getting my husband, yet.

and he's had my present for a few weeks.:banghead:

[mongo]

28. Just wrap yourself in a bow

that should do the trick...

[ScreamingMeemie]

7. I don't "get" my family anything. I decorate the dining room in a theme

cook them dinner, and then enjoy them to pieces! This year we are traveling to Italy (in honor of the Olympics) on our mini vacation! :hi:

[Patiod]

9. Where in Italy?

I'm jealous. I want to go back.

[ScreamingMeemie]

11. Oh! We're not really going! This year Italy comes to our dining room

for one night! The children and I have fun studying up on the different locations and then we plan a menu and decorate. :) This year, my daughter's French teacher (he's Greek, but also lived in Italy) has helped us out immensely.

[Patiod]

12. Oh fun!

You could always flood the bathroom for a Venice theme.....

[ScreamingMeemie]

25. ...

:rofl: My daughter does that nightly when she takes her shower. ;) :hi:

[Atmashine]

10. That's neat!

[ScreamingMeemie]

14. I have some great pictures of past celebrations!

Hardly any romance, but a whole lot of fun and lovin'! :)

[samplegirl]

20. i do a theme for every holiday

guess i just like holidays!

[ScreamingMeemie]

29. Are those your plates? That is BEAUTIFUL!

I'm in awe of you! :hi:

[samplegirl]

33. yes ready and waiting a special

V day meal.

[mdmc]

8. could be worse

"what is she doing tomorrow night?" I don't want to know, because she ain't doing it with me..:cry:

[redqueen]

13. I feel you...

:pals:

*sigh*

[mdmc]

16. thank you redqueen

perhaps it is time to get back on that horse again...

[mdmc]

23. OMG!

She just called! "Happy V day...no plans tomorrow..." OMG! OMG!!

[redqueen]

27. I'm happy for you.

You're the second person I've heard from who's had such an experience recently...

:cry:

Sorry... I'm happy for you... that's for me.

[mdmc]

31. not so fast, red

While I love her, she does not feel the same way about me (she "likes to spend time with me", she does not "love" me). She has never led me on. She has always been honest.

Nothing has changed...except she is lonely...

She is looking for something...else... she is looking for wealth and her father's approval. We would already be married if I was wealthy... I am not, nor will I ever be... so it ain't gonna happen (rich people only marry rich people, or so it seems).

GOD, SHE MAKES ME MAD! :mad:

anywho, it was nice for her to call...

[redqueen]

34. I can sort of relate...

I'm glad she called, and that at least you might be married if not for...

[Left Is Write]

18. I've known that feeling.

It's rough.

:hug:

[mdmc]

24. thanks for the post

She just called me! Sad, but still best V-day ever...

[tjwash]

15. The wife and I don't really do valentines day anymore...

...but we really do our anniversary up.

[Left Is Write]

17. If you feel like you're being tested and forced and...

one "wrong" move means you "ruined" Valentine's Day, I'd say that's an issue with your wife and not Valentine's Day itself.

[Rabrrrrrr]

21. I agree with you on that one. I couldn't live with a woman that demanding

and with that many issues.

She needs a reality check, and a sense of herself that doesn't depend on other people catering to her every need.

[ZombieNixon]

19. Hey, me too...

if you didn't already know that, since I've started at least five thread on the subject...


But, that's because I'm single and don't even have a date for VD-Day. x(

[JVS]

22. Yeah totally bullshit! Celebrate Blumpkin day instead!

[Justpat]

26. You are not alone.

But I detest all the holidays. I don't like the idea of culturally mandated spending sprees.

I don't like my emotional life being manipulated by the greeting card industry or the
flower industry or anything else.

I try, and on some days, live as if my family and friends are treasured every day.
I give gifts and expressions of love when they are appropriate or when I feel
like expressing them.

My greatest loathing is reserved for Christmas. Don't even get me started on that one.

[GalleryGod]

30. There's a lot of anger in this thread...I'm sorry but I have to DISagree.

Whether Single or married...I've always looked forward to this Holiday!
:loveya: :loveya: :loveya:

[Nicole]

32. I hate it too

Since I'm alone it's not so fun.

I love Feb 15th though. I can go buy myself some flowers & chocolate when they are on sale. :)

[benny05]

35. I can appreciate your feelings

But I must say the DUL'ers know how to make us all feel appreciated on v-day. I got 2 two secret valentines...and I really love them. So does my spouse, mainly because we won't be able to celebrate tomorrow because we are both so busy.

Please give the DU a donation of 5 bucks (I happen to give each month as a subscriber) if you have it and donate it in favor of your DUL'er..or someone else. It's worth five bucks.

:hi:

[SiobhanClancy]

36. Why Valentine's Day is terrific...

really cheap candy is on sale the day after:)

[ThomCat]

37. Black Tuesday

That's what my friends are calling it this year. Every year they refer to it as a black day, whatever day of the week it happens to be.

I can understand. It can be a terribly depressing day. Or terribly frustrating.

T.