Young men going after older women

[NewWaveChick1981]

I know we had this discussion before, but it really does seem like younger guys are really going for older women these days. I've seen it in action in a lot of places (and I'm not just talking about myself), and it's becoming more apparent that younger guys are either bored or uncomfortable with women in their own age group.

Don't get me wrong. I find it incredibly flattering when it happens to me. :D It's just an observation.

Oh, and I've had sixteen guys between the ages of 18 and 29 proposition me on myspace since I joined a week or so ago. :rofl: :evilgrin: They know how old I am because it's in my profile. I'm not saying this to brag, because about half of them have been Repukes, and even the thought of doing ANYTHING with a Repuke is icky and disgusting. :rofl: But that seems to be the majority of who's viewing my profile. If that isn't a trend, I don't know what is. :P

[Deja Q]

1. Well, judging by my own experiences,

The vast majority of ladies don't want me either. (so no doubt 18-29s want older... :D )

Let's just say those who are interested are wonderful and worthy...

Mind you, myspace tells me I've got 3 messages. But going into my inbox, they don't show despite being claimed they exist...
:crazy:

[supernova]

4. Stop it!

Stop saying nobody wants you. Flatly that's not true. :hug: You are very handsome (SS told me so!) And your pics prove it. And your funny, and smart, and ....

[NewWaveChick1981]

6. Shuddup, youse!

:hi: :hug: You just haven't found the right woman yet...

[Deja Q]

10. I'm sure I have...

I just like being negative... :D

They told me so in the post-interview review as to why I didn't get the job. :7

[supernova]

2. I've noticed it too

I don't have a MySpace page yet.. but I do notice a lot of younger guys notice me now. :rofl:

All I have to say about that is: Where the hell were you guys when I WAS your age?!?! :rofl:

Here's to us mature babes, NWC! :toast: :D

[NewWaveChick1981]

5. Exactly, supernova!

:toast: :party: Hey, I like myself better at 43 than I did at 23, so there's a lot to be said about self-confidence and maturity. :woohoo: And it's wonderful that you've noticed younger guys checking you out too... :bounce: :hi:

[Richard Steele]

17. It's not just younger guys.

Just sayin'. :evilgrin:

[supernova]

23. Ha!

You devil, you! :D

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

3. Well, I've definitely gone after older women before but yeah...

a lot of guys my age really like older women. MILFS are very popular.

[NewWaveChick1981]

8. I've noticed that too.

What attracts you to older women? I'm just curious, because I find it very interesting. :)

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

22. Well...

physically, I'm often attracted to women my age to 20-25 years older. The one difference being usually with people closer to my age, I'm usually more attracted to adrogynous-types and with older women, I'm more attracted to feminine women.

A lot of my real-life friends are in their 30/40s, so it sort of just carries over into my relationships. Even when I was in HS, a lot of my friends were in their 20s. I've just always connected to people older than me, probably because I had to deal with a lot of things growing up that other kids never did.

[NewWaveChick1981]

84. Cool!

:hi: Thanks. :) It's really interesting to know the things people are attracted to. And yes, what happens to you when you're growing up often has a direct bearing on your later life. ;)

[Phillycat]

7. My SO is younger

And I LOVE it. :) He's so sexy.

[NewWaveChick1981]

9. Cool!

:hi:

[billyskank]

31. Yabut

you're young too.

[idgiehkt]

11. wow.

Cool. I'm starting to think I might end up like Cher, lol. This is probably going to sound a little mean, but I'm finding that younger men seem to be more comfortable with a direct person (such as myself)...I don't know it just seems a better fit. Sometimes I think that men my age or older don't really know what to make of me...like I possibly scare them. Maybe even offend them?? It's very strange. I think this generation that grew up with rap has a little bit more open view of sexuality and don't expect women to be so damn coy and game-playing when it comes to that kind of thing, behaviors I a)suck at and b)find incredibly boring. I'm kind of tired of getting my feelings hurt by prudish men.

Shouldn't have said any of that. Oh well, f*ck it, it's been on my mind.

I don't find any of this problem with women. Not only that, but I think heterosexuality is brutal on 'older' women, something that I don't even think really exists in the lesbian world in a big way except maybe in places like New York and LA. I kind of shapeshift in and out of these paradigms and I think it's just sad the way that older women are sometimes viewed in the hyper-visual straight world. It's like a whole other dimension around women; so it's also good to know that some younger men prefer older women.

[NewWaveChick1981]

13. Excellent observations, idg!

I find that most older women I know (my friends, me, and others) don't enjoy playing silly torturous games. I definitely don't. I've noticed a lot of guys in the 40-and-up age group that are repressed Repukes (that has a nice ring to it! :rofl:) who have much different expectations than younger guys.

[idgiehkt]

18. it's liberal men too.

they don't want to offend me...

and I'm like please, offend me, I like it...

but they don't believe me

:wtf:

[Withywindle]

155. I can totally relate to this!

I think this generation that grew up with rap has a little bit more open view of sexuality and don't expect women to be so damn coy and game-playing when it comes to that kind of thing, behaviors I a)suck at and b)find incredibly boring. I'm kind of tired of getting my feelings hurt by prudish men.

I had weird socialization in that I was abused so badly by female "friends" as a child that when I was a teen, all the people I was friends with and trusted were male and older (I'm female) so I picked up a certain...style...of dealing with sex and relationships, just from conversations.

I'm direct. I have a lot of diverse sexual experience and I don't hide it; in fact I consider it a great asset. (Why is that the only realm where experience and practice is considered to detract from one's, er, "employment value"...well, only if you're female). I don't do that "The Rules" shit. I don't pretend to be dumber or less ambitious than I am, and I'm not willing to spend more money on my looks than on music and books and travel for ANYBODY....and for most of my life I was mostly into older men, but then I hit 30 and it turns out the next great love of my life would turn out to be younger, and enamored of all the qualities in me that were starting to scare older guys off. Go figure.

[tjwmason]

12. That small corner of my psyche which is bi rather than gay

Is normally attracted to women between about 40 and 55.

For reference, I'm still mid 20s.

[NewWaveChick1981]

15. That's good to know...

:hi: :*

[tigereye]

21. That's nice to hear, TJ

I myself am happily married, but damn, you look good in that kilt! :silly:

[Writer]

14. Darlin'...

if I have your brass when I'm your age, I think I'll be doing okay. I say congrats! :hi:

[NewWaveChick1981]

19. Thanks, Writer...

:hi: :bounce: You'd never know I was once shy... :P I shed the trappings of shyness a while back. :P You'll get there too, and you'll enjoy the hell out of it... :evilgrin:

[WolverineDG]

73. My experience

It was like, once I hit 40, I was like "Aw fuck it, I'm not out to impress you" then WHAMMO, all these younger guys start hitting on me. ;)

dg

[bigwillq]

16. It's not because you're older...

it's because you're HOT! :hug: :loveya:


If I swung you're way, I would hit on you too! :hi:

[NewWaveChick1981]

20. Thanks, bigwillq!

:hi: :loveya: You're so sweet... :D

[greatauntoftriplets]

24. My 26-year-old nephew's girlfriend is 38....

and it's a serious relationship. Her three kids absolutely adore him.

[NewWaveChick1981]

25. That's so cool!

:hi: :hug: Nothing wrong with that...

[idgiehkt]

33. shoot, I forgot about my own brother.

he married a woman ten years his senior, he was 30 and she was 40 when they married

[greatauntoftriplets]

77. She's a great person and we really like her.

A breakup would be very hard on her kids, having recently gone through their parents' divorce. Not sure if marriage plans are being discussed, but she is VERY recently divorced.

[mark414]

26. you mean like this kid?

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=5595613

[NewWaveChick1981]

30. Yeah, that one...

:rofl: :* :loveya: :evilgrin: There's nothing wrong with that. :)

[BarenakedLady]

27. I must be doing something wrong

I've had a myspace account for months and I've never gotten propositioned by anyone (that I didn't already know. lol) Hmmmm maybe I have my answer already. :shrug:

[billyskank]

28. You want to be propositioned?

:hi:

[BarenakedLady]

37. Well no, not exactly

Just that everyone always claims myspace is such a meat market and "I've gotten upteen propositions" and such. I'm just self-conscious (or self-centered?) enough to wonder why I haven't. :shrug:

[NewWaveChick1981]

32. Well, my profile is public, so that may have something to do with it...

I get messages from a lot of people (including swingers and married guys looking for a fling :P). However, I don't answer most of them.

[BarenakedLady]

43. Well now that you mention it

I probably did not make mine public back when I created it.

Phew...thank you for assuaging my fears of having become an old hag while I wasn't paying attention.

[NewWaveChick1981]

49. NO!!!! You are NOT an old hag...

:bounce: Get thee to myspace and fix the profile settings... :P :rofl: You're missing out on all the fun! And you'll have plenty of fun coming your way!

[billyskank]

29. Older women are awesome.

:)

[NewWaveChick1981]

34. Thank you, sweetie...

:loveya: :*

[billyskank]

38. .....

:*

:loveya: too.

[NC_Nurse]

35. I 've already got my younger man.

I recommend them. :evilgrin:

[NewWaveChick1981]

40. Very cool!

:hi: :applause:

[NC_Nurse]

44. Thank you!

:blush:

[Haole Girl]

36. I see this trend too. And, my question:

where were these 20-somethings when I was 20-something?

:rofl:

[NewWaveChick1981]

39. Ummmm... They were either in diapers or just a gleam in the milkman's eye

:rofl: :evilgrin: Can't help but think the 18-year-old that sent me an IM on myspace was born when I was 25. I'd already graduated from college and was out working. :rofl: :yoiks:

I know just what you're saying! :hi:

[Haole Girl]

53. lol

I forgot about that! :rofl:

[crim son]

41. I don't think it's any different than it's ever been except 1)

there are more of us who are clearly available and 2)we've only recently arrived at the age where we qualify as the "older woman" so naturally we are suddenly experiencing the phenomenon. I thought it was surprising the first few times. Now it's just crazy/weird and not particularly desirable. The youngest who tried was eighteen, and he actually tried to get my number from the hostess of the party we both attended ?????? I was forty-two at the time. Forty fucking two, quite literally old enough to be his mama. Usually though it's men in their twenties and thirties. They look old enough, but they're not! :P

[NewWaveChick1981]

46. LOL!

:rofl: I'll tell ya---attitudes about being 40 have changed too. Ever hear the phrase, "40 is the new 30"? We've talked about it here in the Lounge, but women over 40 are dressing the way they want to, doing what they want to, and enjoying life. I remember in the early 70s, my mother had a friend who just turned 40, and she threw away all her "young" clothes and bought a bunch of matronly crap because she was 40. :yoiks: No thanks....

[crim son]

52. My mother did just the opposite.

I remember when I was about sixteen, which would have made her 39, I came home from school to find her hauling everything out of her closet. Racks of pants, shirts, dresses, a bunch of shoes. I asked what she was doing. "Getting rid of it. I'm too young to look this old. And... I will NEVER wear polyester again!" A day of celebration indeed. And she never went back. She still wears her own bold style and if she weren't 5'2" I'd break into her closet and make off with everything in it.

But you're right, we are in better shape and more confident than the forty-somethings of the past. And I feel badly that many women don't believe it.

[NewWaveChick1981]

56. Damn! That's the right attitude!

:bounce: :toast: Your mom sounds like she's got her act together! :applause:

I feel bad for the women who don't believe it's possible, but not bad enough to join them. :woohoo: :P

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

67. I steal my mother's clothes all the time.

I routinely snag her shirts. The only reason I don't steal her jeans is because I'm 5'1" and she's 5'7" so they're too long.

[crim son]

79. I'm just an inch taller than you so Mom and I have the

reverse problem. Plus, I'm daddy longlegs woman and she's a cute little petite thing.

So, either your mom is pretty cool or you dress like an old woman. Which is it?

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

80. Actually, I'm the cute little petite thing.

My mom dresses cool, but she's not actually cool. I definitely do not dress like an old woman.

[crim son]

86. Okay, I knew it was your mom who was taller, hence

my saying we had the *opposite* problem. Maybe I'd better pour me a drink. All this sobriety has totally screwed me up. Thanks for tolerating...

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

93. Sobriety's a bitch.

I only do it every other day.

[mikeytherat]

42. My wife is two years older than me, does that count? Partial credit?

When asked about this, she says, "Conventional wisdom used to be 'Marry an older man - they're more mature.' Current thinking, however, states that 'Since men don't really ever mature, marry a young one!'" So, she did (16 years ago this Friday).

mikey_the_rat

[NewWaveChick1981]

47. OK, partial credit...

:hi: And happy anniversary a couple of days early!

[NC_Nurse]

48. I always give this response:

A good man is hard to find, so I decided - RAISE one!"

(based on a line by Wanda Sykes)

[Book Lover]

45. My cynical POV is that they think we're so flattered that we're easy

targets for their praise.

[NewWaveChick1981]

50. Well, I guess that's one way to look at it...

...:) But I'm not an easy target. As an "older woman", I have developed a knack for seeing through bullshit, so I can usually tell who's sincere and who's not. :P But it's still fun...

[Book Lover]

57. But they don't know that yet

They may think we're still as dumb as anyone under 30...

Oh, goodness, I may have doubled my dose of bitter pills this morning...

[idgiehkt]

51. my cynical point of view is it might have something to do with

what is being marketed to young women today as the image to cultivate. I might get flamed for saying it but maybe some young men are sick of the Stupid Girls thing.

Pink -- Stupid Girls

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=53YIGn32JrQ

[Book Lover]

61. Hey, could be

[Downtown Hound]

54. I've been with three women that were significantly older than me

And I almost married one of them. The maturity aspect is very sexy. Older women know what they want more, and that is quite a welcome relief from younger women who, dare I say it, often like to play silly games and get upset over stupid stuff. Older women also seem to be more appreciative of their partners, more affectionate. When I say appreciative I don't mean that they have to kiss our butt all the time or anything, but some of the women my own age that I've been with seem to take a lot of stuff for granted. Almost like they have this air to them that I am expandable because they have a million other guys lined up or something and I better keep that in mind. I'm not saying that's true of all younger women, just that it tends to be true a lot more with them.

Also, physically, I think a little age on a woman's face and body is very sexy. Why? Because it's real. A woman's true beauty can shine through a few lines and wrinkles and then the makeup and other superficial things become less important. Younger women that are so done up may provide a little eye candy and maybe some activity in the groin region if you know what I mean. But it really doesn't extend very far beyond that, unless you're one of those guys who needs a barbie doll on his arm to show off, which I'm not.

But a beautiful older woman? There's something deep and rich and incredibly alluring to her, even if she has signs of age on her. Something less superficial and more penetrating. Yes, older women are hot. I've always been attracted to them and always will. And since I just turned 30, I still have a little time to go while I can still call them older.

[NewWaveChick1981]

116. That's a wonderful post...

:hi: Thank you for what you've said. :D :hug:

[RFKHumphreyObama]

55. Speaking as a younger male (I’m 26)

I’ve always been significantly attracted to females significantly older than myself –believe it or not this has been my tendency since I was a young child. I think because I have a disability and because I’ve also been more intellectually stimulated since I was a young child, I’ve always found I’ve had much more in common with women significantly older than myself than women of my age group.

On perhaps a somewhat shallow level, I find myself physically attracted to women ranging from 10-30 years older than me and someone in that age bracket is much more likely to capture my attention than someone from my age group or younger when I’m in a public place. I find many of them incredibly, incredibly sexy beyond what words can adequately convey

But it is much, much deeper than that. I’ve always found that I could relate to older women intellectually and on a personal level much better than I can with women my own age or younger. I love learning about their lifestyles, their backgrounds, their intellectual interests, their hobbies and their personality and I quite often find them to be intriguing and wonderful people. I also like it that most of them have a mature and experienced perspective on viewing the world and on issues such as love, relationships and the like. As a general rule I find them to be established and grounded in life and comfortable with their place in the world –I value that quality in a person. I also find women of that age bracket to be much more tolerant of who I am, of my disability and my life situation

Of course this is working on the presumption that an older woman would want to be in a relationship with me. Or any woman for that matter. Judging by my past history, I shouldn't get my hopes up

[lizziegrace]

68. You're only 26??

You present yourself (through words and actions) as someone who is much older and wiser. Wow. What a future you have. And many older women will be grateful. ;)

[RFKHumphreyObama]

Thank you very much LizzieGrace

Your very kind, generous, thoughtful and wonderful compliments –totally undeserved –uplifted me and touched me beyond what my words could ever adequately convey. I can take hope and confidence from your words and I greatly value and appreciate you taking the time to respond to my post

I cannot thank you enough LizzieGrace. You are truly a wonderful person and an asset to this forum. :yourock: :yourock: My life is better for knowing you

I do hope one day to be in a relationship –it’s just hard to be optimistic with my current life situation. I think in all likelihood it will probably be with an older woman if a relationship does occur. But one has to keep an open mind

[lizziegrace]

90. Be true to yourself and your beliefs

You'll find someone who is a match to your kindness, intellect and inherent decency. Your traits are admirable and very hard to find in this world.

:hug:

Be patient. Your life will come to you.

[NewWaveChick1981]

87. SD, you have always come across as much older than you are...

:) :hug: Your maturity shows. And on behalf of "older women" everywhere, I thank you. :bounce: :woohoo:

[graywarrior]

58. I hope this is true......

[RevolutionaryActs]

62. HA! Somehow I just knew you would post here.

:evilgrin:

[graywarrior]

63. Honey, baby, darling....I;ve been trying to keep him out of every post

[RevolutionaryActs]

65. You should put him in your sigline.

Then he'll be with you always. :7




One of the .gifs would be good. :P

[graywarrior]

74. Hot diggit;y.

[RevolutionaryActs]

81. What's with the semicolon?

Are you typing one handed? :rofl:



Yes, I'm evil. :evilgrin:

[graywarrior]

83. Me and Foley....

[RevolutionaryActs]

99. LOL

:spray:

[graywarrior]

106. I haven't seen my other hand since...when did Supernova

go on the air?

[RevolutionaryActs]

108. lmao

:rofl:



Who needs a hand when you have a........ *insert .gif of Lukas licking screen here*

[graywarrior]

112. Close enough

[RevolutionaryActs]

114. I didn't want to post it because last time I did...

it got deleted. Or maybe that's just because it was in my naughty thread? :shrug:

[graywarrior]

115. It was your naughty thread. You also egged them on.

[RevolutionaryActs]

118. Yes, I did.

I'm so bad. :evilfrown:

[graywarrior]

119. Which is why I wuv you.

:loveya:

[RevolutionaryActs]

120. Aww back at you!

:loveya:

[graywarrior]

121. We're an odd match, are we not?

[RevolutionaryActs]

124. Yup, just like... well you know...

[graywarrior]

125. I want to BE Lukas.

[RevolutionaryActs]

126. Why, so you can sit next to Toby? Yeah me too.

:evilgrin: :rofl:

[graywarrior]

128. No. Wrong.

[RevolutionaryActs]

129. We really must stop, or everyone really will have us on ignore.

:rofl:

[graywarrior]

130. I have the feeling that already happened due the the poll responses

[RevolutionaryActs]

131. Hey, there are like 14 votes!

That's a good sign! :bounce:

[graywarrior]

132. I'm a Scorpio!

[RevolutionaryActs]

133. LOL!

How do Scorpios and Sagittarius' go together?

http://www1.iwon.com/home/horoscope/horoscope_match_results_index/0,1855,0_Love_Scorpio_Sagittarius_0_1,00.html

[graywarrior]

134. Scorpio and Sagittarius share a probing, explorative outlook on life

I like the probing part.

[RevolutionaryActs]

135. I'm not touching that one with a ten foot pole.

:rofl:

[graywarrior]

136. Hee hee.

:evilgrin:

[RevolutionaryActs]

137. Speaking of which.....

*dies laughing*

[graywarrior]

138. Only you could come up with that.

[RevolutionaryActs]

139. I'm amazing, aren't I?

[graywarrior]

144. Crap. I'm gonna have no internet til possibly Thursday night

Withdraaaawallllll.

[RevolutionaryActs]

145. What the fuck?

That's horrible! :hug:

[graywarrior]

147. I have to go visit "friends". Ones who aren't at DU.

And maybe even miss LOST. Jesus.

[RevolutionaryActs]

148. You poor, poor thing.

:hug:

[graywarrior]

149. Sniff. I'm gonna go to bed and cry now.

You behave while I'm gone.

[RevolutionaryActs]

151. Me behave?

[NewWaveChick1981]

88. He really needs to know how you feel about him...

:P I think you have an excellent chance with him... :bounce: :toast:

[graywarrior]

92. Bwahaha hahaha hahaha ahahahaha hahaha !!!

[RevolutionaryActs]

59. Great, as if it wasn't hard enough already to find a nice guy.

I have to worry about them hitting on my mom before me. :cry:


Nah, actually hitting on my mom isn't a bad thing, she's a hottie. :o

[NewWaveChick1981]

89. Not necessarily....

....As I recall, you're a hottie too! :bounce: :toast:

[RevolutionaryActs]

98. On a good day I can look pretty decent.

;)


Like today! I got off work early, so I went to the grocery store with mom, and there was this cute guy working there, he was stalking stuff on the aisle we were on. He said hi to us and smiled, but when I looked up and smiled back his smile got really big and gave me a little eyebrow raise. It's fun when cute boys check you out. :bounce:

[bleedingheart]

60. Some of them just want to be mothered and get sex...

I have a friend who is in her 50's and her boyfriend is 20 years younger....

From my observation...she cooks, she cleans, she takes care of him...and she gloats over her ex husband that she has a younger man...well I dunno...it seems that she just got another doofus to take care of...

[Downtown Hound]

64. For some of them this may be true

But I used to do all that stuff for my older girlfriend as well as pick her kids up from school everyday and buy her groceries. It isn't always because we want a mommy replacement that fucks, although I will admit it does happen. But deep relationships filled with love and respect can happen as well.

[bleedingheart]

72. true love happens in many ways..there is no arguing that

[NewWaveChick1981]

91. Not all of them...

...If I had to do that, I'd say no. :) I don't want a relationship where I'm a parent AND a SO. :)

[taterguy]

66. A crass reason is that breeding is out of the equation

Of course it depends on the ages involved but some younger women evaluate partners based on whether or not they'd want to raise children with them. Therefore men with poor parenting skills strike out with them. (I hope)

Older women have already had their children and/or decided they don't want more. This is quite appealing to those of us guys who don't want to be fathers.

[NewWaveChick1981]

94. True...

...I don't find that crass at all. It's not totally out of the equation for me yet (but with oral contraceptives it virtually is), but I don't want children. :)

[wildeyed]

69. I am more mellow now than when I was a young thang,

also vaguely grateful for the attention. So that may account for some of the attention I receive from younger men, even though I am clearly not all that young anymore. If I wasn't married, I would probably take a few of them up on the offers.......

[NewWaveChick1981]

95. I hear ya!

:hi: :bounce:

[RetroLounge]

70. To Quote Benjamin Franklin

But if you will not take this Counsel, and persist in thinking a Commerce with the Sex inevitable, then I repeat my former Advice, that in all your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. You call this a Paradox, and demand my Reasons. They are these:

1. Because as they have more Knowledge of the World and their Minds are better stor'd with Observations, their Conversation is more improving and more lastingly agreable.

2. Because when Women cease to be handsome, the study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Men, they supply the Dimunition of Beauty by the Augmentation of Utility. They learn to do 1000 Services small and great, and are the most tender and useful of all Friends when you are sick. Thus they continue amiable. And hence there is hardly such thing to be found as an old Woman who is not a good Woman.

3. Because there is no hazard of Children, which irregularly produc'd may be attended with much Inconvenience.

4. Because thro' more Experience, they are more prudent and discreet in conducting and Intrigue to prevent Suspicion. The Commerce with them is therefore safer with regard to your Reputation. And with regard to theirs, if the Affair should happen to be known, considerate People might be rather inclin'd to excuse an old Woman who would kindly take care of a young Man, form his Manners by her good Counsels, and prevent his ruining his Health and Fortune among mercenary Prostitutes.

5. Because in every animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part: the Face first grows lank and wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower Parts continuing to the last as plump as ever: So that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old from a young one. And as in the dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of corporal Enjoyment with an Old Woman is at least equal, and frequently superior, every Knack being by Practice capable of Improvement.

6. Because the Sin is less. The debauching of a Virgin may be her Ruin, and make her for Life unhappy.

7. Because the Compunction is less. The having made a young Girl miserable may give you frequent bitter Reflections; none of which can attend the making an old Woman happy.

8. They are so grateful!!

:rofl:

RL

[NewWaveChick1981]

97. LOL...

:rofl: Even Benjamin Franklin thought so... :rofl: :hi:

[RetroLounge]

140. I think you're actually younger than me...

but either way, Ben Franklin should have met you, and he would have REALLY discovered electricity...

:loveya:

RL

[NewWaveChick1981]

159. I think I'm two years or so younger than you...

:P :evilgrin: Thank you, you sexy thang... :loveya:

[Briarius]

71. so, you come around here often?

:rofl:

I definitely would say that I relate to "older" women better than those my own age mostly. That and the self confidence that many of them have is very sexy.

[NewWaveChick1981]

100. LOL....Every freaking day!

:rofl: :hi: I've said it before, but I'm at a much better stage of my life than I was in my 20s or 30s, and it feels so much better to me. :D

:loveya:

[Briarius]

113. Good for you!

:hug:

btw, nice shoes :P

[NewWaveChick1981]

158. Thanks...

:* :hug:

You mean the shoes I WASN'T wearing? :rofl: :evilgrin:

[hotforteacher]

75. I have YET to date a younger man (or woman for that matter).

However, the MILF craze post-"American Pie" makes things weird. As a single mother, I am not looking for a man to parent my child...I just want one with which to mambo with horizontally and engage in intellectual discourse and be unrepentently silly. MILF's, whilst we are hot and striving for excellence, seem to be great commerce for the Peter Pan.

I think that an older woman's options are expanding...I just hope it isn't a fetish of the times.

[NewWaveChick1981]

101. True. I also hope it's not just a fad.

:hi:

[martymar64]

76. Well, as a former younger guy,

I've also been attracted to the 30-45 age group ever since I was in my very early 20's and my relationships reflected it. Now at 42, that age group of attraction hasn't changed. I just grew into it! :evilgrin:

[NewWaveChick1981]

102. Well, then it's a good thing...

:hi: :evilgrin:

[WCGreen]

78. When I was 19.....

I was bangin' a gal of about 33-35...

She told me she liked me cause I was young and dumb and full of c**......


I also dated a few older women when I was in college....

[NewWaveChick1981]

104. Very cool, WC...

:hi: :bounce:

[cobalt1999]

82. It's just more accepted now.

I remember when my grandmother remarried after my grandfather died. She was 61 and the step-grandfather was 40. This was in 1960 and was quite the scandal back then. She always said she didn't want to marry an old man, they are too much work.

They stayed married until she died at the age of 97.

[NewWaveChick1981]

105. That's a great story!

And you're right---it's a lot more acceptable now. :)

[Road Scholar]

85. My Dear NWC 1981

If I chased after "older" women, I'd have to go out to Elder-Care and chase the fucking wheel chairs.:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[NewWaveChick1981]

107. OK, you're excused...

:rofl: :rofl: :hi: :pals:

[Road Scholar]

127. Hi GL

:hi: :pals:

[Aristus]

96. I'm not surprised you've got guys propositioning you, NWC.

You are, after all, sizzling hot! (I'm sorry some of them are repukes, though).

I've always been attracted to older women. My wife is eight years older than me, although to be fair, I didn't chase after her; she chased after me. I was too timid to chase such a gorgeous lady. Lucky for me she was a bold brazen woman! B-)

When I first saw the woman who is now my wife, I thought the little crinkles at the corners of her eyes were unspeakably sexy. She's smart, tough, confident and experienced (in MANY ways ;-) ) I could never go for a girl who vocabulary is dominated by "Um, like, you know?"

Older women RULE! :loveya:

[NewWaveChick1981]

109. Wow! Thanks, Aristus!

:loveya: :* Yep, their profiles are clearly 'Puke-oriented... :P

You're a lucky guy....but your wife is a very lucky woman too. :D :applause:

[Hell Hath No Fury]

103. I am a youngish 46...

and recently I buzzed my hair r-e-a-l-l-y close because I have severe alopecia and the hair loss was getting to extreme to hide anymore. So now my sparse hair is less than 1/2 an inch long and looks like a dalmation pattern of white and a touch of black (strangely, the white hair doesn't fall out, only the black). So, here I am feeling like a mutant freak out in public.

Here's the weird thing: I have had 20-something guys flirting with my like CRAZY!! I mean full-on, flirty talk, smiling, twinkling eyes stuff! At first I really didn't know what was going on, but it's been over three months and it has not stopped. :shrug:

Also weird, the guys my own age seem to look at me with a touch of horror in their eyes when they see me -- I can see them staring at my (lack of) hair and their eyes get wide.

I think the old guys see "cancer woman" and the young guys are seeing (for some reason) "hootchie mama".

Not that i'm complaining, mind you. :evilgrin:

[NewWaveChick1981]

110. That's great!

:hi: :applause: I'm glad they find you so attractive! And here you thought you were a freak.... :hug:

[Evoman]

111. I've only ever dated one older women.

And she was two years older than me (23 and 25). I really haven't seen it any more than usuual (younger men, older women)...but maybe its because a lot of the younger women prefer older guys and don't go out with guys their own age?

I don't think I have ever really been attracted to women more than 10 or 15 years older than me (I'm 27, and most of the women I find attractive tend to be less than 40). There are some exceptions (and it so happens you may be one of them ;)) but in general, I'm way too superficial. I prefer beauty to wisdom lol...hey, at least I'm honest. That being said, my girlfriend is extremely intelligent (scientist) and liberal....its doesn't hurt that she's hot as hell though.

[NewWaveChick1981]

117. Thanks for the input!

:hi:

[In_The_Wind]

122. Younger men can be lots of fun!

just sayin' :evilgrin:

[NewWaveChick1981]

160. Yes.

:evilgrin: ;)

[YankeyMCC]

123. Well when I was 18-29

It really didn't matter much about age to me, except that had to be at least my age. Even in my early 20's I found I usually just couldn't hold interest beyond a appreciative glance in 18-19-20 year old women. And in fact in my mid to late 20's I found (though no really specific decision just by chance) I was ending up with women 5 to 10 years older than me.

I ended up marring someone just 3 weeks younger. :shrug:

[NewWaveChick1981]

161. That's a pretty good track record...

:hi:

[Lydia Leftcoast]

141. Judging from my experience on websites

half the men who respond haven't read one's ad anyway.

Example: barely literate Republican married men looking for action on the side responding to my ad when I have specifically mentioned "legally and emotionally available," "intellectually aware and curious," and "left of center." :eyes:

[NewWaveChick1981]

162. LOL!

I'm not on myspace for anything except talking to DUers outside of DU, but it's very interesting to see the mix of people who are there and why they PM me. The 'Pukes are usually uninterested in anything except action. I've never been with anyone who wasn't a liberal, so they certainly wouldn't get very far, even if I WERE looking for something else. :rofl:

[NashVegas]

142. Is It Because We Don't Wear Undergarments As Outer Wear?

One of _the_ most unattractive fashion trends, IMO, is the chemise worn as a blouse/shirt.

Why wear such a pretty thing in a way that a) it gets all dirty and worn out so fast b) leaves no pretty surprise for when your real blouse comes off?

[NewWaveChick1981]

163. Must be.

There are a LOT of stupid trends out there...and usually by the time we get to the age we are, the novelty of trends has worn off. It certainly has for me. I wear things that are flattering and not just because some fashionista tells me I have to. :P And NO, no lingerie as outerwear!!!! :rofl: I freakin' hate that... :P

[Starbucks Anarchist]

143. I like that trend.

;)

[NewWaveChick1981]

164. Yay!

;) :* Glad you do...

[Lydia Leftcoast]

146. Two of my best relationships ever were with

men who were 1) 6 years younger and 2) 10 years younger.

However, both of them were very mature for their age and looked older than they were.

I haven't had any relationships recently, but in the past couple of years, I've had ongoing flirtations with several young sales clerks, waiters, and counter attendants.

However, I am NOT interested in men who are more than maybe five years older than me. At my age, I'm too conscious of the old guys who are looking for a nursemaid and/or housekeeper with benefits, and I don't want someone who is likely to up and die after a short time.

[NewWaveChick1981]

165. Good point...

:) There are pitfalls sometimes in both groups. My mother is a good example of a large age difference that worked very well---although her husband (my stepfather) was 20 years older than she was. They were both just looking for companionship, and he made her very happy. He did not have any expectation of the "housekeeper/nursemaid" scenario, and they just loved each other. They met when Mom was in her mid-40s and were together for 18 years, including 15 years of marriage. He died in 1999 at the age of 84.

It can work in both the younger man and the older man scenarios. :)

[Kat45]

150. Yeah! Isn't it great?

Like you, I used to be shy, so I didn't always have the opportunities when I was young. Then as I approached (and passed) 50, I found myself having more and better sex than ever! I had a "friend with benefits" 15 years younger than me for close to three years, off and on (mostly on). (Surprisingly, I was the one who ended up ending that relationship, because I met someone who I'm now involved with.) :hi:

[NewWaveChick1981]

166. I love your attitude!

:hi: :bounce: I'm glad to hear it! I have no plans for ever returning to the shy girl I was years ago. :P :toast: :bounce:

[u4ic]

152. I'm noticing that, too

When I was in my 20's and 30's, I was usually hit on by guys in their 50's; now it tends to be late 20's-mid 30's (I'm 40).

Most don't realize my age, and only one ever expressed a :yoiks: when he found out.

The last chap I dated was 12 years younger than me, but to be honest, it was boring. I'm not going to categorize all like that, most certainly. He was concentrating on his career and had very few outside interests...I don't know if he could have even named the Prime Minister (he did at least know who the provincial Premier was...) :silly:

[NewWaveChick1981]

167. Very cool, u4ic!

And it's great to see you! :hi: :bounce: Most guys couldn't guess my age if they tried because I really don't look it, just like you. :) The ones on myspace, though, have it right there in front of them. I don't know if they're just not paying attention or if that's attractive to them, but there you go. :P

[u4ic]

177. It's great to see you, too, NWC

and wonderful to be back, though I've still got a lot I should be unpacking instead of hanging in the Lounge...:P

[Akoto]

153. Well, being a 21 year old guy ...

I can say that I do prefer older women!

I've never gotten along with people in my own age group, even as friends. I'm very mellow and mature in attitude, and the wild behavior that's otherwise common to people my age makes me uneasy.

Older women tend to have calmed down a bit, which makes me more comfortable with being around them. I've also found that women my own age just find me to be too calm/tame for their tastes!

In the end, though, what attracts me to a woman is shared interests. A would like a woman who shares my interest in computers, politics, reading, movies, having fun.

[NewWaveChick1981]

168. That is a very cool attitude, Akoto...

:hi: And it's great to know what's going through your head when it comes to older women. :)

[Anarcho-Socialist]

154. My S.O. is 14 years older than me

I've always been attracted to older women for reasons of: maturity, intelligence, worldliness, caring and appreciative nature. I also find the physical form of ages 35-55 to be very appealing to me. I'm 24 years old.

[NewWaveChick1981]

169. That's wonderful, AS!

:hug: :bounce: :* :loveya: May your attitude toward older women never change... :D

[Anarcho-Socialist]

172. Thanks Sweetie

:hug: :loveya: You're a darling! :*

[lildreamer316]

156. My man is 4 years younger than me--29, in fact.

Yep; his saturn return is killing me too...but it's ok.
He is wonderful and patient and wise and kind. And he thinks I'm beautiful, bless his heart. He's proud of me and I tell ya, I love having him as arm candy to boot.

BTW, hit us up on myspace...I have the same name minus the numbers.

[NewWaveChick1981]

170. lildreamer, I'm really happy for you!

:bounce: :toast: That's fantastic... :D

Will do about myspace... :D

[ScreamingMeemie]

157. MrG is 38 days younger than me.

and makes a huge deal of it whenever he can. I don't think it's boredom. I think it's that certain preconceived notions are being broken. If it's okay for Ashton, it's okay for everyone. :hi:

[NewWaveChick1981]

171. Exactly...

:hi: :bounce: :toast:

[PVnRT]

173. Older women tend to avoid the dramatic bullshit

that you see in women in their 20's, many of whom seem to be laboring under the fantasy that relationships are supposed to be how they are in romantic comedies. Older women know better and are much more relaxed and mature about the whole thing.

[Brewman_Jax]

174. Look at it this way...

you can't fault them for their good taste. ;-)

Of course, stay away from repuglicans. :P

[buddhamama]

175. i have noticed it too,

over the past month or so i have seen three couples where the woman was obviously older than the man.

i think it's great. love should not be restricted by age.

[MissMillie]

176. Well, I suppose

If I were just looking for sex, the idea of a younger man finding me attractive would have some appeal.

But when you're looking for a long-term thing, and even men your own age can't be trusted to act their age, the propsect of a younger man is not at all appealing.

[ForrestGump]

178. My whole life, I've been attracted to women who're 43 years old

(and by "old" I mean, of course, "young")....so you'll be free of me next year, baby.

:P

And, yes, 'older' women seem to have become more widely desired -- as far as I can tell -- in the past 20 years. I think it's a nice counterpoint to the ageism still so widely apparent in various societies. Maybe the whole Dynasty thing and the aging of eternal movie and music beauties like Sofia Loren, Ann Margret, and Tina Turner (among many others) has something to do with it. Though there was always, of course, the Mrs Robinson Effect.

[gr8dane_daddy]

179. I concur...

growing up lusting after Ginger did it for me....as did Mary Ann..