i can be a bitch. i try to use it only for good. this time...

[mopinko]

i am in a ceramic studio co-op. i have a colleague. she is one of those people who always has an excuse for why things aren't done, why she hasn't been in in 6 months, who made her screw what up this time. we are a co-op. there are things we are supposed to do as a group. some people get the work done, some people slough off, but she gets in the way, all the time.
i have no patients for people like this. i try not to be an ass, but i also do not put up with a lot. i am honest, sometimes harsh, sometimes loud. and if you fuck up, please, please do not make excuses. just own up and we can move on.
here is an example. before i sale, i volunteered to bring in a floor machine and do the floors. people were told over a week ahead of time when i would be doing this, and they were asked to remove as much as possible, and plan to be out. in her usual presale panic mode, she wanted me to "work around" her. everything follows this type of pattern.
i won't bore with exactly what caused this blow up, but i will tell you that i had had it, she knew i had had it, she fucked up again, and still, she pulled all her usual crap.
i had been working my ass off. i just couldn't take it. i hung up on her. she called back, and said, we were disconnected. no, i hung up on you. i told you not to screw this up. i am pissed off. i am hanging up again.
well, she handed in her notice. she is leaving. we already have a couple of people leaving, and will be hurting if we do not replace her. it is my job to find new members, and i have been working on it. i have faith that we can replace her with someone who will be an asset instead of a liability.
some people will cheer. a couple will be sorry. no one will be crushed, but most will worry about the money.
i do not know how else to be. i am not a diplomat. i never will be. i get along great with the productive members. but everyone is sick of the strum und drang. and this shit does stick to ya, no matter who the nut is.

so, how are you?

[idgiehkt]

1. sorry to hear that

I can certainly see why you reacted the way you did. Probably better off without her. I don't think I am a diplomat either. I went into work about 6 months ago...my boss was talking about my replacement, how 'nice' he was, and how he 'never gets upset about anything', both digs at me...then i went in the other day, and she's back in the back unloading the delivery pallets, which is really hard and heavy work, which I used to do. I ask her why on earth she doesn't have the new delivery GUY do that, you know, the nice one that never gets upset that replaced me, and she says he 'gets mad' if he has to do it, and doesn't do the orders right. HAH. I did it with no problem, just about ruined my back too. But I was a bitch, so I guess she's glad to be rid of me, lol. She can do it herself, I suppose.

So anyway, I empathize. If 'blessed are the peacemakers' is true then I am certainly not blessed, not in this lifetime, lol.

[Floogeldy]

2. Um . . .

He copied that from somewhere else.

[mopinko]

4. who copied what? nt

[mopinko]

3. i mostly regret the whole high school aspect of it.

that's all anyone can talk about. i gather she was told by those that she tried to get on her side that she should just let it go, and stay out of my way. i am getting a lot of long overdue work done, and she picks it apart.
i have no dount that we will be WAY better off without her.

[GirlinContempt]

5. I have no idea