What does it MEAN??!?!?!!!??! I keep having sexual dreams about my high school sweetheart!

[StellaBlue]

Every time I date someone and it starts to get at all serious, I start having dreams about my high school boyfriend, who I was with for 18 months. I admit it is still the best relationship I ever had, and we were very compatible. One of my teachers, who I am still in contact with, has been saying we are soul mates for the last ten years. I don't believe in that, but...

He recently contacted me out of the blue a few months ago, through one of the internet networking sites. Hadn't spoken to him nor seen him since 1998. We talked on the phone for an hour one night, and sent a few emails back and forth to catch up. No big deal. It was cool and welcomed. He lives 1,000 miles away, and I probably won't see him anytime soon.

But now I am having dreams about him off and on even though I am NOT dating anyone. I had a rather graphic one last night. It was hot (imagine Paris Hilton voice). :rofl:

What does it MEAN?!?!?!?!?!

Do I have unresolved issues surrounding our break-up (I don't think so; I've had two serious, long-term relationships since then and never felt like I wanted us to get back together, after the initial shock of the break-up wore off)? Am I commitment-phobic or something, preferring subconsciously to cling to the familiar, rose-colored past? Am I just sexually frustrated?

:wtf:

[Crazy Dave]

1. Just do the guy and get it over with

:popcorn: :hide:

[Robb]

2. Eat fewer onions before bed

Or, yeah, just do the guy. :yoiks:

[miss_american_pie]

3. Dreaming about sleeping with someone

usually just means there is a quality in that person you feel is lacking in yourself that you're trying to connect with.

Good luck figuring it out.

[StellaBlue]

4. I want an overbearing, fundamentalist, relationship-undermining mother?

:rofl:

[miss_american_pie]

5. No

You want kids. :D :hi:

[ThomCat]

6. Just go out on a date with him and see if the chemistry is still there.

and if it is, jump him hard!
:7

[KurtNYC]

7. Archetyping

There is a school of thought within psychology that theorizes that our first serious relationship imprints us with a "type" and that we then seek out others who fit that type. The type doesn't have to be physical, it could be a certain personality that you develop this preference for. Possibly, whenever someone reaches you on a deeper level, it sets your subconscious off and you win up dreaming about the original person. It doesn't mean you still want the original person, only that you want the depth of the relationship and the feelings you had with the original person.

I don't know if this sounds weird (as a theory) but think about how many people say things like "well he's just not my type."

edit to add: The term archetype is commonly associated with Jung but I am googling for a more recent study which sought to explore whether we really are attracted to women who remind us of our mothers (or men who remind us of our fathers). I believe the study debunked that in favor of this first true love archetype/concept. Lemme see if I can pull it up....

[skygazer]

8. I'm no dream expert

But I have hot dreams about various people (one of whom is my boss). I don't think I actually want to have sex with my boss but he's a great guy who I like and trust. Maybe it's just a safety net type of thing - a way of dreaming about love and sex with someone non-threatening and familiar.

Or maybe I'm talking out my ass again. :P

[Truebrit71sbruv]

9. My god...

... a talking donkey...

oh... sorry... ass...

mybadmybadmybad

:P

[skygazer]

10. ....

:spank:

[Truebrit71sbruv]

11. Oi...

... if you can't handle the truth... don't ask for it :P ;)