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Tue Aug-29-06 08:49 PM
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Opinion: Ending a relationship is just as hard as being broken up with |
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The funny thing is, that many of our cultural narratives (songs, movies, books, etc.) don't put a lot of focus on the pain someone goes through when feeling the need to end their time with a partner they genuinely care about.
I've just learned this from firsthand experience unfortunately...
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Tue Aug-29-06 08:58 PM
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Although once you meet the next person, you forget all about it. :pals:
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Tue Aug-29-06 09:08 PM
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4. Thanks for the kind words, sir |
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Tue Aug-29-06 09:03 PM
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Edited on Tue Aug-29-06 09:06 PM by Mike03
Breaking up is horrendously painful. Don't be in a rush to fill that void with a new person, because sometimes breakups can lead to bigger things.
Be infinitely patient with and kind to yourself. It would not be intelligent, as some posters might suggest, to immediately fill one void with another object of attachment.
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Tue Aug-29-06 09:08 PM
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5. Sounds like you've been there |
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I'll take your advice into serious consideration, thanks!
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Tue Aug-29-06 09:20 PM
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8. Yes, I definitely have |
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Follow your heart, though, and explore life's possibilities.
Best of luck on your journey in life.
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Tue Aug-29-06 09:04 PM
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:hug: I haven't had to yet, but another... :hug: for you.
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Tue Aug-29-06 09:09 PM
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Tue Aug-29-06 09:09 PM
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Depends on the person, the context, and so much else. Not easy, though, sometimes even when perhaps you'd think it should be.
And you're right about it being largely overlooked in popular lore (unless it's the kind of thing like the songs about men or women who done the singer wrong and now they're being good-riddanced). Kind of interesting, that...
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Tue Aug-29-06 09:23 PM
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9. Thanks: This is a thoughtful post. N/T |
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Tue Aug-29-06 09:23 PM
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10. I've been on both sides.. |
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... and trust me when I tell you, getting dumped is worse than dumping. Period :)
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Tue Aug-29-06 09:32 PM
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11. I wouldn't say that it is "just" as hard. |
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Almost, but not quite. You knew it was going to happen and had time to prepare yourself emotionally. She might not have known the relationship was going to end and might feel as though the rug as been pulled out from under her. It's hard to lose someone you have been close to. They have been a part of your life and then, suddenly, that relationship is over. I know that breaking up with someone is really a hard thing to do. But, she might be feeling a little lost right now. It's hard to trust anyone again. And, I'm sure you feel bad. If you didn't feel the same way about her as she felt for you--you did the best thing for both of you. Now, she has the chance to find someone who wants to spend his life loving her, taking care of her, and being good to her. You've given yourself the same chance.
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Tue Aug-29-06 10:24 PM
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14. Really nice post n/t. |
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Tue Aug-29-06 10:06 PM
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12. Here are some lyrics: |
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"Goodbye Is Just Another Word" Lobo....
If the time should ever come That you feel our race is run And you're old brass bed's the only thing that we share If you think our ships come in Let's just break it off my friend Cause nothings worse than playing like you care.
There's nothing that's so final about leaving Even though I know that's what you've heard Just like forgive, forget and try again Goodbye is just another word.
If you feel the time is right And you sneak off in the night And live out all those stories in your head When your shiny knight goes home And you're left there all alone And you need a friend remember what I said.
----------------------------------------------------- AIR SUPPLY lyrics - "Goodbye"
I can see the pain living in your eyes And I know how hard you try You deserve to have so much more I can feel your heart and I sympathize And I'll never criticize all you've ever meant to my life
I don't want to let you down I don't want to lead you on I don't want to hold you back From where you might belong You would never ask me why My heart is so disguised I just can't live a lie anymore I would rather hurt myself Than to ever make you cry There's nothing left to say but good-bye You deserve the chance at the kind of love I'm not sure I'm worthy of Losing you is painful to me
You would never ask me why My heart is so disguised I just can't live a lie anymore I would rather hurt myself Than to ever make you cry There's nothing left to try Though it's gonna hurt us both There's no other way than to say good-bye
------------------------------------------------ ROXETTE lyrics - "Goodbye To You"
Goodbye to you, goodbye to broken hearts, goodbye to romance, hiding in the dark, nights that leave a scar.
Goodbye to you, goodbye to empty cards, goodbye to this ball of bliss, I'm dancing from your arms.
And I fill the bedroom with silent visions of rain. And I paint the morning with echoes from pleasure in pain. I don't want to touch emotions, I just got to run away. Electric blue like oceans, wild like lovers sway.
Goodbye to you...
And I seal the pillow and shatter dreams down the hall. And I hang the heartache like pictures on the wall. Can you hear the sound of angels they're playing hurting games? Well, I'm a stranger when I'm leaving, I was a stranger when I came.
Goodbye to you...
------------------------------------------------------------------------ BELINDA CARLISLE lyrics - "Goodbye Day"
Oh, sincerely I must tell you that I really Love you dearly But you are so obsessed with yourself There's no room for me You can't give me all the things I need
We've said all we can say Except our last goodnight To end this day Don't try changing my mind You won't find a way Just say hello To our goodbye day.
Your reflection What you see without detection I see clearly All your perfect imperfections Colors turn to gray I know it's time for me To go away
Just look behind you now It won't be me who's standing there
Just say hello to our goodbye day
We've said all we can say Except our last goodnight To end this day Don't try changing my mind You won't find a way Just say hello To our goodbye day
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Tue Aug-29-06 10:18 PM
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13. Wow, thanks for researching those! |
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I must say I've never really encountered songs dealing w/ these topics...
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Tue Aug-29-06 10:26 PM
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15. ahhhh...air supply.... |
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