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Pool Hall Ace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-09-06 11:49 AM
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Have experience making special arrangements for seniors/disabled ??
If you do, perhaps you could help me out.

In July, my husband wants to take his parents to visit family in Ohio. He also wants to take them to nearby Dayton when the Blue Angels have a show scheduled.

He wants me to find out if there is someplace where we can park our motorhome so his parents can watch the show in air-conditioned comfort. I checked out their website and could not find any info on who to contact for special arrangements.

I have absolutely no interest in this trip, but my husband doesn't care, and unfortunately at this point in the marriage, I don't have a lot of autonomy. I went with them on a trip to D.C., and it was pure hell. Four days of hearing their opinions on "jigaboos," "Mexicans," and "A-rabs." And listening to Fox News at full volume. :puke:

So does anyone have any ideas on what I should do?


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Bunny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-09-06 12:07 PM
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1. You could start by refusing to go.
Is he going to divorce you if you don't go? :shrug:

I'm sorry if this isn't helpful, but that's what I'd do. Of course, I'm not married - maybe that's why?
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Pool Hall Ace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-09-06 12:25 PM
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2. I'm not sure if he would divorce me or not, but if he did,
it probably wouldn't be the worst thing! I thought our relationship was so much better before we were married.

Not that you asked, but I highly recommend staying single.

Your bunny brought a smile to my face!! What a cutie!! :)
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-09-06 01:08 PM
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3. Contact the facility. Dayton airport or Wright-Patterson AFB.
Wherever it's going to be. You can probably google it. Ask them about parking facilities.
You might be able to park on the top deck of a parking garage for a "bird's eye" view.
Sometimes the Blues will let disabled/seniors inside the fence, too.
Click on the tiny "contact us" at the bottom of the page.

Then get a sick headache the day before.
;-)
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Pool Hall Ace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-09-06 04:24 PM
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5. I'll give that a try, thanks.
The headache is a good idea, too. :hi:
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China_cat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-09-06 01:50 PM
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4. Can you give yourself a case of food poisoning
right before you're supposed to leave?

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Pool Hall Ace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-09-06 04:25 PM
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6. Tempting . . . oh, is that tempting.
:evilgrin:
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Droopy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-09-06 04:35 PM
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7. You need autonomy
That's what you should do.
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samplegirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-09-06 04:39 PM
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8. Get sick
right before the trip.
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Mz Pip Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-09-06 04:41 PM
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9. Sounds like Hell
Ugh. If you don't want to go, don't go. Tell your hubby you think he'll have a better time with his parents if it were just them.

I opted out of a family vacation a couple of years ago because I didn't want to spend a a week with my decidedly unpleasant sister-in-law. Everyone had a perfectly good time without me and I caught up on my reading at home.

As I get older I am less inclined to put myself though unpleasantness. No need to come down with food poisoning. Just politely decline to go.

Good luck!

Mz Pip
:dem:
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-09-06 04:46 PM
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11. I have finally reached the age where "I don't want to"...
is all the excuse I need.
It's delightful.
:-)
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hatredisnotavalue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-09-06 04:44 PM
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10. I would contact either the maintenance department or the PR dept.
where the event is being held. Or the ticket sales dept. I had a similar situation with my Republican mother on a cruise, getting her in and out of the boat, and the maintenance guys were so wonderful ferrying her around in golf carts. Funny I had a great political discussion with these guys and turns out they were all union guys and proud democrats.
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-09-06 04:52 PM
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12. Reading your responses and OP, I think the best answer to the question
Edited on Sun Apr-09-06 04:54 PM by Rabrrrrrr
to the question "How can I make special arrangements for my disabled in-laws so that they can see a Blue Angel show?" is this: "Tell your husband to do it because you shouldn't worry about something you aren't going to be around for."

Why bother? Seriously - it's clear you're not keen on them, and they don't sound like any kind of people I, and certainly not you, want to be around. Sounds like your husband ain't so great, either.

Are they mentally incapacitated (beyond being freepers) at all? If they are still mentally capable, even if they were my inlaws and I loved them, I'd tell them to make their own fucking plans - it's not my problem. And especially since you don't like them, all the more reason to tell them to do their own goddamn homework and figure it out.
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Pool Hall Ace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-09-06 09:10 PM
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13. Beside their freepertudes, they aren't mentally incapacitated.
They drive my husband nuts at times, as they have no qualms about asking people to go out of their way for them.

They are both in their 80s. Father-in-law is diabetic, suffers kidney failure, and had his driver's license taken away due to his poor eyesight. Mother-in-law also has poor vision, but is able to drive during the day.

The in-laws live two hours away from us, and sister-in-law lives three hours away (an hour from the parents). My brother was scheduled to visit at Christmas time, and I got the idea that they were secretly hoping that my brother wouldn't show, so my husband and I could pick up Mom and Dad and drive them to sister's house for Christmas dinner. As it turned out, my brother did show up and we had a great visit, but I told my husband beforehand, "Even if my brother changes his plans, I'm not going to your sister's for Christmas. I used to suffer terrible holiday depression and I just don't enjoy the family craptacular thing."

He was fine with that, and I had no trouble asserting myself, so I have no idea why I'm so wimpy about this trip. I hated that trip to D.C., and he knows it, so there is really no reason why I should have a problem asserting myself now.

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