Who Was The Head Of The Household When You Were A Kid?

[THUNDER HANDS]

Mom?

Dad?

or both equally?


In my house both were pretty much equal heads, with my mom probably the center of power and my dad as sort of her servant/henchman. :D

[La_Serpiente]

1. None

Divorced and father was never home.

[GOPisEvil]

2. My mom, although she had my dad tricked into thinking it was him.

:D

[bearfan454]

17. Hey that happens over here sometimes too

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

3. Dad

Classic Old Europe household.

[ElsewheresDaughter]

4. Mother Superior...Holy Rosery Childerns Home

"it's a hard knock life"

[beawr]

5. Dad

Mom abandoned the family. Dad was/is the rock, he remarried, and my Stepmom (a far better human being than my Mom) became the head of domestic affairs while Dad handled the money.

[SammyWinstonJack]

23. That was my childhood to a Tee.

48 years later-- dear old Mom is still nowhere to be found.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

6. Me !

If something did'nt go my way I had a temper tantrum . No really both were the boss - my brother and I were either went along with them or went along with them , no other choice .

[demnan]

7. Dad

Kept us in line. Mom provided the fun. Perfect match.

[supernova]

8. Both

They both worked so it was equal.

Mom had more the head for business though. So she worked more on the books and investments end.

Sometimes they were so equal, decisions, such as building an addition to the house, never got done b/c no one could settle the debate about what was needed. ;-)

[asjr]

9. My father until

he flew the coop.

[Rainbowreflect]

10. Mom, my dad died when I was five.

I think they were equal partners when he was alive.

[JitterbugPerfume]

11. My dad thought he was

but evrybody knew it was really mommy

[sistersofmercy]

12. Mom

[trof]

13. Grandpa

Until mom and I moved out on our own when I was 13.

[trof]

18. some more info

Mom was divorced when I was 4 and we moved back to her parents' house.
Grandpa was "of the old school" and wouldn't let her drive his car. If he couldn't take us, we rode the bus.
Later when we got our own apartment, we had a charge account with the cab co. Pretty cool. She didn't get a car or a driver's licnese until right after he died.

[Padraig18]

14. My Mam!

Even my daddy acknowledged the fact, e.g., "You'll not use such language in your mother's house, young man!". :)

[Booberdawg]

15. I was

[bearfan454]

16. Dad

[Kathy in Cambridge]

19. Power-Struggle Between Mom and Dad

lots of bickering-fun,fun,fun.

[populistmom]

20. Mom

They've been divorced for 12 years and she still manages to be a controlling nutcase with my dad (but then again, he lets her, so it's a mutually weird thing).

For us, mutual I guess. My husband can get extremely moody (I guess I can too, but in a different way) and he seems to go back and forth between worshipping me and snapping at me for ridiculous things, so he can be pretty controlling because of that type of behavior. I tend to be in control of the money and household stuff though simply because I'm more organized at it.

[Kamika]

21. I still live at home

Dad is the head.. no doubt about it

[SiobhanClancy]

22. My father was a benevolent dictator...

or so my mother and the rest of us always allowed him to believe!:)

[Anaxamander]

24. Mom & Dad divorced when I was 4 years old...

...Mom was single after that. Dad died when I was 18. Mom got remarried and divorced again. Now remarried again. So far so good.

[jus_the_facts]

25. Equal..."Go ask your Daddy." ...then..."Well what did your Momma say?"

...."...she said to ask you!" :eyes:

[Blue_Chill]

26. It all depended on the issue at hand

My parents were always locked in a power struggle they both seemed to enjoy. They had their share of bad times but they were good about supporting eachother most of the time. They still do.

[MissMillie]

27. well..... depends on when you mean

when I was VERY small, my dad worked 75 hours a week. He did not even pretend to know what was going on at home because he wasn't there very much.

So until I went to school.... Mom was the head of household. She took care of all us kids, kept it clean, and managed the household finances.

After my mom went to work (when my twin & I were old enough to be in school), things seems much more equal, though my dad was happy to have my mom manage the money. She was good at it.

You name the chore, they almost always worked on it together. My dad would never sit and watch TV while mom did dinner dishes, and mom never let dad shovel the driveway alone. I guess after all those years of being apart ever day, they decided that working together meant being together.

Call it a recipe for success: they are still married and in love after 53 years.

[geniph]

28. My parents divorced when I was six weeks old

so I lived with Mom and her girlfriend...who I didn't realize was more than a roommate until years after they'd split and Mom had remarried. It was only in retrospect that I realized they didn't just share a room, they shared a bed...and all their friends were women who lived together...and they all played sports, and fixed their own cars, and built fences...ohhhh! the light dawned, many years later! :D

Anyway, Mom's girlfriend was unquestionably the head of household, until Mom felt strongly enough about something to put her foot down. Nobody wants to tangle with my mother when she feels strongly about something - if you saw Angels in America, the Mormon fellow's mother - well, that's pretty much my mother, except ex-Catholic.

After Mom remarried, she let my stepfather pretty much have his way in most things, because he was a violent, belligerent drunk and she retreated into a haze of tranquilizers, painkillers, and sleeping pills. When I was about sixteen, she finally gave him the one ultimatum: drink one more time, and you'll never see me again (I don't know if I was included or would have been expected to make my own way). Since she doesn't threaten - what she says she'll do, she does - he's never had a drink again. He's still an asshole, but at least he isn't a drunken asshole, and not violent anymore.

[amazona]

29. technically dad

Not that he was ever home.

[KCDem]

30. Mom for the most part,

but she occasionally used the typical "Wait til your Father comes home!" threat.

But she made most of the decisions.

[piece sine]

31. I had a stay-at-home Mom

of course she ruled the roost but matters that got passed up to Dad when he came home from the office were serious. Potentially punishable with his belt, but few of my offenses rose to that often-threatened level. But when I got caught red-eyed and exhaling ganga in a garage....well, that was too serious for the belt. I got his indignant, cold-shoulder "you're not the son I know" attitude. That stung every bit as much as his Pierre Cardin belt.

[blueraven95]

32. pretty equal

but I'd have to say Mum

[Rhiannon12866]

33. Supposedly my Dad. He had a good job and had many employees

But now I know better. My mother is a very difficult person and I know now that many of the things he did were to placate her, including not sticking up for me. Anything to keep the peace.:-(