How do you pick up a bartender?

[Fountain79]

They are in a job where they get hit on pratically everyday. How does one effectively pick up a person who is in that position all the time?

[GirlinContempt]

1. I picked up my last bartender by

leaving him my phone number in the tip jar .



And charming his pants off. :o

[Fountain79]

2. Friendly amendment...

I am a guy....and the bartender is a girl.....

[GirlinContempt]

3. Still the same principle, I think

I dunno, how do you pick up anyone?

Just don't be an obnoxious asshole. If they respond, they respond.

[jpgray]

4. Be incredibly handsome and wealthy

Then meet her by chance outside of work and have her fall in love with you.

[Fountain79]

5. Damn...I'm screwed then... n/t

[jpgray]

7. In a manner of speaking, anyway

:P

[jukes]

16. actually

no. not screwed, and prbly won't be.


a non-needy, straightfwd approach might work. i was in a sim position when i was a bouncer. "feel like coming over and hanging out?" worked best on me. then chemistry kicks in, or it doesn't.

[GirlinContempt]

6. Meet her by chance

leaning against your jet plane outside of work.

[jpgray]

8. The system works

But not in my favor unless I clean at rapid pace tomorrow. x( At least the dishes are done. And on that note, good night DU!

[Starlight]

9. I can't imagine wanting to pick up a bartender.

:shrug:

[Fountain79]

10. Even if they were really hot? n/t

[Starlight]

42. Pretty boys don't impress me a bit.

Give me a brainy scientist type any day. :loveya:

[Fountain79]

44. It's a girl....

and I am a guy.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

12. What's wrong with bartenders?

It's a noble profession.

[xchrom]

13. yeah? what's wrong with bartenders?

i was bartender for like twenty years -- i was ok.

so were all the tenders i worked with.

what a strange thing to say.

[Left Is Write]

30. Why not? Bartenders are people too.

[Ariana Celeste]

36. My mom was a bartender!

:o

[Starlight]

39. And I never once tried to pick up your mom.

:wtf:

[cobalt1999]

11. if you are successful,

a suggestion from a former bartender...when you take her out, don't take her to a bar! The last thing I wanted to see on my days off, was another bar.

[Left Is Write]

34. My bartender boyfriend didn't mind going to a bar on his day off.

We went somewhere other than where he worked, somewhere we had lots of mutual friends, and we'd listen to bands, shoot pool, play darts, and have fun. (Of course, we also went to movies, parties, restaurants, or made dinner together - we didn't ONLY go to bars.)

[rbnyc]

14. When I was a bartender....

...I was successfully picked up once, prior to my meeting my husband. It happened after hours. He became friends with my co-workers and therefor became part of the after-closing-but-still-drinking-as-long-as-you-clean-up-after-yourself-and-help-put-up-all-the-barstools crowd. One night he offered to walk me home...

[In_The_Wind]

15. Very carefully.

She may have a boyfriend lurking somewhere nearby.

[Deja Q]

17. Bingo. Even mere suspicion of hitting on one's GF causes problems...

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x5188230

[In_The_Wind]

18. People really suck sometimes!

[democracyindanger]

19. Lift with your legs.

[Deep13]

22. And then what, piss on a hydrant?

:shrug:

[Magrittes Pipe]

20. 1) Nervously order a Coke, because you're too young to drink.

2) Move out of state and go to college.
3) Marry someone else.
4) Run for Congress.
5) Come back into her life a decade and a half later, when your marriage has fallen apart and you're both really desperate, needy, and vulnerable.

Voila!

[Deep13]

21. Use Tom Delay's favorite pickup line.

Umm, hey bay, um, baby, wassa dump like you doin ina, umm, hahahahah, in a nice place like dis? Ummm, no, wait, ummm, nice ass. I kin indraduce you to sinnator kay halley bitchenson. umm ahh (*thud*)

[HEyHEY]

23. If you're a regular, just be yourself

This is actually a good situation. Basically you get to be in an almost date-like situation with her. Sit at the bar, but not ALL THE TIME. Chat, flirt, when she knows you well enough and the time is right, ask her out.

[Major Hogwash]

24. Wink a lot at them.

It makes them think you have something in your eye.

*wink wink*

[Monk06]

25. Give up. Her boyfriend is either the manager, or the bouncer.

[skygazer]

41. Yes - after all, what man would allow his woman to bartend

if he wasn't there to "protect" her? :sarcasm:

Sometimes I feel like I've stumbled into Bedrock - except I think the Flintstones were slightly more enlightened. :eyes:

[Monk06]

43. It was a joke. I used to work in a bar and that was what it was like...

Mind you that was in 1980 when everyone
who worked in a bar (except myself)was
a coke addict.

[davsand]

26. Tell her a joke or two, get to know her.

Waaaaay back in the dark ages when I was a bartender, the guys I remembered (and thought well of) were the ones that always had a funny joke or two. I'll grant you that a tip makes a difference too, but they really had to be somebody that seemed like they would be fun to hang with.

One guy did make an impression on me very early when I was cocktail waitressing. He reached up and grabbed a hand full of my left boob. AFTER I dumped the tray of drinks on him, and quit screaming and cussing, they decided I was probably gonna do better as a bartender where nobody could reach me. I'm still not sure if it was my safety or that of the customers they were worried about...

:shrug:

That is NOT a good way to meet new lovers, so don't DO that--ok?



Laura

[giant_robot]

27. Does she work day shifts or night shifts?

If she's a daytime bartender (or occasionally works day shifts) you're in pretty good shape. Because business is slower during the day, there's more time for 1-on-1 chatting, and because places are still open when her shift ends, you may eventually persuade her to join you for an after-work drink or coffee somewhere else.

Now if she's a night-time bartender, you've really got an uphill battle on your hands. Good luck.

[ploppy]

28. Suck it up

and just ask her out! It worked for me when I tended bar. I know you won't hang out there and get all sloppy drunk and blow it! :silly:

[Left Is Write]

29. I picked one up and dated him for well over a year.

:D

I don't know how. I guess he thought I was cute. I was at a bar with several girlfriends, and they were up and down a lot, dancing and socializing. I thought the bartender was really cute, so I stuck close to the bar, chit chatting. Later, he invited my friends and me to a party a friend of his was throwing. It turned out to be a great party (not a ruse), and we had a lot of fun. I went out with him the next night, and the rest is history.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

31. Depends on the size.

You'll probably need two hands. Bend at the knees. :D

[LeftyMom]

32. Bend with you knees, not your back. nt

[Rabrrrrrr]

33. Impress her with how much you still know and can talk about loudly

about physics, politics, Catholicism, racism, your past sports life, secret societies, romance, and gender relations after your tenth or eleventh beer. Whatever you do, don't fuck things up by asking her questions about herself - just show her how intelligent and suave and funny you become at the half-case point!

[radwriter0555]

35. You have to be willing to basically be a groupie. If it's just plain sex

you're after, that's pretty easy.

As far as a long term meaningful relationship... well you're SOL on that one.

But if you're out for a night of true love for a couple hours, just be honest. Flirt for a while then be balls up front honest!!!! Nothing ventured, nothing gained!

[Left Is Write]

40. Why SOL on a relationship?

I posted earlier in this thread that I picked up a bartender (or maybe he picked me up - but the flirting started with me) and we dated for over a year. We got pretty serious too.

[trof]

37. How heavy is he/she?

That'll matter.

[mdmc]

38. big tips

and chocolate