Who here still has the 'spice' in their LTRs?

[Ellen Forradalom]

No details please, I don't want this locked, but who here still finds their long-term partner their favorite playmate...and what's your secret?

[ScreamingMeemie]

1. I don't really know what our secret is...

I just know that everything about him turns me on. When he walks in the door, my tummy flips... I love the way he looks when he is all sweaty and dirty from working on the car... We laugh a lot... we tease each other... We have wicked bad fights sometimes... but try not to let them go too far. And, I really think this is the kicker even though it sounds odd. When I got really sick and was in the I.C.U. last year, my big strong husband-who never says "I love you" much but prefers to show it in working really damned hard, who never cries... cried over me, and begged me not to leave him. There, in that moment, my love for him grew and he gave me the strength to breathe on my own again. :hi:

[Ellen Forradalom]

2. Oh wow

What a lovely paragraph. You give me faith in love.

[ScreamingMeemie]

4. It's out there. I've known him since I was 12. We dated when we were

18 but I wasn't mature enough to handle it. We "ran into" each other at 22 and that was 14 years ago. We just celebrated our 10th anniversary. We have had some truly tough times but, when I think about it, he's really the only person for me. And he's Hot, HOT, HOT! ;)

[Ellen Forradalom]

9. To tell the truth

I have a rather similar story brewing.

[ScreamingMeemie]

20. I truly hope it works out for you.

:hug:

[lildreamer316]

18. MrsGrumpy..

Please don't think I'm weird; but I swear I can look at him in those pictures and just SEE what you are saying is true.
I think it's the "windows to the soul" thing. It really is in people's eyes when they are capable/ready to love like that.
Mine's the same way. Lucky Us!!
Beautiful baby, btw.

[ScreamingMeemie]

21. I don't think you are weird at all.

:hug:

I'm so glad you found somebody wonderful. Even with the down times, it's well worth it.

He's very handsome (your SO) btw!

[lildreamer316]

22. :)

Thanks so much!
Yours is also a very good-looking man! Sometimes life is good all over, eh?

[4morewars]

15. Damnit woman !

That brought a tear to my eye.

[ScreamingMeemie]

19. He's my everything...

There are days that I have to remind myself of that but, at the end of the day, it's been a good life. :hi:

[tjwmason]

27. Careful now

You're going to make us all :cry: with delight.

Oh, and you're right, he is hot - but then so are you, so it's an excellent mix. :hi: :hug:

[skygazer]

3. I'm not sure if we count as "long term"

We've been together for almost 6 years - long but not that long. But a friend who was visiting recently remarked, when I walked by the door and my sweetie blew me a kiss and I blew one back, "Geez, it's just a perpetual honeymoon with you two, isn't it?" And it really is. Both of us would rather be with the other than with anyone else. He doesn't even really like to go over to his buddy's to watch football on the guy's new plasma TV because he'd rather be home watching a rerun with me. If that's not love, I don't know what is!

[WindRavenX]

5. Well...it's a LDR...

...but when it wasn't a LDR, we still had the flame because we laughed and anything and weren't afraid to tell the other what we wanted in the sack; I suspect that's #1 reason why people lose interest in bed...they are, in a way, afraid to be satisfied completely-- if that makes sense.

And we both do little things to show we love each other...like send random pictures like this:



(I know. Corny.)

[LeftyMom]

8. My experience is that LDRs are easier in a way

You can't take each other for granted, and you can't get into little quibbles about random shit like who left socks on the floor. If you need your space for the day all you have to do is check email/call back when you feel like it.

I do goofy stuff very much like that pic too. :D

[bigwillq]

6. I think the man and I still do.

We did last night!:evilgrin:

Seriously, I think we still do.

WE go through our ups and downs but who doesn't after five years together?! :shrug:

[Haole Girl]

7. Yes, even after 13 years there is spice!

Humor is the key. If we couldn't laugh, I don't think we'd survive.

By the way, the "not ever going to bed angry" cliche is true!

[Fuzz]

10. Does Paprika count?

You said you didn't want details, so I'll stop there. :D

[Ellen Forradalom]

11. We have chipotle powder in ours!

Yum!

[Fuzz]

12. That can cause some lingering problems in some 'sensitive' areas

or so I've heard.

[Luna_Chick]

13. I can't remember what a LTR is, it's been so long

So I shall live vicariously through you lounge lizards. :silly:

[REP]

14. There's A Secret?

We just celebrated our 14th anniversary and we are far from bored with eachother. We didn't know there was a secret - we just thought we hadn't been together long enough!

[Broken_Hero]

16. We still have spice

but at times, there are highs/lows...


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[lildreamer316]

17. He's just ...

god he's just so damn sexy. Oh. I could just sit and stare at him for hours.
His mind turns me on. His sense of humor; and his wonderful big heart. I just can't get enough. It's horrible...I mean wonderful!

I have to boast: yes this is REALLY him!

[Rabrrrrrr]

23. Woo hoo!!

Count me in!

[ForrestGump]

24. Give me a few years and I'll get back to you

Oh...better give me a partner, too, I guess... :D

But I know it'll be that way. I'm that way, and I think it'd be pretty much inevitable that she will be, too. I say that not just because we perhaps tend to recognize such in each other, and somehow attract each other at least partly in response to it, but because people who're in their 30s or beyond have likely loved and lost more than once (often including a marriage or other long-term commitment, or have raised children) and know what they want and what they don't want. I think a few things tend to be sorted out by then, regardless of how much experience of relationships the person has, and that it helps clear away some of the garbage that can get in the way otherwise (all things, of course, as always being equal). I hope so, anyway. And I hope that we all get to find out the truth of it.

[cobalt1999]

25. 14th anniversary coming up and we're going strong.

We really are best friends first. In my eyes she'll always be that 24 year old I meet many years ago.

[seemunkee]

26. 24th anniversary last week

Yes its still good, yes we still love each other and find each other fun and exciting.
Similar situation to Mrs Grumpy we met and dated in high school, broke up and met up again in college and have been together for 30 years.
If there is such a thing as a secret then I would guess that she is my best friend.