Best things to join in order to meet eligible members of the opposite sex

[Darth_Kitten]

Any suggestions? :D I'd like to meet somebody. ;)

[Floogeldy]

1. Biker gang.

:)

[Robb]

2. Naked conga lines

Water aerobics seminars. The Navy. :shrug:

[Deja Q]

3. A bar where everybody's already had a few legal intoxicants?

:D

[Darth_Kitten]

4. Come on now, it's spring......

and I'm looking hot. Or will once I can buy some nice new spring clothes. ;)

[Random_Australian]

5. On your own. In a cave. In mount Everest. As mount Everest is

detached from the world and spirals into the sun.

That sounds about right.

[Monk06]

6. Ballet, figure skating, ballroom dancing. Works for same sex too.

[Bossy Monkey]

7. Writers' group worked pretty well for my gf and me

These 4 1/2 years later, we never seem to go back to the writers' group (though we would if the fun and talented people hadn't left, by and large).

If you don't feel like you're a writer, just join any group whose activities you have an interest in. And don't worry about it. Have fun, and you'll either meet somebody or you won't.

Oh! If David Sedaris ever gives a reading anywhere near you, go. Arrive early and strike up conversations. The audience is like a mix between the Democratic Underground, some kind of NPR listeners conclave, and the 1970s personified (if that isn't redundant). Sedheads are a good bunch.

[Darth_Kitten]

9. Funny you should mention a writer's group.....

that's something I could join, been encouraged to join by a few pals. thanks.

[Just Me]

8. Some lady on CNN said attend ALL sports events,...

,...oh, but, that was for women seeking men. But, :shrug: could be for anyone seeking anyone :blush:

[Darth_Kitten]

10. I'm writing this down.......

hmmmm......I'm a gal. ;)

[radwriter0555]

21. Yes, but guys who attend sporting events are kinda... um.. .well..

uh not the kind of guys I'd want to meet. Personally.

You should do things that interest you, (other than cat and dog rescue) if you want to meet men with whom you have something in common.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

33. Well thanks!

I wouldn't want to meet a complete snob either, so I guess we're both safe!

[radwriter0555]

37. Absolutely! A match that wouldn't be made ever based on personal

preferences. That doesn't make me a snob, just a gal of a different genre.

See, I didn't exactly date the jocks in high school. I wasn't their kind of gal really... not the cheerleader type.

I'm just not a sporty kinda gal.

And sporty kinda fellas don't dig chicks like me.

It's all good!!!!

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

40. No, what makes you a snob is...

...the fact that you don't even allow someone to fit outside of your norm for what you believe a "jock" to be or what a jock wants. THAT makes you a snob. And no, it's not all good.

[radwriter0555]

43. This is purely psychological and has nothing to do with snobbery.

All people fall within specific psychological profiles and the sporty type mentality isn't one that I mesh with. I have a hard enough time speaking with people that I have actual things in common with. Trust me, I'm VERY boring to sporty fellas; they have no interest in me!

[LeftyMom]

11. DU.

:P

[Oeditpus Rex]

12. As if

Nobody ever hooks up via DU. :eyes:

[LeftyMom]

14. Yeah, I don't know what I was thinking.

:P

[Oeditpus Rex]

15. Probably

the same thing you're always thinking. :eyes:




:hi:

[LeftyMom]

16. I'm predictable

Did you see what I did the other day? I am such an idiot.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=5180070&mesg_id=5180375

[Oeditpus Rex]

19. You coulda been charged with DWK

Driving While Kegeling.

:scared:

[chaska]

13. Get a job at a truck stop and....

And discover a whole wide world of diamonds in the ... very ... rough.

Just had this experience not an hour ago:

I'm at the Pilot truckstop in Brooks, OR right now. My Freightliner parked in the yard. I walk in and ask the girl if I had any showers left on my fuel card (you get freebees for buying fuel). She started flirting with me. So anyway, I get everything resolved and head out to the truck for my shower stuff (change of clothing, etc), and as I'm walking I think to myself, "Honey, you're cute and all, but that unibrow has seriously got to go!" I speak the gospel truth here.

[Nevernose]

22. You obviously haven't been on the road long enough

Or "dry" enough. In a few more months, you may be looking back and thinking "That girl with the unibrow was pretty cute. I wonder if she still works there?"

I know I am. Which truck stop, exactly, was it again?

[fujiyama]

17. Yoga, aerobics

Yeah, you can tell I'm a guy...

Hmmm, I'm giving myself ideas...then again, I am kinda out of shape...

[GirlinContempt]

18. What age group, darlin'?

[hfojvt]

32. 35-43

Probably should be looking in nursing homes, eh?

[DainBramaged]

20. The supermarket, trust me it works. After 8PM is best

[Starlight]

30. Please don't be one of those creepy stalker guys at the supermarket.

:scared:

[DainBramaged]

31. Nope, the trick is to ask for help getting stuff off top shelves

or offering opinions on fruit and vegetables. I used to hang in the laundry aisle and look lost. And I always wore a jacket or loose tie when I went shopping.

[Starlight]

51. Is that why all those little old ladies are always asking for my help?

I had no idea. :shrug:

[Haole Girl]

44. Ugh, I used to hate it when I was single and I just wanted to

go grocery shopping. I was so self conscious about the stares and leary sneers, I would almost literally run around the store, throwing things in the basket as quickly as I could. And, when they would ask if I needed help out to my car, sometimes I almost yelled when I said, "NO!!"...running out to my car!

I would like to strangle the person or people who started using the grocery store as a singles club!

Some of the more interesting people I met, when single, were in my apartment building, a photography class I took, and the gym. But that was 13 years ago- things might have changed since then.

[CBHagman]

48. I must be going to the wrong supermarket!

I get all the cranks who cut in line. :shrug:

What do people here think of film clubs?

[Aristus]

23. Community theater.

It's how I met my wife.

And don't knock it as a bunch of untalented geeks playing "Hey gang, let's put on a show!". I've seen some astonishing talent in community theater from people who do it for recreation and the love of it.

[CornField]

24. Whatever it is that you can be passionate about

I think most (good) people are attracted to those individuals who display passion, self-worth, determination, etc. To that end, I think that you should get involved in the things which will bring you the most joy. When you are feeling good about yourself, you'll be glowing inside and out.

Would you really want to attract just any old dude in any old situation? I mean, that might be alright if you are only looking for something sexual, but if you are talking friendship it would be best to find someone who holds many of the same values you do.

[JVS]

25. Sex-addicts anonymous

[JVS]

27. Here's the webpage, find a chapter near you

http://saa-recovery.org/

[JVS]

26. Truck-stops

[XemaSab]

28. Try walking along the beach

looking for beached boats.

I swear it was more hot guys than I've seen in a long time.

[Ellen Forradalom]

29. Perl Mongers

http://www.pm.org/

If you want to date a geek.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

34. www.meetin.org

[XNASA]

35. A band. nt

[seemunkee]

36. Rock climbing gym

Lots of guys who would love to help out a new female climber. Usually a pretty progressive laid back crowd.

[kwassa]

38. The National Guard

Great travel opportunities, as well.

[leftofthedial]

39. all the ladies down at the titt, er, gentlemen's club

are very friendly

[SteppingRazor]

41. Young professionals charitable groups...

Many local charities have a young professionals group that raises many and goes on outings, usually heavily alcohol related. The groups are filled with single young professionals looking to get sauced and laid. And, hey, you're even doing it for a good cause!

[Southsideirish]

42. Take a class. Its funny this came up as I just heard a good story today.

Months ago I recommended a class to some women and they followed my advice and signed up. They are both in their middle 40's. Now I heard that one of them met a man in the class who was from her old neighborhood. Both of them are widowed and it turns out they are dating and its getting serious. Nice, huh?

[noonwitch]

45. My sister says that a golf club is good for that

I don't know, the only golf I've ever played is miniature golf.

[momophile]

46. Peace Corps.

Not only all the host-country nationals, but also the other volunteers.

[ileus]

47. Jeep Club

[Ivan Sputnik]

49. Believe it or not: a church

They are not all fundamentalist; some are even liberal or leftist. I used to attend one where several people met and married their spouses.

[wildhorses]

50. astronomy club, scuba club, politics, theatre, hiking club

tennis, golf, softball, volleyball, fishing....

[yellowdogintexas]

52. I met my husband as part of a caving organization. We were

both very involved, loved the group, loved the activities, and you can learn a lot about someone spending time with them underground.

Having said that, it is time for you to choose your own cool stuff you like to do.

If you are an active outdoorsy type, try outing clubs, hiking/boating/sking clubs..what ever makes your heart sing.

Bookish, intellectual: book clubs, community theatre, music appreciation groups

community service organizations are great for meeting people: Habitat, YWCA, Boys/Girls Clubs, Food Pantries, etc.

A large liberal church with lots of singles classes..my church has college singles, singles in their mid twenties to mid thirties, a class for the forties to fifties singles and another one for those older than that. There are always tons of service projects to work on with the group and stuff like that is a good opportunity to get to know people on a different level. The classes also have myriad social events..pot luck dinners, evenings out, excursions, etc. I know several couples now in my mostly couples class who started out in the singles groups.



Of course there is the ubiquitous coed softball or soccer leagues.