Please love your loved-ones while they are alive

[Haole Girl]

The man who lived across the street from us died last night....no, I wasn't told this morning, but I could tell. How could I tell? It's always the same...dozens of cars, people hauling in casseroles and flowers....

I called my husband to tell him what must have happened and my husband told me an ambulance took him away, yesterday, just before I'd gotten home.

So, there it is.

I'll talk to the spouse, now a widow, later...when some of the flurry subsides. I just find it disheartening that my neighbor had cancer for the last 8 months... and, rarely, did I ever see a car...very rarely any visitors...except his nurse. Then, after he dies....well, I just think it's sad that more people didn't come around when he was still alive. That is all. That is all I'd like to say this morning.

I'm sorry if I depressed anybody.

[auntAgonist]

1. ..

:hug: It happens all the time. It's very sad. I think people stay away because they don't know what to say or do, when in reality, just their presence is the only gift desired.

:hug: again.


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[Haole Girl]

2. You are so right...

...people are basically cowardly, aren't they? I mean, it's one of the most difficult things-- being around a loved-one while they are dying before your own eyes. But, what's with "paying ones respect"-- after death? I loathe that expression. The disrespect has already been done... when they weren't there when they were needed most. Sorry...I'm feeling bitter this morning. Thanks for the hug. hug..:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear KC2!

How right you are, sweetie!

I always make a point of telling my friends and family that I love them whenever I can....

Because you never know when they might not be around to hear it!

Or when I might not be around to say it.......

We all walk on the razor's edge... I love you.........:loveya: :hug:

[Haole Girl]

4. OMG, Peggy..

You made me cry. I've been having such a tough day...
thank you for telling me that. I just cannot tell you how perfect your timing was...and, I love you too!! :loveya: :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. You know I didn't mean to make you cry........

But some tears are good...I know, because I've cried those too........

I am honored to have helped you today......:loveya: :hug: :loveya:

[Haole Girl]

6. I've always been a cry baby...

...I've actually gotten much better in my old age. So, it wasn't you, personally; please don't think that! I've been thinking, for a couple of months, about something a DUer said to me in one of my threads....he said I like to cry. Maybe he's right. Sometimes, I just don't know. Anyway, this was my long way of saying it is not you. And, yes, you did help me.

:hug: :loveya: :hug:

[idgiehkt]

7. so true

I had to be the one to put it to one of my uncles when my Granny was dying that if he ever wanted to see his mother alive again NOW was the time to pay a visit. He finally did come and stay a few days but he's still pissed at me about it I think.

Oddly, I think she had a lot of visitors from the other side when she was in her final days. She had alzheimers and some dementia and she would be just chatting away with them in her bedroom sometimes. I'd go in there and she'd say that Aunt Cora or someone was sitting in the chair in the corner.

[Haole Girl]

8. Wow...interesting...

...I always wondered about stories like that. I don't rule out anything (well, almost).

I'm glad you did convince your uncle to visit her, BTW. :hug:

[Shine]

9. Wise words, indeed, KC2.

that poor widow will continue to need support and attention in the difficult months ahead. Your friendship will mean a lot to her, as the days roll on. :hug:

[Haole Girl]

10. I'll be there for her...

...I'm making that promise. :hug: