LeftyMom's Rules of Single Motherhood #1

[LeftyMom]

Always be smarter than your ex.

LeftyDad, who has all the maturity of a brain damaged puppy, minus the good looks and charm, has decided he doesn't want to answer the phone when I call. This is his typical MO, ignore responsibility and it might go away eventually. That's a small problem since I need to reach him about something. He works for my Dad (who hired him based on the erroneous theory that if he had a decent job he'd cough up some child support every now and then.) So what did I do? I called him from my Dad's call phone. You have to pick up if it might be the boss. :evilgrin:

LD: Steve?

LM: What time are you picking up (leftykid)?

LD: I thought this would be Steve. The caller ID was his number. :wtf:

LM: That's why I called from this number. Never forget that I'm smarter than you. Care to answer the question?

LD: blah blah blah

[Gormy Cuss]

1. Goodness gracious.

He isn't much of an intellectual challenge now is he?
:rofl:

[GOPisEvil]

2. Good Lord...

His synapses are a little slow on the fire, aren't they.

[MrCoffee]

3. That's not fair. You seem to be fighting way below your weight.

and i'm totally stealing "Never forget that I'm smarter than you."

just so you know.

[mainegreen]

4. Your dad hired him? Do the other other employees do his work?

Because he doesn't sound very reliable or motivated!

[BlueIris]

12. Yeah. Nothing against your dad, but...I'm kinda worried about his business.

I mean...gah.

GOOD LORD.

[ThomCat]

5. What kind of ass wouldn't want to spend time

with a kid as adorable and smart as LeftyKid? I'd be asking your permission to spend MORE time with him.

What a maroon. x(

[LeftyMom]

6. He just picked him up five hours late.

:( The kid deserves better.

[ThomCat]

8. So do you.

But you're not related to him, and LeftKid is his son. So, your point is definitely valid. If he's going to be considerate of any one person on earth it should be his son.

[Cheney Killed Bambi]

7. Ha ha ha

You are very clever. TO bad for your ex-spouse that he is not.

[dpbrown]

9. How did he ever talk you into having sex with him?

Never mind.

[CC]

10. Take him to

court.
My SIL (second marriage) took her ex to court over his not picking up their 3 kids for his visitation. She felt they needed a relationship with him and he was going to be dad like it or not. The judge told him what time he would pick up the kids, what time they would be brought home and threw him in jail for a weekend the first time he was late and doubled his child support. She also made it a habit to tell him she was smarter than he was.:evilgrin: Mind you she didn't like him but she felt that the kids needed to know their father, that they are grown now and don't like him is his fault. She never said a word against him, just let him make his own bed.

[BlueIris]

13. Interesting.

I'm kinda hoping that someday...not that LeftyM needs it or anything to lead a stable life...(whispers) Lefty finds a nice person who is interested in being with her and her kid.

[CC]

14. Well SIL didn't do it

to be mean or anything like that and she never told the kids. She just couldn't take watching the kids wait and wait then cry when he didn't show up. Then he wouldn't answer the phone when the kids tried calling him. Her feelings on it were that whatever was between the two adults was between them but she was not going to tolerate broken hearted kids because he wanted to get even with her.

It is an option most people don't think of though. Many will fight for visitation or child support but you rarely hear of anyone fighting for the kid's right to visitation. Now it would be different if you had to worry about emotional or physical abuse to the child if one parent is forced to spend time with them of course.

[Porcupine]

11. He's the only father the kid will ever have. Deal with it..........

with kindness or teach your child to be a prick to those less talented, gifted, enlightened or awake than he thinks he is. At about 15 that will be most of the human race.

Everbody screws up. Leftykid needs to know that he will be both corrected and loved when his turn to screw up comes around. Use all available examples.

Take him to court when he needs a dope slap but get out of the habit of dumping on your kids dad; it doesn't become you.


I'm in a very nasty divorce myself and frequently find myself having to defend my ex when my daughters dump on her. If I look back and find that I did anything preventable to distance my girls from their mom I believe I will feel sick.