Do you miss a place so much it hurts?

[Sugar Smack]

I miss Islamorada, Florida. I feel physical pain when I think of the beauty of that place. I miss the palm trees, the iguanas, the clear sky, and the birds. I miss everything about it. I connected with it in a way I've never connected with any place.

[reyd reid reed]

1. Place? No.

People...person...sometimes, yeah.

[Sugar Smack]

3. I feel the same with places as people, sometimes.

They resonate in such a good way with me it's hard for me to leave them. Harder to forget them, certainly.

[reyd reid reed]

10. I can understand that

I think that I've just lived so many places that it's hard for me to attach any special significance to one or the other. I learned at a very early age that a place was just that...a place...and that we were going to be picking up and moving within a few years.

People, on the other hand...

[Shine]

2. Nope, not to the point of "pain". Home is where the heart is, afterall....

:hug:

Maybe you should move to Florida....:)

[Sugar Smack]

16. You're probably right.

Thanks, Shine. :hug:

[Shine]

24. xoxoxox, Sugar Smack!

wishing you Happiness and warm fuzzies WHEREVER you are! :hug: :loveya: :hi:

[theophilus]

4. I miss New Mexico (Santa Fe) quite a bit. I really miss several places

that I frequented in my youth. They no longer exist. I miss some of the wooded areas that I would roam about in.....they are houses now. I miss places that I would hunt for bugs or fish or frogs....all of them are gone. I miss places I used to visit to eat or whatever. Gone....all gone.

[Sugar Smack]

7. Will you tell us about them?

:hug:

[theophilus]

57. Well, one of the places was known locally as "Devil's Den".

I grew up in the country (then) near Ft. Worth, Texas. A couple of miles from my house was a sink hole that had probably been a little cave at one time. You could get to it easily and it was in a wet weather drainage channel. The sandstone had collapsed and there was a horseshoe shape hole punched in the earth about ten or fifteen feet deep. There was a pool of water at the bottom and the banks were a little undercut. On the walls were maiden hair ferns and there was a constant drip of water. There were even some fish in the pool. Now this was an oak woodland in North Texas and, believe me, when you climbed down into the den it was like you had entered a different world. The little stream that was formed by the spring ran on toward Eagle Mountain Lake in a very steep sided ravine. It was just a neat place.

They built some houses near the area in the 80s and they eventually filled in the whole thing. I can still see it in my mind, though.


When we moved into our house in 1963 our road was gravel and there was about a forty or fifty acre field in front of our place that stretched to the next few houses. Behind us was twenty or thirty acres of oak woods with blackjack and other varieties. We kids would play there and wander about looking for "critters" of various kinds. I found a big possum in a hole once and a stinkpot turtle in a wet weather pond another time. Just lots of fun.

There is a special smell about oak woods in the summer.

All under houses now. I am not alone in losing areas like that. I think it is one of life's bittersweet aspects.

[tinfoil tiaras]

5. Athens, Ga

most. amazing. place. ever.

i swear, im gonna live there. buy one of those old looking houses...and go to all the shows at the 40 watt :loveya:

[Sugar Smack]

9. DAMN, I wish you the best!!!!!!!!

I've heard nothing but good stuff about Athens! :hug: GO, doll, go!!!!

[tinfoil tiaras]

11. uga better accept me

and even if they don't, im moving there after college. or i may go to college in atlanta so i'd only be like 30 minutes from athens :D

[xchrom]

6. do you know what it means to miss new orleans...

[Sugar Smack]

17. YOU!!! OMG, Loved & Revered by bridgit!

*bowing & cursteying* Anyway, never been there but WILL!!!!!!:D This is GREAT.

[xchrom]

26. ...

:hug:

i consider myself a Bridgiteer!

[bridgit]

29. is that cause we all live in a yellow submarine...

:hi: :headbang:

[xchrom]

31. arrrrggghhh -- Miss Matey Captain -- arrrgghhhhg

we all live in a yellow submarine -- a yellow submarine --

[bridgit]

34. well here's the upside darlin, we don't swab no poop-decks round here...

:woohoo:

[xchrom]

40. gasp!!! oh. thangawd!!

could you imagine me swabbing poop decks in my jimmy choos?!?!

[bridgit]

44. naw, ta heck with that stuff, just a little grog & marauding here & there...

lazing on the high, or low seas as the mood strikes us ;)

[bridgit]

18. i do, but i miss no where enough that it hurts...

:shrug: just put you on my buddy list ;)

[Sugar Smack]

23. Me, too?

I'm a teenager in 30-something clothig.

[bridgit]

25. SugarBooger...

:bounce: :hi:

[Sugar Smack]

28. BLEAT!!!! *happiness!*

:D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D OMG!!!!! Bridgie!!!! Hold the phone!!!! :D

[bridgit]

27. wait a minute, whaa? on my buddy list...

:spray: you goose, but of course yes, you're like #1 er som'thin :loveya:

[Sugar Smack]

33. HELLOOOOOO!

hehehehehehhehe!!:rofl: I needed that like a needed a hot chocolate drnik.

Good God.:D

[bridgit]

35. i bought some 'cat grass' for tim, i'm gonna have hubby plant it and send over a pic...

stand-by for transmission :bounce:

[xchrom]

30. ok -- i have one word for you Miss Bridgit...

Paris.

:loveya:

[bridgit]

32. as i've sad so often around here, i spent some time just outside paris...

in a CONVENT, of all places (ah, the memories), and so only passed through in the most cursory of manners but liked very much what i did see & hear :hug:

it was one of those 'you can't talk in here' convents can you imagine, OY! O8)

[xchrom]

36. lol -- oy is right!

ok -- we should plan a raid on paris.

bring your best friend in crime and we'll go and you. will. DIE. just DIE.

it is heartbreakingly gorgeous -- and avenue montaigne -- don't even get me started -- that's one of the streets with all that couture stuff.

FABULOUS.

[bridgit]

45. lead & i will follow, can we stop by barcelona if we get that close...

:thumbsup: "close", well i mean that part of the world :rofl:

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

8. Nope. You did miss my phone call though.

:rofl:

[Sugar Smack]

13. OMG, can I call you tomorrow? *bounce, bounce*

And I feel it in my left freaking shoulder!!!!!!! OW! And you called me, and I was online! OMG!!!!

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

14. Yeah, you can call me tommorow or tonight. I'll be around.

Just don't call me between about 1pm and 4pm tommorow. I'll be watching the NY Giants.

[Sugar Smack]

19. Okay!!!

ANYthing!!!!!:D

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

21. Damn you're easy.

Slut.

:rofl:

[jonnyblitz]

12. Amsterdam .

I get depressed anytime somebody posts in DU about travelling there. I spent some time there when my sister lived there. she no longer does. :(

[Sugar Smack]

15. OMG!!! Have you ever gotten bored of CRYING??

How's it even possible? *sigh* Some fried eggs & hash browns will take me thru this.:hug: I feel ya. I really, really do.

[graywarrior]

20. Whaaaaa...NH. It's hurts like hell not being there.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

74. Haven't spent much time there,

but I miss it too. I'd love to figure out how to make a living there...

[Rabrrrrrr]

22. Yes, Hawaii. I can only listen to my Hawaiian music when I'm drunk off my ass

and in a mood to be sad.

Listening to Hawaiian music at all, even a small snippet in a commercial or something, makes me immediately very morose and dejected.

Hawaii is the only place I've ever lived that I actually cry because I'm not there. Even my hometown and home state don't elicit that reaction at all. And as much as I miss NYC, I don't cry about it.

Hawaii I do.

:cry:

[Radio_Lady]

69. Oh, Rabrrrrr, we could take you to Maui next March -- we have

only a one bedroom villa, but there is a sleeper sofa and everything else at our villa -- and we'll be there for twelve days!

We haven't been to Maui since maybe 1984... we were a lot younger then. My husband just asked me if I want to take the road to Hana and maybe stay overnight near the Seven Pools.

I love Hawaii, too -- but if you can keep going back, it helps the hurt.

When did you live there?

In peace,

Radio_Lady in Oregon

[matcom]

37. Mom's uterus

:cry:

[graywarrior]

50. God, I love you matcom

:rofl:

[Nikia]

38. Of course

But sometimes it is easier not to think about them too much. We pretend that they will always be the same if we ever go, but when we go, they are not the same. Life went on there without us. Businesses close. Buildings become in disrepair and/or torn down. People leave. Children become adults. Adults get old. People die. Even the people we knew, don't recognize us. We are like strangers there. The place that was part of our world does not accept us as part of their world and in fact it doesn't exist anymore.
It hurts a lot. Better out of sight, out of mind. Do you know what I mean?

[electron_blue]

39. Flagstaff ARizona.

I had dreams for months that I flew (as in flapping my arms) back there every night.

[Radio_Lady]

71. I am homesick for Flagstaff, Arizona -- and I've never even been there!

Ever since I began singing the Route 66 song, I've fantasized about going there.

I've tried twice, and never made it north of Sedona, AZ, except for one evening when we had dinner in Flagstaff (couldn't see anything -- it was late).

Maybe another time we could both go there?

In peace,

Radio_Lady

[wildhorses]

41. yes, there is a place i miss so much that it hurts--

even after all this time.

[lildreamer316]

42. My house. Yes.

The city tore it down. Fuckers.

[Sugar Smack]

60. OMG!!!! What a nice place.

I'm so sorry, wildhorses.:hug:

[Left Is Write]

43. Yes.

[InvisibleTouch]

46. Yes, but I'm not sure exactly where it is...

...or how to get back there. I'll find it, though.

[Flaxbee]

47. the desert southwest

My parents had some friends who had the most amazing adobe home in the Palm Springs area - the man was an artist and the house was just open, cool, saltillo-tiled, and smelled a bit of turpentine and had beautiful, natural landscaping. I can't even really describe what I miss, but I ache to be back in the desert west. Sounds ridiculous, but I was watching a rerun of CSI (the original in Vegas) and some of the techs were out searching in the desert - all the sage green and silver and sand - and I burst into tears. Have to go back there someday, somehow.

[Sugar Smack]

63. Hey.

Really, :hug:

[Flaxbee]

78. aw, thanks.

:hug: to you, too.

[Jamastiene]

48. I miss the house down the street in front of the church.

My grandmother rented that place until she died. I had my best childhood memories there. I wanted to rent it but the new owner is a dick. He wanted 7 references before he'd even rent to me. Nevermind giving me the option to rent to own or my mother the option to buy it from him at a premium price. The bastard. I want that house. I miss the yard. I miss my grandmother's special spot in bed. She'd get up and I'd crawl over into the scooped out place on her mattress. It was so warm and cozy. I miss my grandmother. I miss that place.

[Deja Q]

49. I am able to miss people and things. But not physical locations.

Except for Hammondsport, NY, perhaps... the rolling hills, lakes, grape vines... a fabulous sight...

[Xipe Totec]

51. No, not a place, I miss a moment in time

January 6, 1973, 10:00AM. A cafe, somewhere in northern Mexico.

Do you love me? - I asked.

Yes. - She said.

And for a moment, I was held in the gaze of an angel.

[RetroLounge]

52. Damn dude.

If that was the opening of a novel, I would read on...

:hi:

RL

[CaliforniaPeggy]

53. I'd read on too, my dear Retro.........

One of us should steal it! It would make the best opening evah!

:hi:

[Xipe Totec]

55. Thanks!

I value your opinion in such matters; I'll try to work it in.

I always enjoy reading the RetroLounge poetry postings.

:hi:

[reyd reid reed]

62. Oh.

Damn...part of me wants more...the rest of me screams...don't. Beautiful, just beautiful.

:hug:

[skygazer]

54. I sometimes miss Vermont like that

It's home for me and everything about it is so familiar and comforting to me. I get Vermont Life magazine 4 times a year and every single time, I look at the beautiful photos and cry. :blush:

I love where I live and I don't really want to move back to Vermont (at least not yet - probably eventually I will) but there are times when I miss it terribly. Usually when I'm vulnerable for some reason - sad or stressed.

I try to go back for a visit once every year or two. I call it "getting my fix."

[Redstone]

66. Everybody who has lived in Vermont (especially as a child) feels that way.

It lives within you forever.

Redstone

[Bucky]

56. Here's a guy who hurts because of a missing place...

...on his body. He's jogging with another guy who misses his mind.

[sweetheart]

58. i miss sitting with the buddha

and in every moment, 10,000 awakenings, that even now,
a buddha is here unawake, in the prison of obligation and expectation,
of identity and delusion, without the buddha's enlightenment,
what sand has the moment crumbled.

[cobalt1999]

59. yes, but the place while still there, is no longer really there...

Pre tourist Florida...

What I miss...


What it is now...

[Radio_Lady]

70. Cobalt 1999, where and when was that top photo taken? I know what you mean.

I grew up in Florida from age 3 -- finally left in my early 20s only to return for a couple of years in the late 70s.

We've just returned from a visit to Orlando and Ft. Myers -- the area has changed so much.

It's difficult not to remember those days and what was there when we were growing up.

This was our little family in the 1940s. I'm the girl in the front row!

Don't you just love that palm tree background?

[cobalt1999]

80. Wow, what a great looking family...

I didn't know your dad was Clark Gable. :) BTW, I love his suit and you were quite the little cutie (you look like one of my daughters when she was that age).

The picture is of Destin, FL (1964 and 2004). I've been in Florida all my life except for a few experiences living abroad and have seen that 40 year transition step by step. You're right about it being hard not to remember what it was like when growing up and unfortunately, it'll never be like that again which is sad.

Hey, but we got to experience it while it was good though!

[Name removed]

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[Haole Girl]

64. Yes.

[Redstone]

65. Yes, but I'm curing that by moving there. As you know.

Redstone

[Luna_Chick]

67. Victoria, Australia

No, I'm not from Oz, but the time I spent there was the closest I've yet come to "home" in my heart... and I do feel painful pangs of homesickness when I think about it.

[Radio_Lady]

72. It must be a beautiful place, although I've never seen it and don't

know where it is.

Victoria, B.C., Canada is also quite charming. I could imagine missing that island very much.

[Digit]

68. I miss Arlington, Va

Although I don't miss the traffic
or the crime

It was because it was "home" and Dem country.

[crim son]

73. For many years I missed Oregon very badly, and it hurt.

That went away for a while while I tried to make a home here in Maine. Since the home and everything else has basically shriveled up and died, I begin to long for Oregon again. Some day I will live in the west again, away from this cold weather and the people who have learned how to survive here, also strange and cold.

Just reading the posts on this thread has made me homesick :(

[Blue_Tires]

75. two places i used to live

and still think fondly of:

Providence, RI
Lawrence, KS

[helderheid]

76. I used to miss Sedona, Arizona. I now miss the Netherlands.

[clyrc]

77. I moved to Oahu when I was 16, and left when I was 20

I was slim and pretty, then, and that made for a good enough time, but the place itself was so beautiful I just loved it. I moved there from South Carolina, and it was like coming out of a box to live. The lush plants, the smell in the air, the ocean, the people from all over the world, and just the laid back feel of the island were wonderful. After I left, I ached for years to go back, and swore I would. I left 16 years ago, and I've never been back, but sometimes still my sister and I talk about it and all the memories come back.

Even when I had problems with panic disorder and depression, there were places I could go, like the Japanese Garden behind the Architecture building at the the University of Hawaii, that could soothe me. I've never been to anywhere like that since. I've seen beautiful areas since, of course, but Hawaii reached in and grabbed my heart and never really let go.

[Broken_Hero]

79. yes

quite often, but I deal with it...not that its easy, but I deal with it best that I can.

[mduffy31]

81. Yes but I am not sure this is a "place"

I miss being in my wifes arms.

[Heidi]

82. The US, sometimes. But it's more the people than the place. (nt)

[datasuspect]

83. chicago prior to the reign of daley jr.

back when it was more dysfunctional, before the yuppie invasion and cinder block condo infestation.

miss the "old neighborhood," the blue collar vibe that is sadly disappearing, miss the danger, the uncleanliness, stuff like that.

[GalleryGod]

84. Islamorada must've changed for the better.

Glad you like it so much.
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*:rofl: In the 90's we used to call it the "Key Wannabe":rofl: