What would you do if someone sent you a porn pic in a PM?

[Haole Girl]

It happened this afternoon and it made me pretty uncomfortable. Any ideas how I should handle it? Just wondered what the best approach would be, or, possibly, if no approach would be best. Did this ever happen to any of you?

Thanks,
KC

[jpgray]

1. Depends on context and intent

I have a few "friends" who enjoy sharing disgusting pictures. :P

[Haole Girl]

2. I don't even want to go there. It really wasn't warranted- really!

[JVS]

12. PM sent!

[jpgray]

I avoided that link once

I shall do so again.

[JVS]

14. A wise decision, friend.

[Droopy]

3. Alert on it if you thought it was inappropriate

and it made you uncomfortable.

[Haole Girl]

5. I'm so new here. I really don't want to cause any trouble- really!

P.S., How do you alert on it?

[LynzM]

6. When you open the PM....

There should be a link to alert on it. If it was unwanted/unprovoked, yeah, I'd probably report it.

[Haole Girl]

7. I'll think on it overnight.

Thanks,
KC

[ZombieNixon]

4. No idea.

It would depend who sent it, I guess.

And on what kind of porn. :shrug:

[reyd reid reed]

8. Yikes!

I almost never get PMs, myself, and Certainly never anything inappropriate (dangnabit).

Seriously, I think it really would depend on who sent it...odds are I'd just close it real quick, reply and ask WTF and for it not to be repeated and then try to pretend it never happened. Then, if it happened again, I....well...I don't know what I'd do.

Can you put this person on your Ignore list? Would that apply to PMs as well?

[XemaSab]

9. If you ignore someone

then they can't send you PM's.

[Haole Girl]

10. Thanks, I should probably do that; thanks.

[JVS]

11. Post it in the lounge!

[Haole Girl]

13. Right. I guess I may as well say good-bye right now

if I did that!

[JVS]

18. Oh, I doubt you'd be banned, but better not to do it.

You might want to email the administrators about it though

[lectrobyte]

15. I'd be creeped out, and probably complain to DU admins.

[Haole Girl]

17. I was (still am) creeped out. All I keep wondering is if the person

who sent it might be one of those men shown on America's Most Wanted or something.

[LeftyMom]

16. Alert, then put them on ignore

Let the mods deal with it, it's why they make the big bucks (not really, they're volunteers but that's still what they're there for.)

[derby378]

19. Sounds like a plan to me

Nobody on DU should have to deal with unsolicited porn from other DUers. I mean, that is seriously rude.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

20. My dear KC2!

All I have to offer is: :hug:

You've already gotten plenty of good advice here....

I am sorry this happened to you, though! :loveya: :hug:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

21. Just tell them honestly

without being judgemental about it...even if you have strongly negative opinions about the material that was sent.

[Ediacara]

22. Locking

KC2, there should be a link in the lower right hand corner of the private message field to alert the private message. Please do so. If you have any further questions, do not hesitate to contact Admin directly.