Having a bad day, and nobody's talking to me.

[ThomCat]

x(

Please post something here and talk to me. I could use some company.

[southernleftylady]

1. hey sweetness whats the matter?

[ThomCat]

7. Work

A coworker who barely avoided getting fired went to another company, gets more pay, less work, better benefits, great perks and she's bragging about it to us. I haven't had a raise in years, and my workload recently doubled.
X(

I'm thinking seriously about quitting, but that means I have to put out my resume to headhunters and start interviewing. Which would be great except that means taking time off from work, which will put me even further behind in the meantime.

[ZombieNixon]

2. Having a bad week and nobody's talking to me...

well...very few people are talking to me. I know how it is, dude. :pals:

[tjwmason]

6. Glad you amended that one matey.

How's you doing today? :pals:

[ZombieNixon]

11. Well, you guessed correctly, I just came back from posting the purse.

I had hoped I might be able to get away with not writing my or her name on it, but you can't do that if you want to send it express mail. x(

Unfortunately, I came back too late to make it to class, so I'm just going to work on my project from home. :shrug:

:pals:

[ThomCat]

9. I have no idea why anyone would avoid you.

You're one of the personalities in the lounge. Has anyone else told you today that you're God Damned Awesome?
:7

[ZombieNixon]

16. Well, very few people IRL are talking to me.

I've only made about three DU posts today, so that's not really anything to go on, but IRL people have sensed I'm pissed and are avoiding contact with me...one of the few exceptions being my EX-ex-girlfriend (with whom I am still on good terms), which I found odd and ironic. :shrug:

:yourock:

[ThomCat]

26. At some point

Ex's that you're still in touch with become awesome people. They know you, good and bad, and they are in a position to be honest with you.

I wish I was in touch with more of mine. But ever since I moved to NYC I lost touch with the old ones.
:(

[NewWaveChick1981]

3. I'll talk to you!

Sorry it's been such a crappy day. :hug: So how was your birthday (since we share the same one)? Mine was nice and low-key.

[ThomCat]

10. It was very nice and mellow.

I was treated to two lunches and one dinner earlier this week by cool coworkers. Other than that, most people didn't notice or care. Only one card, no gifts.
:shrug:

Birthdays get more and more mellow as you get older. I'm pushing 40 now, so...

[NewWaveChick1981]

17. Mellow is a good way to describe it.

I just turned 43, and when you get past 40, they're not as big a deal as they once were. :) I'm glad at least that your birthday was good! :)

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

61. Happy belated Birthday!

:hug:

[ThomCat]

64. Thank you!

:hug:

[uppityperson]

4. having a bad month and nobody's talking to me

Hiya ThomCat and everyone having bad days/weeks/months/years.

[ThomCat]

12. That's a good reason to be uppity.

:hug:

I think we need to plan a DU group vacation to an someplace nice. Someplace with a spa and good weather.

That would cheer us all up.

[uppityperson]

21. Thanks TC, here's one for you

:pals: Somedays it seems like no one wants to talk, hope you are doing ok.


Early in the wk I found out the lump in my jaw is not a tumor but merely a HUGE abcess, now on antibiotics and (thank you loungers) setting up with dental school to have (no insurance) root canal/etc done at ~ 1/2 cost. Have to put yet another new engine in car, UPjr checked oil and didn't get oilcap back on right=scoring of bearings=can't drive until get new engine in (UPjr is doing better about checking oil since letting our last cheap car run dry and killing it). On good points are it is spring and things are growing which is good. A vacation would be nice.

[ThomCat]

27. I've had good experiences with Dental Schools.

You can get some awesome care there. I'm glad there's one near you.

I have dental insurance but it only covers so much. The price of dental care here in Manhattan is so high we might as well not have insurance. We pay more over-and-above what is covered than people in other parts of the country pay in total without coverage.

That's yet another reason to leave NYC eventually. But I'd miss all the awesome food here.
:P

[uppityperson]

30. I've done dental schools before also, still will cost a thousand.

There is good food on the west coast too. You like seafood (fresh halibut and dungess crab)?

[ThomCat]

37. I a vegan,

so no seafood. But I love california cuisine. California has great local food, and really great ways of using it.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

62. I thought there was good seafood in the NYC/NE area then...

I went to Hawaii. I could get sashimi EVERYWHERE! I probably ate raw fish twice a day most days. Now that's the life. Sashimi from the poolside restaurant and some beers for lunch. Jump in the hot tub. Go snorkeling with some sea turtles. Sashimi appetizer at dinner. More drinks. Bed. Repeat for 10 days. I'm not sure where my family is doing the dysfunctional Brady Bunch trip this summer.

[ThomCat]

67. I'm jealous!

Not really. I'm glad you had so much fun.

I grew up dirt poor, on welfare for a while, raised by a single mom. I went from that to burried in my own student loans. So I've never been able to travel. I know lots of people who have been to hawaii, all over europe, asia and latin america. I've rarely ever left New York State. Oh well...

I love hearing about the great time people have traveling. I get to enjoy it vicariously.
:)

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

70. My family never had money.

After my dad died, my mother married a guy who owns his own medical advertising company. It was a pretty big change to go from a family trip being a day or two down the shore to family trip to Hawaii and being able to say, "Oh yeah, I went up to his CT house this weekend." He doesn't act like he has money though. His kids are cool but they kind of think they just have an average amount of money and I think it's a lot.

[tjwmason]

5. Hey there ThomCat.

My work day was pretty crappy - but I'm home now. Things just need a little bit of time to perk-up.

Is there anything you want to chat about?

Oh, and where do you want me to send that M.P.3 sample of the Shostakovich?

:hi:

[ThomCat]

14. Look for a PM in just a minute.

:hug:

[Mutley]

8. Not many people are talking to me right now, either.

:hug:

[ThomCat]

18. Hugs are good. They're what's getting me through the day.

:hug:

I've seen other people mention that DU has been slow recently. Perhaps that why everyone's being so quiet. There's maybe fewer of us here at the moment.

[TallahasseeGrannie]

13. It's almost Friday

what are you planning for the weekend?

I'm having kind of a bad day myself. I have a rather unusual colleague who has trouble playing well with others and today at lunch every time I spoke she closed her eyes. WTF??

[ThomCat]

19. I'm visiting an aunt and uncle this weekend.

I don't get to see them nearly often enough. They've had a horribly rough year, so I'm going to do what I can to be cheerful and supportive.

It'll be awesome to visit people I love. It's odd that I've lived in NYC for 10 years now and don't know many people here. I have to go away to see people.

[TallahasseeGrannie]

22. Those sound like good plans

Get far away from work and FORGET about it. You don't owe your employer your thoughts on the weekend.

[progmom]

15. hey thomcat

just wanted to give you one of these: :hug:

i think you're fab.

[ThomCat]

20. Thank you.

:hug:
You're awesome. I need that hug today. :)

I've been trying to figure out why I'm so stressed out today and it just hit me. I've been blocking out the stress of a death in a friend's family.

Her mom died a few days ago and I've been on the phone with her letter her talk. Yet, I thought it was just work that's stressing me out. It's weird how we think about things.

[uppityperson]

25. sorry to hear that.

:hug: to you. Funny how things affect us and we don't notice them right away.

[progmom]

44. I am so sorry to hear that.

I'm sorry for your friend...and I know how emotionally taxing it can be to have that going on in your life. My best friend lost her mom 2 years ago. :hug:

[ThomCat]

47. Thank you.

I'll pass along that hug to my friend, Jody. She'll appreciate it too.
:hug:

[Jazz2006]

23. Hey Thomcat

Sorry to hear you're having a bad day.

Here are some more hugs to add to those above.

:hug:

:pals:

:hug: :hug: :hug:

:pals:

:grouphug:

[ThomCat]

28. And hugs right back.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

:7 I'm definitely in a better mood now. I knew DUers would cheer me up.

[Left Is Write]

24. ...

:hug:

[ThomCat]

29. That's awesome.

:hug:
I needed these today.

[Beaverhausen]

31. Oh - poor sweetie

:hug:

I'm having a bad day too. A good friend of mine lost her father yesterday. He was a really sweet man and I'm so sad. :cry:

[ThomCat]

38. A dear friend of mine

just lost her Mom. I babysit for her 2 (almost 3) year old son. He's having a hard time understanding death. She's quietly freaking out.
:cry:

Time, I know, will make everything better. But right now it's stressfull for everyone.
:hug:

[miss_american_pie]

32. Awww

I just saw some creep verbally abusing his girlfriend outside the grocery store. Sorry, I'm not much company now.

[ThomCat]

39. I hope she looses him.

Nothing will ruin a day like having to share the world with guys like that.

[miss_american_pie]

40. Yeah, and they had a little boy with them

Sad all around.

[Sugar Smack]

33. I'll talk to you!

:D Sorry it's such a bad day, sweetness.

[ThomCat]

41. Thank you.

I hope you're having a good day. I'd love to hear about some good things. :)

The weather here is so amazingly awesome today. But that's the only good think I'm seeing here today. The entire office is in a funk for one reason or another.

[Sugar Smack]

48. Here, close your eyes and think of Snoopy:

Or Daffy!



You're welcome to poke around in my journal too. I've got about 200 site links under my "Other Blogs" section. Some are really fun! :D

[GoddessOfGuinness]

34. Bad days suck.

:hug::beer::hug:
Have a beer hug. :loveya:

[ThomCat]

42. oooh... Beer!

:hug:
Join me at the pub after work? I'll buy the first round.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

49. If only I didn't have to leave for work at 7...

Howzabout tomorrow?

[ThomCat]

54. Tomorrow's great. I'm there!

:toast:

[khashka]

35. I'm always available to talk to you!

You know that!

My love isn't good enough for you? Damn! Just can't satisfy some men! :)

So why feeling so bad? If nobody died, it CAN be fixed!

Hell, yesterday I was having a really rough day and stormed out of DU in a huff. But today is better. These things are temporary. And you do have friends. So cheer up, damn it!


:) :hug:


Khash.

[ThomCat]

45. Your love is the best thing out there!

:hug:
We all have weeks were everything piles on. It's all building up and it's coming to a head today. My birthday was kind of cool, so that held things off for a while. But now it's all back with a vengeance.

To quote a professor from back in College, "There's no such thing as Gravity. The world just sucks."

To which I usually replay, "If it sucked, it would feel good. It bites."
:)

[khashka]

60. Now that is my Thomas Cattus!

If you're making jokes you must be feeling better.

Funny you should make that particular joke though. Driving home today I was thinking something similar..... "The world. It bites! Bad world!"


Khash.

[KitchenWitch]

36. I am only here for a minute but I want to give you a hug!

:hug:

:loveya:

[ThomCat]

46. That awesome!

I can always use a hug from my favorite witch. :)

[LaurenG]

43. Hi Thom, whats up man?

I hate having a bad day and getting ignored. It makes it twice as bad. :hug: :hug: :hug:

[ThomCat]

52. This is definitely helping.

This is one of the reasons I love the lounge.
:hug:
I hate admitting that I'm having a bad day, stoic son-of-a-bitch that I usually tend to be.

How are you doing? I've been looking for posts all day of people enjoying themselves. (But not enjoying themselves too much, I guess. On a thread yesterday a post got deleted for having the word masterbation in it. what's up with that?)

[LaurenG]

56. Its a sin for some people I guess

:rofl: Don't say (type) the M word. :shrug: :rofl:











:hide: do you think I'll get in trouble for typing that, nevermind don't answer that

[Haole Girl]

50. Hi ThomCat, I'm pretty new around here still and

don't know you well enough to know what would cheer you up, so I'll just say
hello!

[Sugar Smack]

51. That is SO CUUUUTE! OMG!

Look at the little baby! Lookie! :loveya: My brain's mush now.

[ThomCat]

53. Hi!

:hi: Adorable pictures are always a bonus!

Edit: And of course, Welcome to DU! (How could I forget my manners?) :)

[lukasahero]

55. Hi ThomCat

I'll talk to you. I'm not having the best day myself.

[ThomCat]

58. I'll share some hugs with you.

People are being generous with them. :)
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

What's bringing you down?

[lukasahero]

72. Thanks

and right back at ya' (so you don't run out ;) )
:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

Just a crappy day at work and since there's only one more of those left, that's a bit of a bummer too. Not to worry, I'm a contractor and finding jobs quickly is becoming more of a specialty than the actual work I do. :)

I'm home now with the dog (hubby's in school after a full day of work). It's 65 degrees and sunny and the bleeding hearts have just started to bloom. I'm thinking a nice Bordeaux, some crusty bread and a chunk of aged cheddar on the back porch is in order. :)

Thanks for the hugs. Hope you have a wonderful night.

And just for good measure :hug: again.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

57. My dear ThomCat!

I'm sorry your day isn't so good.....

But it looks better now, doesn't it? With all your friends here talking to you.....

Have some hugs, sweetie! :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug: :hug: :grouphug:

[ThomCat]

59. Yes, it is looking much better.

The lounge is always an awesome place.

And you're awesome too, Peggy. :hug:

Thank you.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

63. Cheer up!

Here, let me cheer you up. Watch while I do this :spaztically walks into wall:

:hug:

:pals:

[Sugar Smack]

66. *ppppppppphhh* white wine. All over keyboard.

:spray:

[ThomCat]

68. As graceful as you are?

Do you do spastic? :P

Though the image is hilarious. :rofl:

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

71. The funny thing is I do spastic (and accidentally)

I can do martial arts stuff and I have really good balance. I can stand in tree pose seemingly forever and I can easily walk in stilettos after 4 or 5 glasses of wine (learned at my mom's wedding). I once climbed a 20' rock wall unaided while on mushrooms. Despite this...

I walk into things. I just don't notice it or something. I'll zone out and walk into something. Oddly enough, I generally walk into something on my left side, even though I have perfect vision in both eyes. I used to get made fun of at the health food store because there was this one corner that I managed to walk into regularly, even though I worked there for 3.5 years.

[ThomCat]

76. I noticed that the way you walk

you have very good control over your balance. You aren't jerky or wobbly like many people. Having no balance myself, I sometimes notice these things in other people. (I especially tend to notice this when I see people walk up or down stairs.)

No amount of grace makes up for being absent minded though. :)

[liontamer]

87. i can't picture you in stillettos

but I'm going to try :P

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

91. I clean up amazingly well.

Everyone was figuring I'd show up in a pants suit, but I showed up in a tight black dress and stilettos. There are pictures but I don't feel like whipping out the scanner.

When I do dress up, it's fun because I get to shock people.

Edited to add: On the opposite side, I can also do drag really well.

[wildhorses]

65. I am sorry to hear you had a bad day...

mine kinda sucked, too...
:hug:

[ThomCat]

69. Hugs and kind words from DUers make it better

You're awesome and you deserve these hugs too.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[LostinVA]

73. You know I love you! You're my cat man

Cyber hugs!

:loveya: :loveya: :loveya:

[ThomCat]

74. That you, thank you, thank you!

:hug:

:loveya:

[LostinVA]

85. kisses and hugs

[swag]

75. Hey, man.

Sorry about the shit day. This too shall pass.

Do you get a weekend this weekend? What are you going to do?

[ThomCat]

79. I do get a weekend this weekend.

I'll be spending the weekend with an elderly aunt and uncle who I love very much but rarely get to see. It won't be very exciting, or relaxing, but I'll still enjoy being there immensely.

You're right that this too shall pass. I've told myself that several times today. Always a good thing to remember.

How are you doing? Was the trip home pleasant and uneventful?

[swag]

82. Have a gratifying time with your aunt and uncle.

That sounds like it will be some hours well spent.

I'm pretty good, thanks for asking.

As I was telling somebody else, it has taken most of the week to dig out from under that data wreck that happened last week, but I think everything is pretty well repaired and no significant damage was done. We isolated and neutralized the source of the problem. Next problem, please.

The trip home was okay. I read most of that Jason Leopold memoir News Junkie, which is a ripping yarn, slept a bit, and got greeted at the airport and immediately taken out for food and ale.

It's fun to be home. But it was fun to hang with you and the crew. Glad I had the chance. I think I'll be back next year for that conference. I'll call ahead so you can organize a march.

[Catchawave]

77. Hi Thom !

:hug:

[ThomCat]

80. Hi Catchawave!

:hug:

I'm so glad that your t-shirt idea went over so well. It was an awesome idea.

I wish I had a DU t-shirt to bring last weekend. You inspired the idea, but I couldn't get a shirt in time. It would have been cool to have us all sign it. That would have been an awesome memento.

How are you?

[Catchawave]

86. You didn't need a shirt....

..you were the heart and soul of DU last weekend, I am in awe of you! :hug:

I did have a sharpie in my purse, forgot to ask the "boots on the ground" DUers to sign the shirt too...drat. That would have been so kewl too !

I'll be back in the city for July 4th !

[ThomCat]

89. Damn. I'm going to be in Canada for the 4th.

Friends are flying me up for a visit to Montreal. (I love my friends!) If I wasn't traveling I'd love to meet up with you.
:(

[Catchawave]

92. Beautiful time of year for Montreal !

Enjoy your visit. I'll catch up with you in the fall ! If my plans for then work out :D

Used to live in Lake Placid, NY, not far from Montreal, the weather is fabulous that time of year :toast:

[LeftyMom]

78. I'm sorry you're having a lousy day.

:hi:

[ThomCat]

81. It's getting better.

I'm working late and almost everyone else is gone. It gets pleasant here after everyone else leaves.

DUers are wonderful. Hugs and kind words do wonders.

:hi:

[LaraMN]

83. Aw, Sweetiepie!

:hug:

No where to go but up, right?

[ThomCat]

84. I hope so! That would be nice.

:)

:hug:

[liontamer]

88. sorry you're having a bad day

:( Especially when the weather was so nice. Hope tomorrow is better.

[ThomCat]

90. Thank you.

I had a nice serious talk with my boss today. We'll see what comes of it. That might help releave some of the stress.

That would be very nice.