I am really worried

[blues90]

we have just enough money to make it until the end of this month . i have two small jobs the don't begin until the beginning of next month and they don't pay me until the end of august . To do there two jobs i have to work until 4 pm at one and then rush to do the other which has to be done before 6;30 pm each day and this one is iffy the other pays a womping $1800 a month .

Now for the very first time I have to call the landlord and hope they will work with me somehow , I have no idea how I will be able to catch up , I have sold just about everything outside of a few things we need and a few others we don't .

My mother is in a home and does not have long after two strokes and having her one foot removed from some infection and she in in Illinois broke . I have no family left that can help me out of this mess . It's been almost 5 months to find these two jobs . Everything was fine 18 months ago until I lost a 12 year long job . I never thought it would come to this .
I have rented here for 25 years and never missed one payment so all I can do is hope . I told my wife she could leave me if she needed to go back and live with her screwed up family , she has not been able to work for many years and gets 600 a month on SSI . Our rent is up to 850 now after all these years and here it's rent control and the landlord would love to get the 1200 she could now get for this apartment .

I am 57 , lost and paniced , I just needed to vent to someone , i can't call my sisters to vent one has her own problems and the other is doing quite well but I could never ask for money and don't even know if she would help , she and her husband have a well and good life but don't need my ill's . My wife said she would never leave me and not to worry , we still have almost three weeks .

i can't imagine what would happen if we get tossed out and I don't know what the laws are here with renting . What would we do with the stuff we have here and our 4 cats . I am going nuts thinking about this and it certainly does not help the mindset begining a new two jobs with so much worry on my mind .

I suppose now it can't get much worse , I never saw this coming and had hope and spent so much time job searching and now this .

[sbj405]

1. I'm very sorry.

Given your record, I'm sure your landlord will work with you. Don't be afraid to ask for help. :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

2. I posted in your other thread but I don't think you saw it.

I know it sounds lame, but I speak from experience... this will get better. They can't take your wife from you, nor you from her.

Have you tried searching for even a room you can rent...and let the apt go for now. Sometimes it takes extreme measures. And it sucks and it isn't fair... I'm pulling for you. I hope you get a chance to read my other post. My father was exactly where you are now not too long ago.

Take care,
Laura

[blues90]

10. I believe I did see it

It was about your father if I recall .

[Flaxbee]

3. Call your sister, and talk to your landlord.

The sister who is doing OK - you won't know until you ask. I know how hard it will be - I have sisters myself do understand. But you have jobs starting. Borrow the rent money, and tell her you can start paying her back incrementally in September. Sure, you might not want to burden your sister with your worries, but if the options are not acceptable, she'll just have to deal with it.

Or, work with your landlord. Or both. See if you can find a number for a fair housing advocate, and call them to find out what the rental laws are.

And then - just to have a plan so you don't feel so panicky - identify friends who could take the cats if need be (even here on DU - depending on your location, there very well could be someoene or two or three people who could add another cat, even if for only a few months until you get resettled.) I know it's an unpleasant thing to face, but if you know you have options you'll feel better.

Then, is it possible to move somewhere less $$ and still have easy access to your jobs? Could you find a place to rent that would be covered by your wife's SSI and then just worry about the incidentals?

I don't want to be stupid and ask ignorant or hurtful questions, but sometimes if you can separate the issues and tackle them one at a time, it's easier.

[Christa]

4. I am so sorry

:cry:

:pals:

[blues90]

5. I don't know what to do

I did call my sister yesterday and could tell while telling my story she was not to open and seemed like she was waiting for me to ask so I got off the subject .
The landlord may work with me i can't tell , a few other people here through the years had some trouble , some are still here but I don't know the details of thier lives .

I had trouble sleeping before this , we found out today , we have credit cards but now suddenly the interest rate will go to 18% instead of the 2.5% it was for using it for cash , this will raise the monthly payment and we have trouble paying this as is .

I live in the heart of hollywood , the rent is high everywhere and to move mow requires time and credit checks and the security and first and last month . my chances are better off here for now . Really our only hope is the landlord being accepting to the time we need to get back on our feet . I need the internet to do the one job and a mailing address, it takes weeks to set this up to do the job .

i must say I am so depressed about this I don't know how to lift the gloom enough to seem like a good worker , this came as a shock today because to the credit card thing , we thought we had more time . I have items on ebay now and hope they sell , if not then oh well . LA calif is not the place you want to end up on the street , pretty bad around here at night .

i feel bad enough putting my wife in this situation , i should have been prepared better or done something what I don't know . I feel like such a complete failure now it is difficult to even type and discuss this without shaking .

[femmocrat]

7. So sorry about your difficult circumstances, blues.

You have received some pretty good advice here, but it seems like it's not that helpful to your particular circumstance. I remember reading one of your other posts, thinking you sounded depressed.... now I can see why. You are really going through some tough times. I just hope that things will quickly improve for you. Please keep us informed ok, and don't be afraid to come here to vent. I'm a newbie here too.... and don't mind lending a sympathetic ear. Good luck, blues.

[femmocrat]

9. Legal Aid might be able to help you with the laws in CA regarding

renters' legal rights.

[lizziegrace]

6. Let people know your situation

When I was unable to pay my natural gas bill, a friend told me her church has a fund to help people in emergency situations and you didn't need to be a member of the church or even Presbyterian to get it. They paid my $320 gas bill for me.

Talk to your landlord, call the local agencies and see what help is available. Are you a veteran? There may be help available through the VA. Don't give up, keep making calls. Hang in there.

[NewWaveChick1981]

8. Ask for help.

People can be more understanding than you realize. Everyone gets in a bind every now and then. :hug: I hope things straighten themselves out! :hug: