GENTS (or ladies who are into ladies) - which do you find more attractive?

[Yollam]

GENTS (or ladies who are into ladies) - which do you find more attractive?


Just curious.

[Droopy]

1. I've a fetish for the first choice

But basically I'm attracted to any woman who will pay attention to me. I guess I'm easy.

[Yollam]

2. Well, if it's a choice between Queen Latifah and Callista Flockhart...

I'm going with the Queen.

But it really does depend on the individual, doesn't it?

[Droopy]

3. Yes it does

You never know what kind of package your soul mate will come in.

[Derailer]

7. when I cast my vote I wasn't picturing Queen Latifah exactly...

[Broken_Hero]

39. funny, when i voted, i was thinking of the queen...:) n/t

[Derailer]

64. excellent

you keep nailing all those BBWs and I'll take whatevers leftover :D

[Broken_Hero]

66. sounds good to me!...:)

:toast:

on edit:to fix the toast icon

[Starbucks Anarchist]

4. First one.

[NewJeffCT]

5. Depends on the woman

I've dated plenty of both types. My wife is definitely in category two, and I think she is gorgeous & sexy...

My ex-wife would be category one, though her weight fluctuated in a good 20-25 pound range, which is quite a lot considering she was a tad under 5'0". Her father used to joke, however, that they adopted her from Dolly Parton.

Both, however, are open-minded,have outgoing personalities and are intelligent, except in their choice of husband. I'd consider my wife to be exceptionally intelligent.

[dpbrown]

6. Put me in favor of category two...

...and though it all depends on the person, I prefer skinny over buxom, anyway.


:thumbsup:

[dpbrown]

14. This works for me

[Oeditpus Rex]

45. When does she turn 12?

[dpbrown]

50. DOB: 26 March 1985

I just saw Keira Knightley in Pride and Prejudice. She looked plenty old enough.


Edit: typo

[flvegan]

8. It depends.

Attractive is more inside than outside.

Now if we're comparing two equally wonderful women, and it's just down to the physical...I'm not that much of a boob man, so I guess the second choice.

[NewWaveChick1981]

9. Buxom.

(OK, you probably figured out a long time ago that I'm bi. :D ) Skinny is just plain unattractive.

[L A Woman]

12. me too

also bi. :-) and assuming the personality is equally wonderful, i'll take the few extra pounds any day. skinny doesn't do it for me at all!

[NewWaveChick1981]

49. Hi, LA Woman!

:hi: Good to see you and I have something in common! :)

[Left Is Write]

15. This is really disheartening for a skinny girl...

I am at a healthy weight. I have a healthy BMI and a healthy body fat percentage. However, at this ideal weight and body fat percentage, I'm pretty skinny on top. I have to lift weights to avoid having chicken-leg arms. Unfortunately, even with muscles, I often appear very skinny from the hips up. Hearing things about "stick people" and "skinny is ugly" is hard.

[dpbrown]

16. For what it's worth...

...you've got my complete and rapt attention to your skinny wonderfulness.

:thumbsup:

:D

[LeftyMom]

17. Me too

I heard enought of that sort of thing growing up. If it isn't cool to belittle larger women for thier weight I can't see why it's considered okay to do it to smaller women. :shrug:

[shanti]

31. hey leftymom

:hi: i just wanted to let you know that there is a usurper of your DU name, a newbie by the name of "TheLeftyMom", posting here. someone pulled that on me (twice) and skinner put a stop to it. dunno if you know or care, just letting you know...

[miss_american_pie]

18. Thank you for saying that

:hi:

[Iniquitous Bunny]

22. I don't think people should be insulted for their size.

Whatever their size. Whereever it may be. Some things are just genes and people come in such a variety of shapes and colors. It's beautiful. We shouldn't have to be like anything but ourselves. Ultimately, no matter how a person looks, you fall in love with their mind and their soul(if it's just about the T&A, you're shallow). Chemistry needs to be there, sure, but specific physical requirements in terms of who you will love is degrading.

[Jed Dilligan]

24. If it's life-threatening you might want to call them out, though!

I like to see people at their correct size. Not too much dieting and not too much overeating.

[Iniquitous Bunny]

26. Health issues are something else.

I actually, in part, work with anorexic young women so I understand first hand. I'm talking about a woman who's thin and a normal weight range that is sick of society telling her that something is wrong with her because she's an A cup and not a D cup. Someone who's over 5 feet and 80 pounds with malnutrition and bradycardia is something else. Someone who's 400 pounds going into ketoacidosis is also something else. I'm talking the narowly defined crap society puts on women.

[Yollam]

42. Here's what prompted the question...

I was very overweight a year ago, and now am at a very healthy weight, and people are starting to suggest that I "work out" and "bulk up". Now, while I believe that push-ups and other light exercise are good, along with a little light weight training, I have ZERO interest in getting "buff". Everything I have read suggests that men who are very muscular and work out a lot have fairly high incidences of heart disease at an advanced age, and that it's thin people who show the best longevity, and that's what I'm aiming for. In Europe and Japan, it's still quite fashionable for men to be thin and not buff, so I was curious about women's preferences. I didn't want to be lopsided about it so I made a poll for men, too.

[flvegan]

25. One person's opinion is another person's

laughtrack.

You're not skinny, at least not from what I've seen here. Your appearance seems healthy. On top of that, you are, (and I've copyrighted the term) what one might call "pause the DVD" hot.

With men, your "skinny" is "ripped" so, from now on, you, my dear, aren't skinny...you're ripped. You're at competition weight.

BMI is crap. Bodyfat percentage is less so. But who cares...those are just numbers. It's easier to just post a pic and let us make with the lust and the lavish.

[Guava Jelly]

28. You look very healthy to me

You look as good as any lady half your age..
I wouldn't worry about it.
I'd kinda say you are quite the spaceagehousebabe..

[jukes]

34. another man's "skinny"

is my "pretty". small & perky breasts are much prettier to me than melons.

nothing *wrong* w/ either somatype, but i prefer yours, LiW!

[ForrestGump]

36. That's always bothered me about DU

I've posted about it here a number of times before: people putting down more slender people (actually, women...it's almost invariably women being put down, not surprisingly, though very often by other women) with the "get her a sandwich" kind of thing. The height of unpleasant irony comes when the person laying down the slam is one whose bodily proportions are several sizes more than generous, someone who should know just how it feels to be criticized or treated differently because of their physical habitus.

So it's verboten to make fun of overweight people but fine to poke fun at people who just cannot, for whatever reason, rise above a relatively low body weight? Why? Because the vast (no pun intended) majority of American adults are at least 30 lbs overweight? Is it a numbers game?

It's hypocrisy, no matter what else it is.

I hate it.

And you're a babe, at any weight or degree of rippitude, Mrs Is-Write... :hug:

[L A Woman]

56. well...

you might be right about DU in general, but this is just an opinion poll about what we prefer individually. and we all have our preferences - it's not putting people down.

[ForrestGump]

59. I know, but I was

just specifically responding to what Left Is Write posted, not to the original post. The bottom line for most respondents seems to be, anyway, that physical characteristics come in below other, perhaps less immediately tangible, personal attributes. Still, some of these kinds of threads here in the past have indicated that some people hold such arbitrary ideals as a particular eye or hair color above anything else...seems kind of weird to me, even without considering the objectification angle, but to each his or her own, I guess.

[Left Is Write]

65. I know that people have preferences...

and that's perfectly natural. I just wish we could express our preferences without making negative comments about others. Sometimes I'm able to let certain comments roll off my back; other times I'm caught at a vulnerable or sensitive moment.

[dpbrown]

67. I dig skinny girls...

...but fat girls are okay, too!


See!

:grouphug:

[WCGreen]

38. You are extremly hot....

And I prefer the bigger girls....

Always have...

But you have a way about you that transcends body type....

Pssst....

I have dated all sorts of women....

When all else is said and done, it is how you connect that matters....

[Yollam]

41. Naturally skinny is cute.

Starved-halfway-to-death skinny is revolting.

Besides, most of us guys are not all that picky. You'd have to be REALLY overweight or REALLY underweight for it to be a real turn-off for me. Healthy is always attractive, no matter the BMI.

[Oeditpus Rex]

46. God, I'm sorry

I never really considered that — at least, given it the consideration it's due.

I've used the term "stick chick" many times and posted the "Skinny girls are for wimps" smilie, because "solid" women are my preference. But as one who's had those "jokes" directed at him all his life, I should've been more sensitive.

I guess I thought (if I thought at all) that the whole "You can never be too rich or too thin" bit was empowering to slender women, and the "jokes" would just roll off them because, after all, they'd have the last laugh. Somehow, it never really occurred to me that women could be as sensitive as men about being thin.

I humbly apologize to any or all I may have offended. :blush:



Edit: LIW, for what it's worth, I've never considered you "too" anything. You transcend all that. And the same goes for a great many Women of DU.

[NewWaveChick1981]

47. The "skinny" I was referring to was primarily

anorexic models in magazines. I find that unattractive. If you are at a a healthy weight and are happy with it, there is nothing wrong with that. :) Thin doesn't always equal skinny, and it sounds to me like you are thin. :)

[Starbucks Anarchist]

48. Believe me, you have nothing to worry about.

"Skinny" is basically referring to the Kate Moss types, which you are clearly not. Your shape is just fine.

;)

[L A Woman]

54. so what?

a lot of people DO like skinny! (MOST men I know prefer thin women). and what matters more is the inside, anyway. it's a cliche, but it's true.

[GirlinContempt]

57. Skinny = ugly

Is that kind of skinny where you're looking at the person and worrying their bones are gonna push through their skin at ANY MOMENT and their head looks like it might snap their neck.

[Left Is Write]

58. Well...I wish I had a nickel for every time someone pointed out to me...

that my ribs show or that I have "the ladder" on my chest. Then I could afford the boob job I'm not going to get.

(Not directed at you, GiC, or anyone in particular...just picked the last post to click on.

[GirlinContempt]

63. Yeah

but you don't look like your bones are about to pop through your skin. Trust me on this one.


And those people are just rude.

[Iniquitous Bunny]

19. I'm not bi exactly.

I'm a hetero that's probably a 1-2 on the Kinsey Scale. I'm told by my SO (who's a man), "You're always attracted to women built like you." I'm very curvy (on top), not fat, not skinny, but in-between. I think if I were truly bi and interested in women for relationships on the same level as I am with men, it might be different. Don't know. :shrug:

[ForrestGump]

10. Natural inclination toward the first, but the truth is that it really

doesn't matter, ultimately. Physicality -- any aspect of it -- may be an important factor in some forms of initial attraction, but not in all (actually, romances that start electronically, via Internet, at least before pictures are exchanged, are a classic modern example of that), and it's down below other, internal attributes on my list. If she happens to coincide in various ways to some 'type' that I find particularly attractive, overall or even in specific details, so much the better. But that'd just be a bonus, and one that I wouldn't miss were she diametrically opposite some archetype of feminine beauty that I tended to favor.

[RevCheesehead]

35. Damn, Gumply,

you're downright poetic tonight! :hug::loveya:

[BlueJazz]

11. Speaking for myself..(other factors being equal). I'd rather have..

..a Lady with extra pounds than the "Stick Things"
I see in a lot of Magazines.

[Jed Dilligan]

13. I'm a tall, thin man

Big women just work better for me. "Relations" with a little skinny girl tend to be uncomfortable for both me and her. Lots of bones poking into each other. I get sort of a narcissitic thrill out of looking at really beautiful, skinny, flat-chested girls, but I know she isn't for me in the end.

I don't buy that the physical doesn't matter--if you physically can't have satisfying sex, you should really look elsewhere!

[stlsaxman]

20. Neither- or in between...

the love of my life grew up a dancer. she has the perfect body to me (and so much more!). :)

not bony, no... just perfect.

:loveya:

[Joey Liberal]

21. It's all good n.t

[redqueen]

53. That's what I say, too.

For girls and guys... I find all kinds attractive... it's less about the body type than the person, anyway.

But I'll stare at a thick woman just as much as a waif... and a teddy bear guy just as much as a buff or a thin guy.

I suppose I'm the opposite of picky, at least when it comes to physical characteristics. :P

[ZombieNixon]

23. Totally depends on the person.

I've always evaluated my interest in women based on her in her entirety (as well as I know...which doesn't always prove to be the truth x(, but oh, well). Some physical features just work much better on some women than on others...depending on how she holds herself, etc. And of course personality and attitude play just as big a part as looks.

[Guava Jelly]

27. Wow I find ladies of all shapes and sizes sexy

My first fantasy was the woman on the Adam and the ants Goody 2 shoes video.
The one with the glasses and the nice amazonian leggs.woooooooooooooooooooooooooooooah I felt like Homer Simpson looking at a dozen doughnuts every time I watched that video. Attractiveness to me is to broad a field to "Dial" in.I find many things sexy. To me being a caring and giving person is just as hot as CAtherine Zeta Jones..And you know how I feel about her..doughnuts arrgh

[dpbrown]

29. This thread needs more pics, don't you think?

[Blue_Tires]

30. depends on certain tangibles and more specifics about the woman

i've dated both, and i could be attracted to either

[realisticphish]

32. meh

they look good on different women :shrug:

I don't like defining one standard for beauty, since the women I find attractive cover a wide spectrum

[jukes]

33. prefer, "lean/muscular"

but skinny is fine, too.

[Common Sense Party]

37. Personally, buxom is better.

[LostInAnomie]

40. I 'm not too picky really...

... I like them anywhere from petite lingerie models all the way to plus size lingerie models.

I think it's important that the models have a good personality though.

[Bucky]

43. At the risk of giving the "correct" non-answer

I'm attracted to personality, not body type. For a while I tended to date mostly tall women (including one six footer, which didn't look too great with me being five-seven). But now I don't have a "type" per se. If you're talking about pure physical attraction, I'd have to say, appallingly, that I'm attracted to the way a woman walks--the way she talks or carries herself--her gait. Again, nothing to do with physical being, everything to do with physical action.

Also, if she's drunk and passed out on my couch, I find that really Hawt.

[Bucky]

44. on edit: Sigourney Weaver

gotta have your Sigourney Weaver

[Yollam]

61. That tub o'lard?

You chubby chaser, you.

:crazy:

[Saboburns]

51. I tried to vote both ways.

It wouldn't let me

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[bertha katzenengel]

52. Callie on "Grey's Anatomy" . . . hubba hubba.

:evilgrin:

[BigMcLargehuge]

55. whichever one is in heels

[liontamer]

60. i'm more into the pretty faces

most bodies if they are healthy are beautiful.

[Ariana Celeste]

62. I've been attracted to both, but,

I loves me some curves. :D

Really though, it depends on the person.

[BlueStorm]

68. I voted for the first option...

though as a lesbian I could go for either, I don't like those on the extremes though as I find that very unhealthy and I would prefer a healthy looking woman.

Blue