Your biggest regret when you were 20-30 years old

[The Sushi Bandit]

something embarrassing?
missed opportunity?
made a really bad choice?

come on... be honest!

[Broken_Hero]

1. Other...

I wish, my wife and I decided to make our home in Alaska, instead of SW Missouri. I hate it here, the area, the look, the feel, the job oppurtunties are weak, most of the people...arrgghh!!!...I wish I talked her into going to alaska, instead of staying in Missouri...oh well, we will be back in AK eventually, but not today, or tomorrow...or monday, either...:)

My wife is from this area, and has family/friends, so i took it on the chin, and decided to make our home here, it seems, I regret that decisions from time to time....

[Haole Girl]

49. Biggest regret: Not working harder in school

not taking the remedial courses needed early in college to bring myself up to collegiate level math.

[fight4my3sons]

74. me too

Then failing out the first time and doing it all over again on loans when my father would have paid for it the first time!

I had a hell of a good time though...

[entanglement]

2. I'm still in my twenties

:shrug:

Well, at least I know WHAT to regret later on.
:P

[Skittles]

8. enjoy it

because it won't be long before you will be considered OLD because you remember the events of 9/11

[Starbucks Anarchist]

3. Other, and I'm in my 20s.

I regret having wasted so much time.

[HEyHEY]

4. Hmmm, Well, I'm 27-but

I know HEyHEY is not usually this mushy... BUT....
When I was 20, I had a brief affair during the last three weeks I lived in New Brunswick. A fine, gorgeous French girl. Smart as a whip, fun too.
I was thinking of staying in NB at the time cause I was having the time of my life - 20-years-old living across the nation, coming out of my shell.
But, I decided that I was going to go home and start university. Our last night together was the first time I'd ever actually SLEPT with a girl, we woke up in each other's arms and I was so comfortable and content.
Then, within an hour, a cab whisked me to the airport. She cried when I left, and I held back the tears, cause I'm a guy.
We're still friends, she's going to med school and is now engaged.
Whenever I hear "Leaving on a jet plane," I remember the morning I left with sadness and fondness.

Ah, Stephanie Breau, I'll never be lucky enough to meet another like you. I should have stayed.

[Broken_Hero]

5. ....:( n/t

[zanne]

12. That's so sad, but admirable!

The fact that you left a happy, comfortable "fantasy" relationship to go on to college and do what you had to do is a very grown-up thing for a 20 year-old to do. And you're only 27. Who knows what's right around the corner? You shouldn't have regrets--you did the right thing.

[The Sushi Bandit]

44. Dam thats Romantic!

pluck those heart strings

[hunter]

78. You can't say how it would have turned out, but it's a wonderful memory.

I'm betting you'll get lucky, and all your "if only" regrets will be blasted out of the waters of your memory by True Love.

Me, I look back now and think, "THANK GOD ALMIGHTY!" If I'd held onto any of the women I'd loved before my wife I'd be in some very deep shit now, and their own true loves would be sad and lonely.

When I met my wife there were no questions. We were in this life together, there would be no leaving on a jet plane for either of us.

[Droopy]

6. I made so many mistakes that it's hard to just pin point one thing

One of my biggest fuck ups was getting arrested. And, no, it wasn't for a worthy cause. But I think about all the bad shit I did and then I think that maybe I should have been arrested more than once because I didn't learn my lesson the first time.

[zanne]

13. If you're going to make mistakes anyway...

Make them while you're young. The world is a lot more forgiving of a 20-something than a 40-something!

[GoddessOfGuinness]

18. But you did learn...

I wonder how many people never bother to let go of their bad habits throughout their lives? I'll bet there are a lot...some in jail, and some not.

You're a very special person, Droopy. :hug:

[Droopy]

27. Thank you Goddess

:hug:

I got a hug from a Goddess! I must be blessed. :)

[In_The_Wind]

7. I think maybe I broke-up with the wrong person.

x( It was for the right reason but I'm looking back on 27 years that would have been very different.

[Oeditpus Rex]

9. Other:

I resisted growing up.









Hell, I'm still doin' that. :bounce:

[stellanoir]

10. ditto

[Broken_Hero]

11. Good for you...:)

I'm still fighting growing up myself, some days its rough though...:)

[Mutley]

14. Well, I'm 26 now so I've still got time.

But so far it's that I screwed around in school for so long. I would have graduated years ago if I hadn't had so much stuff going on. As it is I'll be graduating in August. Finally. :P

[NewJeffCT]

15. A few big regrets

I screwed up royally with the woman that was my first love by allowing her to treat my badly. If I just was a bit less naive, my whole life could have changed.

Being so depressed my senior year in college (due to the above) that is really affected my grades & future career.

Being too shy to ask out that sexy intern at work a few years later and then later finding out she liked me.

Getting excited about a woman from online & going all the way to Florida to meet her... only to find that people online aren't always honest.

and, when I met my ex-wife when I was 30, I should have realized that while she was a fantastic girlfriend, she was not really ready for marriage at the time - meaning, neither one of us was ready for marriage, and she still lived at home with her parents and was not used to living on her own and having a budget & things like that.

[Jazz2006]

16. I couldn't vote because there was no option for "no regrets" :)

I'm not saying I did everything right (because I surely didn't) and I'm not saying there haven't been some screwups along the way (because there surely have) but it's been one hell of a ride so far and I expect it will continue to be for the next few decades at least, and I'm good with that.

:toast:

[Derailer]

17. not recognizing the finality of some choices until its too late

and ignoring the fact that just because things are inconsequential to me doesn't mean it isn't meaningful to someone else (it's what you think)

I'm 24 and wonder how I can be such an asshole now, so I don't even wanna think about what I'll think of my 20s in hindsight :D

[Joey Liberal]

34. At least you realize it now!

If I could only turn back time! :)........

[GoddessOfGuinness]

19. I wish I hadn't been so obsessed with finding a guy

and had enjoyed my freedom more.

Of course, if I had done things differently, there are rich and rewarding elements of my life that would not exist. So there's little point in regret.

[Hugin]

20. Now that I'm older than that range... It's all OBE.

Much... Much... Worse problems now.

[Deja Q]

21. Getting into debt...

Almost out now, but was compelled by relatives to see it through to the end.

I reluctantly complied, but my gut feeling told me to declare.

17 months to go; 74% paid back. And the amount I am paying is quite a bit, so if I said how deep I had gotten into, you'd be floored. (And yet thanks to Oprah, Doctor Fool, et al, I was still far less into debt than his special guests who, after getting a lecture, got a free ride.)

Trouble is, I don't think I have 17 months left in my job.

Or even a few weeks.

[Deja Q]

22. There was a love of my life, once... 1994.

Green Tree Financial.

Co-worker.

I was too obtuse to recognize the feelings.

Add in my natural (or acquired over years of maltreatment) timidness and fear of people, I couldn't talk to him.

(and with my coworkers of today trying to pass my fear of people as something else to management who think I know nothing of what's going on...)

[riderinthestorm]

23. I should of stayed in Australia with the Qantas pilot

I had a year long fling with him in Sydney. He asked me to marry him and I said no since I wasn't madly in love with him - we were just great friends and I kept thinking I had to have sirens in order to get married. At this stage of life I think great friends can marry and have as good a relationship as those who marry for the sirens

And yes dammit, now with the problems in the US, Australia looks even better....

No, no problems with my husband who I married for the sirens, or satisfaction with the life I've made since Australia, just to clarify. Contemplating sometimes about how different things would have been certainly does tinge past decisions with nostalgia though, doesn't it?)

[GOPisEvil]

24. Going $30k in debt...

I don't recommend it. I finally grew up and now I'm much better with money. :)

[tjdee]

32. Same here. I don't EVER want a credit card again.

I have other regrets, but in terms of my quality of life overall, shitting up my credit has continued to plague me in very real, obstrusive ways.

I'll be 30 later this year.

[raptor_rider]

25. I chose "Other"

for no regrets.
I am 30 now, however I have made quite a few mistakes in those years. I wouldn't trade them in for anything though. I have a beautiful 8 year old daughter that I raised on my own for 6 years after splitting up with her father when she was 4 months old. It took me those 6 years to grow up myself, respect and love myself to the point of being able to get into a great relationship that I have with my husband that I met when I was 27. We will be married 2 years this July, together 3 years this September, and will have our son next month. My life couldn't be better than what it is now, if I had changed anything that I had done in the past. All experiences were for the best, even if they didn't seem to be at the time they were happening.

[Ramsey]

26. Should have gone ....

In my case, I should have gone to New Zealand and the South Pacific with my college glee club that summer instead of staying on campus to do research. Money was tight, which was one reason I decided to stay and work, but I should have scrounged the money somewhere. That trip would have been a lifelong memory that I now don't have and a last chance to spend time with my college buddies as we neared graduation and real life.

[freethought]

28. I let her get away!

She was a coworker. We both used to work for an environmental services company just outside of Boston.
A remarkable young woman a few years younger than me. I think she may have gone to law school and moved ahead in her career. You don't meet someone like her often. Kinking myself to this day.

[Orsino]

29. Married wrong person at 25...

...but didn't realize it until I was over thirty.

But I'm feeling much better now.

[ikojo]

30. Instead of moving to the St Louis area in 1987

I wish I'd have taken the plunge and either moved to Chicago or New York City.

Yes, St Louis is an improvement over where I grew up (Springfield Illinois) but it is still pretty conservative in a state becoming even more radically right-wing with each passing day. The people here are so suburban concerned only with their 2.2 kids and their SUVs and crap. Out of a metropolitan area of 2 million people the local peace group was only able to get 11 people willing to go to march in New York.

[TroubleMan]

31. Wasting about 3 years of it locked up

The best years of your life, too. Just thrown away.

[Joey Liberal]

33. I should have moved to Bora Bora n.t

[never cry wolf]

35. Double whammy, let the love of my life get away and

then married the wrong person.

I am still married to that wrong person because of the kids. 5 years ago I rediscovered the love of my life, found her online after 22 years of no contact and I am more convinced now than ever that she was the one and only. We chat almost every day, she is my best friend and I hers, both stuck in a bad marriage. I hope that won't be the case forever and we will be able to make up for what should have been.

[Iniquitous Bunny]

36. Married the wrong person.

I was still in love with someone else and when I met my former husband. I convinced myself love doesn't exist anyway and spent over a decade with him, had children, etc. with this mindset. We were friends who had sex, but little more. We didn't have what it took to truly be happy (basically no matter what he did, everything was still my fault) and I never thought it would get any better. Thankfully, after a lot of pain, it did.

[Robb]

37. That $15,000 condo in Aspen got away.

Of course, I didn't have $15K. :D

[Radical Activist]

38. Should have done more fun/stupid/reckless things

before I get too old, scared and cautious. I've got a couple more years of my 20's to do that.

[YankeyMCC]

39. Should've done a thru hike of the Appalachian trail

[ghostsofgiants]

40. Don't think I've had any yet (I'm only 21), and here's hoping I have few..

If any.

[wildhorses]

41. I voted other however I tend to think that I let the love of my life

get away. I have been told that I have yet to meet the love of my life. I hold onto that in the hopes that it is true but, here lately I am having serious doubts...and really thing is... He let me get away....dumb fucker (oops I think my hostility is showing)

[RetroLounge]

42. I was drunk for those 10 years

Regrets?

Well, I married too young, and she was the wrong girl, or rather she married the wrong guy, and I drank and screwed my way out of that marriage.

But she got me to go to college and get a degree which changed my life.

and she showed me a world I had never seen before, travel, theatre, literature, poetry, foreign films, ethnic food, etc.

And she was the one who first told me I was a drunk and to get sober, right before she left me for good. I have been sober now for nearly 16 years.

Her final act as my wife ended up saving my life.

I regret not having thanked her enough and having had hurt her so badly.

So wherever you are Denise, you did good, and deserve all the happiness I hope you now have in your life.

:hug:

RL

[The Sushi Bandit]

45. from The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous

if you dont know them..

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.


it sure helped me...

[RetroLounge]

46. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt

I know them well, very well in fact.

She was angry for so many years, I don't think amends had any effect on her, but helped me, yes.

RL

[supernova]

48. My name's Denice

Weird. :crazy: I was angry at him for so many years and not just run-of-the mill anger either. I left in an abrupt rage and didn't speak to him for a long time.

This was a white hot corrosive RAGE that needed physical expression. I exercised. A LOT! And occasionally drank too much, overate, and watched all kinds of very dark entertainment.

Eventually, I realized that if I didn't learn to forgive him and let it go, I'd be the one destroying myself. It wouldn't matter to him at all. So I learned to forgive him from a distance. It don't make a dent in his consciousness because he's not someone I can interact with in a healthy way, but I began to feel better.

[flamingyouth]

43. Definitely option #1

[supernova]

47. Married the wrong person

It would have been nice to have wizened up earlier, but that's the way it goes. If I hadn't taken the time, I would have been a much different person and I like who I am now.

[crispini]

50. No regrets.

None whatsoever. I'd do it all again. In spades. :bounce:

[bigwillq]

51. I don't have any regrets.

Things happen for a reason and some of the bad things are just learning experiences.

:)

[In_The_Wind]

52. bigwillq

:loveya:

[bigwillq]

57. ......

:hug: :pals: :loveya:

[tjwmason]

53. My philosophy entirely.

If I could do things again, there are many things which I'd do differently - but I am the sum of my past choices and experiences, so regretting past actions is denying part of my existence.

:hi:

[bigwillq]

58. hey tj!

:hi: :hug: :pals:

[Iniquitous Bunny]

55. Most definitely.

I wouldn't be who I am now if not for what I went through. I'm a much stronger person because of it all.

[bigwillq]

59. Hey bunny!

:hi:

[TallahasseeGrannie]

54. I didn't stay physically active

because I thought I was too fat. I missed out on a lot of fun. And now I AM too fat.

[gizmo1979]

56. Joined the Army instead of

going to college.I still wonder what I may have grown up to be.

[Nikia]

60. Taking my current job

Five years ago.
Within four months of taking that job, I had severe anxiety including my first panic attack, a chronic sinus infection that took over a year to be diagnosed and cured, and digestive problems. The job lead me to living in this little hell hole in a duplex where we cannot even hang pictures on the wall.
At the time I accepted the job, I had two temporary job offers at good companies, was in the interview stages at another good company, and could have some back for my seasonal job within a month.
The things that have gone on at my workplace have zapped my confidence and make me feel worthless.
I try to get a better job, but it has been very difficult because I suck at the interviews.

[The Sushi Bandit]

61. What do you do?

[Nikia]

62. I do quality assurance in the food processing industry

I believe the sinus infection originated from ingredient and card board dust. The psychological stuff is a long story. I don't have direct coworkers so I cannot say if I have been treated unfairly.

[The Sushi Bandit]

80. Bring in the Royal Food Taster!

Humor is the most important cure we all have


Bernie.. the royal food taster

[Nikia]

85. LOL, but it is actually like that in a way

No, one will get sick from eating the food that leaves our plant because I test it first in more ways than one. I am also responsible for saving the hard copies of the records in case of a fire or other diaster (That is what my boss told the USDA inspector).

[AccessGranted]

63. Honestly

I have no regrets.

[Floogeldy]

64. Not saving money.

I blew it all. :)

[Catchawave]

65. Other: No regrets

...and life just got better :)

[fudge stripe cookays]

66. At the time, it had to do with losing who I THOUGHT was the big love

of my life.

He wasn't. And now I'm married to the REAL one. :-)

Looking back, I feel horrible that I did not vote for the first time until I was almost 30. NOW, my main regret is that I stayed uneducated and stupid about politics for so long. Maybe I could have made a difference sooner.

[regnaD kciN]

67. Every time I read a "no regrets" answer...

...all I can think about is the Christine Lavin song The Kind Of Love You Never Recover From:

I read about a woman who said
She never regretted anything she's ever done
Such arrogant words always seem to be spoken
By those who then die young.

[BlueIris]

68. At 26, I have a fat pile of major regrets, including allowing an abusive

relationship to degrade my quality of life and destroy my self-esteem during my early 20s, especially as the influence of the nasty, manipulative, misogynist, repressed, self-hating gay boyfriend was one of the reasons I didn't finish my senior thesis in college. That was one of the projects most important to me then, and I abandoned it, in part because he didn't want me to graduate with honors when he wasn't going to, and I let him convince me to neglect it so that he'd "love" me more if he didn't feel threatened by my academic superiority.

What else...not being more proactive with career development; caring much more about helping others maintain the luxuries they're accustomed to than I have about my own health; neglecting my health in some curious ways (not eating enough for a solid year--don't ever do that, there are few things more damaging to your body); generally allowing people to treat me like shit, including my alleged "friends," (hey, DU, abusive friendships are a real phenomena and if you think you're in one, get out now); and perhaps most essentially, allowing the major depression I had diagnosed in March (yes, I'm now getting excellent treatment, and thank God) go unaddressed for three years. In my defense, I didn't know that depression was the root cause of almost all the health problems I was struggling with (loss of sex drive, insomnia, phantom muscle pain, no appetite, being unhappy no matter what, extreme anger over relatively minor stuff--which was an over-reaction to the state I was in, a method of attempting to "snap" myself out of it, and a response to how crappy I felt--and a general heaviness and depressive sensation that basically consumed me Every. Damn. Day.). Me, with all of my health information literacy. Me, the child of a doctor who taught her loads about depression, and a person who--as a health care worker--was on the support staff of a doc who did a ton of quality work for his patients with regard to mental health treatment, not to mention someone who'd been treated successfully for depression in college (though what I suffered from then was caused by an entirely different kind of neurochemical imbalance). Also, I live with physicians, one of whom spends 50% of her time helping patients find the right psych meds for pain management during chemo and other health crises. I thought my issues were purely emotional, (as did my providers, who are a little embarrassed that they believed that because they're not jerks and are very supportive of depression sufferers). I thought I was merely B-12 deficient, and upset about the Bush Administration, and still processing painful feelings about the abusive relationship.

Not so much. Just one week on even the low, starting dose of meds taught me otherwise. Suddenly, I could taste food again, smell my scented lotions again, appreciate the colors in the world around me, (although I have noticed that I bought some really strange clothes during the three years I was in that bad place, probably because I could not see the shade of the fabrics accurately) love others, love myself. At this moment, I feel better than I have in five years. I cannot believe how deep and foreboding the hole I was stuck in looks to me now. I am so sorry I waited as long as I did to seek help, consequently passing up 90% of the joy life can hold because the state I was in prevented me from experiencing any significant pleasure. People--food did not have flavor, that's how terrible it was. Those of you who have more understanding of the multiple forms of depression that can victimize us or who have been through something similar already know that depression can have that effect, of course. Yet even I, who thought I understood the only kind of depression I would ever have, didn't know that if depression is left untreated, particularly if a patient lives or works in unsupportive, stressful, frustrating environments, it can literally eat up everything good about that patient's existence. It's frightening to me how entrenched I was in it, too, with no clue whatsoever about what was wrong. I wonder how much more I could have accomplished if I'd gotten the problem taken care of sooner? How much less shit I would have taken from the abusers, the users and the assholes? How much better my general health would be? How much more I would have appreciated even the folks it felt like I was showing affection and respect to, even when I...wasn't? How fewer posters I would have offended on this website with my periodic outbursts (by the way, I want to sincerely apologize, RazzleDazzle)? I'd also likely be significantly further along on my novel, which is as beloved to me as anything. I know that for the moment, I'm supposed to focus on getting well, on cultivating hope, and on feeling stable and happy again, (which is GREAT, no matter what kind of regrets I have about not correcting the imbalance until recently) but JESUS H. CHRIST. I lost out on a lot. Depression is HELL.

To sum it up, I'd like to give this advice to my fellow DUers: if you are depressed or even think you might be--get evaluated by a doctor (I personally think a psychiatrist is your best best unless you are strongly opposed to that) and start thinking treatment options now. Nothing is worth feeling (or rather, not feeling) like I did. No one should sit around in pain all the time when she shouldn't and doesn't have to. You should be careful to pick out the right course of treatment for you, but I feel comfortable posting that I'm sure there is an option, or collection of options, which can meet your needs. Naturally, it's up to you and your providers to make those decisions and I would never suggest it wasn't--I just want to encourage those who remain stuck in the pit I was in to make their escape, and tell them that there are many ways out. And those ways may not be as hard for you to travel as you fear (I know my treatment has been entirely stressless this time around, thank the sweet Lord). Fuck those who say you shouldn't "depend on meds" or "throw meds at the problem" you are having with your mental (and perhaps emotional and physical) health. They may not be in the dark place that you are, and they don't have any right to criticize you for trying to take care of yourself. You have a right to be a healthy person, enjoy life and move toward the kind of self-actualization that depression can make impossible. And kick the abusers out of your life, ASAP, even your abusive "friends." I believe that our society fails to remind people to do that, but it should. Abuse is the worst.

[hunter]

83. Yikes. I had a few "abusive friendships."

Eating disorders too. My senior thesis was a mess, but eventually it got done.

I also had a girlfriend who kept me around to prove to herself and her family she wasn't homosexual. There were all sorts of weird religious undercurrents to our relationship too, like somehow God would save her from it -- and unlucky me. But it wasn't an abusive relationship. I'm certain I brought her as much grief as she brought me, while society itself was dishing out the abuse.

I learned a lot, even though it was very painful. I think that's a good way of looking at these things.

See now? Maybe you inspire someone to see beyond their dark place, and good comes of it...

I'm happy about the way my life is turning out now, even though I got here by a very rough road.

[Vidar]

69. Not having stayed in Europe.

[The Sushi Bandit]

86. What counrty??

i was in England

[Vidar]

95. Studied in France, but preferred Italy & Germany.

[Guava Jelly]

70. I spent that time totally out of shape

I wish i had the get up and go then that i have now.

[xchrom]

71. wow -- i am surprised{?} at the responces surrounding

failed and lost loves.

i've had some of those -- but they weren't the problem -- i was.

or rather me, drugs and drink.

i wish i'd gotten sober in my twenties -- i had to to jail, go looney out of my gourd before that happened.

but with sobriety came the best attitude towards lovers i ever had.

which is basically a very, very free one.

[Mizmoon]

72. Not realizing he was an alcoholic BEFORE I married him

It's not always like the stereotype - the guy who goes to bars until all hours and screams abuse when he gets home while reeking of some other woman's cheap perfume. Sometimes alcoholics look, act, and work like everyone else because they hide it with incredible aplomb. And denial is a powerful thing. Couple it with naivete and you have a real tragedy on your hands.

[CabalPowered]

73. Other: I wish I wouldn't have missed those credit card payments

Grrrrrrr.... and I could've definately gone without that floozy of a GF when I was 26.

[SlavesandBulldozers]

75. was in a committed relationship throughout college.

I went to Mexico for a month with two beautiful girls for work-study, but was dedicated to my girl back home.

Then, last winter, that girl would walk out on me. One of the first things I thought of when that happened was, damn, I shoulda had more fun in Mexico.

D'oh well, I allowed myself to love and be loved. C'est la vie, life iz a fucking bitch non?

[dajoki]

76. None!!

I'd do everything the same all over again.

[hunter]

77. Ages 17 thru 26 I was a terror. But it wasn't in me to be anything else.

I hurt a lot of people, most especially my parents, and those are my regrets.

I got kicked out of college twice, but my third try actually turned out okay. I learned some life lessons and eventually graduated. I was even invited to do some graduate work, but by then I was a little tired of school. I regret not having a graduate degree a little bit, but I can always go back and do that, especially when my kids are grown. They are teenagers now, and not at all the trouble I was, but still quite a bit of work.

The astonishing thing to me is that people cared enough about me to reach out and hold onto me, even though I was likely to bite them. I remember one professor gave me an "F" for my final grade and I was so angry! I'd done all the work, but it was of the sort directly meant to piss the professor off; I didn't like the way he looked at things so basically in all my essays I was telling him what an idiot he was while proving I knew the subject. I came into his office demanding to know why he gave me an "F" and he told me. It was horrible and I left his office in tears. Later he quietly changed my grade to a "B."

A couple of years later I asked him what he would have done if I hadn't confronted him about the grade. He said he would have left it as an "F."

Stuff like that happened to me all of the time. I was not asked to come back to a lot of jobs too; not exactly fired, I'd just be asked to take leave, and then I'd never go back. I was like Hope Springs Eternal.

I also brought a great deal of misery upon my roommates. Often I'd simply vanish, and when I did come back it was sometimes with the police. The police would be asking my roommates, "This guy says he lives here. Do you know him?"

A couple of times I ended up homeless, at which point I'd show up unexpectedly on the doorstep of someone who loved me, or sleeping in my car if I thought everyone was too irritated with me.

One time the police took me home after they picked me up jogging well past midnight in a place where nobody goes jogging if they have any sense. So the police invited to take me home, probably because I didn't seem to be coherent. When we got to the apartment I shared with another guy we could hear my roommate having very noisy sex with his girlfriend. The police officer knocked on the door anyways.

I could tell my roommate was furious when the police officer asked him if he knew me, and that my roommate was probably going to say something like, "FUCK NO!" but his girlfriend claimed me, and the police officer left me there. It was awkward, to say the least.

Ah, well...

[gollygee]

79. I wish I would have been less careful

I always did "the right thing" and didn't get into any trouble. Now I look back and think, hey you're only young once! Now I'm older and have a family to be responsible for so it's really too late to live it up a bit.

On the other hand I'm happy with where I've ended up.

[CTyankee]

81. Dropped out of college at age 20. Also smoked

Not having the degree was a constant problem because more and more jobs were requiring the Bachelor's at a minimum. I hated not having a degree but didn't know what to do about it. Finally, much later in life I found an Accelerated Degree Program and got my degree in just 18 months. I was fearful at first that people would think I was stupid, but I got warm approval from everyone instead! They thought I was brave to do it.

As for smoking, I quit in 1981 and never wanted a cigarette ever again. But I regret smoking all throughout my 3 pregnancies.

[momophile]

82. spending too much time on the wrong guys nt

[Deja Q]

84. Or perhaps opting to not declare bankruptcy...

I've done the good fight, but it looks like it might end soon.

[seemunkee]

87. Didn't finish college and didn't spend that summer in Yosemite

I don't have the skills or strength anymore to climb a big wall like I could have done back then.

[anarch]

88. the same regret I still have

that I was not born rich! Meh, I don't know, I don't really have any regrets. I guess in retrospect I should have finished school in one go, but I feel that it was equally worthwhile to do what I did with my time off while I was still young, so even that's not a regret. :shrug:

[The Sushi Bandit]

89. What is you Icon??

looks satanic!

[anarch]

92. this?

It is striking, isn't it? I like it. Check out an explanation here.

[The Sushi Bandit]

101. Cool! I got one for you!

[sendero]

90. I made lots of mistakes..

... but I believe we are just as much a product of our mistakes as we are of our successes. I learned plenty from those mistakes, and came though it more or less unscathed.

I really doubt I would change much if I could do it over, unless I could go back knowing what I know now - now that is a horse of a different color :)

[Xipe Totec]

91. Turning 31 n/t

[RagingInMiami]

93. I should never have taken the keys away from a drunken GW Bush

As he tried to drive home from the bar one night.

[The Sushi Bandit]

96. LOL!!!

This one is for you Raging..

[6000eliot]

94. That I lived them completely as a heterosexual.

Although that may have saved my life.

[LibDemAlways]

97. Getting married too young. I was 20 and had

very little dating experience. If I had it to do over, I'd have stayed single much longer.

[SteppingRazor]

98. Still in that age range. Of the options available...

I had to go with getting arrested. Man, I hate when that happens :evilgrin:

If I really thought about it, maybe I could pick an "other," but nothing springs immediately to mind.

[regularguy]

99. I just, y'know, forgot to do stuff.

I've gotten better. Anyway, at least it was pretty relaxing.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

100. Other: Staying at this job longer than I should've

I should've gotten out after a year, but I bought into all the bullshit promises of promotions and such. Now I'm overqualified for my current job, but somewhat underqualified for the next level. x(

[The Sushi Bandit]

102. I should have got a job at Disneyland

when i was just out of high school.

Oh those Disney Girls!

[ScreamingMeemie]

103. That I didn't stick with MrG (my husband) from the start. We dated

and then I broke up with him...BUT, if not for that I wouldn't have had my daughter, and then had to grow up and be responsible so I could end up with him at the end of the story...

...I guess all things happen for a reason. :)