SWM seeks Progressive single lady

[Subdivisions]

It is amazing to me how some people can manage to tune out the world and manage to exist in their own.

I'm not "married". I've lived with the same woman for going on seven years and we may as well be married. She wants to marry, badly. I love her but I have issues that prevent me from taking the plunge. I keep hoping that something bad enough will happen that it gets her attention, as if 9/11 or Iraq wasn't enough. So, if I were single again and were to place a personal ad, it would probably go a little somethin' like this:

SWM seeks Progressive single lady

I am a Progressive single caucasion male who longs to have intimate conversations on the ways and means of the world with a Democrat of the fairer sex. When I fantasize about my future love, I picture her voting for Al Gore in 2008 -- while actually knowing who he is.

The woman I seek must possess the following qualities:

1) Excessive curiosity

If this is you and you are worried about the way you look, or the color of your skin, or the extra pounds you just can't get rid of, rest easy. I would gladly pair up with you even if you look like a gorilla with mainge that just happens to have an affinity for electrical outlets so long as you are intelligent and interested enough to engage in a decent conversation over supper about the state of affairs in the world and not some dinner recipe or what Michelle's sister did today.

Don't get me wrong. I love my "fiance". She is simply not interested while I, on the other hand, am passionate about what happens on, and to, this planet. Luckily, though I'm left to persue my understanding alone, she makes up for it in other areas.

If you were (are) single, how would your ad read?

[Texasgal]

1. It seems a bit pushy to me..

Just being honest.... :hi:

[bluerum]

2. I'm usually indifferent to this stuff - but isn't this lounge material?

[Subdivisions]

3. Perhaps it is. I won't be offended if it's moved. eom

[Catherine Vincent]

4. um, if you have a fiance', why are you looking at personal ads?

:)

[Subdivisions]

7. Re-read the post...I said

If I were single again.

[blue cat]

5. How old are you?

Just asking.

[Subdivisions]

8. 42 - eom

[blue cat]

10. Where in Texas are you?

I'm near Austin.

[Subdivisions]

11. Near Ft Worth and it's been damn

hot here. Something like 18 days straight so far of 100+ temps and high humidity with no rain to speak of. I imagine you're getting pretty much the same thing down there in Austin.

Default weather ice-breaker! :)

[durrrty libby]

6. I think it is a great ad

You only have one life. Try to find someone

with similar passions.

:bounce: :hi: :thumbsup:

[Subdivisions]

9. It seems my point is being missed.

I agree that it's nice to share life with someone who share's your passions. But my point was really to illustrate my frustration with people who just don't care.

I'll be in a social situation and ask someone "What do you think of Rocky Vaccarella?" (fill in your own question) just to have them stare at you and say "Who's Rocky Vaccarella?".

My frustration is compounded by one of the those people being my promised.

[yardwork]

12. It sounds to me like you are not happy in your relationship

You say that you've lived with someone for seven years and you "might as well be married" but you don't want to get married, you're disappointed that your partner isn't interested in politics or other current events, and you're fantasizing about writing a singles ad to find someone who shares your interests.

I'm not passing judgement. I left my husband of more than 20 years myself. I'm just suggesting that you take a close look at what you're really thinking and feeling. Because the previous poster is right - we only live once.

If you don't want to leave your partner, perhaps couples counseling would help. I wish you the best.

[Subdivisions]

13. It is very frustrating when almost no one you

know has the slightest idea what you are talking about. I've seen relationships that were 100% complete. Mine doesn't happen to be one of them. I admit that I've been holding out hope that as she gets older and her attention turns from raising the kids and doing all the things she does for us to taking a broader interest in the world and what's happening to it. In her words: "I've got you to keep up with all of that for me." to which I replied: "How will you vote in November?". Her answer: "Whoever you say, honey." Argh!

Couples couseling is an excellent idea. Thank you for such a thoughful post! :)

[Nicole]

14. I get your point.

The last date I was on I brought up the DLC & DCCC for discussion. His response was "What? What is the DLC & the DCCC?". I should mention it was already established that he is a democrat, I met him while campaigning for Brad Henry.

He's very knowledgeable about state politics but just doesn't seem to care about the "national political scene" until it's time to vote for president. I just don't get it. :shrug:

[TexasLawyer]

15. Maybe you can get her interested and concerned

with a different approach. I have 3 nice but lazy and self-centered teenagers, who I have been trying to turn into civic-minded young adults. This approach might also work with someone who is already an adult.

I was able to get 2 out of 3 to help me with activist projects and to be at least somewhat interested in politics. The main thing I do is to try to give them a personal stake in the issues. I also try to make the issues less abstract, and I "witness" about things to them with as much emotion as I can muster.

I'll asked them things while I'm driving them to soccer, like-- Did you know that our government can kidnap you and take you to a foreign prison and torture you and never let you out again?

They'll say "No, they can't do that!" and I'll show them later that day that it IS happening.

A few weeks ago I asked if they knew that our government could send them to war on the other side of the world AGAINST THEIR WILL? They did not believe that was possible, but I showed them all about the draft, and they are now QUITE interested and riled up.

There's got to be at least ONE issue that will get your "fiancee" riled up. Especially if you preach about it the right way.