I'm getting morose

[ChickMagic]

Okay, I have a bad cold. But July 23 was my sister's birthday.
She died, pregnant with twins, after having a seizure and
hitting her head on a table as she fell (she's had epilepsy
since she was an infant). I always get sad at this time of year
and around May 10 when she died. It's been several years now.
Is this normal?

[miss_american_pie]

1. I'm sorry for your loss

:hug:

And I think it's normal.

[ChickMagic]

2. Thank you

Sometimes I feel like I shouldn't still be reacting
so strongly. Thanks for the hug. I needed it. :hug:

[reyd reid reed]

3. I think that it is...

My mother died back in 1977 and I still get sad on her birthday and on the anniversary of her death. She was only 38 when she died. Same thing with a young woman I knew who was murdered -- coincentally on the anniversary of my mother's death. Shayann's birthday was only three days after my mother's too.

Certain dates trigger memories, I think. Some happy, some sad. It will get better with time but I don't think it ever stops.

I don't think that it should.

I'm sorry.

:hug:

[ChickMagic]

5. Thank you for that

Oddly, the weekend before she died, she and I had a
long conversation and cleared some old air from our
childhood. My freaking family didn't even tell me
she was dead until that night - the rest of the family
was there, but I was unworthy.

Thanks again - I don't feel weird anymore. :hug:

[SeattleGirl]

4. Hugs to you.

And yes, it's normal. My dad passed in 1977, and I feel sad on the anniversary of his death, and also on his birthday. It's not the same intensity of sadness I had when he died, but a sadness that he died so young, that he never got to see his grandchildren, that he isn't here for me to talk to.

:hug:

[ChickMagic]

6. Thank you, SeattleGirl

Deb was my close friend as well as sibling.
I called her every day from work, and after
her death, I found myself dialing her number
for a good while.

Something else occurred to me at her funeral.
I thought of the movie "Psycho". I couldn't
bear to leave her all alone at the cemetary and
realized that we're all just one crazy thought
away from insanity. I sat with her for hours.
:hug:

[deutsey]

7. My grandfather died the day after Christmas when my mom was 12

She says she still gets sad around holidays...

I think what you're experiencing is quite normal.

:hug:

[ChickMagic]

8. Thank you for that

The bathtub is my crying place. It still comes out of the blue.
And I'm so sorry about your mom's loss especially during a
festive season.
:hug: