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If so, how do you deal with it?
My sister (3 years running now) has been dating a current med student who made a pass at me. She took him back and now tells people that I don't like him because of his religion (he's a Syrian Muslim, my sister's an Irish Catholic). Absolutely. Not. True.
Not only that, whenever my family and I have dinner with her (with her insisting he comes along) he's always late. Last time, it was after she graduated med school, he was 2 hours late for dinner. (His excuse: sleeping)
My dad had the shingles one time and my sister's boyfriend laughed at him and said, "That's a childhood disease."
He ordered me not to order a glass of wine in a Boston restaurant.
For this one, I must note I'm a deaf person. My mother was telling him about a wonderful doctor she knew who was paralysed from the neck down (he became a doctor AFTER being paralysed from the neck down). This doctor is a radiologist (only has to look at the x-rays) but he has a nurse take the blood tests for him since he can't take the samples. My sister's boyfriend, RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME, said, "Disabled people can't become doctors. It's not fair that I have to work all these years.. blah blah blah."
I used to visit my sister when we lived in a condo and each time (it was just for the weekend) he was there. One time, I just got SICK of him being there, I asked my sister nicely, "Can he go home just for this weekend please?" My sister asked him to go home and he told her, "In Syria, one would never ask his guest to leave, it's a grave insult to a Muslim." And he never ever came back to her condo, using a number of excuses not to visit even when she was the only one there.
It's the exact same thing in her new place, she moved an hour away from him because of her residency, but she always goes down to see him and he BARELY (only 4 times since May) comes to see her. She works really really hard as a doctor right now and she gets stressed out easily and blames it on me and other circumstances, not on him.
If I say something, she excuses it. Her on my dad's shingles: "He's just joking", her on him being late: "He works hard," her on him hitting on me: "it was an accident," her on him telling me not to order wine: "I told not to order wine, not him." On the disabled issue, this takes the cake, my sister actually excused his reasoning.
Right now, I'm almost done with school and living with my sister until I finish. She continues to go down to see him. She lives in an expensive apartment (1,000 a month in Boston) and continually moans about not having enough money. If I say something about her cutting back on visiting him (to save on gas), or having him call her more often (she calls him first all the time), she gets all catty on me.
This evening, I suggested she stay in tonight. Since I go home after a couple of classes because it's a class that meets only once a week, I hinted that she alternate: go on weekends I'm not there, stay on weekends I'm there. She got catty and stormed out. She's an adult, I'm not going to force this on her but I feel that she's making a huge mistake here.
Thanks DU Lounge for giving me a place to rant.
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