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Tue Jul-18-06 03:13 PM
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There's a homeless man we see every day on the way to work. He just sits at the same place holding his hand out and not bothering anyone.
I've seen him here at Parkland and because of his gait, we nicknamed him Shamblin' Man. I've seen this man for years.
Well, today I got to meet him. He was sitting in a wheelchair with a doctor who literally lifted him off the street, and with no recompense and on his own time, he amputated SM's leg. It had become gangrenous. This doctor gave him something to eat, so I sat down and we both tried to tell him to lay off the booze, especially in this horrible heat.
I gave him a couple of bucks and saw myself that he bought a large iced tea. I hugged the doctor and told him he was a wonderful man which he greatly appreciated. I also hugged Shamblin' Man (Richard) and his eyes welled up. He said nobody had done that for years. I was feeling pretty good.
Well, I told my boss who also drives past Richard on her way to work. She proceeded to tell me that a guy on her bus goes to a church that has reached out to Richard. They've gotten him clothes, food, money, etc. She said I was a grade A sucker because he's only going to buy liquor.
First of all, I saw him buy tea. Second of all, what if he does buy liquor? So what? Does that have any bearing on my goodwill?
She's made me feel very foolish and downright stupid. I told her about his eyes welling up and she said, "He's lying. He played you like a fiddle."
Now I don't know what to think. Was I wrong?
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Tue Jul-18-06 03:19 PM
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what is used as an excuse not to help is the stereotypical response that the money will be used for booze. What has to happen is not only a personal commitment but a community commitment to find out what is needed by these individuals in order for them to be safe, well, and if possible to provide hope for them. Taking the initiative on a personal basis is an act of courage. But don't get discouraged if you see little change in his life.
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Tue Jul-18-06 04:33 PM
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12. I won't be discouraged |
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I just worry about him drinking booze in this heat.
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Tue Jul-18-06 03:22 PM
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then yes you were wrong. KINDNESS and COMPASSION are never wrong! ! ! You did what your heart told you to do. I would have done the same thing. It seems to me your boss speaks out of guilt, covering her own lack of compassion with bravado.
I'm glad you're a kind and compassionate person. The Dr obviously felt his services were needed and he too is to be commended. Where would we be without people like you?
I don't want to find out.
:hug: You deserve a :hug:
thanks for being you!
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Tue Jul-18-06 04:33 PM
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Thank you for the hugs. :hug:
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Tue Jul-18-06 03:24 PM
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3. Don't feel bad - you not only gave him $$$ |
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You gave him the respect to do with his money what he chooses.
Respect is probably the one thing he doesn't get a lot of.
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Tue Jul-18-06 04:34 PM
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I see all the upper class pubbies just pretend he's invisible every day.
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Tue Jul-18-06 03:24 PM
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Tue Jul-18-06 04:34 PM
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15. You don't know the half of it |
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Thu Jul-20-06 08:38 AM
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70. ... and THAT is an insult to all my Wolf-Clan sisters! |
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Tue Jul-18-06 03:27 PM
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5. Seems your boss is at least 4 people removed from |
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where the story originates (guy on a bus that goes to a church...).
You did something nice for another person. If that's so wrong, then don't ever be right.
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Tue Jul-18-06 04:35 PM
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Wed Jul-19-06 09:31 AM
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Edited on Wed Jul-19-06 09:33 AM by raccoon
Rephrasing it like the song, "If Loving You is Wrong,"
"If doing something nice for another person is wrong, I don't want to be right."
Good for you, Ginbarn.
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Tue Jul-18-06 03:32 PM
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6. I sometimes hand over change or a buck or two. |
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Frankly, I don't care what they spend it on. Food, booze, pot, whatever.
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Wed Jul-19-06 03:54 PM
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65. Same here. Like John Lennon said: "Whatever gets you through the night |
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Tue Jul-18-06 03:32 PM
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7. You did a nice and descent Thing..You should be commended |
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Never feel bad for acts of kindness. Ignore what other people say about it..after all who the hell are they to judge.
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Tue Jul-18-06 03:33 PM
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8. "he's only going to buy booze" |
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Edited on Tue Jul-18-06 03:35 PM by Bornaginhooligan
That's how assholes convince themselves they're not really assholes.
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Tue Jul-18-06 04:36 PM
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It was nice to see he had iced tea. It kinda blew her story apart.
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Tue Jul-18-06 03:36 PM
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9. Ditto what matcom said. |
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Only I say she's a fucking bitch. Compassion is never wrong and something that assholes like your boss can never wrap their minds around. You done good.
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Tue Jul-18-06 04:37 PM
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She is well known at work as a fucking bitch. She tells me she disciplines her child by withholding love. :scared: But to you, :hug:
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Wed Jul-19-06 10:23 AM
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35. Anonymously report that |
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bitch to Child Services.
"she disciplines her child by withholding love"
I kid you not! God only knows what she really does to that kid! Remember, neglect is a form of abuse.
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Wed Jul-19-06 10:48 AM
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40. Thankfully, his dad doesn't withhold love |
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Her attitude explains a great deal about why we get the cold shoulder treatment among other things.
She knows exactly what she's doing too. I had been suffering a prolonged spell of nastiness from her (this was a few years back). I went to the doc and was hospitalized for a bleeding ulcer (I tend to internalize all this). She told my co-worker, "Well, now I feel bad." So, it's not just being mad or angry - she's calculating.
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Thu Jul-20-06 09:02 AM
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86. She's probably a bitch at least partly because she's not |
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fucking. :silly:
Sometimes it helps me to say this to myself (about someone like her), 10 times at least:
"That is her stuff. It has nothing to do with me."
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Thu Jul-20-06 09:47 AM
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90. I'll keep that in mind |
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I don't know why I felt I needed her approval - I know I don't.
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Thu Jul-20-06 10:17 AM
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96. Sometimes I have that problem too, |
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feeling I need somebody's approval...even if the somebody is a droofus.
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Tue Jul-18-06 03:41 PM
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Your boss on the other hand is going to hell. ;)
On the last day, Jesus will say to those on His right hand, "Come, enter the Kingdom. For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was sick and you visited me." Then Jesus will turn to those on His left hand and say, "Depart from me because I was hungry and you did not feed me, I was thirsty and you did not give me to drink, I was sick and you did not visit me." These will ask Him, "When did we see You hungry, or thirsty or sick and did not come to Your help?" And Jesus will answer them, "Whatever you neglected to do unto one of these least of these, you neglected to do unto Me!"
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Tue Jul-18-06 03:47 PM
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11. Whatever you do to the least of my brothers, |
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that you do unto me.
Words to live by.
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Tue Jul-18-06 04:38 PM
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20. Maybe that's why my hubby says |
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that even as an agnostic leaning toward atheism, he's the best Christian he knows. :)
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Wed Jul-19-06 06:28 AM
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22. I think you meant to say... |
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...that you are the best Christian I know. :hug:
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Wed Jul-19-06 08:32 AM
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Thu Jul-20-06 08:45 AM
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71. Tell your hubby "Welcome to the Club!" |
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one more to remember: "By their FRUITS shall ye know them." It doens't mater WHAT a person CLAIMS... what matters is what s/he DOES, especially when no one else is looking! "withholding love" from a child... there's a special circle in Dante's Hell for those alleged "parents"... Bottom line: you can never really know a person's thinking, or their motivation -- oftern, they don't always really know -- but you can always know what is/was done... and on that alone can you know the person. ... and I'm not EVEN a Christian!
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Thu Jul-20-06 08:52 AM
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but I know a very bad person when I see what they do.
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Thu Jul-20-06 08:53 AM
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What I meant to say was that even though I'm an agnostic leaning toward atheism, he says I'm the best Christian he knows. Sorry - sinus infection - can't think.
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Wed Jul-19-06 11:01 AM
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I'm not religious, but here's the verse from Matthew:
Matthew 25:35-40 For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.' "Then the righteous will answer him, 'Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?' "The King will reply, 'I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.'
I believe in the so-called 'butterfly effect' anyway, so you never know about this. And besides, it's really about oneself and one's own conscience. That person who called you a 'grade A sucker'....that's the type they invented the expression "see ya, wouldn't want to be ya" for, lol.
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Tue Jul-18-06 04:36 PM
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18. Kindness is never wrong. |
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Tue Jul-18-06 04:39 PM
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21. Words I try to live by. |
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Wed Jul-19-06 06:40 AM
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23. I wonder whether that vicious woman would have said the same thing |
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if Shamblin' Man/Richard had an illness that wasn't alcohol-related? Wait. Let me guess. :grr: (Thank you, Ronald Reagan, for setting such a fine example for your followers of how compassion should be limited to the haves and denied to the have-nots. :sarcasm:)
You weren't wrong, ginbarn. Your co-worker sounds like a piece of work.
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Wed Jul-19-06 08:38 AM
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27. Oh yeah, she's a piece of work all right. |
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Mean and vindictive, but she does have 2 personalities. When my sister died, I called her at home to tell her I wouldn't be in for about a week. She was worried about my being alone so she came over straight away and sat with me until my dad showed up. Those are the things I prefer to remember.
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Wed Jul-19-06 07:31 AM
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24. alcoholism is a baffling and complex disease...and did you |
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ask the stoopid bee-yatch what she thought about the doctor???
Sheeesh, some people:eyes:
you, on the other hand are a gem:hug:
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Wed Jul-19-06 08:39 AM
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28. Doctors are gods to her |
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Thank you for the kind words. I needed that. :hug:
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Wed Jul-19-06 09:27 AM
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30. so then by her own admission |
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if what the doctor did was right how in the fuck were YOU in the wrong???
no wonder Jesus hung out with drunks and whores...
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Wed Jul-19-06 09:31 AM
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32. She thought he was right |
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Edited on Wed Jul-19-06 09:37 AM by ginbarn
but apparently I was wrong to tell him he was a good man. I've been called a "putti" (a cherub who lives only to serve its master), so somehow that put me in the wrong. I agree - Jesus kept better company than I have to keep here.
I'm also taking care of a couple of stray cats here (people think it's okay to dump them at a hospital) in hopes that they will let me get close enough to nab them. A doctor who works in the Infectious Disease clinic has a no kill cat shelter. According to her (my boss), I'm wasting time on these unworthy creatures (including Shamblin' Man).
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Wed Jul-19-06 10:04 AM
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34. I just realized that your poor misguided boss needs love, too. |
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Suffer her stupidity and smile and agree that each person has the right to spend their time here on earth any way they choose. She has made her choices and has to live with them and so have you, the doctor, and Shamblin' Man. Refuse to let her get you down. She is powerless over you. I wish for you serenity in this woman's presence. Good luck!:hug:
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Wed Jul-19-06 10:42 AM
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38. That's a wonderful thought |
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I do try to treat her well, regardless of how she treats me. :hug:
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Wed Jul-19-06 07:42 AM
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You'd rather be a Grade A sucker than a heartless bitch.
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Wed Jul-19-06 08:40 AM
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:rofl: It's funny because it's true!
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Wed Jul-19-06 09:38 AM
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33. lol -- this is what gets me about some people... |
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SO WHAT IF HE DOES!
if somebody goes out with their quarter that i give them and does something with it that i wouldn't do -- so what?
at the point i gave it to them -- it was no longer any of my business.
but not -- like penises and vaginas and gay people getting married, etc -- some people cannot help but having a say so in peoples lives who they help.
now because they help them -- that person has to act in such and such a way...
of course that's a slipery slope isn't it? cause when is it ever enough?
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WHO CARES? I did my part to help him out and by golly, maybe a beer WILL help him out.
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Wed Jul-19-06 01:04 PM
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58. lol -- sometimes it does. |
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Wed Jul-19-06 10:29 AM
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36. No, you did the right thing. |
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You and that great doctor tried to help this man.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Did you know that many of our homeless are veterans?
Yep, they sacrificed, risked their lives for our country and they end up on the streets, many of them disabled, where people assume they're all alcoholics and/or addicts.
They're HOMELESS- where any of us could end up if a financial disaster and/or illness struck.
God Bless you, ginbarn.
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Wed Jul-19-06 10:55 AM
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42. Yes, I know that vets are on the street |
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It's appallilng that this could happen. Thank you for the kind words Kajsa. It sure beats hearing people say, "Sucker!"
And a big one back at ya! :hug:
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Wed Jul-19-06 10:32 AM
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37. You challanged her world view that states... |
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...people only suffer because of their own negligence or misconduct. Consequently, if I follow all the rules, I will never suffer or have to care about those who do.
Short answer: never let anyone tell you you did not see and hear what you know you saw and heard.
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Wed Jul-19-06 10:57 AM
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If he'd just done the right thing... yeesh. There but for the grace of God go I.
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Wed Jul-19-06 10:47 AM
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39. First, some people are just jealous when they know someone is nicer than |
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them. You see it all the time in the mockery from the right. The wish they could more like you, so they go sour grapes on you.
Second, you saw the real person, she spouted cliches, so you have more genuine insight into the situation than her.
Now, the bad thing, part three. He could be a con. I've known people who preyed off the kindness of others. Had a brother like that. He would give them the sad eyes look, the "nobody gives me a chance" speech, and get taken into their homes. He would leave with their valuables shortly after, and sometimes physically harm the people who took him in. So there are people like that, and if they weren't good at convincing people they were genuine, they wouldn't get away with it so often.
The only point of that is be careful if you plan to go further. All you can know about him is what you've experienced, and based on that you've done a good thing, and so has the doctor. You aren't the sucker, your boss is, for believing things she has no knowledge of.
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Wed Jul-19-06 11:04 AM
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45. I'm aware that some of these people are cons |
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But this doctor saved his life by removing his leg. I hope you aren't eatog lunch, but the necrotic tissue had maggots living in it. He's no con.
The boss semmed even more disturbed thatI hugged him. That's when she called me "stupid".
But what if they are? So I give a few coins to a con? I'll take my chancss. In Dallas, it's actually illegal to panhandle. Keep 'em out of sight so they don't exist!
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Wed Jul-19-06 11:24 AM
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I'm sure the doctor wouldn't have done what he did if the man's condition wasn't genuine, that wasn't what I meant.
My brother was on crutches the last half of his life. He wasn't faking that, he got stoned and passed out in a parking lot and got run over. Didn't stop him from raping elderly women who tried to be nice to him. He used whatever happened to him to gain sympathy, and he used that sympathy. He could go from sweet and huggable to brutal and vicious at the drop of a hat. I suspect that his transition was the last thing some people ever saw.
Again, I'm praising what you did, and telling you your boss is wrong thinking she knows something she doesn't. Just saying, there are people capable of fooling you... don't take that as criticism, take it as guilt from someone who maybe didn't do enough to stop a bad person, so who feels obligated to warn other people now.
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Wed Jul-19-06 12:01 PM
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I really hate to hear that about your brother. That had to be terribly painful for you. My boss, as another poster said, is a real piece of work. :hug:
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Wed Jul-19-06 11:32 AM
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Ignore what your boss says.
There's a reason why so many homeless on the streets spend their money on alcohol-it's a form of self medication. Some do suffer from mental illness and have no way of receiving their medications so they use alcohol instead. Others-well, if you didn't have a place to stay, regular meals and had lost almost all hope wouldn't you want to find a way to escape? Alcohol can do that for them and it's cheap.
You did the best you could w/ a bad situation. I hope that you can check up on him more often and make sure that he's getting what he needs to keep cool, especially in this heat. Just keep showing him that he is a human being and that someone cares. Everyone deserves that.
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Wed Jul-19-06 12:05 PM
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I think I'm going to get him a hat. His face is badly sunburned. And a jug of water.
At least he can come to Parkland if he gets too bad off. Thank you for your kind words. :hug:
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Wed Jul-19-06 12:21 PM
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51. The hat and the jug are both good ideas. |
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Another one is a neckscarf that velcros in place. You get them wet and they keep the back of your neck cooled down. They run about 2-4 dollars and can be found in the camping dept of any of the discount chains (Walmart, Target,etc).
Between the three he should be much better off.
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The jug can be refilled in a public restroom and he can get the scarf wet at the same time.
They work well. I use them for hiking.
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Wed Jul-19-06 12:19 PM
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50. Your boss is just trying to justify her apathy |
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Edited on Wed Jul-19-06 12:20 PM by GloriaSmith
You're not wrong at all and the only person who's "playing you" is a boss who doesn't care about a person in need and feels the need to make you feel foolish for having a heart.
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55. She's a bitter old woman |
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I say she's old, but she's only about 3 years older than me. She's old, I'm not yet. I told her she made me feeel foolish and she swears that wasn't her intent. But it was. I know her.
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Wed Jul-19-06 12:25 PM
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52. It's not about your boss, maybe not even about Richard. It's |
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about the kind of person that you are and how you appreciate kindness. Trust me, you are the winner in this.
:toast: :yourock:
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Thank you so much - you guys sure know how to cheer a girl up!
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60. But just think about it. You are the only one you can control. And |
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you are the only one that you can hold accountable.Everybody else is responsible for their own decisions. You did the right thing.No problem. I rest my case.:shrug:
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Screw the heartless SOB's! Thanks! :hug:
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64. I saw something like that last weekend. I was getting off the |
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Thu Jul-20-06 08:58 AM
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At the risk of overusing a term, you are the "godly" one here, love... You are doing "unto the least"... ... and since we're being scriptural here, wasn't there one about God or an angel or someone appearing on earth in the guise of a beggar, just to see how folks would respond? DAMN!!! I need Rev. Cheesehead!
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Thu Jul-20-06 09:01 AM
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84. You do know how to cheer me up! |
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You don't need Rev. Cheesehad for that. You sound like a wonderful person. :hug:
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Wed Jul-19-06 12:39 PM
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56. ginbarn, why are you doubting yourself? |
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of course you were right, and your boss has lost all sense of humanity
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Wed Jul-19-06 01:24 PM
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59. She's pretty much kept me off kilter |
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She's blaming the fact that she can't retire on me. She says she can't trust me. This after working with her for 23 years.
And I have a nasty sinus infection so my brain hurts. Maybe if you kick my ass I'd feel better?
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Wed Jul-19-06 03:15 PM
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62. sounds like my manager. |
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sounds like every manager i ever had.
. . . the kind that played me like a fiddle.
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Wed Jul-19-06 03:32 PM
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Control freak psycho. I wish she would retire!
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Wed Jul-19-06 04:24 PM
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66. You absolutely have nothing to be ashamed of... |
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"what you do for the least of mine..."
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Thu Jul-20-06 08:54 AM
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After reading all the replies, if anyone is foolish, it is my boss. :hug:
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Your boss is just a cold hearted meanie.
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Thu Jul-20-06 08:56 AM
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78. I've heard that from many people around here |
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but only lately. It kind of surprised me. Not anymore.
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Thu Jul-20-06 08:34 AM
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68. Better to care and be used 1000 times... |
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... than to harden your heart and miss the ONE who needs only that one simple act of human kindness to turn his life around!
Let those afraid of being used, do as they will, ginbarn; You continue to let your heart believe, and keep on living the faith!
For whatever it's worth, here's one more who, on that Last Day, will say a prayer for you... make that two, for "Richard" will also, I am sure!
Blessed Be, hermanita!
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85. Been there, done that... |
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Edited on Thu Jul-20-06 09:02 AM by DarkmoonIkonoklast
... burned the T-shirt, 'cause it irritated the scars! :hug:
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Thu Jul-20-06 09:48 AM
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69. Better to care and be used 1000 times... |
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Edited on Thu Jul-20-06 08:37 AM by DarkmoonIkonoklast
... than to harden your heart and miss the ONE who needs only that one simple act of human kindness to turn his life around! :hug:
Let those afraid of being used, do as they will, ginbarn; You continue to let your heart believe, and keep on living the faith! :thumbsup:
For whatever it's worth, here's one more who, on that Last Day, will say a prayer for you... make that two, for "Richard" will also, I am sure! O8)
Blessed Be, hermanita! :loveya:
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Thu Jul-20-06 08:45 AM
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72. Well what were YOU going to spend the money on? |
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Thu Jul-20-06 08:58 AM
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79. Cat food for the stray that someone dumped at work |
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I've been feeding the guy every day - I even come up on weekends.
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Thu Jul-20-06 09:22 AM
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But people pout and moan over homeless people drinking when they do it themselves.
It's an unholy combination of hypocracy and stinginess, and it irritates me.
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I feel like, "So what if they do? When I give them money, it is theirs to do as they please." I don't feel like I have the right to tell them what to do with a gift.
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Thu Jul-20-06 08:50 AM
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73. So an alcoholic doesn't deserve kindness? |
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Bullshit. You did a loving thing, and that's all that matters. Good on you.
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Thu Jul-20-06 08:59 AM
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If he gets some relief from alcohol, then so be it. Thanks for your kind words. :hug:
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I don't drink, but if I were living in his world.......:cry:
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Thu Jul-20-06 09:00 AM
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That's how I feel about it. If it brings him some measure of comfort, who am I to judge?
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Thu Jul-20-06 09:06 AM
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87. You're a beautiful soul, gb... |
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If I'm ever again stuck in Big D, I'll know there's at least one genuine (excuse me, that should read "Gin-you-wine!") human Mother's Child in that town, and she's at Parkland General!
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Thu Jul-20-06 09:52 AM
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:rofl:
You are most welcome in Big D and it would be an honor to meet you. :hug:
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Thu Jul-20-06 12:10 PM
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She's definitely Gin-u-wine!
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Thu Jul-20-06 12:18 PM
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107. Takes one to know one FSC |
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Thu Jul-20-06 09:12 AM
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Your boss is a poopy woman. She would probably win the lottery and then give some away on the condition they do with it what she says.
You did a good thing.
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Thu Jul-20-06 09:53 AM
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94. She IS a poopy woman! |
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Boy, could I tell some tales about that! Thank you for your kind words. :hug:
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For the hug as well as the money. Knowing these people are treated worse than dirt everywhere they go, avoided, disparaged...etc.
I saw a homeless guy on the access road to Central the other day, and while everyone else was rolling up their windows and locking their doors and ignoring him, I handed him $5 and told him to go get breakfast.
It was the best I felt all day! Good on ya!
fsc :hi:
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Thu Jul-20-06 10:17 AM
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I get ragged on because he'll "just buy booze" and frankly, after listening to his conversation with the doctor who saved his life, he might well buy booze. But, so what? If I had to live like that, I'd probably do the same thing!
I miss you FSC!!!! :hug:
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Thu Jul-20-06 10:29 AM
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Edited on Thu Jul-20-06 10:30 AM by fudge stripe cookays
Been busy!
This family history book I'm writing takes up pretty much every spare moment now that my deadline at work is over.
In the past 6 months, I've visited Salt Lake City; San Jose; Sacramento; Los Angeles; Santa Barbara; Alberta, Canada; Spokane; Coeur d'Alene, Idaho; and I'm heading back to California in a few weeks for work (but will try to tack on visits to Monterey and Santa Cruz).
Then, I'm going to see about using my airmiles to head to Pittsburgh around Columbus Day.
reprehensor and I are staying busy!
Don't let the bitchy lady get you down. If I was a drunk homeless guy, the main reason I'd be contrary to church folks trying to help me is that they usually want to preach at you about all the good work they're doing, where it's mostly lip service. Quit preaching, start helping! :hug:
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Thu Jul-20-06 11:40 AM
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100. Ain't that the truth! |
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When things calm down, we'll have to get together again!
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Thu Jul-20-06 11:06 AM
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99. I'm naively optimistic. |
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I'll take that anyday over coldhearted! Good on you, ginbarn! And even thought there ARE some real cons out there, I somehow don't think a homeless man living with a leg needing to be amputated didn't appreciate your kindness. Jesus, so what if he DID buy booze- is your boss so removed from reality as to be unempathetic to this man's plight? You showed him caring and respect, and we all deserve that.
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Thank you for that. :hug:
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Thu Jul-20-06 11:55 AM
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101. I am quite proud of you. |
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My eyes are welling up now too.
Do good unto others.
Our universe is better with you.
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Thu Jul-20-06 11:58 AM
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103. Your kindness overwhelms me |
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104. Your Boss is only trying to rationalize her own lack of compassion |
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Edited on Thu Jul-20-06 12:07 PM by new_beawr
maybe you should keep your good deeds between you, the beneficiary and the unseen.........
On Edit: We're unseen.......
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Thu Jul-20-06 12:15 PM
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106. You're probably right |
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I just didn't know she'd be so vicious about it.
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Thu Jul-20-06 12:29 PM
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108. The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali have good advice here |
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By cultivating friendliness towards happiness and compassion towards misery, gladness towards virtue and indifference towards vice, the mind becomes pure.
Your Boss seems to suffer from the terrible vice of bitter selfishness.
BTW, I'm a Presbyterian, but Jesus, the Buddah, Mohammed and the Upanishads all give similar advice....
As for me, I am glad of your kindness and extend to you my friendship....
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Thu Jul-20-06 12:43 PM
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109. And I thankfully accept your friendship |
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I had another experience today when I just happened to be where a total stranger needed someone. This is becoming a pattern. My boss is definitely selfish, no doubt about that.
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