What's the saddest part of your life?

[Deja Q]

Mine? Knowing I'm unwanted, with the president happily married. :rofl:

On the flip side, I'm happy for him. Everyone needs someone.

[hunter]

1. Late 'seventies, early 'eighties, I dated batwoman.

And I'm a guy.

A lot of wasted dreams in that...

After we broke up we were happy. Very happy, in fact.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

2. There aren't any really sad parts.

Life isn't always wonderful, but considering the possibilities I'm very lucky. I don't live in Iraq or Darfur or the Congo. I have a roof over my head, a job I like, the best cats in the world, and a few good friends, but no annoying co-dependent, passive-aggressive personal relationships to fret over. The only sad thing is watching my country go to hell in a handbasket -- but that's not a personal problem unique to me. Life is ultimately good because there's always the potential for improvement.

BTW, don't be so sure the Pretzeldent is happily married; the tabloids have been suggesting otherwise. Laura probably slaps him around pretty good for hitting the bottle and doing Jeff Gannon.

[Fox Mulder]

3. Where should I start?

[miss_american_pie]

4. The saddest part is over

and I'm sure as hell not letting anyone drag me back down there again.

Your someone is out there. :hug:

[bridgit]

5. any part where i have to endure opaque, spooky little covens while...

waiting for the next regional transit bus :eyes:

[NNadir]

6. I was miserable and lonely for much of the 1970's.

I was high a lot back then too.

It seems like a bad dream, Vietnam, Nixon, Watergate, and my personal lonliness.

Bush of course, is even worse than Nixon, as unbelievable as that is, but at least I can share that pain with someone.

[Guava Jelly]

7. Actually the last 8 months

But It's getting better..

[samplegirl]

8. My relationship

with my daughter. She is so blinded.

[WindRavenX]

9. right now

:cry:

I'm so lonely tonight. I know it'll be better tomorrow, and I know things will be better-- but tonight I just hurt.

[Sanity Claws]

10. Sorry to hear

Hang in there.
I saw your avatar -- the Yankees are up, 1-0 against the Tigers third inning.Hope that cheers you up.

[WindRavenX]

12. it does

My worse enemy right now is just thinking too much...

[maveric]

37. Thats my problem too WindRavenX.

I wont get into details though. Hate to suck the life out of a thread.

[kiraboo]

16. I'm sorry to hear that WindRavenX.

:hug: It IS going to be better tomorrow. And tomorrow is right around the corner!

[ZombieNixon]

11. Last month or so I guess.

I don't know. That was definitely the saddest I've ever been. Now, I'm so busy I don't have time to think about it much anymore, thank God.

Sometimes, though, I think about her on purpose just to see if it hurts anymore. It doesn't. :) At least not in the same way. It kind of makes me angry, but it's the good, happy kind of angry. I don't know how to describe it. :shrug:

[Dangerously Amused]

13. .

"...It kind of makes me angry, but it's the good, happy kind of angry."



:rofl:

[ZombieNixon]

15. I told you I didn't know how to explain it.

:D

[MrScorpio]

14. No money

I need money

[Kathryn STone]

19. me too I need my own salary I have been unemployed

since I lost this awful job for a company who made infomercials.
So I have to hit my dad up for money. So it's never "my" money...

[norml]

21. I've been working 6 days a week for 5 years while in constant pain

from my broken and dislocated in the past ankles, falling behind while working harder than ever, now working 2 jobs, and thinking maybe I'll get around to being social, and possibly dating after I move, which I'll do after I get the money required for a van to move, and a bigger place.

I blame it on Saturn.

You can blame it on Saturn too.

Being in square to Scorpio, it's not good for me or you.

[norml]

17. Right now it's the transit of Saturn across my 5 planets in Leo

to be followed by 2 and a half years of Saturn transiting my 3 planets in Virgo.

[kiraboo]

18. I've never been sadder in my entire life than I've been since

early March, but I've been feeling better lately. To be honest, I thought happiness was gone forever. It's not. It's just harder to come by than it once was.

[BlueIris]

20. One of the saddest parts is that my beloved HypnoToad keeps posting

melancholy threads like this. Honey, we've discussed this. I hope that someday soon you can start feeling better (about yourself, and everything else).

But if you want to know about the other saddest parts...egh. Okay, saddest segment of my life...hmmm...I'm past the wallowing phase about a lot it, but according to my shrink I'm still supposed to be "processing" my feelings about all of it, so I'll admit that there has been a lot of sadness in my life. It's hard to choose the absolute worst single period of time. But since we're on a website where I'm sure lots of people understand: November 4th through November 8th, 2004 was pretty awful for me. I think it actually took until March of 2005 until the random crying jags over the election loss alone stopped altogether.

The saddest element of my life at the moment has to do with those five years I lost to major depression. I could have been doing so much more with myself, gaining so many more valuable perspectives, forming valuable relationships and generally not being miserable if I'd been able to get treatment for it sooner.

[Deja Q]

38. One day I will stumble on Mr. or Ms. Right and no doubt I'll be full of

hubris, glee, joy, and even a type of arrogance over having what millions if not billions of people already take for granted.

Which is silly, really, since millions if not billions has someone, the hubris and arrogance seems unwarranted. But understandable. :D

I also know some people are just alone. And that's fine too; it forces one to find ways to adapt and survive. And, sometimes, the best way to spit on one's adversary is to survive in prosperity.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

22. It seems like the younger you are, the sadder you are likely to be...

although it might also be just that younger people are more likely to express their feelings. Looking at my own experience, I was frequently kind of miserable from about college until maybe my early to mid-30s -- mostly because of crappy, frustrating relationships and crappy, frustrating jobs. But now that I'm kind of old, although things are still not all beer and skittles, I'm basically pretty happy. It might be just the result of gaining some perspective over the years, learning that although things might suck right now, there's a good chance they might be better tomorrow. After a few crappy relationships you figure out that you can't rely on other people to make you happy; you have to be able to live comfortably inside your own head and find your own happiness. And you also figure out that some of the things that once seemed very important really aren't. So maybe this is useless advice, because probably everybody has to go through some pain and come out on the other side, and sometimes really difficult, awful things happen, but there are a couple of points to think about: (1) Don't sweat the small shit. (2) Ultimately, it's all small shit.

Note: The above has nothing to do with clinical depression, a whole 'nother problem that needs medical attention.

[kwassa]

30. Excellent post, good perspective

I used to say we learn from our mistakes to make better quality mistakes.

[Lady Effingbroke]

23. all of it.

[LSdemocrat]

24. Dubya's selection and "presidency"

I don't have any personal tragedies (I'm only 25), so I chose to mention the thing that continues to piss me off nearly everyday. Just when I think it can't get any worse, things somehow get worse.

[NMMNG]

25. My so-called salaries

:cry:

[KitchenWitch]

26. Chronic pain

[dysfunctional press]

31. same here.

but at least i'll have a lifetime supply of prescription narcotics.

what's your malady?

for me it's ankylosing spondylitis- a slow fusion of the spine.

there is one upside- i was able to retire by age 40- and in doing so, i achieved my number one goal in life-
I wanted NOT to have or be a boss, and i'm there.

[KitchenWitch]

32. Actually a number of things

Long term effects of cancer treatment, arthritis, artificial joint pain.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

27. All of it.

:D

[atomic-fly]

28. Living on this rare jewel of a planet and being part of it's

destruction. I feel hopeless and ashamed.
We have become the state fair of planets.

[SteppingRazor]

29. The part where I die n/t

[Deja Q]

39. And I thought I couldn't be topped!

:rofl:

Wait until you're stalked... (not by me, I'm too nice a guy. Ask anyone. )

[maveric]

33. Right now. Just turned 50, unemployed, alone (freshly dumped).

I've been in this state of depression, anxiety, hopelessness and despair for some time now. But after spending my 50th birthday (yesterday),alone, with no acknowledgment from my kids or the Lady that tells me that she's still in my life and loves me as long as I take her out doing fun things but dont touch her, and she'll be boinking these 27-29 yr olds on Craigslist Casual Encounters and tell me of it, but bring her weed and listen to her manic rants when no on else will.... I realized how bad it really is.
I hate being alone, judged, ridiculed and taken for granted. It looks like this is as good as its going to get and I have to adjust and accept.
Is there hope for a 50 yr old stutterer with Aspergers Syndrome, severe depression and anxiety and a rock-bottom self esteem?

This is the saddest part of my life.

[redqueen]

34. these threads always make me want to post

TMI

let's just say... the part where i can't decide

[Book Lover]

35. What on earth makes you think they have a happy marriage?

[Burma Jones]

36. That I live near Douchebags that do this:

[RandomKoolzip]

40. The "genatalia" part

[u4ic]

41. Because of illness,

much of my 20's and most of my 30's were writeoffs.

I was completely non functional for most of my 30's. I wasn't able to do 'normal, regular things' like travel, start and maintain a career, get married, have a family, have lots of interests, etc.

My health is starting to get back on track again, and I'm hopeful. But there have been so many painful losses. :-(

[JackDragna]

42. Seeing all the sadness around me.

I live in Louisiana and not a day goes by when I don't see some sign of the huge level of human tragedy the hurricanes caused. Even where I live, away from the destruction, I meet people who lost everything, or a loved one. I can barely stand to go into New Orleans anymore..it's a shell of what it was.

[fujiyama]

43. I've had a bad week, actually two

In fact, the problems I have go back farther than that. The things that put me into my current funk would make most people laugh and understandably so. In and of itself, some of the reasons are petty, but I'd say it was a combination of factors that have me in the state I am in. I also worry that these are not individual problems, but more prolonged - constant, and typical.

I have a real fear of being lonely. At this time, I have several good friends but it has been a constant fear of mine, that eventually at some point, I will be left behind - that my friends will move on sucessfully in life, with their relationships and careers.

I felt similar before a few years ago to a lesser extent - two good friends seemed to have found someone, and I found myself seeing them less. And that makes sense - relationships require time commitment. Both of their relationships fell apart though. One friend later was in a terrible mental state for sometime. But in some ways, I still would rather atleast experience a breakup, rather than nothing at all.

I think people would be very surprised to find out that am somewhat depressed, because when I hang out at parties I don't seem that way. I try to strike conversations based on my vast knowledge of useless things. I am pleasant and sociable. I act like I enjoy myself. People usually laugh and are amused in some way or the other by what I say or do. Is is supposed to be nice being the center of attention? After all I often am. But ultimately it feels empty and meaningless. They don't lead to meaningful relationships in any way. Plus, I'm probably a bit too much of a hopeless romantic...

I have similar worries careerwise - I frequently secondguess every choice I have made. I feel like I have too many regrets already. I wonder how I can compete with others - and what I have to offer world.

I'm sorry for a rambling incoherent post, but it feels therapuetic to bitch about life for a while. I like the advice from the other poster to not sweat the small stuff, but at times it feels like a snowballing effect where they all amass into something much larger. I hope that with time and maturity my perspective will change.

[Deja Q]

44. Thank you for sharing and venting.

That's what this thread is for and about.

:hug:

[kwassa]

45. Something to cheer Hypno up with

I spent many years single. I was serially monagamous, but with long stretches between relationships.

I screwed up the best relationship of my life with a woman I was really in love with. I lost her, and it was five years to the next serious relationship that I had. I spent a lot of time in grief, and obsessing about the past. That was a lousy place to be, but I was there for awhile. I went out with women who were not right for me during this time, and I knew it then, but loneliness is a powerful force, and I made some bad choices under it's influence.

Then, I met someone that was right for me, more right than that last serious relationship. We have been together 11 years and married for 7 years and are going strong. I married for the first time at age 47, for those out there who think it will never happen. And, it has been great.