My friend has finally left her husband! (vibes, thoughts)

[xmas74]

I won't say her name but she is a fellow DU'er who constantly lurks and occasionally posts. She has been in an abusive relationship for the past few years now. This last weekend her husband attempted to imprison her in their home. He took away the car keys, locked up the phones and denied her the opportunity to leave her home. After getting no answer from numerous calls her sister called the police. The exparte was issued this morning w/ the help of a local battered women's shelter and she will go back to court in early May for the full order of protection.

I don't want to put her name on here but I hope that she will see this and know that so many strangers will support her and any other battered spouse. Please send your thoughts, good vibes, prayers, etc her way-she could use them right now. No matter how some people try to spin things we all need to know that abuse is alive and well here in the US. Posting here will show her that most people find it disturbing and revolting.

BTW-she might never post in this thread but she will read it. She had recently expressed the opinion that there was nothing that could be done since most people just roll over and accept abuse.

[peacefreak]

1. Blessings for her.

She has a great sister & a great friend in you. As one who left an abusive marriage, I wish her courage & peace. It may be a long road, but it's worth it. Take care of yourself, my mystery friend. Stay safe. You are not alone.

[xmas74]

2. I hope she sees it.

She's knows it's not easy-she saw me leave a similar situation six years ago. But she knows that it can be done.

[uppityperson]

3. I am glad she got the help she needed.

It is difficult, and many of us have gone through it and know how it can be. Good luck, hang in their and take care of yourself.

[xmas74]

5. She's got me.

I've been through it. Now I hope she reads this and understands how many others have also been through it. I want her to know that there is no shame.

[AirmensMom]

4. ~~~~~Vibes~~~~~ and prayers for your friend.

Hugs, too. :hug: I'm glad she has you for a friend and I'm glad she's away from him. Good for you for giving her the support she needs and for letting us know.

:grouphug:

[xmas74]

6. Maybe she'll be back posting on here!

Her husband had banned her from the computer for a time.

[AirmensMom]

7. OMG, poor thing!

:cry: I hope she comes back. And I hope she sees that people here care about her. I wish we could do more.

[xmas74]

8. I'm just glad he's gone.

She's on disability right now and he took advantage of that.

May will be a busy month. Once she gets the full order we will apply for any assistance available to her.

[AirmensMom]

11. I am, too.

And it sound like you know how it all works ... but I'm sorry for WHY you know. :hug:

[xmas74]

12. At least someone can steer her through this.

I just hope she stands her ground.

[AirmensMom]

14. That's what I was thinking.

You know better than anyone what's probably going through her head. Are there any children?

[xmas74]

16. An adopted son.

[AirmensMom]

17. Is he with her now?

I sure hope so!

[xmas74]

18. Yes.

But his natural mother has been in contact. She has cleaned herself up and wants him back. My friend is playing the "wait and see" game.

If things go well she will allow him to go back to his natural mother.

[AirmensMom]

19. Oh my, that must be hard.

Well, it's good that the natural mother has cleaned herself up. But I feel bad for your friend.

[Xipe Totec]

23. I hope she stands her ground too

I am so sorry for the way your friend was treated.

Please share my journal with your friend. The top post is my mother's favorite poem, "Never Surrender".

[Darth_Kitten]

9. I'm glad she got out of that situation.

I wish her strength and peace of mind. :)

[xmas74]

10. I'm going to send her a link to this thread.

[Book Lover]

13. Good luck to you, friend of xmas74!!

I am so very glad to know what a strong support network you have - your sister, your friend xmas74. We are truly behind you. Stay strong sister!

[bigwillq]

15. All the best to her.

I am gald she made the decision to get out of that horrible situation.

:hi: :hug:

[YellowRubberDuckie]

20. Oh, sweetie!! (A message to your friend.)

I'm so proud of you! You have done something not many women do. Please allow your friends and family to help you through this difficult time and just know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. :hug:
Much Love,
Duckie

[salin]

21. prayers for strength, kudos for courage

and wishes for weathering the storm which will follow - but will eventuallly end allowing rebirth - so to speak.

I cry for the clear pain, terror, and isolation that has been wrought. I also am thankful for the escape and chance at reclaiming her life.

Dear DUer - know that you are supported... and will continue to be supported by many.

[harleydad]

22. Your friend is brave.

Good for her - she will not regret it! :applause:

I am saying prayers for her. :hug:

[miss_american_pie]

24. Many prayers for your friend.

Tell her to stay strong. :grouphug: