How long have you been married to the same person?

[survivor999]

I'm still too young to think about marriage and all that. But I'm curious about it. Pretty much all my friend's parents are divorced. Mine aren't, buy they're never together.

[OwnedByFerrets]

1. Which time?

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[lcordero2]

LOL

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[tuvor]

2. 17 years this Monday.

Almost all of my best friends' parents were divorced, too.

[madokie]

3. 16 years I think

[riderinthestorm]

4. 20 years married in August, 22 years together

He made dinner for me at his house on our first date and I never left.
:evilgrin:

[redwitch]

5. 25 years next May

Damn, I love that boy!

[MuseRider]

12. Me too!

Hard to believe isn't it? 25 years, man.

[redwitch]

53. May 22 is our anniversary

What's yours? :hi:

[MuseRider]

111. May 8th!

It is so hard to believe it has been almost 25 years. Congratulations to you two. :toast:

[karlrschneider]

6. I'm not married but have been with my SO since 1981.

:D

[LibDemAlways]

7. 33 years. I (foolishly) got married at 20.

Wouldn't do that again! Had my one and only child just in time for my 20th wedding anniversary!

[Windy]

16. Me too..... will be our 27th anniversary in December n/t

[ribrepin]

64. I was married on October 20, 1973--33 years tomorrow

I was a little older--23. Still too young, but we made it work.

[AlCzervik]

8. my 15th wedding anniversary was on the 1st anniversary of Tom Delay's

indictment!

[notadmblnd]

9. My husband and I stuck it out til the end

he died 3 years ago. He wasn't one to make committments and I imagine the one he made to me was his only. We were only married 15 years before he passed at age 54. We didn't marry til I was 30 so our time together was short.

[survivor999]

10. Wow! More than 20 years!!!

That's a long time! Glad to see it's possible!

[snot]

11. I'm 52; stayed married for only 3 yrs; and have no regrets about that

the married part and the totally single parts were the worst; but most of the time I've had great boyfriends who each helped me grow in ways I doubt I could have if I'd stayed with the same person much longer than I did. Marriage is overrated, at least for women.

I read somewhere of a survey that established that the happiest folks are older single women, the most miserable are older single men, second most miserable younger married women; and I find all that pretty credible.

[tg]

13. Almost 15 years, but

we lived together for 12 1/2 before getting married. FWIW, my second, her first. -tg

[NMDemDist2]

14. married my best friend 14 years ago

we're still married and he's still my best friend :bounce:

[Mz Pip]

15. 31 years

my second, his first. Seems married people are in the minority these days. But, for me I've been married too long to think of any other way.

Mz Pip
:dem:

[wicket]

17. We've been together 6.5 years

Not married though.

[democrat in Tallahassee]

18. married 27 years and we dated 10 years before that!

Of course, I was only 2 when we met.

[bluedog]

19. Guess I am the winner so far......39 years.last June

married in 1967............seems so long ago.........

[riderinthestorm]

22. I like that kind of winning!

:toast:

[fedupinBushcountry]

29. Beat me 36 years

but we met in '67.

[TheCowsCameHome]

40. Wow. that subject line was a little shocking at first.......

Anyway, congrats!

[fedupinBushcountry]

103. OMG

it sorta is huh? Well I think you got my drift, a comma woulda helped :rofl:

[DemReadingDU]

20. 36 years!

wow, many longtime marriages!


Edit to add: I'm amazed that so many who read DU, are older folks! I had assumed that it would be mostly 30-somethings, but more than half are in their 50's & 60's!

[union_maid]

21. 30 years next June

Of course, I was married for a few years and one daughter previously. That one didn't take, but this one seems to be working out. The first 25 years are the hardest.

[tularetom]

23. 45 years next August

2 kids, 3 grandkids, a great grandkid on the way, 2 horses, 3 dogs, 5 cats, how she's put up with it all I'll never know.

[riderinthestorm]

35. Wow! More winners!!

:toast:

[papau]

38. Sweet - We're 45 together, 42 married with offspring but sans the

horse and cats (but 3 dogs to date - the newest being the most loving 9 month old dog in the world!).

The why "she's put up with it" question also has no answer in my home - I guess the ladies are a bit closer to Sainthood then the men!

[papau]

24. So where is 30+ and 40+ and 50+ years? This is a Democratic Party

board - not a GOP "family" values populated group. I know there are more than myself at 40+ and I suspect there are 50+ in the crowd.

And being together all the rime is tough to do in a 2 working persons family. Limited together time doesn't mean a thing. Folks still love each other and value their time together.

[moc]

49. My parents have been married 47 years and are Dems through and through.

The only blogs Dad does are travel blogs. :-)

[papau]

65. We are getting to that stage also - travel/food/ shoe shopping - the last

one is not by me! :-)

[Tikki]

81. 40 years next August......

The Tikkis

[Withywindle]

107. A younger crowd I guess...

My parents are also hardcore Dems to the bone, and they're at 38 years.

And FYI, they were 19 and 23, and they eloped after dating for three months (there were INS issues involved). There were tough times, oh yes. But they saw it through.

:toast:

[Freedom_from_Chains]

25. Shouldn't the last selection be < 20 yrs not > 20 yrs?

[mnhtnbb]

26. Second time 22 years and two kids. First time 7 years--no kids

Divorced for 5 years in between marriages. Smartest thing I did in first marriage was not having kids--dumbest thing was getting married at 21.

[rzemanfl]

27. Unlike Repukes, DUers don't divorce their wives and marry their

twenty-something secretaries when they hit their late 40's or early 50's.

29 years here.

[survivor999]

47. I think this is true.

The more someone talks about morals and the more likely it is that they are completely immoral in the privacy of their home :)

[TheCowsCameHome]

28. 42 years this week. Couldn't be happier, either.

[sce56]

30. Celebrated tenth 28th september but have been seperated for almost

one&half years final divorce court date maybe 13 Nov uhmm number one marriage was for 11 years. In both cases the divorce was not my idea!


Got Fascism Yet?

[Blue_In_AK]

31. Three and a half years this time around.

#1 1.5 years
#2 7 years
#3 almost 17 years.

This is absolutely the last time.

[KharmaTrain]

32. 30 Years...24 Years "Legal"...

My parents made it to 60 years...so I have a ways to go. Even though my mother used to call her marriage "The 50 Years War"

Great to see so many other DUers who really know the definition of "family values".

:toast:

Cheers...

[screembloodymurder]

33. 38 years -

tonight.

[riderinthestorm]

42. What are you doing posting on DU? Get thyself to your spouse!

Congrats!!!!

:toast:

[spacelady]

51. Congratulations! Happy Anniversary & Many More!

[BootinUp]

34. 18 Yrs.

:)

together for 21 total.

[rurallib]

36. 32 years and we've really tested that 'for better, for worse' clause

Mrs. Lib had a brain hemorrhage in our 5th year and it has been very rough. We hung together and raised two kids though.........................................

[moc]

44. Oh my.

I'm sorry to hear that. Mr. moc and I have been tested as well (not like that though). I kind of think if you can get through the tough times, the place you get to on the other side has a depth of love that makes it worth it in a way. Steel being forged by fire and all that.

[moc]

37. 16 years this past August. Got married when I was 28...(m)

Mr. moc was 34 when we married.

Don't rush into it. When it's right, you'll know. I can't tell you how many people I know who said they had doubts on their wedding day. All of them are divorced. I never had a second thought. Like I said, when it's right, you know it.

[proud patriot]

39. 11 years Dec 9th

We have know each other since jr high....

Married at 26 :hi:

[spacelady]

41. Just celebrated our 15th on Oct. 12th. So far, so good.

[sandnsea]

43. 24 years

Actually, 11 days ago.

Where's that noose smilie??

(I keed, I keed)

[Bonhomme Richard]

45. 31 years............n/t

[Liberal Veteran]

46. 16 years....but we aren't "legally" married cause we are gay.

But what the fuck? We've been together for 16 years as a monogamous couple.

[Lilith Velkor]

48. Never been married

Breakups are messy enough without having to go to court for it.

[survivor999]

50. Looks like DU is very monogamous!

:)

[survivor999]

52. Congratulations to all!

[ribrepin]

54. 33 years tomorrow

October 20, 1973, I married my husband. Not sure how we made it, but we did!

[true_notes]

55. 1 year

Today. Happy Anniversary to me ;)

[sweetheart]

56. 10

[Missy Vixen]

57. We've been married 13 years

This is the first (and only,) marriage for me.

Julie

[MODemocrat]

58. Why didn't you put over 20 years?

My husband and I got married on July 21st, 1950. We've been together continuously, without any
separation. We have three adult children, and 9 grandchildren. I know! we're boring, but happy.
:loveya:

[Buck Laser]

59. Celebrating our 49th in December...we might make 50!

[GoddessOfGuinness]

74. I hope you do...

:toast:

[salinen]

60. When I was 38 I met a 20 year old

and she was so sweet and nice. So I divorced my insane "speaking in tongues" wife and married my sweetie. Everyone was aghast. They all knew she was a trophy wife and it would never last.

10 years later and I'm still madly in love.

[kwyjibo]

61. 2 weeks on saturday!

[Left Is Write]

62. Nine years.

[Dinger]

63. 26 Years This December (nt)

[A Brand New World]

66. Coming up on 32 years, next April. Plus we dated for 5 years before

we got married. I've known him since I was 14. We've been through a lot together, both good and bad.

[SoCalDem]

67. almost 37 years..:) n/t

[Ellen Forradalom]

68. Marriage isn't a competition

Sometimes it works for 50 years, and sometimes it doesn't.

[survivor999]

70. When it doesn't work it can be for many reasons

Does not mean people are bad...

[WinkyDink]

69. 33 years here!

[Ryan from Canada]

71. Newlywed

Together 7 years, married < 1.

[elfrangel]

79. Congratulations!!

Welcome to DU! :hi:




edit: spelling

[datadiva]

72. 45 years

Been married since I was 16. He was 26. Happily. Democrats for life.

[Broken_Hero]

73. 2 1/2 years so far...:)

Still going strong..:hi:

[borlis]

75. 18 years on October 1. Think long and hard before you do it.

It sure isn't what I thought it would be. I haven't been truly happy in years and with 3 kids I am pretty much stuck for a while. The funny thing is that most the women I know think the same way. They would probably never do it again if given the chance.

[City Lights]

90. Hiya, borlis!

I'll second your thoughts. Getting married was the biggest mistake of my life. None of the women I know would ever do it again. :puke: Ain't worth it!

Having a husband (mine anyway) is just like having another kid.

on edit: I've been married for 17 years.

[Gold Metal Flake]

76. 18 married, together for 23.

Time flies.

[elfrangel]

77. My hubby & I

will celebrate our 9 year wedding anniversary in 2007.

[leftofthedial]

78. I'm divorced

but I was married for over 20 years.

[RetroLounge]

80. 10 years today...

RL

[u4ic]

83. .

:hug:

[KitchenWitch]

113. .....

:hug: :loveya:

[Carla in Ca]

82. We celebrate our 26th in February

To me, he is still the finest person I have ever met.

[SoyCat]

84. Dated five years before marrying and married ten years

[NewWaveChick1981]

85. 14 years.

We knew each other for nine years before we got married (we dated the last six of those years). Got married August of 1992. It hasn't been all rosy, but we're still together.

[mainegreen]

86. 1 year in a week. nt

[LaraMN]

87. 8 years. n/t

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

88. Approaching 10 years and not gonna end anytime soon!

:loveya:

[scarlet_owl]

89. Six years.

[swimboy]

91. Just celebrated our 15th anniversary

funny thing is, they won't let us get married. Has something to do with defending their own marriages. I don't understand it really.


Actually I do--it's called ignorance, fear, bigotry, manipulation . . .

[tjwmason]

97. I had no idea it was so long.

that's over half of my entire life old-man :P

:toast: to a charming couple

[swimboy]

101. I'm so old I don't know how I even get around.

:P

It's one-third of MY entire life now. It gets a little freaky to contemplate. :crazy:


Cheers!

[bumblebee1]

92. 20 yrs next May. n/t

[LibertyLover]

93. 8 years

and 1 day actually (yesterday was our 8th year anniversary).

[azmouse]

94. Married for 19.5 yrs!

He's still my best friend. :hug:

[Mr. McD]

95. Married 20 years next April BUT

we have lived together almost 23 years.

[raccoon]

96. Just for the record, length of time people have been married

is no indication of it being a happy marriage.

It may be. But plenty of people stay unhappily married to their spouse due to fear, inertia, don't want to split up their assets, etc.

[Shine]

98. 13 yrs.

:loveya: lucky 13!

[mikeytherat]

99. 16 years last Friday

:woohoo:

mikey_the_rat

[Fleshdancer]

100. we're working on our 9th year

I'm not sick of him yet so I think he's a keeper :D

[ganeshji]

102. 9 long, long years

[LynzM]

104. 4.5 years!!

Feels too damn good to be true, with him. :)

[qnr]

105. 3 years, but we've been effectively married for more than 12 n/t

[youthere]

106. Coming up on 19 for Mr. youthere and myself...

which means we've been together for 21. He is my best friend.

[BamaGirl]

108. 12 years

First marriage for both of us.

[Mendocino]

109. 22 years last month.

Through good times and tough times, but worth every minute.

[Spacemom]

110. 13 years

I know it's sappy, but he really is my best friend. We're perfectly suited to each other. :loveya:

[mockmonkey]

112. Been married over 3 years

It's my first marriage and I got married at 43 years old. I saw no reason to rush things. :)

[Dulcinea]

114. 9 1/2 years.

We'll celebrate our 10-year anniversary March 22.

We've been together for 14 years, though--dated for 3 years, lived together for a year, & took the plunge. I'm glad I did.

[yy4me]

115. 43 years, and yes, we do finish each others sentences.

n/t

[Throckmorton]

116. Less than a year for my current wife

12 years, 5 months, and 2 days, with my first wife, and everyone of them was better than the last.

[speedoo]

117. Would have been 41 years, a few months ago!

But it *only* lasted 35:

Five years of lust and bliss....

Twenty years building a family, raising kids and getting them through college...

And then, instead of being happy we had all that... it just ended with ten years of phony stature and unhappiness.

[grace0418]

118. 9 years as of last Wednesday.

And we dated for 9 years before we got married. We've now been a couple for longer than we weren't (we met when we were 18).

[Dervill Crow]

119. 33 years. 34 in January. n/t

[Kool Kitty]

120. 26 years as of June, 2006.

Funny, it feels longer....