suicide ...

[koopie57]

My husband is an engineer on the railroad and since it has been almost 30 years he worked as an engineer we have been through situations where someone decided to lay on the tracks in front of the train. It is always very hard. Today my son came home early from his job (he is a karate instructor, he is 17 and one of his teachers is in his class). He was told that one of his friends was killed this morning, run over by a train.

He was told not to tell anyone, but he did tell his closest friend. I encouraged him cuz that was too much for him to deal with alone.

My husband went to work tonight and called and it seems as though the kid walked in front of the train when it could not stop, layed down and the train ran over him. I have not told my son.

I don't know why I'm posting this tonight. It is as it is. I guess that I have thought often of doing the same thing ... but even though it is hard to keep keeping on, I'm glad I did.

My son's girlfriend's mom is somewhat nasty but tonight I had a talk with her. She thanked me for being there for her daughter. She acknowleded (spell) that her daughter turned to me.

I'm very sad and confused and I know in the a.m. I'll wish I had not posted this, but right now I need to talk, need to hope someone hears me. *soft sigh*...night folks. I know others suffer as I am tonight, but tonight it is my turn to feel the pain and it is no fun.

[Heidi]

1. .

:pals: Thanks for being there for your son and his girlfriend.

[reyd reid reed]

2. There's nothing I can say that'll make this hurt any less...

But...just know that I heard.

:hug:

[KitchenWitch]

3. About a year ago I posted about one of my son's former baseball

teammates and his suicide.

This child was 14 years old, was intelligent, very popular in school, had the rare combination of great athletic ability and great intellect. He shot himself in the head after his girlfriend broke up with him.

Not his girlfriend's fault. Who knows what all was going on inside Morgan when he decided that dying was a better option than living. To this day, I am haunted by his death. I have battled depression, on and off, throughout my life, and have had moments when I was suicidal.

Please make sure, for your son's and his girlfriend's sake, that if they are not confiding in you to get through this, that they find adults they can trust to help them deal with this. Suicide can be very seductive, especially to teens, and often happens in clusters among teenagers, one does it and a whole bunch of their peers are seduced by the idea.

:hug:

[Whoa_Nelly]

9. Second what KitchenWitch says...

Mega :hug:

[khashka]

18. I third what KW said

she's usually right.

I've lost people to suicide. People I love. And I think it's everybody's right to end their life when and as they see fit. But what about the living? What is left behind? Pain and horror.

So what we do is group together, try to find some support to get through it. So don't regret your post. All you needed was some understanding, to know that other people might care. We do.

Khash.

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[KitchenWitch]

5. ...

:hug:

:loveya:

[Monk06]

7. I almost committed suicide. Failed rather comically. Get on an

anti depressant. Effexor works for me. Reduces anxiety
attacks too. No weird side effects.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

8. ...

:hug:

[Random_Australian]

11. Live buddy. Just live.

:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:











SAMARITANS NATIONAL SUICIDE HELPLINE 1-508-875-4500

http://www.nami.org/helpline/suicide.htm

Just in case. :hug:

There is always someone, somewhere, there for you. Sorry I could not find others, but there are multiple helplines about, and quite a few support groups.

:hug:

[hfojvt]

12. so do I, but it has been a long, long time

and although my life has not gotten any better, worse in many ways as I get older and less healthy and things I once hoped for now seem forever out of reach. Still, despair feels far away now. Perhaps I am too pleasantly occupied to think about it.
Anyway, although I am no Redstone, know that I care about you and offer my last entry in my journal, the last paragraph seems apropo even if I perhaps cheesily quotes baby James
http://journals.democraticunderground.com/hfojvt/2

[ScreamingMeemie]

13. I couldn't get through when I tried calling you yesterday.

I hope all is well.

[KFC]

6. Please feel my good thoughts

I know people who have killed themselves. Sad as can be. God bless.

[Random_Australian]

10. Well, we are here. For you. Now.

May you all make it.

:hug:

[REP]

14. My Husband's Uncle Committed Suicide Last Week

He was a regionally well-known artist and graphic designer. He was 77. We're not sure why he did it; he wasn't physically ill.

[wildhorses]

15. suicidal thoughts and actions appear to be running rampant

throughout our society as seen by the eyes of this emergency room employee. I too, must confess to having suffered with depression and have had moments when the idea of death was very alluring. Wish there was some magic wand I could wave and take away all our pain...
:hug::grouphug::hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

16. Survivors of suicide (loved ones) die a thousand deaths wondering why.

MrG found his father dead on Father's Day, 2000. And his father before him took the same way out. There are never any reasonable answers. My heart goes out to you and your community.

[NMMNG]

17. It's good you are there for your son and his girlfriend

A support system is crucial for people who are going through an emotional crisis. Take care of yourself as well. :hug:

[BlueIris]

19. Poor kids and families (yours and that of the deceased boy).

Reading stories like this always make me so, so sad. I will send LOTS of positive energy and healing thoughts toward you and all involved.

[Haole Girl]

20. Please don't ever commit suicide..

I speak from personal experience when I tell you this:

You could never imagine the horror and damage it does to your loved ones- who are left behind.

Now, I know, guilt is not a good motivating factor for life. But, I want you to always remember that there are those who love you (including people you've never met..like us:-) ) and people who need you very much!

Hugs to you and your son...:hug:

[RFKHumphreyObama]

21. My thoughts, prayers and condolences to you, your son, your son's

friend's family and all those who knew your son's friends:hug: :hug: I don't know what else to say. Just know that my thoughts and prayers, and the thoughts and prayers of so many on this forum, are with you tonight