Any married folk have mother-in-law horror stories?

[cynatnite]

My mother-in-law once called my mother to complain about my bad attitude towards her. That was mainly because I told her son that I expect to come first ahead of his mother.

[x-g.o.p.er]

1. When we PCS'd to Germany...

my family stayed with her mother. I didn't have concurrent travel orders, which means that I had to go to Germany by myself, get quarters, and then they could come over. It took about a month before they could come over when it was all said and done, because they had to clean, re-paint, and re-carpet the house before I was supposed to move in.

My mother-in-law tried convincing my wife I was having an affair and was stalling in getting them over there so I could "have fun."

I was so pissed I made the housing office give me the keys to the house before they could paint it just so I could get my family with me and away from her.

That still pisses me off to this day...

[Bassic]

65. And for good cause.

I can't even imagine how pissed I would be if that happened to me. Luckily, my mother in law is a dear.

[LaraMN]

2. My MIL told my BIL that I was considering having an abortion

(at about 20 weeks pregnant) because of our Down's Syndrome diagnosis. It wasn't true and I was very pissed off. My husband called her and ripped her a new one.

[cynatnite]

4. OMG!

What the hell! Are you still talking to her?

[LaraMN]

8. Yeah, I've come to expect odd behavior from her.

She thrives on drama, so I just try not to supply her with any fodder. Thankfully, there are plenty of other siblings to do that. She's not evil- just thoughtless and a consummate exaggerator.

[elehhhhna]

34. Cripes. Throw her a fake bone (headsup to the family first) and

let her make enjoyable holiday sport of herself.

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

3. I love my MIL... more so than my mother

sometimes you trade up

[YellowRubberDuckie]

6. ME TOO!!

I love my in laws. I got the better deal...My mom is a nightmare.
Duckie

[Tikki]

26. Me too, my MIL was my rock....

...she was in my life for 30 years. RIP Deemi..

Tikki

[elehhhhna]

35. truefact

[AwakeAtLast]

42. My husband would say the same thing

My parents have done more for him in the 5 1/2 years we've been married than
his have in his entire life. He has been in Iraq for 8 months and his mother
has sent him a total of one box! Nothing at Christmas, nothing for his birthday.
Boggles the mind really. Let's just say I'm glad to be 10 hrs. away from her!

:hi:

[Thtwudbeme]

5. Right here!

My husband's ex-girlfriend/friend quit speaking to him after he told her we were getting married. Wouldn't answer her phone/emails.....after a year and a half, he got an email that said "Wanna chat?"

Well...no he didn't. Sent her a short note telling her that it felt awkward now, but that he hoped she was happy.

A year after that, I kept telling Michael..."I bet you your mother is keeping in touch with her..." he said, "No way, they were never friends." Finally, (after me nagging) he wrote to her and asked, and her reply was, "Why yes! We are having lunch together this afternoon, do you want her number?" She had given Michael her new cell number and email address months before---he didn't pay much attention.

She has created a rift in our relationship (ours with her) that has never been overcome; I told Michael that I would have more respect for her if she just flat out told me, "I can't stand you, and wish Michael had married *****"

There are other things that she has done that are wayyyy worse, btw--but I don't think I should post those publically. Yeah. They are that bad.

[cynatnite]

7. It took 5 years for my MIL to realize I'm not going anywhere...

We've been married over 17 years now.

[ScreamingMeemie]

9. Too many...it's starts with her saying the color I picked out for our

living room was too dark...and then going with the same color for her own, and ends with,"We've tried to get Laura (me) to be a nice person, but it didn't work out." In a room full of family members. Sigh...

[Thtwudbeme]

11. You BIG MEANIE

I bet you are mean to your sweet, sensitive, darling MIL!

;)

[ScreamingMeemie]

12. I know...I'm just horrible.

I mean, why should I have a problem with her telling my husband she was down in our laundry room and the clothing on the floor was all buggy? Or that my bread maker shouldn't be kept on the counter...? Or that I should be reading the "Course In Miracles' and let her mentor me.

I guess I'll try harder. :P

[Thtwudbeme]

13. omg. I remember that "Course in Miracles" stuff

And I think you should borrow some of your kids plastic bugs (if they don't have them, go to the store and get some. Wear your slippers) and plant them in strategic locations around her house.

Not many...5 should be enough...make sure it will take her at least a year to find them all.

;)

[ScreamingMeemie]

14. Get some?? Fish?

:hi: Or really bad cheese maybe.

the funny thing is, before I 'came into her son's life' (that's how she says it :eyes:) she had a lot of influence on him, she got him a copy. Only thing is, MrG doesn't like to read. Big problem there with that book.

She walked out on MrG and left him with an alcoholic father (as a child, my husband spent many evenings coming home, taking a gun out of his daddy's hands and putting him to bed at 12 years old), because "I had to save myself"...I have issues with her trying to be "Super Mom" and "Beloved, benevolent Grandma" after that. :(

Funny how easy it is to slam on her. I really DO try not to.

[trof]

17. You keep your bread maker ON THE COUNTER!!??

In plain VIEW!?
Good God woman!
Have you taken leave of your senses?
And I thought you were such a nice person.
;-)

[ScreamingMeemie]

18. Yep! Right there...next to the coffee maker. Everytime my mum in law

comes over she throws a towel over it. It cracks us up. :hi:

[Thtwudbeme]

19. oh dear. I wish you hadn't told us the details

a breakmaker on the counter...well...no big deal. I mean, my bourbon is right there in plain view next to the pack of Marlboros.

BUT NEXT TO THE COFFEE POT????

Mother of God, Mrs.G.

[trof]

20. OK now, you are REALLY a degenerate.

The booze and the smokes right out there where an unsuspecting, innocent CHILD could see them?
You have NO shame.
:-)

[Thtwudbeme]

25. We don't have children that come over; I am afraid they might

drop one of the rifles on their little toes and break them.

[ScreamingMeemie]

27. AND underneath the microwave.

:wow:

[AngryAmish]

28. I'm putting you on ignore

goodbye...



...breadmaker on the counter....some people....

[ScreamingMeemie]

47. AngryAmish is against people who make their own bread.

I can say that since I'm on ignore and AngryAmish can't read it! :bounce:

[elehhhhna]

37. Put some hyperugly fake flowers on it before she shows next time.

Better yet, put it on the mantle or coffeetable.

[ScreamingMeemie]

48. I know!!! I'll use it as a table centerpiece.

:thumbsup: Thanks for the ideas!

[elehhhhna]

36. Dag. Couldn't you knot something to cover it with?

[trof]

31. OK, I'm TELLIN'.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x4772467

[NV Whino]

52. Bread maker on the counter?

Is there something about bread makers I don't know. (That maybe I should know?)

[bigwillq]

21. She doesn't think your're a nice person??

:shrug:
Does she even know you??? :shrug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

23. We spend a lot of time together...but, because I am a pretty independent

woman of 35, who isn't looking for a mentor, she doesn't have much use for me. I don't fawn over how perfect a mum she was..which she really wasn't, leaving her kids and all. I don't fit the image she had for a daughter in law I guess. :hi:

[bigwillq]

24. You have created your own image

and that's cool with me. She should be lucky to have a DIL that is as thoughtout, sensitive and as good of a mother that you are! :hug:

[Ravenseye]

10. Mine is Insane

I don't even know where to start. First of all anything I say is taken in the worst possible insulting context, even if I can't imagine how it would be taken that way. Sometimes it's so absurd that it's hard to even explain to people why she got upset.

For example...

Her - "Well I think that "
Me - "Well, that's debatable."
Her - "My opinion isn't debatable, it's my opinion."

As in...i'm not debating whether the talking point is debatable, i'm saying that the fact that she thinks that is debatable....Insane right?

And that's when you can get a word in edgewise. Normally she doesn't even listen. She just talks and babbles about anything while having a vacant stare. INSANE.

[elehhhhna]

38. are you married to my brother? Hey, Laur!

[trof]

15. Naw, she was nuts about me.

Once told miz t. that she had married "the smartest man I ever met".
:-)

[Beausoir]

16. That figures.

You seem like a very nice man.

[trof]

22. I am now a very nice man.

But I wasn't always.
miz t. has done wonders for me.
But seriously, thanks.
:blush:

[elehhhhna]

39. Harriet Myers is your Mother in LAW?!!

[khashka]

29. Not so much a horror story, but

My ex mother in law has no lips. Really. Nice lady but ugly. So my ex wife crashed her motorcycle and tore up about 40 feet of asphalt with her face. When she first saw herself afterward she screamed "I have no lips! I look like my mother!" and started crying.

Khash.

[LeftyMom]

30. Mine was awful. I'm so glad I'm divorced.

She could never seem to decide if she saw me as the daughter she always wanted or as a competitor for her son's affections. Like the rest of that fucked up family, she had more issues than I'm equipped to deal with.

[Evergreen Emerald]

32. I had that best mother-in-law in the whole world

She died a few years ago. But, even after I divorced her son, we remained friends. She and I visited often. I miss her terribly.

[Kerrytravelers]

33. My in-laws are fundy-fruitcake reich-wingers who are life-long

embaressment to my poor husband. I can barely stand to think of them, let alone spend time with them. I usually just sit there, looking at my watch. We use to live 150 miles away. Now, they have moved to a new state. I certainly don't plan on spending airfare to visit them. Well, I didn't plan it, but I can't tell my husband that. He sholdn't be stuck with them all by himself. he needs someone with sanity there. Then, we recently got an email asking if we plan to stay int ehLA area. If yes, they'll come back, if not, let them know where we want to move so they can make plans to come, too.

I said we're moving to Jupiter. They better get started with that move.

[AzDar]

40. My in-laws are Mormon...even though I've repeatedly asked that

religion be a non-issue around my sons, my mother-in-law just can't stop with the proselytizing. So now that I don't let the kids see her anymore, I'M the bad guy. Whatever.

[AlCzervik]

41. the difference between in laws and outlaws? Outlaws are wanted.

:evilgrin:

My sister in law told me that if her parents were alive they wouldn't go to our wedding because there wasn't going to be a priest. I told my husband if he wanted a priest at the service it was ok by me, he said "Nope, don't want one there, not interested in the catholic church or it's blessing"

[miss_american_pie]

43. Yes, but I try to block them from my memory.

[silverlib]

44. Oh, do I have stories.

She passed away and I swear to you that people went to the funeral to make sure she was dead. She died at 76, so the arson charges were dropped where she hired someone to burn down her business, although the insurance company still refused to pay off. The locals also failed to file drug charges on her for getting duplicate prescriptions filled in three states for her morphine that was prescribed for her throat cancer and selling it to her granddaughter after getting her properly hooked (my husband's niece). My husband's best memories are between the ages of 10 and 13 when he lived with his grandmother while his mother did time for tax evasion (running moonshine). There are many other stories. This is my second marriage and I didn't think I could top my first mother-in-law, so do not ever think it cannot be worse.

[Catch22Dem]

63. WOW!

Now that's a story!

[Nikia]

45. Among other things

She suggested that I was really a lesbian and just marrying her son for their money (his dad is a lawyer). She threatened to write him, their only child, out of the will unless I signed a pre nup. She finally changed her mind when he said that they should go ahead and do that.
Before we married, she suggested that my husband watch out or that I would spend all his money. When he said that I was tight with money and didn't really spend, she said that I would be a control freak who wouldn't let him spend any money. It seems that everything is like that. I am either too much one way or the other, sometimes both.

[Nicole]

46. I had a wonderful mother-in-law

Too bad her son turned out to be an asshole. We both deserved better than that. :rofl:

[Bill McBlueState]

49. this is weird, but

My mother-in-law's apparently the only reasonable one in her family.

(Yes, I'm saying my wife's unreasonable, but I don't hold that against her. Makes everything more interesting.)

[Magrittes Pipe]

50. Nope. I've only met my mother-in-law once.

And my ex-MiL is a perfectly lovely lady.

[likesmountains 52]

51. My sister's MIL called her the wrong name for 12 years..

[Canuckistanian]

53. Oh, my lord, do I have stories

I've even posted them here before.

My MIL issued us an ultimatum to say that we wouldn't be invited back this Xmas until I apologized for blowing up at her 3 years ago.

At the time, I was fed up with her negativity, her constant criticizing of presents that were given to her and her frequent disparaging comments to my wife about everything we did - how we were raising our kid, maintaining our house, what we were doing with our money, etc.

NOT TO MENTION that she's a sour old puss who would rather die that let an honest smile show on her face.

I can't remember how many times I've come home and found my wife bawling because of something this old witch has said to her. And my wife's no shrinking violet. She's survived death threats from students in an inner city high school.

But what clinched it for me is how my MIL said of our home, "I didn't raise my daughter to live like this", referring to our old, huge, Victorian cuckoo clock of a house that requires some work, admittedly.

I have NEVER encountered such a judgmental, underhanded, middle-class snobbish, mean-spirited harpie in all my life.

The problem is, that her husband (my FIL and my wife's favorite) is a fantastic guy, good with kids, always joking, always supportive.

If only...... never mind. She's old, and will probably choke on her own bile.

[fortyfeetunder]

54. The nightie I didn't need

The monster in law gave me a several sizes too big garish pink teddy for an anniversary present. Of course, it had no price tag or receipt.

When I opened the package and saw the size, I said, but this is several sizes too big, and the monster said, "It'll be the right size if you two keep fooling around". Ewwwwwww.

I never wore the damned thing and it went to the thrift store collection pile.

[Canuckistanian]

55. The pressure is relentless, isn't it?

My wife and I had a child, born 9 months after our wedding (all well and proper;)), but we kept getting pressured thereafter with this line, "... and how about a little brother or sister?"

[fortyfeetunder]

56. --once I did get preggers..

it was the worst thing that could have happened to her. I believe she was grossed out from the confirmation 40'under was doing the wild thing with her precious male offspring!

[bumblebee1]

57. i can't say that I had any horror stories.

It was my SIL and MIL that were having problems. My husband was still in the military and we were living in California. There were times that hubby wanted to send me home to PA to live with his mother. I said no. My feeling was that I would be just getting in the middle of the problems with MIL and SIL. My other feeling was that I married HIM, not his mother. The one time, while we were still living in California, my mothr-in-law called and left a message on our answering machine. In the background, I could hear my sister-in-law asking MIL to ask when my husband was retiring from the Navy and when we would be returning to PA. That got me angry. Going through my mind is "You're 40 something, and you can'd dial the phone and ask your brother yourself?"

This past March, my MIL passed away at the age of 74. She died very early on Good Friday morning. My husband's nephew was at her side. He works third shift at the hospital where she died.

[clyrc]

58. It's funny the way my MIL and I interact

She is very SOuthern and I'm kind of Southern, so our sometimes hostility towards each other is veiled behind surface politeness.

But I do have a story... when I was 7 weeks pregnant with my first daughter, I was sick as a dog and vomiting constantly. We were visiting my in-laws in Florida for Christmas, and my MIL decided that I needed to get out of the house and make myself feel better. She insisted that I go with her to town to get my husband a card for our first anniversary the next day. I was really too sick to argue. I dragged myself to the car, closed my eyes to keep from getting car sick on the ride, and then pulled myself into the store. I wandered around for about three minutes before it became clear that I had to go back to the car and sit down. I told her I had to go, then went to the car. Pretty soon I knew I was going to vomit again, so I got out of the car and kneeled down, in the parking lot, and I was violently sick. So sick I also wet myself. People were going by, watching me vomit, and after I recovered, I was so humiliated I got back in the car and cried.

It wasn't my MIL's fault that I was sick, but she never wanted to believe I was as sick as I was. She had morning sickness when she was pregnant with my husband, but she managed to live and even go to work, and she thought I wasn't trying hard enough. Never mind that I lost 30 pounds from morning sickness in the first months, and that many days I was too miserable to get out of bed. I know she thought I was acting a part for sympathy, or something like that.

[murielm99]

59. My mother-in-law was a teacher for 40 years.

She was everyone's favorite teacher. Her colleagues loved her as well.

She was a miserable bitch of a mother-in-law who never had a kind word for me. I sure heard a lot about how wonderful her other daughter-in-law was. That's not surprising, since she liked her oldest son best and merely tolerated my husband. She gave lots of financial help to her other grandchildren, but not to my kids. We never asked, but she was so unfair to my kids. She practically put my brother-in-law's kids through college, and gave mine nothing. She helped them buy houses, too. I don't think she bought much affection.

I never say much about the late mother-in-law to people around here, because everyone in our community thought so highly of the witch.

I think she may have disliked me because I was independent. When I married my husband, I owned my own home and had a good job. I didn't have to go to her for charity, and she did not like that. She wanted us to live on property she owned so she could tell us how to live.

This is my second marriage. My first mother-in-law was wonderful. And she was the one who had reason to be suspicious of me. I was twenty-two years younger than her son, and his third wife. I loved him, and I guess she knew that. We were only married for six years before he died. I hope I can be as nice a mother-in-law as she was.

[buddhamama]

60. i am not married

but my boyfriend and i have had the same conversation regarding his mother (i should come first). wasted breath.

[Darth_Kitten]

61. Not married but.....

my general impression is that if there's a problem it's generally initiated by the son-in-law or daughter-in-law, not the mother-in-law.

I also see just how many people use/hurt their own kids in order to get back at their parents. :( I'm actually very surprised about how much of this I see, both in my own family and in other's.

[ScreamingMeemie]

62. I am no angel...but my only mistake made or initiated was in marrying

her son.

Other's may judge me differently, I suppose, but all I have ever done is open my home, and our lives to her. :(

[Thtwudbeme]

64. I was wondering if you saw the post you replied to

I laughed my ass off!

[Darth_Kitten]

66. Oh, I'm sure some moms in laws are pills as well....

:D

Some people are just not grateful, unfortunately. :hug:

[Texasgal]

67. No, I don't...

My ex-mother in law was a very sweet lady, she moved in with us and I took care of her until she died. My life is more complete just simply knowing her, she was incredible lady.

I am glad she was gone when me and her son divorced. She would have been heartbroken.... I still miss her. :cry:

Sorry, I know this post doesn't belong in this thread... but MIL's are all not inherently evil!

[RetroLounge]

68. Been married twice

Like the MIL's better than the wives...

:shrug: Go Figure...

RL

[miss_american_pie]

69. Either of them named Mrs. Robinson?

;)

[RetroLounge]

71. ...

:rofl:

RL

[gardenista]

70. Can't help you there. I've been very lucky

to have known my mother-in-law.

She's no longer with us and I miss her terribly. She was the core of the family. We are all slightly adrift now.