I cannot stand when people say nothing.

[Jamastiene]

Oh to send an email or ask a question and get no response whatsoever. Either they don't reply to an email or they change the subject in conversation. Ever get the feeling that person is ignoring you? Or worse, ever get the feeling, you have committed social some faux pas you didn't know about and get embarrassed about it. Talk about awkward. I'm one of those people who doesn't have a great filtering system between my brain and my mouth. I am also not good at acting like a Puritan. Today's society with its unwritten societal "norms" and accepted speech makes the Puritans look like party animals. I find myself :shrug: ing and looking puzzled most of the time any more.

Do you ever feel this way?

[idgiehkt]

1. yes.

like sometimes when I send a pm, no one will answer it. Or it's like I've bothered them. But truthfully I have felt this way since I was born. It's the first feeling I remember. Like everyone was handed a copy of the 'rules' at birth, except for me. And I am just floundering through. I felt when I was very small like life was a trick someone was playing on me. When I was very little, pre-kindergarten, I was convinced that everyone in my family was wearing masks, that concealed their real identity. They weren't my real family, and I knew that one day they would rip off the masks and all laugh at me. I actually worked the nerve up to ask my mother if this was really the situation, when I was around 5, after what seemed like years of worrying about it, and she simply laughed at me. This only deepened my suspicions about them.

Well. That may be too much information.

[Jamastiene]

2. I'm glad you shared. That's not too much info.

I have had my suspicions that if extra terrestrial life exists, I must be from another planet. I know my views don't even come close to my family's views. The rules seem to be different for me than anyone else. My feelings are very close to how you describe yours. I'm constantly struggling to say what I think without screwing it up so much that I freak someone out. Like the ET comment. :shrug: So what? I feel like I'm from another planet sometimes. Haven't others felt that way? What's so wrong with that? You'd be surprised, though, at how many people would get a strange look on their faces and slink off to whisper about the freak who just claimed to be from outer space. I end up sitting there with this stunned shocked disbelieving look on my face.

I totally get what you are saying. It's lifelong for me too.

[alarimer]

28. I know exactly what you mean

I always feel out of step with people. I do not ever know what to say. I cannot go up to someone I don't know and talk to them (in a social setting anyway). I don't know the first thing about small talk. I am also really, really bad at "reading" people- for example, I cannot tell when someone is pulling my leg. As a result, my coworkers delight in telling me things like "we're not getting paid this month". Despite the fact that I should know better, I always believe until someone else clues me in. Is there some social gene that I am missing? I've often wondered if there is something wrong with me or if I (in being moved around so much) just missed that lesson somewhere.

[RevCheesehead]

3. I think it's only polite to respond to someone...

even if only to say "I got your phone call" or "thanks for the PM."
Sadly, it seems that politeness is in short supply these days. :(

Good to see ya, Jammie! :hi:

[Jamastiene]

7. I know exactly what you mean.

Then there are times when someone does respond and some computer glitch stops the communication. That's sad too. Happened to me recently with a very important email. I'm still feeling the void. Hope the computer gremlin who stole it is happy with itself.

It is courteous to say something back. Anything. You are absolutely right.

It's good to see you too. I've missed you.

[RevCheesehead]

9. Yeah, I've been too damned busy.

Today, I did a sermon about rest, and how we all need to take time to get away from the busyness of life. I need a vacation.

You get gremlins - I got a damned demon in the church's computer... and that's saying something. Next time, I'll skip the computer tech guy, and take it to the local priest for an exorcism. :)

[Jamastiene]

11. Think maybe you could ask them to sorta

put a couple requests in to get that email to me that I was supposed to get as well while you are at it? I really wanted to hear from this woman. Now, I'll never know what she said. :cry:

You are right about rest. I have desparately needed it too. This summer semester was short. I was hoping for the 8 week session instead of the 10 week session and got it.

You know that saying "Be careful what you wish for, because you just might get it?" Well, that applies here. I could have used 2 more weeks with a semester like this summer. I absolutely LOVED the art class. I wish I could take more of that teacher's classes. She was so cool. She was DU Lounge quality, imho. That's saying something extraordinary. You know where I live and what people are like here for the most part. This woman was one of us. She even mentioned that the war on terrorism was killing innocent children and that that was atrocious. She's one of us, but for some reason, some computer glitch, stole my email from her. She was great. I couldn't have made up someone as cool as that lady in my hometown. Wow.

[RevCheesehead]

13. Do you have her e-mail address?

Just tell her your computer ate your mail, and would she please re-send what she did before. I'm sure she'd understand, and it would give you a chance to keep in touch. :)

[Jamastiene]

15. I did that the other day.

The thing is that she's off for the rest of the summer too and the email is her office email at the school. It may be a month before she sees it. Oh, Lord, please help me have patience with the computer. Do not drop kick the computer, Jama...

You would have been proud of me when I made my art journal for one of the class projects. The assignment was to make a list of artists from A to Z. Print one copy of a painting or sculpture by each of them and make a journal with some info about the artisits. We had to do 2 for each letter of the alphabet. This teacher really liked showing the religious based art a lot. She did it in that nonthreatening loving sorta Christian way. I really liked her way. It reminded me of your way with Christianity. I used several of the religious paintings in my journal. Four or five years ago, I would never have done that. Thanks for being so cool. You opened up a whole new world to me that I had been blocking out because I didn't know there were loving Christians in the world. :hug:

[RevCheesehead]

17. You, my friend, have just made this whole long week worthwhile.

Thank you so kindly. Sometimes, I wonder if I make any difference at all, or if I'm reaching anyone. I really, really appreciate your kind words. :hug:

I'm gonna try to get some more sleep. G'nite! :hi:

[Jamastiene]

19. Nitey night.

Sleep tight. Have nothing but happy dreams. :hug:

[hfojvt]

4. "It's amazing how you can speak right to my heart

Without saying a word you can light up the dark
Try as I may I could never explain
What I hear when you don't say a thing

The smile on your face lets me know that you need me
There's a truth in your eyes sayin' you'll never leave me
The touch of our hands say you'll catch me if ever I fall
You say it best when you say nothing at all

All day long I can hear people talking aloud
But when you hold me near, you drown out the crowd
Old Mr. Webster could never define
What's being said between your heart and mine ..."

[wildhorses]

5. I think this will help explain....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aDWKLCwiFoA

[hfojvt]

32. I was kinda afraid of that

but it was quite touching.
Those huge cartoon eyes are like puppy dog eyes. :loveya:

[NMMNG]

6. I know what you mean

I'm probably better at brushing things off than you, but it's still awkward when I post something and get no replies (especially when I start a thread and get nothing in response).


And acting like a Puritan? Me?

[Jamastiene]

8. There is just no way

that I'd ever classify you as anything near puritanical. :rofl: The mere thought of that does not compute.

[NMMNG]

10. It appears my reputation preceeds me

I don't know why.

[Jamastiene]

12. Hmm, my little dealy

senses your presence and knows what to expect. Why else do you think I come...
when I see your name?

[NMMNG]

14. Nice little double entendre

You deserve a reward.

[Jamastiene]

16. Me likey.

That reminds me. I was wondering. Do you like tacos?

Here is a link to a delicious bean recipe and a delicious taco taste test I think you may enjoy:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=5405623&mesg_id=5408501

[NMMNG]

18. For some reason

I wasn't thinking of tacos while reading that. :rofl:

[Jamastiene]

20. As I am sure you can guess...

I wasn't thinking of tacos when I was writing it either, unless you count tuna. :evilgrin:

[NMMNG]

21. I figured that out

You're so dirty. I like that.

[Jamastiene]

22. I can't quit thinking about

tacos tonight.

I do so love your smilies. :loveya:

[NMMNG]

23. I wasn't thinking about them at all

Then I started up with you....

[Jamastiene]

24. They are ever so tasty...

aren't they? It's kind of hard not to just eat every one I see. :D

[NMMNG]

31. How dare you corrupt my sweet, sweet innocence

with your perverted innuendo? :cry:














;-)

[Jamastiene]

33. Do what?

This from the one who brings out my inner perv like no none else?























:pals:

:rofl:

[windlight]

25. as being one of those people sometimes

I can say often the reason is because i don't have anything constructive to say... you made your point and i accept it and thats it... maybe i should respond but i'm not sure that a response would be helpful.. I don't do it out of disrespect just nothing really to add...

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

26. _

[Joe Fields]

27. Sometimes I like non-sequitors. People say the darndest things.

[Rabrrrrrr]

29. James Blake is from Fairfield. Fuck him. That said, though, GREAT MATCH!

[SOteric]

30. Generally speaking,

I feel abject joy when the people around me have the good sense to shut the hell up. :shrug:

[undeterred]

34. I feel this way all the time.

Especially since I started doing political organizing.

Sometimes I contact elected officials and they ignore me. Sometimes I contact them many times and they ignore me. Even after they've said please contact me if you ever need anything. Rarely, they answer.

It happens all the time with volunteers. People sign up to volunteer. Then you contact them by phone or by email and they never respond. What does that mean? Did they change their minds? Could they have the courtesy to tell me?

It happens within the campaign too, and that is the most frustrating.

At work, its funny- I work with a guy who is starting to ignore me. Its funny because when we started working together he told me that his wife sometimes gets mad at him because he says nothing. She asks him a question and he doesn't answer. The reason he doesn't answer is because he's thinking about it. Well, at first he used to respond right away to everything I said. Now he just sits there for a few minutes and I know he's thinking, but I still feel ignored. I've become the "work" wife. I'm supposed to understand how he operates, and I do.

And now and then I PM people here at DU and get absolutely no answer. Yeah, I hate it.