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SKKY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 03:32 PM Original message |
Poll question: Your significant other is unfaithful. Do you forgive them? |
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reyd reid reed (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 03:32 PM Response to Original message |
1. Period. |
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NewWaveChick1981 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 03:34 PM Response to Original message |
2. It totally depends on the situation. |
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reyd reid reed (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 03:35 PM Response to Reply #2 |
5. I'm a forgiving person and I can forgive... |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 03:34 PM Response to Original message |
3. This is purely anecdotal and from my perspective only, but |
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SKKY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 03:37 PM Response to Reply #3 |
8. Guys can't get past that one burning question that, in the end, will kill us... |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 03:38 PM Response to Reply #8 |
9. LOL. |
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SKKY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:08 PM Response to Reply #9 |
19. If she takes her looks from Mom, yes, she will... |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:43 PM Response to Reply #8 |
27. ... |
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City Lights (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 07:51 AM Response to Reply #27 |
68. ... |
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buddhamama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 03:34 PM Response to Original message |
4. unfaithful once, i could forgive |
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smirkymonkey (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 09:44 PM Response to Reply #4 |
85. Also, a fling is one thing, but an ongoing affair is quite another. |
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johnnie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 03:35 PM Response to Original message |
6. Sure, it isn't hard to forgive |
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ZombieNixon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 03:35 PM Response to Original message |
7. Forgive, maybe. Forget? No. n/t |
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CanuckAmok (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 03:40 PM Response to Original message |
10. No. Never again. Once a cheater, always a cheater. |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 03:40 PM Response to Original message |
11. Is the SO contrite? |
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SKKY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:03 PM Response to Reply #11 |
16. Kinda, but not in a "I'm so sorry I hurt you sort of way." |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 07:37 PM Response to Reply #16 |
39. Then forgiveness is not due |
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crim son (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 09:14 PM Response to Reply #16 |
45. That sounds to me like the same thing. |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 08:52 AM Response to Reply #45 |
72. The difference is quite big. |
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crim son (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 09:46 AM Response to Reply #72 |
79. That is exactly the point I was making. |
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Guava Jelly (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 03:40 PM Response to Original message |
12. Forgive but not forget |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 03:41 PM Response to Original message |
13. Of course. Without forgiveness, life is a rancid bowl of shit. |
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SKKY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:04 PM Response to Reply #13 |
18. I wish it was woven into the fabric of my being to look at things that way... |
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Alexander (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 03:45 PM Response to Original message |
14. No, I tried that once, and it turned out badly. |
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SKKY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:01 PM Response to Reply #14 |
15. I probably would have turned her trick-ass out one more time... |
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Alexander (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:22 PM Response to Reply #15 |
22. And risk getting a disease? No thanks. |
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SKKY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:25 PM Response to Reply #22 |
24. Yea, I never said I was the most intelligent person... |
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idgiehkt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:59 PM Response to Reply #24 |
30. lol |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 08:46 PM Response to Reply #24 |
43. I consider that rather unethical |
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SKKY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 12:19 AM Response to Reply #43 |
52. So, making fun of your mistakes and laughing at your own youthful stupidity... |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 07:08 PM Response to Reply #52 |
84. Maybe, I am reading something into it that you didn't say, correct me if I'm wrong |
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AngryAmish (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:04 PM Response to Original message |
17. Forgive? Yes. Her ass is still out in the street, tho. |
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CabalPowered (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:10 PM Response to Original message |
20. Been there. It sucks. |
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MountainLaurel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:19 PM Response to Original message |
21. Before or after I cut his dick off? |
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SKKY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:23 PM Response to Reply #21 |
23. So, as long as everything is "Above Board", it's all good? |
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MountainLaurel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:29 PM Response to Reply #23 |
25. If the other spouse is approving |
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idgiehkt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 05:01 PM Response to Reply #21 |
32. in theory |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 12:32 AM Response to Reply #21 |
54. Word....I'm poly and I agree |
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crim son (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:43 PM Response to Original message |
26. Nope. Once that happens the marriage is clearly shit. |
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underpants (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:44 PM Response to Original message |
28. Nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnope |
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ganeshji (401 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 04:55 PM Response to Original message |
29. I forgave him. |
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cobalt1999 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 05:01 PM Original message |
Forgiving them is different than staying with them. |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 05:27 PM Response to Original message |
34. The ignorance around 'forgiveness' comes out in every thread like this. |
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LaurenG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 08:11 AM Response to Reply #34 |
69. Forgiveness is a choice and a decision |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 09:22 AM Response to Reply #69 |
74. And I think many think that forgiveness means acceptance of the behavior |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 11:42 AM Response to Reply #74 |
81. Another thing about forgiveness, it doesn't mean you have to let |
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wryter2000 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 05:01 PM Response to Original message |
31. Probably |
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billyskank (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 05:03 PM Response to Original message |
33. Yeah, I think so. Nobody's perfect. |
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skygazer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 05:38 PM Response to Original message |
35. It really does depend on the situation to me |
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Kerrytravelers (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 05:51 PM Response to Original message |
36. We had two members of our close circle cheat. |
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Lilith Velkor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 09:26 PM Response to Reply #36 |
46. I hate the confession game |
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IdaBriggs (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 05:59 PM Response to Original message |
37. Well, if you don't mind being with a person who lies/cheats about |
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bluethruandthru (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 06:13 PM Response to Original message |
38. IMO it depends on the "relationship". |
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huskerlaw (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 07:43 PM Response to Original message |
40. Yes, I would forgive eventually... |
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cwydro (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 07:43 PM Response to Original message |
41. Nope. |
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Mutley (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 07:57 PM Response to Original message |
42. I guess it depends. |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 08:51 PM Response to Original message |
44. I'm not sure |
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philosophie_en_rose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 09:29 PM Response to Original message |
47. Forgive as in "no hate in your heart" - of course. |
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Mojambo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 09:41 PM Response to Original message |
48. Probably not gonna happen. n/t |
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sendero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 10:05 PM Response to Original message |
49. Forgive, sure.. |
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Syncronaut Seven (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 10:12 PM Response to Original message |
50. Are we talking polyamore, polyfidelity or cheating? |
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CatholicEdHead (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-13-06 11:13 PM Response to Original message |
51. Forgive her yes, but dump her right then and there |
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fizzgig (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 12:23 AM Response to Original message |
53. it depends on the situation |
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begin_within (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 12:34 AM Response to Original message |
55. If they are unfaitful to you, what message are they sending to you? |
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Shine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 01:38 AM Response to Original message |
56. I might be able to forgive him, but I don't know if I could stay married to him. |
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Richard Steele (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 01:45 AM Response to Original message |
57. Yes. We are all human, and we all do things we regret. |
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SlavesandBulldozers (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 01:49 AM Response to Original message |
58. i've noticed that people who stay with their SO's after that happens |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 09:24 AM Response to Reply #58 |
75. The question is about forgiveness, not about going back to the person |
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SlavesandBulldozers (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 09:28 AM Response to Reply #75 |
77. oh! yeah absolutely. n/t |
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Withywindle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 02:38 AM Response to Original message |
59. I checked the final option, and I have to set one thing straight.... |
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Eurobabe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 02:42 AM Response to Original message |
60. Totally depends on the situation and circumstances |
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SOteric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 03:39 AM Response to Original message |
61. Why? What have you heard? |
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enigmatic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 04:19 AM Response to Original message |
62. Forgive? yes |
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Skittles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 05:52 AM Response to Reply #62 |
63. if you don't forget, you don't forgive |
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WritingIsMyReligion (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 06:39 AM Response to Original message |
64. I could in time, certainly, but his ass would be warming the curb. |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 06:53 AM Response to Original message |
65. you can't be unfaithful to me. |
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querelle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 07:15 AM Response to Original message |
66. Never |
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City Lights (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 07:49 AM Response to Original message |
67. I'm trying to forgive... |
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borlis (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-15-06 01:23 AM Response to Reply #67 |
87. Hang in there, Sis! |
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City Lights (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-15-06 07:37 AM Response to Reply #87 |
88. If I end up living in my car, I'll be sure to get a trailer for it so we can enjoy it |
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borlis (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-16-06 02:15 AM Response to Reply #88 |
92. To think of what my snooty neighbors might say about a |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-15-06 08:25 AM Response to Reply #67 |
89. ... |
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BigMcLargehuge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 08:44 AM Response to Original message |
70. Always forgive |
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Robb (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 08:48 AM Response to Original message |
71. No. |
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Ms_Dem_Meanor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 08:56 AM Response to Original message |
73. HELL TO THE NO!!! |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 09:27 AM Response to Reply #73 |
76. I will say to you, too, the question is about forgiveness, not staying in relation |
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Ms_Dem_Meanor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-16-06 12:46 PM Response to Reply #76 |
99. I know it has a caps lock key... |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-16-06 12:50 PM Response to Reply #99 |
100. I don't think you are seeing the difference. |
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youthere (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-16-06 01:11 PM Response to Reply #99 |
103. Forgiveness is something you do for your OWN benefit... |
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eyepaddle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 09:44 AM Response to Original message |
78. The first time it happened to me I was demolished, the second time |
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wildhorses (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 11:30 AM Response to Original message |
80. forgive--yes. stay with them?--maybe not! |
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ChickMagic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 11:54 AM Response to Original message |
82. I just couldn't deal with it |
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Xenotime (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 02:17 PM Response to Original message |
83. More people should try swinging. |
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Porcupine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Nov-14-06 11:11 PM Response to Original message |
86. Relationships are futile anyway. People cheat, grow frigid, leave |
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michreject (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-15-06 09:03 AM Response to Original message |
90. Not only "NO" |
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gfindu (108 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Nov-15-06 09:10 AM Response to Original message |
91. If the other person |
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Swamp Rat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-16-06 02:48 AM Response to Original message |
93. Yes, I would forgive. |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-16-06 03:22 AM Response to Original message |
94. same formula applies to all relationships: how hot + how often she puts out divided by |
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Dangerously Amused (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-16-06 03:35 AM Response to Reply #94 |
95. Hey. You know that thoughtful response I just posted |
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yurbud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-16-06 04:07 AM Response to Reply #95 |
96. I was being a bit sarcastic here. Also, when infidelity is the issue, all the deeper stuff is |
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Dangerously Amused (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-16-06 04:38 AM Response to Reply #96 |
97. Okay, sorry. Didn't catch the sarcasm thing. |
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caty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-16-06 08:12 AM Response to Original message |
98. If you can't trust someone, |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-16-06 12:53 PM Response to Reply #98 |
101. Trust, respect, and love have nothing to do with forgiveness. |
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jpgray (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-16-06 12:53 PM Response to Original message |
102. Depends |
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bullwinkle428 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-16-06 01:35 PM Response to Original message |
104. It took me years to forgive, but I have done it. Of course, the relationship |
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patcox2 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Nov-16-06 01:59 PM Response to Original message |
105. ya know, over 50% of people will do this, don't ya? |
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