Cygnusx2112
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Thu Oct-05-06 10:33 PM
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In an effort to be funny (my natural state) and make some new friends today, I responded to a post about which L Word Actress was hotter.
I said, "Dana and Marina, if I was...ya know..." In my mind, I was filling in the "ya know..." with "...a girl :)".
I tried to explain myself but explaining it wasn't enough. There was no other track record, but I was considered a homophobe and insensitive. Then, I misused "life" and "lifestyle" not knowing there was a difference (but was appreciative to now know there was a difference).
I promised an apology to come if there was "someone besides you and the OP and who feel the way you do, where you're coming from and I'll apologize." A poll was created...and, I was going to gauge my apology off the poll.
11 People said they would be offended. 19 People said they would not.
I'm a man of my word...you won the vote of "and one other person". No pope-style apology will do...
I apologize to both lionessprianka and haruka for anything I said that was offensive.
But I re-read my posts. I left out a word friends, (which, unprompted), I filled in with "Lesbian" and it was immediately assumed I was homophobic. And a lot of people piled on me. Then the spin off threads making fun of it. I'll really never understand why. However, many defended me, for which I say Thank You.
When I hear disparaging things against gays or lesbians, I always say "What do you care what they do with their lives? Leave them alone and mind your own business." I give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
And I'll still defend anyone against bullies.
I'm wondering why I wasn't given the benefit of the doubt.
I learned a lot here today, beyond the dust up that started this whole thing. More about human nature, for which I thank you.
Peace All.
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idgiehkt
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Thu Oct-05-06 10:37 PM
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I couldn't make heads or tails of it so I stayed out of it. I've been flamed over alot stupider things, by alot more people. Some still have me on ignore. Whatever.
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crim son
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Thu Oct-05-06 10:37 PM
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Even though I voted "no".
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Thu Oct-05-06 10:53 PM
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3. Thanks for the follow up. I stayed out of it, but the whole thing seemed |
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Thu Oct-05-06 11:16 PM
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I stand by everything I said, however.
Good night.
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LostinVA
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Sun Oct-08-06 08:14 AM
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Guava Jelly
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Sun Oct-08-06 08:21 AM
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6. And I apologize myself if i came off to hard |
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It's easy to hurt people and their feelings. To say a word that may be taken the wrong way. It is imposable to know what is really in a persons heart. This was very thoughtful of you. Peace.And please stick around and post. Everyones voice has importance
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Call Me Wesley
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Sun Oct-08-06 09:03 AM
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Continuation of a flamefest. Thank you! Call Me Wesley DU Moderator
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