Time for some honesty.

[_testify_]

What's the WORST thing you have ever done to another person?

I'll go first. I went to a private Catholic HS with very strict rules. I had to travel alone through some rough NYC neighborhoods while being a chubby kid in a school uniform. I had to fight off muggers, punks, and thugs more than once. That said, some part of me felt safer carrying a large pocketknife in my jacket pocket.

On my way to the cafeteria, the knife fell out of my jacket and clattered down the stairs, landing at the feet of a teacher. She grabbed the nearest kid and hauled him off to the dean's office.

I didn't say anything. I just kept walking. I don't know who the kid was or if I ruined his life.

That was 15 years ago and I still feel rotten.

[Ariana Celeste]

1. When I was in Jr. High

I was dating this guy, B. Now, B. was a totally hawt rawker but he had an attitude problem that I kind of ignored because of said hotness. I was 14! However after dating for a couple months I couldn't ignore all of it anymore- because he started talking shit about my brother and sister and friends, all. the. time.
Now I understand I complained about my siblings once in awhile, but considering he had only dated me for a couple of months he should never have assumed it was okay for him to talk shit about them to me. And my friends, for that matter- I didn't have a lot of friends and he didn't like any of them.
So I told him, that he needed to stop or I was going to leave him, that they may irritate me but they are my family- and my friends are my friends and I love them-
Well he didn't.
He kept doing it. Kept talking shit. So I invited all of my friends over, and my brother and sister were there that week. And I invited B. over. I think he knew what was coming because he got nervous when he saw all of them in my livingroom- and they all happily waved and said hi. I took him into my room and broke up with him. Had all of his things in a bag already, and sent him off. They all happily said goodbye and he walked out the door.

I could be a real b**** sometimes. But that was the worst. Sometimes I feel bad, other times I think he deserved it. Either way, I wish the best for him, he was just a kid, as was I.

[_testify_]

2. That's kind of cold. But he deserved something...

Perhaps he treated the next girl better?

[Ariana Celeste]

3. I sure hope so

I'm still waiting for Karma to bite me in the ass for that one. x(

[beyurslf]

5. Honey you were nice. See below for what I did to an abusive ex.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

6. That was mean?

That sounds like you were protecting yourself. That wasn't meant at all. He deserved a lot more.
Duckie

[Ariana Celeste]

11. Well he got a little more :)

Half of my buddies followed him, mocking him for crying, giving him hell until he got picked up by his sister.

I feel bad, and consider it mean, because out of my buddies most of them were guys that went to his high school... and they gave him a lot of shit for quite some time after that. (or so they tell me, I never talked to B. again)

[windy252]

9. I don't see what you did as bad

I think you did the right thing. Your story made me feel a little better tonight.

[beyurslf]

4. I outted an ex to his abusive and crazy father.

I did it after I became his "relief" when he got drunk or violent. Like father, like son, they were both nuts. Still feel guilty about it though.

[Ariana Celeste]

10. Good you got out of it

:hug:

[rbnyc]

7. I got a co-worker fired, after months of harassing him.

I worked in a restaurant with a bad waiter. He was a nice guy, but he was bad at his job. He had a poor work ethic, was disorganized, and just couldn't pull his weight. My girlfriend and I harassed him viciously, trying to make work so miserable for him that he would quit.

One day, his girlfriend called and said that they had to put his pet rabbit, or gerbil, or guinea pig, or some such to sleep. He went to the manager and said he had to leave. The manager asked him if this was a true emergency, or something that could be scheduled for his day off. She sounded pissed, so I took advantage of the opportunity and said, I'll take his section and all his shifts for the rest of the week if you fire him right now. And she did.

He was crying when he left, and my girlfriend and I laughed at him.

At the time, we really hated him because he made our jobs hard. We were devoted to that restaurant and worked very hard there. We'd both been well groomed in the business and had the advantage of years of excellent training and experience. But we didn't think of it that way, we thought that if we could be great at our jobs, anyone should be able to do as well as us. If someone couldn't live up to our expectations, we thought there was truly something wrong with that person, something condemnable, something that excused the worst treatment.

We were the queens of the hill. We were total bitches.

What we should have done is taken him under our wing, shared our knowledge and experience with him, given him pointers, encouraged him, and covered for him when his pet had to be put down.

So, that's the truth.

[_testify_]

8. Well said.

At least we can recognize when we've done something wrong. I guess that's the first step, huh?

[rbnyc]

14. Thanks. It was a long time ago, so I've have some time to grow up.

I'm ashamed of that time in my life, but if I'm not honest about it, I can't embrace the lessons of that period, and then it's just all bad.

[AccessGranted]

12. Didn't go to a Prom after I said I would

I guy from another town who really liked me asked me to go to his senior prom. Even though he was still in high school he had a part-time job so he gave me money to buy a dress and shoes. I never even brought the dress and shoes (I took the money and went shopping with my girlfriends) and everytime he asked me about my dress I made an excuse and told him I'd be ready. The night of the prom he came to pick me up in a limo in his tux with a corsage and I came to the door wearing a t-shirt and cut-offs and looking a hot mess. He asked me why I wasn't going with him and I really didn't have an answer. I don't even remember what I said to him, but I didn't go. I found out later he went alone and the next day a gang of his friends came to my house to tell me how mean and rotten I was and one of the guy's friend's was really cute, so we started going out. Hey, this was high school. I was only like 15 at the time. To this day I still feel guilty about it. He was a really nice guy. I was evil and I'm going straight to hell in a handbasket. But honestly, since we're being honest here....I learned the hard way that what goes around comes around and I've made retribution for that act of unkindness tenfold.

[_testify_]

15. Oof.

That's rough. I appreciate your honesty, and you're right about what goes around...We learn the hard way I guess.

[leftofthedial]

13. with or without power tools?

[maveric]

16. I put several dead flys in a coworkers baloney sandwich.

I know, I'm terrible but I was young and this asshole blamed me for something that HE fucked and I got blamed for.
I told a couple of my buddies about it and we watched him eat it in the lunchroom. He kept looking over at us wondering why we were laughing while watching him eat.
I'll probably burn in hell for that one.

[_testify_]

17. One of the worst stories I ever heard

was from a an older female co-worker who had once been beaten badly by her boyfriend. Her brother was in a biker gang and when they got wind of what happened, they took this guy out to the woods, gave him a big ole dose of LSD and went to town on him. Kicked the crap out of him, sicked a dog on him, and finally put a gun to his head and pulled the trigger. The gun was empty.

All while this guy was tripping balls.

On the cosmic scale of karma, who did a worse thing? I can't say.

[rbnyc]

19. Wow.

I don't know. A guy who beats his girlfriend is wrong and needs to take responsibility, but usually has some serious psychological problem.

Planning to dose a guy and brutalize him, and then executing the plan...that's pretty heavy.

I'm glad I'm not the one who has to sort that out.

[_testify_]

22. I'm glad I don't have to either.

What part of NYC are you from?

I was living in Queens when all of this happened.

[rbnyc]

23. Brooklyn

Williamsburg/Greenpoint area.

We're thinking of buying here.

Are you still in the area?

[_testify_]

24. No, I moved to Alabama and then to on to Florida

My brother used to live in Canarsie. Rest of the family is out on the island now.

[Oeditpus Rex]

18. Too many to pick a 'worst'

Drinking will do that. And just being a jerk.

[tjdee]

20. Never done anything mean to anyone, but my life still sucks. Go figure!

The only thing I remotely "did" to anyone was to kiss back the "What If?" guy of my life, who I ridiculously adored. He stupidly decided to kiss me when his girlfriend was in the other room and could walk in on it. :dunce: I didn't plan that nor initiate that, so I don't think it counts. And they're now married, so turns out I didn't "do" anything at all.

:nopity:

There is the possibility that I did something horrible to someone and don't know it, because I'm horrible. Don't think so though.

[_testify_]

21. Well if it makes you feel better

I took the girl I adored to prom and didn't kiss her back when she tried to kiss ME.

:banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: