Just learned that a good friend committed suicide

[skygazer]

Beautiful girl, sweet, tortured, depressive, haunted by the fact that her mother shot herself when my friend was a teenager. Her daughter is about the same age she was when she lost her mom.

Rest in peace, my friend. I hope you've found it. :cry:

[qnr]

1. I never know what to say :( n/t

[YDogg]

2. I'm sorry to hear that.

Suicide in a family can be a horrible demon for those left behind.

[skygazer]

4. That's exactly what happened here

Her father abandoned her mom when she was little, her mom shot herself when my friend was about 17. And she did the exact same thing. I can't put blame on someone who was so obviously screwed up but it's so tragic that her daughter will now carry exactly the burden she did. :(

[YDogg]

6. In one situation I'm particularly close to ...

... five children were horribly scarred by their father's suicide, and it wasn't until they had all passed the age he was when he ended his life that they were able to put a piece of that hurt behind them. Somehow they all had to "make it" past the age he was, to show that they were strong enough to get some level of fear out of their systems.

It was the same for all five kids, even though it was not something they talked about much. Just so very sad, and I hope that you friend's daughter can persevere.

[gemdem]

3. I'm deeply sorry

Please accept my condolences. May your friend now know the peace that she could not find here.

:hug:

[bigwillq]

5. How sad.

I am very sorry for this loss.

My thoughts are with the daughter.

:hug:

[Gormy Cuss]

7. So sorry for your friend, her family, and her friends, especially you.

Her poor daughter. I hope that she isn't tormented by the same demons and can find peace.
:hug:

[Haole Girl]

8. I'm sorry

I found this on a sympathy card, I bought today, for my husband's family. I hope you don't mind me sharing it with you:


It's okay to be angry
It's okay to be sad
It's also okay to smile
and remember
the good times.

Take Care



:hug: :hug:

[MissB]

9. I'm so sorry.

I hope her daughter finds peace as well.

[speedoo]

10. I'm very sorry.

I pray for her daughter to escape this.

And for you...:hug:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

11. I hope and pray that her daughter

isn't afraid to seek help.

I'm so sorry for your loss...and for your friend's daughter. :hug:

When will we start treating depression like the illness it is?

[skygazer]

13. Well, that's one of the sadder things about this

For as long as I've known her (about 10 years), she's been under doctors' care - psychaitrists and medical doctors alike, trying everything - therapy, meds, all that.

I'm bi-polar - she and I could relate in regards to those things but where I found my way out of the tunnel, she just never did.

Not all illnesses can be cured. Even when you try. :(

[GoddessOfGuinness]

23. Sad but true...

Which is why we need to adequately fund research...

[rockymountaindem]

12. Wow, that's horrible

You have my condolences.

[Shine]

14. Oh, that's so sad.

no soft landing for something like that, skygazer. :hug: My condolences for your loss.

[skygazer]

25. It could have been me

This coming April will mark 10 years since the day my best friend found me in an old cemetery with a loaded .38. It was a very close thing.

I can't lay blame on my friend - she was so desperately unhappy, in so much pain. She had no idea what she was doing except that she couldn't take the pain anymore. I know how that feels.

There but for the grace of god (or whatever) go I.

[Shine]

28. Wow, that's heavy.

My mother attempted suicide, twice, when I was about 7 yrs old. She came really really close to being successful, but fortunately wasn't. Years later, my younger sister also attempted suicide, when she was in her mid-20's. Both of them have struggled with mental illness and depression.

I can't express in words how strange it is for me to have had the two closest women in my life feel so depressed about their lives and in so much pain that ending it seemed the only viable option. I have Compassion for them, of course, but it's very difficult for me, personally, to relate to what that would feel like. I've never experienced depression like that and I hope I never do.

I'm glad you didn't pull the trigger, skygazer. You've got a lot more livin' and lovin' to do on this planet. :hug: :loveya: :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

15. Oh skygazer... I hope the cycle is broken.

:hug: My heart goes out to you. MrG's father committed suicide..and his father before him. For a while I worried that MrG would look at this as a valid solution. He said he would never put his children through that. I will hope for your friend's daughter...that she is able to cope and find closure. :(

[skygazer]

16. I have hope for her

My friend had no real support system when she lost her mom - it was just her and her younger brother. Her daughter's dad is going to take her home with him - he and my friend have been apart for a number of years but he's always been a part of his daughter's life and he has a nice family. Hopefully she can overcome history.

Thanks. :hug:

[bigwillq]

17. Oh wow.

I never knew that.

:hug: to Mr. G :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

18. It was a horrible day.

It was Father's Day 2000. We hadn't heard from his dad (an alcoholic) and were trying the tough love solution. MrG decided to go check on him. I'll never forget the phone call. He walked in and found him. I will never be able to erase the memory of that sight from his mind... He felt extremely guilty for a very long time and only in the past two years has he been able to come to terms with it. Suicide is a horrible situation...leaving many victims. :hug: Thanks! :hug:

[bigwillq]

19. My best girl friend's dad

killed himself.
She was 15.
Had a real tough life b.c of it but she has overcome.

:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

20. I am so glad she was able to do that...

I really fear that it will get worse as the financial and social conditions in this country worsen.

[skygazer]

21. I'm so sorry

For you and MrG both. What a hard thing to deal with! It must have been very frightening knowing that legacy was there. :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

22. I was really worried for a long time...

MrG has said since that it was probably a good thing that he found him... that he would not, could not ever put his own children through that. :hug:

I really do hope that your friend's daughter is okay. I know how rough it must be for you...going over and over everything time and again. There is a website called 1000 deaths (based on the saying that a suicide dies one death, their survivors die a thousand deaths...wondering if they could have changed things). My thoughts will be with you... :hug:

[Left Is Write]

24. I'm so sorry.

That's heartbreaking. My heart goes out to you, skygazer, and your friend's daughter.

[ikojo]

26. May your friend's memory be for a

blessing.

zichranon livracha.

My brother committed suicide July 2001..I know the pain suicide leaves behind.

:cry: :hug:

[Zavulon]

27. I'd give anything I had to know what to say in situations like this.

I've been there. A buddy of mine, my best friend during Basic and tech school, killed himself the night he learned he got stop-lossed in 1991. Fifteen years later and not a day has gone by where I haven't thought of it.

My deepest condolences, that's all I've got. I'm really sorry to hear this.

[Th1onein]

29. I am so sorry.

Melanie