I am a "failed joiner"....

[Hope springs eternal]

I wanted to post this in the loner section, but since I'm too cheap to donate, I guess here will do.


The fact is that I am a "failed joiner" (ya know, those kids who do the school shootings). While I'm as harmful as a puppy, I do feel angry and upset that I continue to be rejected. My own family doesn't even bond to me (or really, anyone...). I wish there was some way to bottle up my extroverted desires and chuck them in the ocean so I won't feel miserable. Being 18 and having no success thus far, I realize that my dreams of popularity or even one good friend we're just that...dreams.


Anyone know a good way to emotionally become a "loner"?

[wildhorses]

1. look here...first of all

:hug:

I'm Eighteen Lyrics
Alice Cooper

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5oFsvQ8FyBU

Lines form on my face and hands
Lines form from the ups and downs
I'm in the middle without any plans
I'm a boy and I'm a man

I'm eighteen
and I don't know what I want
Eighteen
I just don't know what I want
Eighteen
I gotta get away
I gotta get out of this place
I'll go runnin in outer space
Oh yeah

I got a
baby's brain and an old man's heart
Took eighteen years to get this far
Don't always know what I'm talkin' about
Feels like I'm livin in the middle of doubt
Cause I'm

Eighteen
I get confused every day
Eighteen
I just don't know what to say
Eighteen
I gotta get away

Lines form on my face and my hands
Lines form on the left and right
I'm in the middle
the middle of life
I'm a boy and I'm a man
I'm eighteen and I LIKE IT
Yes I like it
Oh I like it
Love it
Like it
Love it
Eighteen!
Eighteen!
Eighteen!
Eighteen and I LIKE IT

[RevCheesehead]

2. That's a new term to me.

Don't beat yourself up. I was a loner through high school, and it took a few years in college for me to loosen up enough and have fun.

I also think there's a difference between a loner and being lonely. Introverts crave solitude to recharge their energy (that's me). But we also learn how to function in an extroverted world. And that's often hard, and takes lots of practice, trial and error.

Patience, and learning to love yourself as you are, will also help. :)

[OhioBlue]

3. it WILL get better.

18 is a tough age. things look crazy, emotions are high, you are in the middle of childhood - adulthood.

You mention that you are a "failed joiner", do you mean that you have tried to join local groups and haven't felt welcome? Or, do you mean that you haven't been into the "conformist" stream of things?

If it is the latter, I would suggest finding something that you are passionate about and joining the club, society, etc. that also supports the same thing. If you haven't had good experiences with clubs, I would still suggest finding another avenue to join a group. And.. if you are headed to college - everything will be so much different than it was in HS.