What is a current significant event in your life? How are you coping?

[Floogeldy]

I am hanging with you, men and women. Please share and let us have some comradery on the board based upon our mutual interests.

Love and Peace.

Floog

[yellowdogintexas]

1. my daughter is financially hanging by a thread, because her

best friend and housemate lost her job a couple of months ago and has been quite the dipshit about getting herself re employed. My kid gave her enough time to prove that she could "be an adult and take responsibility", then when she didn't she let her have it with all 8 feet. Hopefully she will be employed in the next couple of weeks, she is getting callbacks now

My part in this is to let my daughter vent to her heart's content, take her grocery shopping and make use of all my economy tricks, slip her a little cash because I felt like it etc. But mostly be the listening post, and let her know that if she has to move back it with us she can. The room mate /best friend has been in our lives since they were 8 years old (they are now 21). It will be much easier for our daughter to move in with us than for the friend to go back in with her parents, as there is a lot of strife in their relationship.

[Floogeldy]

3. Your daughter is so blessed to have you.

Your situation hits home with me.

Thanks for sharing.

[schmuls]

83. The 6 month anniversary of the death of my partner, who I had

lived with for 25 years. Your answer to how am I coping? It is a work in progress. I missed him so badly this past week, I felt myself slipping to depths I thought were gone for good.

[idgiehkt]

2. I'm on a 'significant event' streak

Which I hope is close to ending soon. Unfortunately the major one I can't talk about. I hope I am coping well. I have had to take it one day and sometimes one moment at a time.

[Floogeldy]

4. Strength to you, idgiehkt.

I wish you all of the best. :hug:

[idgiehkt]

8. thanks so much

and you as well!

[mad-mommy]

10. Hi IDG, good to see you

[idgiehkt]

12. you too!

hope things are going good for you...

[mad-mommy]

5. I need to do something meaningful already !

I need to get pro-active, pro something, find a hobby, try and go back to school somehow. I have limited options at this time, having a baby at home, and not working and making extra money. I was on a mission, regarding politics, but my health issues over the past few weeks have stopped me dead in my tracks, because there are so many things to deal with there. I find myslef less motivated because of it.

[Floogeldy]

9. I feel a strength in you, M&M.

I also have the same aspirations as you. You will sort things out and all will be as it is supposed to be. Stay strong for us? :hug:

[qnr]

6. Well, our old boy (dog) passed away, so we can travel again. We love to

travel, but it seems like it was so much easier when I was younger. We'd just pack up and leave. Now, we have to decide what to sell, what to store, which of the 17 competing options we want to follow through on. Travel? Buy and live on a sailboat? Move someplace for a year and hit the road again? Where? Hawaii? London? Hobart? Reggio Calabria?

ugh.

[Floogeldy]

14. I will be sad and I will cry when my dog dies.

I am glad that you have the opportunity to trave. Please share your adventures with us in the future. And be careful out there. :hug:

[Writer]

7. You do not want to know.

I have just lived the most bizarre month of my life. That is all I have to say.

[idgiehkt]

11. I know that I look for your posts

based on what you have shared about those difficulties with another person and I hope things are going better.

[Writer]

13. It has gotten much, much more interesting.

PM me.

[Floogeldy]

18. If ever you think any of us can help . . .

. . . we are on your side. Share further when you think it is appropriate. We love you, Writer. :grouphug:

[Mutley]

15. I thought I was finished with school.

But I received a letter telling me I have to take two more classes. :cry:

I'm coping with it better today than the last few days.

[Writer]

16. Oh no, mutley!

I'm so sorry to hear that... don't worry - hang in there! It's well worth it! :hug:

[Mutley]

19. I know.

I'll make it. They won't beat me!

:hug:

[mad-mommy]

17. I hope your 2 classes fly by for you

[Mutley]

20. Thanks.

They better. I got things to do -- like get a job, 'n' stuff.

[Floogeldy]

24. Damn!

I'm so sorry that your academic career has been delayed, mutley.

I know you will get it resolved and have a wonderful life. :hug:

[Mutley]

29. Thanks, Floog.

:hug:

[deadparrot]

21. I'm spending my second night back at college.

In some ways, I'm ecstatic to be back after a summer under my parents' thumbs. Then again, I am a little homesick for civilization (and my dad). I'm also not ready to be bogged down by loads of homework, either (classes start tomorrow).

It's going to be a lot of fun, though. I love my roommates, my classes (well, all except one) should be easy, and once we get into the swing of things, time will fly by and it'll be Christmas, then summer again. It's the idleness that gets me down in the dumps sometimes. :hi:

[Floogeldy]

25. You have insight, patience and perspective, deadparrot.

That is impressive and I am positive you will have a great academic year and a great future! Strength to you. :hug:

[deadparrot]

34. Aw, thanks...

:hug:

Compared to others, my problems are miniscule; I know I'm damn lucky. But I guess we all need pick-me-ups from time to time. :)

Thanks again for the good wishes. :hi:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

22. Well, my dear Floog.......

I've gotten into a situation of my own making......

It has been tough...........

But now I'm taking the necessary steps to make things right again......

All will be OK eventually.....but my life will never be the same.

Sorry I can't be more specific!

[Floogeldy]

26. I am sure I speak for every person on this board when I say . . .

. . . You, CaliforniaPeggy, have all of the power of our thoughts and love working on your behalf. You are a source of strength to us. Whatever decisions you make, we are behind you all of the way, CPeg. :grouphug: :grouphug: :hug:

[mad-mommy]

28. agreed

[CaliforniaPeggy]

31. My dear Floog, and mad-mommy too.......

Thank you from the bottom of my heart.......

I appreciate your support a lot.....

:grouphug:

[5thGenDemocrat]

23. I've got a bunch of cardiac testing coming up next month

Lipid protein testing, stress testing -- several hours of it over two days (I've got a bad right coronary artery and according to the notes from the clinic, I'm guessing they think it's congestive heart disease). If I don't pass, it looks like surgery (I've already gotten two stents and that's the limit).
The surgery part doesn't bother me as much as does the fact that I'm already into the docs/hospital for around $77,000. Who knows what the accumulated bill will be after this.
John
Good news is I feel okay -- but I always do right up until I don't.

[mad-mommy]

27. dear john

dear john,

well please keep us posted about your tests. Good to see you are managing, and hope you continue to feel well. I hope you aren't stressing too much about the bills...all you can do is your best.

[5thGenDemocrat]

33. Thank you, mommy

Heck, everything I own including this house doesn't add up to $77K, so it's not like I'm ever going to pay the bill off, anyhow. To Dr Fattal's credit (GREAT name for a cardiac surgeon, yes?), he doesn't care about the money -- he just wants to make sure I live long enough to rack the bill up over a quarter mil or so. He's a good guy and a very good doctor.
John
Who says we don't have health care in this country? All you have to do is drag yourself in through the emergency room. But it would be cheaper all the way around if we had some form of preventative medicine instead of letting these things fester until surgery is indicated.

[mad-mommy]

37. sounds like

you found a great doctor...what a name though. Good to see you're not overly concerned about the bills, you shouldn't be and it should be the least of all concerns. Yes, great healthcare in our country. :sarcasm:

[5thGenDemocrat]

48. Actually, he kind of found me

When I had my first attack, I walked over to the hospital (three blocks away). I was in surgery, literally, within 45 minutes.
My original surgeon is one of Saginaw County's most noteworthy/notorious Republicans (neither here nor there under the circumstances), who did a great job on the surgery -- but who also has the bedside manner of Adolf Hitler. I also suspect he didn't/doesn't want to work on patients who don't carry insurance.
One thing led to another and I was assigned to Dr Fattal who is still quite young (say, 35) as cardiac surgeons go and just a great guy. Like I said, he insisted I get in there for all this upcoming stuff -- so I don't have a kick coming. Money hasn't ever come up as a subject. In fact, Dr Fattal's assistant, Marcia, works to get me my most expensive medicines (I take five different ones) for free and nags me until I come in and pick them up. She's a lifesaver, too.
John
Anyhow, the odds are better than even that this will all work out just fine (it's mostly just a precaution). And, even if it doesn't, I'm in good hands -- certainly in hands I trust.
Thanks again for the kind thoughts.

[mad-mommy]

51. your welcome, good people there

[Floogeldy]

30. 5thGenDemocrat

Please, think about putting the potential hospital bills as the LAST THING you will worry about. It is only money. All anybody cares about is your health, well being and happiness.

May your body and mind be filled with love and healing power. :grouphug: :grouphug: :hug:

[5thGenDemocrat]

36. Thank you, Floogeldy

It's only testing, after all, and I appreciate that the folks at the cardiac shop were insistant that I get in there. If they didn't care, they'd just wait until we all met up at the hospital.
John
And I HATE the hospital. You have so many tubes and hoses, wires and gadgets in and on you that you can't even roll over for, like, four days. You're wired up like a 350 Chevy small block.
They DO have some mighty cool drugs in the pharmacy, though, to deal with the uncomfortability. Nice nurses, too.

[u4ic]

32. Please take care, John

I wish you all the best. :hug:

I become so livid when I hear how much one must pay for health care down south. :grr:

[5thGenDemocrat]

40. Thank you, u4ic

Like Tom Petty said: The waiting is the hardest part.
I hate needles (especially blood needles) and have since those polio shots as a young child, but I dread that eight-minute run on the treadmill the most. Oh well, wear something loose and comfortable (like a shroud, heh) and go for a personal best.
John
Was a good 440 runner in high school. Thirty-odd years ago.

[Midlodemocrat]

66. My husband is recovering from a quadruple bypass.

June 8th was the surgery. He is doing very well.

PM me for details. It sounds a lot scarier than it actually was.

:hug:

[RFKHumphreyObama]

35. A loved one very dear to all our family

Is seriously ill and this is placing enormous stress on the family -not to mention the loved one involved

Plus I have other issues involving my life which are depressing me

[Floogeldy]

38. Group power and love to you, socialdemocrat1981.

Please take comfort in the fact that we all have experienced, or will experience, the same that you are now. All we can do is have faith, be strong, and know that we are all here to help each other.

:grouphug: :grouphug: :hug:

[mad-mommy]

39. sorry...

to hear this. I have been through that with my mother. I never felt such despair. We had a lot of help from family and friends, to which we were greatful.

So many people with so many things going on. Sorry to hear you are a bit down.

[Floogeldy]

41. I have a health problem that I will deal with the rest of my life.

My doctors tell me that it will surely result in a major surgery in the future.

I'm hanging in there and counting my blessings. :)

[reyd reid reed]

42. And we'll hang here with you.

:hug:

[Floogeldy]

44. Thank you, reyd reid reed.

:hug:

[LadyoftheRabbits]

43. We'll be here...

:hug: I wish you the best, Floog.

[Floogeldy]

46. I appreciate that, lelapin.

:hug:

[mad-mommy]

45. sorry...

sorry floogeldy. I have a few lifetime issues too. I had a few minor surgeries already, I have to consider a hysterectomy, and who knows after next week I may land up with another surgery. perhaps they can do both together and save me some troubles. It's not an easy ordeal though, so I feel for you. The important thing sometimes is just maintaining a decent quality of life, that's all I ask for. Hope your's is decent.

[Floogeldy]

47. Your post makes me feel better, M&M.

:)

[mad-mommy]

49. just so their treating you good : )

[Floogeldy]

50. I am being treated well.

And your statement about quality of life centers me. Thanks. :)

[u4ic]

53. I'm sorry, Floog

me, too; though surgery won't do anything. I've been improving tremendously in the past year.

I would have never thought of it in the worst of it, but going through all the hardships really transformed me, in a positive way.

Living in the moment. An empathy that comes only with having been there. An appreciation and joy for living that only comes out of not being able to at some point. An intensity of all feelings, right from the heart. Noticing and appreciating the 'little' things that most people take for granted. Realizing how inter-dependent we all are...

I wish you all the best, Floog. :hug:

[Heidi]

56. .

:hug: :hug: :*

[REP]

57. Me Too; Mine Will Kill Me

Proably not for another 15 years though unless I'm hit by a truck first. Or an air conditioner falls on me.

During a recent visit with one of my doctors, I had to comfort *her* after she went over my recent tests. Sweet that she was that upset, but odd. I have to promise them all I won't die right away.

[NewWaveChick1981]

69. Wow, floog...

:hug: :hug: I hope for the best for you. :pals: We're here for you all the way through. :D

[Ellen Forradalom]

52. I am in love

I have a very costly choice in my future.

[ScreamingMeemie]

61. Ellen, if it's regarding the thing you touched on in your reply to me

in the LTR thread...

Things have a way of working out. Trust yourself. I did, and it was the best decision I ever made. Even though, at the time, I was scared to death. PM me if you ever need to talk. :hug:

[Jean Louise Finch]

54. I was in an accident on Friday night

I wasn't hurt, but the taxi I was riding in hit a pedestrian square on. It was no one's fault: it was dark and no one saw the pedestrian until it was too late. We think he'll be ok -- a broken shoulder and broken ribs, but he was conscious after we hit him. I've never been in an accident before, and this one was particularly brutal. And it happened in a place where the health care is less than ideal -- the other people standing around wanted to stick him on a motorbike to take him to the hospital, but we at least got him in a taxi. It was really scary and I'm still pretty shaken up about it.

Thanks and strength to everyone else posting.

[driver8]

55. I have a condition in my left I that will most likely be treated when I go

back to my Dr. in November. When it is treated, (by laser or radiation), I will lose the central vision in my left eye.

Not only that, but things are very slow at work and I have a feeling that bad news is on the horizon.

I'm doing ok...I have an amazing wife who is so supportive and positive. Plus, I have two young children who don't need to see their daddy all stressed out.

[CanuckAmok]

58. My ex-wife is still suing me for junk.

The final court date is September 29.

For those of you keeping score, the post-divorce litigation is about a year short of lasting as long as the marriage did.

[ScreamingMeemie]

63. man, Canuck...

I'm sorry. My father is dealing with the same thing and it just sucks. :hug: I'm sorry. May it soon be over so you can move on for real.

[China_cat]

59. My son's MS has gotten worse.

A lot worse.

[ScreamingMeemie]

64. China, that has to be really tough to deal with.

Can they change his meds? How old is he?

He, and you, will be in my thoughts. :hug:

[China_cat]

65. He's 38, with 4 kids

and the med they want to change him to (since the others have stopped working) kills 1 out of 1000 people taking it.

[China_cat]

84. It gets worse.

The state of PA has refused to accept his medical status and is initiating charges against him for failure to pay his child support. Which means that he'll likely be going to jail.

[ScreamingMeemie]

85. Oh God China... I'm so sorry.

:cry: :hug: If there is anything we can do, don't hesitate to ask... :hug:

[China_cat]

87. It just makes me so angry

PA has to be THE worst state for father's rights. My son has never been a deadbeat dad. He got behind when he was out of work before he moved back in with us. That move and a new job allowed him to catch up...with interest...and he's never even been late since.

But even with 2 of the kids living with him (their mother kicked them out because her boyfriend doesn't like them...ages now 16 and 14) the state is insisting he pay her the full amount for all 4, won't even grant him a hearing on it and the case worker's response when he tried to talk to them about his medical problems...even with his doctor faxing them the results of all his tests and his willingness to sign to allow them to access the MRIs...was 'you should have thought of that before you left your family'. Even though that was 7 years ago and he wasn't even symptomatic then.

Again, not a damned thing I can do about it. I don't have the $1200/mo to send her.

[auntAgonist]

71. ..

:hug:

I tried to write something meaningful, from my heart, but it all sounded so ...


anyway. Just a hug, know that people do care.

all the best to your son and his family.


:hug:
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[China_cat]

75. The hardest thing is that

this isn't something you can kiss and make better.

[auntAgonist]

76. I know

I have a dear friend whose brother has been suffering MS for years. He's in his 50's now and in a nursing home.

I wish there was a cure, an easy answer, a way to unburden those afflicted, some way to ease the pain for all involved.

:hug:
I'm sorry :(

aA

[Guava Jelly]

60. I have a list i think

But most has already been run into the dirt here.
Right now i am moving october 1st thats going to suck
My business partner is being a total dick and wont concentrate on our business
relationship wise..No comment

I just deal With it the best I can!
Sometimes i freak out and get depressed thinking or worrying about shit i cant control.
But the best thing I have done for myself is to start taking better care of myself.
Over 50lbs lighter now I am actually in better shape then i was in my 30's.

I will Survive (Once i was afraid I was petrified)

[emmajane67]

62. Well...

My partner just left to got to school in a town 2 hours away so I've had to find a room in a house and live by myself for the first time in basically 6 years. Finding somewhere took longer than expected so have been 'homeless' (living on couches) for the last month. Finally found somewhere and moved in on Saturday but I think the guy I moved in with is a bit nuts. Started a new job in the middle of all of this and then a very very dear family member got very very ill and will probably never be the same again. I spent £1000 on a plane ticket home to see this family member just a couple of days before he got very very ill as I knew this may happen, looks like I may have been slightly too late. So that all resulted in homesickness too.

The good news is as soon as I finish at work I am going home to pack for 2 weeks holiday in Morocco, Spain and Portugal, I leave at 7am tomorrow morning. I can't wait!!!

[Midlodemocrat]

67. Okay, here goes.

My husband is recovering from a quadruple bypass. He is going back to work next week. I am terrified that he will have an 'event' while traveling.

My lupus is back. With a vengeance. I can hardly move for the pain and all I want to do is sleep.

Shitty, shitty, summer.

[auntAgonist]

72. Midlodemocrat, I hope

that your husband does well. I'm sure it's frightening to have him go out and return to 'normal' activities. His surgery was successful and with your love and caring he's gotten stronger. I will keep him (and you) in my thoughts.
Lupus, ..horrible. I'm so sorry it's back with a vengeance. Stress is such a contributor to it too. I just hope and pray that when things settle down for both of you, your health will take a turn for the better. In the mean time please look after yourself. Better days ahead, we can all hope.

:grouphug:
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kesha

[Rabrrrrrr]

68. I gave birth on Saturday.

My penis still hurts. I'm coping with lots of beer, painkillers, and ice.

[auntAgonist]

73. you should have had a C Section!!!!!

Get a better Dr next time :)

:rofl:


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[NewWaveChick1981]

70. I have two major things happening in my life, and I have big

decisions to make concerning them. I don't yet know what the outcomes will be, but I'm taking my time and trying to make the right decisions.

[mvd]

74. My grandfather's death is still making me down sometimes

He went suddenly, so I think my mind operated for a while like he's still here. But when it sinks in, it's hard. Even though he was 89, he had his 90th birthday coming up in less than two months. I went out and distracted myself on his birthday. And there are so many memories.

[auntAgonist]

77. your precious memories will

keep him alive in your heart forever! When the pain subsides, and it will eventually, you will relish those memories.

:hug:

It's been nine years since my mother died. I still feel the pain, but the good memories I have pull me through.


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[Courtesy Flush]

78. I'm having a biopsy today

It's a possible basal cell thing on my face. I understand that many people have them removed regularly, so I'm going on the assumption that it's going to be a routine thing.

Other than that, Wednesday is my birthday.

[auntAgonist]

88. wishing you a happy b-day wednesday and...

best wishes for a clean bill of health.


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[HEyHEY]

79. It burns when I pee n/t

[RandomKoolzip]

80. Sorry about that, man.

My cold sores should have been a red flag, though.

[HEyHEY]

81. You told me they were hickies!

[RandomKoolzip]

82. Have you read 'The Merits of Lying" yet?

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x5561692

Worked for me.

[dorktv]

86. I just ordered my campaign signs. $530 for 75 of them. Blue on White

not very original but I did not want to spend the extra for the gold star.