Question: When your boss talks to you like you are a 5 year old,

[RevolutionaryActs]

is it acceptable to start acting like a 5 year old? I mean really, if they're going to treat me like one, shouldn't I start acting like one? :evilgrin:


May I give a little background? I work for a small business that is family owned by a couple and their son is our manager. Now my bosses left this afternoon, so their son was left in charge. He comes up to me(while I was still on lunch), and proceeds to tell me how to do my job, like what needs to be done and all that.

Now may I tell you that I have worked at this place since it opened, and that besides one other person I am the only original hire. So I think I know how to do my job.

Thank you.

No need to tell me how do to this and that and there is really no need to make me feel like I should be working when I am on my lunch break that I am just now getting at 2:00pm in the afternoon when I have been there since 6:30am. I deserve my break. Damn it. You should be thanking me for staying as late I did. Especially since I ended up staying until 4:30pm. I should get a 'thank you'. :grr:


Thank you for letting me vent. I'm going to go take a nap now. :7


Edited for a wittle typo. :o

[Radical Activist]

1. Some people suck as managers.

I usually say something about it in a constructive way. Or I just tell them to SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!

[RevolutionaryActs]

2. Ah, that would be fun.

Lately, I've been so annoyed with him(and his mother) that I'm getting a little more out spoken, but not in a bad way. If they want to fire me, they can, but they won't. Because I'm the best employee they have and they know that.... and they love me. :evilgrin:

[Lars39]

3. Maybe that's the reason for his attitude.

"Whaaa, mom and dad likes so-and-so better than me!" :)

[RevolutionaryActs]

4. LMAO!

:rofl:



Maybe. :evilgrin:

[graywarrior]

5. I worked for a non-profit thrift store where the director's son

was the general manager and a complete idiot. I made him cry a few times. After that, whenever he saw me, he did a quick spin and ran the other way. Family run businesses are impossible to deal with.

[Radical Activist]

6. Please

you must tell us how you made him cry. :evilgrin:

[graywarrior]

13. I still have the letter I wrote him about the theft going on by some

of his managers when he was trying to pin it on the lowly workers. He called me at home to discuss my intentions on resigning from their stupid store and we talked for about 30 minutes. I caught him in a few lies and called him on it. I told him he was selling himself out by working for daddy and to go get a life. He got all weepy. I'm a scorpio. I go for the jugular. Not nice, but I'll hit you in your soft spot if you mess with me. He resigned 6 months later to go to LA and be a "musician."

[RevolutionaryActs]

7. You're my new hero.

:D


The thing is most of the time he's great, but as soon as he's "in charge", he turns into a total ass. And lately it's been getting worse and worse.

Maybe he has male PMS. :shrug:

[graywarrior]

28. He's over compensating for inexperience.

There's nothing worse than junior trying to convince himself he knows more than you do. Next time, start asking him questions about your job you know he can't answer implying that he should know and gasp with disbelief when he doesn't. That was my favorite thing to do.

I used to remind my junior of conversations and/or decisions he made (that we never had) telling him "I remember when you took notes about this, Bri.." and he'd get all scared and run off so he couldn't get caught doing something wrong. If I didn't hate that job so much, I would have stuck around just to toruture him, but alas, my stomach was ulcerating over the stupidity of the place.

[NNadir]

8. I go Dick Cheney on him.

There is nothing like spraying an office with gun fire to straighten out difficult bosses.

[RevolutionaryActs]

9. That's horrible.

:spray:

[Wapsie B]

10. Sounds like Junior needs to cut the apron strings

and not have Mommy or Daddy give him a job. Nepotism can suck big time.

[RevolutionaryActs]

12. Ah, this is true.

But I doubt his mom would allow that. She's kind of.. um.. controlling?


I am complaining, but I really do like them all. It's just at times it can be a little bit overwhelming.

[Wapsie B]

15. A domineering woman huh?

Sounds like one of my grandmothers. At least you like them all. That's more than a lot of people can say about their job, family-operated or not.

[RevolutionaryActs]

18. I do, which is nice. Sometimes I just wish I could tell them they're being

Dumb and I also wish they would give all of the employees the respect they deserve, not just myself.

[Wapsie B]

20. Sounds like you'd make a great manager.

:)

If they really like you maybe there's a way you could offer helpful suggestions without sounding like you're overstepping your bounds.

[RevolutionaryActs]

22. I'm starting to do that now.

I'm getting a little fed up. So I just say stuff, in a nice, off-hand, sort of way. I hope it gets through. Or else they'll good lose employees.

[Wapsie B]

29. That's great.

If you enjoy that type of work and can see doing it long term it sounds like you could go places. Sometimes I wish I worked with food again. I love coffee shops, bookstores and that type of environment. Plus I get so sick of food it's a wonderful weightloss program. :)

[RevolutionaryActs]

30. I have no idea.

But I'm getting tons and tons of experience by working where I am. So who knows what will happen. :shrug:

[Wapsie B]

31. Yeah you're young.

Just enjoy yourself and follow your heart. I wish someone would've given me that advice when I got out of HS.

[RevolutionaryActs]

32. :-)

:hug:

[Wapsie B]

33. Back atcha Rev.

:hug:

[xmas74]

11. I don't get the five year old treatment,

I get the "team player" speech all the time.


I work day shift. I requested days when I was hired. I have things to do at night. My boss has my schedule of shit that I do at night every week.\

Mondays-my daughter is currently in bowling. Next month it will be swimming(again). My daughter was in a sport(soccer) when she hired me. She knows that my daughter changes to another sport every eight weeks and that they are always on Monday evening.
Tuesday-I am a Girl Scout leader. She knew this when she hired me.
Wednesday-daughter has dance and then has church choir. I volunteer in the church kitchen for our weekly dinner. She knew this when she hired me.
Thursday-daughter has tutoring, I now have Weight Watchers and we volunteer in a local food pantry. She knew of two things that we did when she hired me.

So what does my boss do? She schedules me to work on Mon, Tues, Wed and Thurs evenings this week, takes off on a cruise and leaves a note that states if I do not agree to work these hours then I am not a team player and I will no longer have a job there.
BTW-this is in addition to the eight hours I have to work for her in the daytime.

I hate my fucking job!

[RevolutionaryActs]

14. Good god!

That's just stupid! :o


Let's win the lotto. :D

[xmas74]

16. That would be most excellent.

(yep, I'm watching Bill and Ted right now)

This Thurs night I have a Prog Women's meeting after working at the food pantry(WW and tutoring for my daughter run at the same time). I think she did it all on purpose.

She's gonna hate the nasty calls from the parents of the girl scouts since I have to cancel the meeting and she'll hate the calls from my church since we are having a huge dinner that I volunteered for. She just changed the schedule the day before she left-I had this dinner off for over a month and now she's decided that I don't need it.

She doesn't like her employees to be involved in political organizations and she made an offhanded comment about Methodists recently(she's a Baptist). I informed her that she cannot decide what organizations I am involved in when I'm away from work and that she cannot decide my faith. Then she does this instead.

[RevolutionaryActs]

21. No way!

Doesn't that go against work place codes and stuff? What a bitch.

[xmas74]

27. She's known for being a bitch.

She doesn't care.

[Oeditpus Rex]

40. Check the Mo. labor laws

It may be to your advantage to refuse to work those extra hours. I don't think you can legally be terminated for refusing to work overtime.

"Team player" is corporatese for "Do it our way and keep your mouth shut."

[xmas74]

43. Technically I can't be terminated for refusing.

But she can (and would gladly) decide to cut me down to an hour a week or decide to schedule me to work when she knows I cannot(such as events that we had already discussed).

I know exactly what team player means. It also means "Sit by your phone, don't leave the house and wait for our call-since we now own you."

I'm not a team player and never have been. My past proves that and not just in employment. I don't mind helping out-I usually finish my work earlier than everyone else anyway. I just don't appreciate someone purposely fucking w/ my schedule that we had already agreed on.

[threehensandacow]

17. never happened to me

until last week. not sure what she meant by it. being a bitch? scare tactic? being a bitch? whatever it was, made me start looking for a new job. extreme? maybe. but i just don't want to work in an atmosphere where i'm belittled and not appreciated. so there. :P

[RevolutionaryActs]

19. I'm almost there.

It doesn't help that my job is really taxing to begin with, then add a boss on a power trip. Meh.

[sasquatch]

23. You could act like a five year old and shit your pants -

right in front of him.
:D

[RevolutionaryActs]

24. LOL!.... or not.

:think:

[sasquatch]

25. Yeah, laundry would be a bitch if you did that

[RevolutionaryActs]

26. Yeah, that's the only problem with that idea.

:P ;)

[sasquatch]

34. Yeah, it is

:D

[The Straight Story]

35. Start slobbering and moaning a lot

and crap your pants.

Then snap out of it and act normal. Once they think you are psycho they will leave ya alone...

[amitten]

36. He's hot for ya. n/t

[RevolutionaryActs]

37. I doubt that.

At least I hope not. :o

[NMMNG]

38. Ugh, I hate when they do that

My boss on my weekend job has been with the agency less than a year, has been a supervisor for a few months, and knows diddly squat. I've been here over 10 years including 4.5 as a supervisor. Nonetheless she feels the need to act like I'm some wet-behind-the-ears, brain dead child.

She had my monthly review ready for me one time so I went to her office to get it. She had to read it to me word for word and explain it in detail, as if I were unable to read it or understand what it meant. The first time she did this I just stood there and bit my tongue, but the second I piped up and told her I'd been here over 10 years and understood what the review meant. :eyes:

And really, anytime she tells me about something she does it in that same manner--as if I'm some brand new employee who is not only ignorant of the agency and the clients, but incapable of reading as well. The problem is, whenever she's "explaining" things to me, she only makes her own ignorance apparent, as her explanations typically are rife with mistakes and things I know to be untrue.

[XemaSab]

39. Fuck him.

:P

[mykpart]

41. I find that more employers act like assholes when the

economy is poor and unemployment is up. Because they can. I hate Republicans.

[Conan_The_Barbarian]

42. Just memorize this line and say it next time around

You're talking to me all wrong... It's the wrong tone. You do it again and I'll stab you in the face with a soldering iron.