Shit. I dreamed about her last night.

[ZombieNixon]

We worked things out and everything was OK...and then I woke up. :( You have no idea how much it sucks to feel so good and then find out it was all fake...kind of like an instant emotional replay of my weekend. :cry: Damn you, subconscious, damn you. :cry:

I'm going to go shower. Maybe I can cry there without anyone hearing. I don't know how I'm going to make it through today. :(

[miss_american_pie]

1. :hug:

You might for a while. And they'll be detailed and real.

And maybe your subconscious just wants those feelings back, and not her, KWIM?

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[lizziegrace]

12. How true

Sometimes you want the feeling of having someone in your life, but not necessarily that person.

I'm so sorry your heart is broken. :hug:

[In_The_Wind]

2. ZombieNixon

I know how much you're hurting right now, I've been there. When I would wake up, look out my window into the night sky knowing that I would never feel his arms around me again all I did was cry. It took a long time to stop those tears. Hang in there. It hurts like hell because you cared so much but in time it'll hurt less. She was a big part of your life for a long time.

[bridgit]

3. yeah, plus you can hide your tears...

[Redstone]

4. Dude.

Hang in there. It gets better.

Redstone

[crispini]

5. One day at a time.

One hour at a time.

One minute at a time.

Hang on, buddy. You can do it. Find the things that make you feel better (preferably healthy things like exercise, etc) and do them.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

6. Love and hugs to you, my dear ZN!

:loveya: :hug:

[Droopy]

7. You didn't drink enough last night!

Just kidding.

Take your time, man. Those wounds won't heal in a day. When I was in college we got 13 free counseling sessions with a therapist from the school of psychology if we needed them. I don't know if you've got something like that at your school or if you are comfortable with that sort of thing, but it might help if you are willing and able.

[tjwmason]

8. In Churchill's famous phrase

Keep Buggering On.

It will get easier, honestly it really will, by small increments you'll get past this - and you'll come out the other-side wiser and stronger too.

In the mean times - you know you can vent on here and get plenty of support back from us. :hug:

[Mutley]

9. You'll make it through because you have to.

There is nothing else to be done.

[ThomCat]

10. I have faith in you.

You're strong. You'll make it through this.
:hug:

[Arugula Latte]

11. One day you'll look back and think: "Whew ... Dodged that bullet."

Seriously.

[Squeech]

13. Sorry

You just gotta wallow for a while. The worst thing about breaking up is how much you feel like you're trapped in a bad country and western song.

But you will get over it eventually. Just don't make any irrevocable decisions if you haven't had enough sleep!

[LynneSin]

14. well at least you didn't dream about Sean Hannity last night

I did

:cry:

[ComerPerro]

28. wrong. so very wrong...

[madinmaryland]

30. I actually had Rush Limbaugh in one of my dreams last nite.

Then me and a friend strapped on our back-pack rockets and went flying off over the lake that Oxy-rush owned. Hell of a trip!

[catmandu57]

15. you're going to have some rough days and nights ahead

there's no way not to, take advantage of any counsling services your school may offer, if nothing else drop over to the psyche dept or the social work dept and talk to the folks there.
We're all here for you as well, go easy on the heartbreak music too.

[ZombieNixon]

16. I have very little in the way of the usual "heartbreak" music.

Now, I'm seeing heartbreak in songs about the WTO and the destruction of mankind. Yeah, it's bad...still. :cry:

[henslee]

27. May I suggest "Hello Walls" by Willie Nelson or "Teardrop Valley" by

the Lonesom Drifter. Or Little Bird by Jerry Jeff Walker or :Why not your baby anymore: by Gene Clark

LITTLE BIRD lyrics

Little bird come and sat upon my window sill.
Sat there thru the pourin' rain
As I watched that little bird upon my window sill
I saw my thoughts of you go by again

And a picture of my face reflected on the pane
Is it tears or is it rain?

I remember how we talked before we said goodbye
To young to notice the world outside our door
And how we laughed and said our love was free
Like birds that fly the winds
Well the rainy day made me think of you once more

I have no regrets about the past I see how young we were
When our world was love and life was but a thought
Many things go many ways and many times but once
Our lives have passed and that love is but a thought

So as the thoughts go tumblin' back I wonder how you loved
Wonder if you've seen that little bird
I wonder if he's sat upon your window sill
I wonder if you'll ever hear these words

[Ariana Celeste]

17. oh man I'm sorry

That's really shitty. :(. It will get easier, just let out your emotion. The more you hold it in the longer the pain lasts. :hug: :pals:

[hfojvt]

18. "I like dreaming 'cause dreaming can make you mine

I like dreamin' closing my eyes and feeling fine ..."

Sometimes your subconscious can solve problems that your conscious mind cannot. If you can remember how things got worked out in your dream maybe it could work in real life. There's a country music video that I think is pretty awesome. The song goes "what I meant to say is, I'm sorry. What I should have said was, forgive me..." It starts with him sitting in a diner and then the rest of the world starts moving backwards, the coffee goes up from the cup back into the pitcher, people are driving and running backwards as he moves forward walking along, singing his song.

At my first factory job, my task was to make a piece of metal fit a certain shape, and I was not doing very well. That night I dreamed about pieces of metal. The next day though, it was like "boom!" one shot and it would be in the right shape. I really do think that my subconscious mind solved some of that problem for me by re-viewing what I had done the previous day.

Another theory I had involved the fact that I seemed to get by on less sleep. I have heard that sleep is how the mind deals with the various events of the day, kinda sorting them, filing them and making some sense of them. However, when you are doing a factory job much of your day consists of doing the same little things over and over and over and over and over and over again. Therefore, the mind does not need alot of time to process that.

[Haole Girl]

19. Don't worry about a dream since it is your mind's way of ...

....working it all out. That's a good thing. It's problem solving at it's best to dream about things. (I took a couple of psychology classes in school).

[sasquatch]

20. Be careful, Freud said "Dreams are wishes"

[ZombieNixon]

21. Well, it's something that can never happen now,

because just before I went to sleep, I cut off all contact with her. It seemed like the right thing to do at the time. Today, I don't know anymore, but if it wasn't, then it's too late and I made a huge mistake I can't fix. :cry:

[tjwmason]

23. You didn't make a mistake!

On the basis of what you've said here - you did the absolutely the right thing. This would have repeated itself in a couple of months.

I don't wish to sound harsh - but you need to be strong, pull through this one moment at a time, you'll come out far better at the end of it, however hellish it is at the moment.

:hug: :yourock:

[fizzgig]

22. as little help as this may be

just give it time. i know where you are, i still dream about the guy who broke my heart when i was 15 but not as much as i used to. cry, rage, do whatever you need to, but don't bottle it up.

and i am a big fan of crying in the shower

:grouphug:

[RetroLounge]

24. Dude

:hug:

Believe me, you can get thru this. This I know firsthand...

RL

[riona]

25. A person can only do so much ZN

Now you need your friends and chocolate.

[henslee]

26. Move on. Yeah its hard but its your only option. Its very easy to

fall into a rut and feel sorry for yourself. Don 't. And be sure and eat well. Maybe get some some exercise. This will pass. Trust me. You're a kid for chrissakes, try and have some fun before your bones start getting brittle and your testosterone levels drop to eunich levels.

[bigwillq]

29. Hey Zombie.....

:hug:

Hang in there buddy. :hug: