Most insensitive thing you ever did to a S/O?

[HEyHEY]

I hi-fived a girl after breaking up with her.
I still have no idea what the hell came over me.

[LiberalHeart]

1. When my foreign-born husband said we don't speak the same language...

...I said, in anger (it was during an argument, after all): "Right. I speak English and you speak broken English." I almost reached out, trying to grab the words and shove them back in my mouth. I felt like sh*t.

[Skittles]

2. broke up with a guy who said Jimi Hendrix was "overrated"

yup

[Richardo]

3. .

:spray:

[tigereye]

4. broke up with a guy at dinner after a Betty Friedan talk

bwa ha ha ha ha....

[av8rdave]

5. divorced her

There were good reasons, of course

[Aristus]

6. Mine is pretty bad; Don't hate me.

After my steady girlfriend broke up with me, (for what seemed the millionth time) I started seeing a girl whom I later learned was emotionally unstable. We slept together a few times. Then one night, I was alone in my apartment when my old girlfriend called, saying she wanted me back. I hung up and prepared to dash over to her place. I'm putting on my jacket when someone knocks on the door. It's the girl. I tell her I'm breaking up with her, and she goes bananas. Crying and screaming and everything. I ask her if I can take her home. It's freezing out and she doesn't have a jacket. She screams at me to go to Hell. I give her one of my jackets, and she puts it on and walks off, crying and muttering to herself. I beg to be able to take her home, but she ignores me and disappears into the night. I never saw or heard from her again.

I'm really ashamed of myself. I don't even feel any ameliorating emotion in the fact that the steady girlfriend I went back to is now my wife.

[Haole Girl]

7. Ok, I'm confused

I read it three times, and I don't see what you are referring to as "pretty bad." Sounds like the girl you broke up with was unstable. Is it because you never saw or heard from her again? You *did* ask to take her home. I mean, at least you didn't break up with her over the phone, like a lot of guys!

[Aristus]

8. Well, maybe I'm the only one who can see it, because it happened to me,

but I DID break up with her fairly abruptly. I treated her as if her feelings meant nothing. I threw her off just to go back with someone who might conceivably break it off with me again. When I saw my chance to go back to my old girlfriend, I ditched the new girl without even hesitating. That's a rotten thing to do. If you think it isn't then I suppose I don't feel so bad. But it seemed a pretty lousy thing to do, if you ask me.

[petronius]

11. I did something very similar - it didn't involve the freezing rain, but I

did do it over the phone while rushing off to the old gf...

There are a lot of other issues wrapped up in that episode, but I do feel bad about it...

[Haole Girl]

12. It is wrong to break up with someone over the phone...

..IMHO. I suppose, these days, people probably do it be email...which is even worse!

[petronius]

17. I agree... I would have agreed then as well, but I did it anyway

:evilfrown:

[HEyHEY]

16. So, you never got the jacket back?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

9. i cheated on my SO very publicly

wasnt very nice of me.

[johnnie]

10. One time...

After a "session" I got out of bed, put on my pants, pulled out a dollar bill and tossed it on the bed where she was still laying.

She laughed though, because I am just like that.

[LiberalHeart]

21. If you'd done that to me...

...I would have done one of two things:

1. Given back the dollar and said, "This one was a charity case."

or...

2. Told you, "I was thinking of someone else the whole time," then I would have given you 75-cents change.

[johnnie]

22. .

2. Told you, "I was thinking of someone else the whole time," then I would have given you 75-cents change.

Then I would have said, "Is that why you were so bad at it?"

[LiberalHeart]

24. And I'd say...

"It's because you weren't good enough to keep me focused."

Then we'd be so turned on, we'd do it all again.

[kwassa]

13. Cheating on her

I paid for it.

[Radical Activist]

14. The irony

is that the worst offenders won't be able to give a true answer because the most insensitive just don't get how or why their actions hurt others so much.

[youthere]

15. I went and bought a dining room table without consulting him...

we hadn't been married very long, and he was in the Marines at the time out on assignment. I went and bought the thing on ridiculously high credit terms at an off base store in an area with a reputation for ripping off military members and spouses. We ended up paying over $2000 for a formica table with 4 chairs. My husband was furious and I was petulant. Not my best moment.

[NewWaveChick1981]

18. I broke up with my first boyfriend over the phone, BUT there were

extenuating circumstances. 1) We lived an hour apart, and my car was down for repairs. I had no way to get there on my own. Asking him to drive an hour to see me so we could break up would have been awkward, to say the least. 2) The relationship had deteriorated to the point that I HAD to break up with them right then and there for my own sanity. I hated to do it over the phone, but I had to get it over with. 3) I felt terrible breaking up with him over the phone.

That was over 20 years ago. If it had been today, there would be no excuse for me to do it over the phone (or God forbid, email :().

[u4ic]

19. I broke up with a guy I'd been seeing

after he took me out for my birthday.

He got a perm a couple of days before and it looked like an afro. I didn't want to be seen with him.

It was the early 80's, I was 17 and very stupid. x(

[MissMillie]

20. Apparently it was

when I asked him to make a commitment



(I mean, really, what WAS I thinking...)

[China_cat]

23. Starched my first husband's clothes

ALL of them, right before he had to report for duty at Ft. Sill, OK in August. My parting gift to him.

Heavy starch, too...including tshirts and shorts. He got back with about 15 minutes to spare before having to go on duty.

[Redstone]

25. Forgot to tell my girlfriend that I was moving to CT. Someone else did.

She tracked me down at the bar that night and threw a full mug of beer in my face. (Then back away real fast.)

I, always the gentleman, relplied, "Thank you; I deserved that."

Wasn't good enough. Now and again, I wish it had been. She was stunning and smart. I, on the other hand was kinda dumb back then.

Redstone

[MsKandice01]

26. I did my best impression of Charlie Brown's teacher...

When I was arguing with my husband once. You see, he has this way of claiming that I've hurt his feelings in order to make me feel guilty about something that HE's done wrong. He's done it so much that I just don't believe it anymore. One day, I was PMSing really bad, on top of being sick with the flu, and I had said some pretty nasty things to him. While he was in the middle of one of his tirades, he said, "You know, you can be really hurtful sometimes," and before I knew what I was saying, I said, "Wah wah wah wah wahhh". The poor guy had tears in his eyes. I felt like shit.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

27. I wouldn't even say it here.

It was fucked up. I've cleaned up my act since then.