What if your soulmate is opposite your sexual orientation?

[Deja Q]

Do you tell them "Sorry, the soul is willing but the gonads are not."? :shrug:

This is theoretical and :popcorn:, of course. My philosophy is that the soul transcends all and love is about pleasing the partner; not one's self.

[Prisoner_Number_Six]

1. Sex is the least part of a real friendship.

Why do you think you have to become sexual partners to share a philosophical bond?

[Deja Q]

5. I've been thinking of marriages again, and why so many break up...

Besides, sex is often used by people an expression of love; not just an exchange of two fantasies.

Of course, I might be deluding myself too... :shrug:

[TrogL]

2. Kinda difficult

I'm bi.

[Deja Q]

6. Same here, but people don't believe me.

:D

[LeftyMom]

3. Does soul mate have to mean love interest?

Couldn't that person just be your best friend in that circumstance?

[Deja Q]

7. Nope. Not at all.

Nothing wrong with the person merely being a friend.

Nothing wrong with sex either.

[LeftyMom]

9. It's rough finding both in the same person.

:hug:

[JVS]

4. Soulmate? What a crock of shit!

[Deja Q]

8. Well, I know I have no soul, but still...

:D

[begin_within]

10. Momma always said, "There's a lot of soulmates in the cosmos."

[cobalt1999]

15. Yep, no such thing.

Take 100 random people and put them together and they will start pairing off and falling in love.

No such thing as a "one and only soul mate". They are all around you, it just depends on the circumstances.

IMHO, find one of the others.

[begin_within]

16. So you must have been at my all-nighter last Saturday.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

11. My dear Hypno..........

You understand about love very well, I think...

It is indeed about pleasing the partner......that transcends ALL.

I agree about the soul transcending all, too........

You are very wise, IMHO......

I know, I know.....it's not getting you laid.....

:hug:

[Deja Q]

12. !

I know, I know.....it's not getting you laid.....

:spray:

Thank you for the earlier compliment, I could not resist chuckling over what followed.

However, understanding humanity's foibles is one thing. Successful interaction is another, due to the PDD known as "Asperger's Syndrome". My "IQ" may be high, but my "EQ" is definitely low and has handicapped me. It has led to any number of gaffes and lost opportunities at, amongst other things, a steady relationship/partnership/marriage/et al... to the point of isolation and worse. Still, I am a survivor. :thumbsup:

My acquaintances in the outside world have commented I only need to get laid. Whether they are right, I do not know. Okay, they are right. But the other thing about humanity is, I have noticed they say what others need -- but not do anything in assistance; often because they do not understand the inherant problems. It's like telling a guy dependent on a wheelchair to get up and walk around for a while. It cannot be done. So these days, I've given up wanting to walk. I'm happy puttering about in my proverbial wheelchair. Again, I am a survivor.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

13. Well, I felt like being funny.....

And yes, you are a survivor!

:hug:

[Iniquitous Bunny]

14. One of the most beautiful weddings I ever went to...

was that of an Aspie friend of my SO a few months back. This guy found the woman that was right for him and between the vows exchanged and just the pure joy between the two made me cry- and I don't cry easy at weddings.

I don't know what's right for you- who? what gender? Maybe you're not sure yet. I do know that I believe there's someone (or maybe more than just one someone) to complement who we are as individuals. :)