Why is it so damn hard to lose weight???

[MissHoneychurch]

:cry:

[Omphaloskepsis]

1. Why is it so damn hard to gain weight???

6' and 135 pounds. Fuck. I eat tons and can't put on a pound. I even lift weights.

[Heidi]

2. Are you trying to gain weight for health reasons?

As I recall from one of the rare photos you posted, you look just fine. :hug:

[Omphaloskepsis]

13. My doctor thinks I have Marfan Syndrome.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marfan_syndrome (I went in with a severe case of arthritis, I was 20 and couldn't write on paper without severe pain)

Gaining weight won't help that. I want to put on a few pounds so the ladies will love me.

edit -- the pain in my hands went away after a few years.. I'm better now.. The cause of that is unknown.. Marfan still stands.

[Heidi]

15. Well,

this lady loves ya where you pack on some pounds or not. So there.

[Omphaloskepsis]

16. Awesome..

Ohhh. PBS has a show on about Mother Earths magnetic field is flipping. Awesome. I just called it mother earth, I have lived in Eugene for too long. I'm a hippie now.


And, thanks for the kind words, and you type really fucking fast.

[Heidi]

17. 120 wpm.

It's my only redeeming quality. :D

You won't be a real hippy until you start calling it "Gaia." :P

[Omphaloskepsis]

26. Jesus..I'm at 50... And I make money from keystrokes..

Compassion, humility, and humour. That is why I digg you.. You are a good person.

And I call it, 'The ball of fire that revolves around the Earth.' Flat Earth Forever.....

edit -- you were talking about earth.. I was thinking sun... Damn, I'm stupid sometimes..

[Heidi]

30. Here's something to give you good dreams.

I just received part of my book order this morning, so I'll spend some of the day with this _beautiful_ book. Sweet dreams, my friend. :hug:

[Omphaloskepsis]

34. Are you hinting that I should hit the sheets..?

I still have about 30 minutes left in me. I'm dense.

[Heidi]

37. Dense in a _good_ way, right?

:P

I'm lovin' this book of Kerouac paintings. *Swoon*

Here's a documentary about Kerouac: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5JwS36Sbzzs

[Omphaloskepsis]

43. Dense in the best way...

Good night.. I always enjoy our late night tomfoolery. 3:06am here.. Time for sweet, sweet, sleep.

[MissHoneychurch]

6. Now I feel even worse

5'4 and 160 pounds. Do you want 20 pounds from me?

[Oeditpus Rex]

12. Sounds good to me

:loveya:

But it's not about me or anyone else, is it?

If you want to do this for you, you'll get a lot of support here. But if you want to do it for someone else, I'd say they're not worth it.

As far as I'm concerned, you don't need to change a thing.

Well... except your location. It should be much closer to mine.

[MissHoneychurch]

19. It is about me and no one else

I hate to see how I don't fit in my beautiful dresses and skirts anymore. I don't like the double chin when I am laughing.

And btw, I would love to change my location.

[Heidi]

3. So that after we lose it, we'll have a reminder that

we don't ever want to go through that again? :shrug:

:hug: gf. Good vibes to you. :pals:

[MissHoneychurch]

7. True enough

but I really have problems to lose weight. And I need to lose weight. And I don't like sport that much. Argh.

Thanks for the hug and the vibes

:hug:

[Guava Jelly]

4. Awww I think you are perfect MissH

Wieghtloss is just very hard and slow.
I think you look fine to me :loveya:

[MissHoneychurch]

8. Thanks GoP

I just don't like myself the way I look at the moment. And I know I need and want to lose weight. My problem is that I like to eat and that I don't like sport. Makes it not really more easy.

:hug:

[Guava Jelly]

10. It never is missH

It took me almost 9 months and a little heartbreak to lose my wieght.
But i wouldn't suggest my diet plan :)

[MissHoneychurch]

20. I always say

the only positive side effect of heartbreak or being in love without knowing if or what is the unintented diet.

[Guava Jelly]

29. yup

here is me last halloween

[MissHoneychurch]

35. You accomplished quite a lot

:thumbsup:

[Guava Jelly]

38. Thank you!

Still ain't where i wanna be
But i'm getting there

[MissHoneychurch]

41. Check your pm's

:)

[Guava Jelly]

5. self delete

double post

[Robeson]

9. I have no idea of what you are talking about. When you lifted...

...up your shirt, to show me your tattoo, you sure looked good to me....;-) :hi:

[Guava Jelly]

11. pictures would be nice

:evilgrin:

[MissHoneychurch]

22. As you wish

[Guava Jelly]

23. I guess that will do

Cute bunch you guys are :)

[MissHoneychurch]

28. We had fun that evening

and the Margaritas were really yummy

[MissHoneychurch]

21. Yeah

but you didn't see me beforehand trying to on a dress I brought and that didn't fit :cry:

[Robeson]

24. I'm sorry you went through that, MissHoneychurch....

...but I think you're beautiful, inside and out....:-)

[MissHoneychurch]

27. Awww thanks Robeson

:hug:

I did mention that I really like you and MrsRobeson as well, did I?

Tell her hello from me.

[Robeson]

32. Yes you have, and we both feel the same way...

...and our kitties love you too! And trust me, they don't sit still and let just anyone pet them... :grouphug:

[MissHoneychurch]

36. I am thinking about visiting MissAirmens next year again

for a week or so if I have the money. I could imagine flying to Nashville and see you again as well :D

:hug:

[Robeson]

39. That would be awesome! Please let us know if you decide to do it...

...as you know, we have much to discuss!...;-)

[MissHoneychurch]

40. We sure do

we need to continue our discussion from September ;)

And you can be sure that I will let you know.

[RoyGBiv]

14. Because you're genetically superior ...

Hard to overcome that.

When the crash really and truly comes, you will not even be tempted to ask this question.

[billyskank]

18. Because your body doesn't want to

It gets fixed to a certain weight, and tries very hard to maintain it. It is very difficult to reset it. That is why people can lose weight temporarily but it piles back on quickly.

[MissHoneychurch]

25. I gained about 10 pounds

within the last year. I want to get down to 140 pounds. I don't wanna be skinny or anything, just back to what I was 2 years ago. I was happy with that weight. I am not with what I have now. I am heavyboned to start with so I will always weight something.

[billyskank]

42. 140 pounds seems reasonable

Good luck! :hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

44. Thanks billy

:hug:

[gr8dane_daddy]

31. hey Ms H.

hang in there...weightloss is more of a state of mind than anything else. I'm on that same trek myself. You have your good days and bad. But you just have to be strong minded to be successful. what kind of plan are you doing?

[MissHoneychurch]

33. I tried different things

Weigh Watchers, gym, fastening.

Nothing is really my thing. At the moment I try to eat less and more healthy.

I was down 5 pounds already but got them back when I was on vacation in the States.

[mduffy31]

45. Because my love

You have to eat to live, it is easy to quit drugs and drinking, but you have to eat to live. I had a lot of trouble losing weight with exercise, diet the whole nine. I finally resorted to Lap-Banding. That is the only thing that has really worked for me. Now that was the answer for me, I am not saying everyone should do what I did.

[MissHoneychurch]

46. What is Lap-Banding?

I never heard of that. Or maybe I have but I just know the German term for it and not the English one.

[mduffy31]

48. It is basically the put a band around the top of your stomach

and make a pouch to reduce the size of your stomach so you get full faster. It is the same principle as gastric bypass but it is totally reversible and doesn't have the complications of actually removing the organ.

[MissHoneychurch]

49. Thank you

I kinda thought that was what you ment.

[Red State Rebel]

71. Congrats! I had DS Surgery - 120 lbs down now

[NC_Nurse]

47. Because eating is fun.

Everything that tastes great is bad for you. At least you don't live in the Southern U.S.
Talk about some fattening food. Sheesh! Everything I grew up on is fattening! :shrug:

[MissHoneychurch]

50. Yup, you got it right

And I know the Southern food. It is yummy. One of my favorite pies is Key Lime Pie. Not really helpful when trying to lose weight. Good thing I get it here in Germany only when I make it myself.

[flvegan]

51. Upon taking into consideration

age, genetics, medical issues, motivation and proper instruction, it isn't hard to lose weight. It's hard to stay motivated/on a program.

Have you sought exercise and dietary instruction? If you haven't (or if you did and weren't satisfied), maybe I can help. Please feel free to drop me a pm.

[MissHoneychurch]

56. Check your pm

Thanks :)

[calico1]

52. Because when you put on some pounds,

like for example 10 extra lbs. your body will get used to weighing more and try to fight weight loss. We still have not evolved to where the body knows we are not starving when we try and lose weight. I am also in the same boat. I don't just want to go out and buy bigger clothes as some people have advised. According to a recent article I read, the key is exericising more. Also, don't cut calories drastically because that can make things worse because then your body really thinks you are starving. And lift those weights! That is the most important type of exericise to prevent extra weight.

[MissHoneychurch]

57. And I don't like to excerise

I need someone who kicks me in the ass to keep me motivated.

[miss_american_pie]

53. Because celery does not taste like chocolate

:hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

58. True enough

even though funnily chocolate isn't a real problem for me. I can have chocolate in my apt for ages without me eating it. It is other food that I have problems with. Like ice cream or pasta with a creamy sauce etc.

[miss_american_pie]

59. Oh pasta is evil

Yummy, but evil.

[MissHoneychurch]

61. Exactly

even though I already cut down the pasta.

[cautiouslywaiting]

54. I know why it's hard for me.

Because I LOVE chocolate lol.

[MissHoneychurch]

60. For me it is ice cream

chocolate is no problem for me. I am missing a gene there I gues :rofl:

[cautiouslywaiting]

62. Ice cream is good too.

It's so cold in DC right now though. But really, I like anything that has a lot of fat ;)

[fizzgig]

55. i know what you're going through

especially the frustration over clothes not fitting anymore. i put on a bit of weight recently and i throw the occasional tantrum when i something that doesn't fit anymore.

i'm trying to start with smaller things (less soda, healthier snacks and eating a bit more consistently through the day) and it seems to be working a bit. my big problem is my job - unpredictable hours and daily schedule with lots of stress and it's not always so easy to have a normal eating routine.

:hug:

[Ellen Forradalom]

63. Hi MissHoneychurch!

As I recall from the famous match-the-DU-ladies-with-their-butts picture, you look great.

I'm a big believer in the 20/80 rule (20% of the effort gets you 80% of the good.) Is there a simple thing you can do? One food you can substitute? Can you walk or bike some place? I dropped 9 lbs like an armload of bricks when I started bicycle-commuting to my job in Chicago. Nowadays I'm walking to work in Santa Barbara.

If you're like me and have the attention span of a gnat, you'll never stick with it unless it's pleasant or you have to do it (eg climbing six flights is the only way you'll get to your bed.)

Just make one change and see what happens. Ya never know.

[MissHoneychurch]

67. You hit the nail on its head

let's see. I have to walk 5 stairs each day to get to my apt (no elevator). So much for climbing I have to do.

I am not a fan of sport so to find something I really enjoy is tough. And of course it is more fun if you have someone to do it with you than alone. And there is the next problem. I don't have many friends here in Frankfurt. And the ones I have don't need to exercise. I know those are all excuses. But you said it. I have the attention span of a gnat when it comes to exercise.

Oh and thanks for the compliment :)

[MissMillie]

64. because the human body has evolved into a form that tries to keep

the status quo.

You have to trick your body to lose weight. Very tiny changes over a long period of time.

Do something drastic, and your body thinks there's a famine, and it goes into conservation mode.

Oh yeah, and of course there's always your own genetic predisposition to size, your own glandular issues, and other underlying medical or physiological issues.

The deck is stacked against you, for sure.

[ContraBass Black]

65. It didn't occur to me that you had any to lose.

[MissHoneychurch]

68. Aww thank you

:hug:

[Deep13]

66. Your body thinks you are starving and must conserve energy.

Weight gain is like a valve that only flows one way. For that reason it is much harder to loose than to gain unless you are in a prison camp or something. The key seems to be to train your body to burn fat rather than the usual sugar. This is where the aerobic excercise comes in. The calories one loses on the treadmill are negligible. What is significant is that it trains the enzymes in your cells to burn fat wich can only be burned aerobically. This is in contrast to sugar which is burnt anaerobically and leaves that burning sensation after exertion. If you are excercising so hard you cannot talk, who are burning mostly sugar. The idea is to keep a slow pace for a long time. While the excercise is necessary, 90% is diet and calory reduction.

[Nikia]

69. It's getting to be winter

I don't know if this is actually scientifically true or not, but it is harder to lose weight in the fall and winter. That is because that is the time that mammals traditionally hibernate, are more likely to face famine, have higher energy needs if we are active (staying warm), need insallation to keep warm, and are more vunerable to disease. The body is more likely to conserve fat and increase appetite if there is any danger of losing fat. You can try cutting things like sugery drinks and making lower calorie substitutions to try to get on the right track, but you will probably have better luck losing weight six months from now.

[Floogeldy]

70. It is not hard to lose weight.

It is hard for us to discipline ourselves and make the sacrifices necessary to lose weight.