Class Reunions - do you go or do you skip them

[LynneSin]

I haven't been to any. Hell, after I yelled at my mother for giving my HS my old change of address she didn't bother giving it out when I moved again in 2000 - so I get nothing from my old high school.

I have no desire to return to my high school reunion. I took no friendships away from there and other than a few teachers I enjoyed having, I found nothing rewarding about high school. But then again I went to HS in rural pennsylvania where racism, sexism and critism of anything outside of the norm was a day-to-day thing. Lacking any minorities in my school, bullies had to rely on other 'weaknesses' to make their mark (like I was 'too white' and a target at least through middle school).

College was another thing, I did have a few close friends but overall I just haven't had any desire to return to any of those class reunions. But my 20th is coming up in a few years and I'm keeping my options open. The friends I made I still keep in touch with (actually most of my closest friends were not from my graduating class).

So I'm curious - are any of you avid class reunion attenders or like me who avoids them like the plague (or maybe you're just in the middle)

[Ravenseye]

1. Skip

haven't been to any. I only keep in touch with a few people from high school and honestly don't care about the other people. I wouldn't go out of my way to avoid it, but I'd probably rather just tickky tack here on DU or watch TV than go to one.

College same deal. I speak and email and see my friends from college. I'd have a reuninon with them, but just random people from College? No thanks.

I'd be more interested in a reunion from some jobs I've had. I worked in a great design department about 8 years ago with 20 of the most talented cool people I've yet to work with. I'd love a reunion with all of them.

[Fox Mulder]

2. My five year hs reunion was last year.

I didn't care to go. I didn't keep any "friends" after hs. I hated most everyone I graduated with, so I had no desire to go.

[Bzzzz]

3. I've skipped them all...

I've never had any desire to go.:shrug:

[NewWaveChick1981]

4. Skip, skip, skip.

My family moved to NC from Atlanta when I was 12, and the kids in the small town where we bought a house were not kind to outsiders. Those same kids were in my classes from seventh grade until high school graduation. There were a few who were decent to me, and I still keep up with them, but I have no desire to see any of the other idiots. Graduated in 1981 and never looked back. I give junior high and high school good riddance!

I keep up with the college friends that I had, but my school was so large (20,000+ undergrads) that it's no use going back for reunions. If I want to go back to the school just to visit, it's only about an hour away from where I live now.

[Patiod]

7. My college was huge as well

Went back for only one reunion, and there were 2 of my ex-boyfriends there (out of only 100 people from my class of about 7500).

One of my girlfriends, an engineer, did some math and said that if I had slept with 2 out of the 100 people at the reunion, then that would indicate that out of a class of 7500......

I told her that it was a self-selected sample and therefore statistically invalid.

[NewWaveChick1981]

12. LOL!

:rofl: You should have been more scientific about your choice of boyfriends! :D That way, you could have had a statistically valid sample.... :P

[LynneSin]

14. So if you slept with 1 out of every 50 people in your graduation class

Damn - I thought I got around in college

:D

[Patiod]

17. Again, allow the market researcher to educate you:

It's a statistically invalid sample, since it's self-selected

Using that logic, I guess that indicates that I slept with the sort of person who attends reunions...

[LaraMN]

5. I'm going to my tenth, in June.

A couple of my friends are on the planning committee and I'm in the area, so I'd never hear the end of it if I didn't go. Plus, there's booze involved, so it can hardly be bad.:rofl:

[Patiod]

6. I've really enjoyed mine

Wasn't popular or unpopular, but did know everyone in a class of 450 (I was asked to write the little blips in the yearbook, since I knew both the nerds and the stoners)

Ended up hanging out with the Jewish guys who tortured me in Junior High, who have turned into really interesting, fun, funny and mature people. Had GREAT conversations with some of the wives of people in my class, and had a lot of fun finding out that the class idiot is now a doctor (his uncle invented a famous medical test), that the girl who sat behind in homeroom was now a rancher's wife in Montana, that the class dork (who people assumed to be mildly retarded) was now a clinical psychiatrist, and that a lot of these folks grew up into cool people.

It was also fun that people remembered things about me that I had forgotten - someone said they thought about me when Springsteen came to their town recently, because I was so obsessed with The Boss. I didn't remember being that into him at that age (still a huge fan).

True story - I reported back to a large group of friends at a party shortly after a reunion that I thought maybe our friend "Susan" was gay.

Friends: "Oh that's ridiculous!"
"You are so judgemental"
"Once, again, Patiod, you are jumping to conclusions!"
"Susan? I don't think so - she was always into guys!"
"Why would you say something like that?"

Me: "Because she put her hand on my thigh as soon as they turned off the lights for the slide show?"

[realisticphish]

8. I'll go to mine

I had a pretty large group of friends in HS, so I'll probably go for the 5 or 10 year

[supernova]

9. I skipped them all so far

I don't go to reunions. I just survived High School and did my coursework until I could leave. It wasn't fun. It wasn't "the time of my life" like everyone told me it was supposed to be. It was a daily grind of boring busy work, incomprehensible chemistry and algebra and There wasn't anyone there that I wanted to be around. There are only a couple of people person I'm mildly curious about whatever happened to them. As far as I know, they aren't the reunion types either.

As for college, I did have friends then, and enjoyed myself immensely. There are a couple of people from that point in my life I'd like to see again. But I'll see.

[Shell Beau]

10. 1st one is this year! Probably will go b/c

I am still friends w/a lot of the people & my husband was in my class!!

[RedStateShame]

11. I skip, unless I want to have fun

In that case, I dress up in a fake cowboy get-up, and when my fellow alumni talk to me I just say, "I'm a cow-boy." At the end of the evening, I whistle for my horse, and ride off.

[LSK]

13. skipped

I could care less about those people. I only kept in touch with 1 friend from High School.

[Deja Q]

15. Skipping. I don't need all the charming memories to come back.

x(

[2bfree]

16. Skip.

There are about 4 people I would like to see again but what are the chances they would be there?

[HughBeaumont]

18. SKIP.

Yeah, let's be around people who almost went out of their way to make what should have been an enjoyable time the worst and most agonizing four years of your life. I couldn't have learned less since there wasn't a SINGLE teacher that made any effort to make these subjects the least bit interesting, all I cared about was 3:00, it made my previously OK relationship with my parents worse with each passing day and hated 90% of these Reaganite bitches and jocks. To this day, I couldn't be in the same room with them without wanting to fuck them up bloody, so I just stay away.

I would say this about it: the Class of 86 (the year that was ahead of mine) taught me never to do drugs. These weren't cool, mellow stoners - they were bullying coked-up assholes who needed to have their sternum smashed with a bat. Yeah, like I wanted to be like THESE people? Sorry.

:grr: :grr: :grr: :grr: :grr: :grr: :grr:

Christ, I'm getting pissed off just writing this. Seriously. It's THAT bad.

[Dangerously Amused]

19. Skip them totally.

Everyone I wanted to keep in touch with, I have. I have no desire to "catch up" with the others.

[Reverend_Smitty]

20. I don't know if I'll go

I still have a group of friends from high school (7 or 8 people) that I still hang out with on a regular basis, but I see those people all the time...I suppose there is a reason why I haven't talked to all the rest. I think if my friends were to go I would go just for shits and giggles

[davsand]

21. I've been to one. I might go to another.

I finally went to one about 8 years ago. Material Girl was not even walking yet, and kevsand and I had only been married for about four years.

A lot of those women I went to HS with were talking about their first and second divorces and what college their kids were going to next year. Seemed like we didn't have much in common--but we didn't have a lot in common in HS either.

Now, the NEXT one, (if they ever organize it--my class was full of stoners and boozers) I will probably go to just because I will be happily wed to the same man, slender, rich, and famous by then...

:evilgrin:


Laura

[SacredCow]

22. Skip.

I've kept in touch with the people that I want to see, so why would I go?

[auntAgonist]

23. I skipped every one of them

I never had the confidence or self esteem to go back. Being the 'fat' kid in school and an immigrant, my school days were really not something I wanted to revisit.

and i'm ok with that now.

aA
:hi:

[khashka]

24. Skip 'em

Didn't like those people to begin with.....

And they are all scared of me. No really they are! They think I'm a psycho killer cuz I'm a little moody and shy... oh well.... why ruin their day by showing up? Or mine?


Khash.

[Left_Winger]

25. I've never had to make that decision as my class has never had one

Would I go if there were one?

:shrug:

[Mutley]

26. There has only been one

but I skipped it. I'll likely skip the next one, too. I still talk to everyone I care to talk to from high school.

[djeseru]

27. I'll not be attending mine next month.

Nor did I attend any previous gatherings. I think what tipped me off is when I searched through a "Where are they?" list and my name was not on it. :D

[kmla]

28. I attend them if possible.

For various reasons. I enjoyed high school for the most part, and made some good friends and had some friendly acquaintances.

And, for selfish reasons, I like to go see who has gained more weight or lost more hair than I have. Happy to say, I don't lead in either category.

And for even more selfish reasons, I go to see how those who DID pick on me occasionally, are doing. Also happy to say, that most of the bullies and assholes have lived up (or down) to their expectations and goals, and I even experience a little "schadenfreude" on occasion (albeit privately).

[trogdor]

29. I'm about the same as you.

I couldn't care less about anybody I went to high school with. I belonged to none of the cliques (there were many), and I made it a point to keep a low profile. I did check out my school's website for shits and grins, and there wasn't a thing in there about any 25th year reunion for the Class of 1981. Lack of interest, or lack of interest in hosting it, who knows?

[alarimer]

30. I think I am going to mine

which is in October. If I can afford it. Airfare, hotel, car rental for a couple of days. I'll see if I can swing it. It might be interesting to see these people and what's happened to them.

[Bridget Burke]

31. Graduated High School in '66. No reunions.

I've been getting invitations all along, since I live in the same metropolitan area & have the same name.

But the only person I'd REALLY like to see again is listed in the "can you locate" category. He's managed to cover his tracks well.