What person in your life have you been the most disappointed in?

[ohiosmith]

A sister who 30 years ago I loaned almost every cent I had so she could defend herself against a murder charge.

Absolutely no effort has been made to pay me back.

[rug]

1. I take it she was acquitted.

[ohiosmith]

4. Convicted of manslaughter. Served about three years of a seven to 15 sentence.

[rug]

7. Tough all around. She should have paid you back something.

[ohiosmith]

14. Oh well! Life has a way of balancing the books.

[Beausoir]

70. Oh, dear. And here I was , all set to compain about my sister.

You really have been through the wringer.

All my sis did was to steal my mon's cheap jewelry when mom died.

You put things in perspective for me.

I am sorry you had to go through that.

[miss_american_pie]

2. Oh how awful

:hug:

And my answer is myself.

[Guava Jelly]

12. Hey sweetie

:hug:
Nothing in yourself to be disappointed about.
You have Beautiful children who love you and you love.
You are one of the nicest people I have met here on DU.
You have a good heart and care about people.
You have always been really kind to me.
I am proud of you as a person and as a friend.
Plus you are pretty cute.
And I only Ask the Cream of the crop to Marry me just FYI ;)

[miss_american_pie]

13. Oh stop that

My mascara's going to run.

Thank you. :hug:

[Guava Jelly]

16. You know I cant do that.

But I will try.
:hug:
:loveya:
And please don't cry.
You are only allowed to smile :7

[KitchenWitch]

55. My answer is also myself.

I can be downright unforgiving of myself at times.

[trof]

3. My uncle.

He was my father figure, growing up.
Until I was in my 40s I thought he was the finest, smartest, coolest man I knew.
Bit by bit I came to realize that this was not entirely the case.
By the time he died I was polite to him, but that was about it.

[crim son]

5. I feel the way Ms. Pie feels.

I've been my own greatest disappointment.

[Guava Jelly]

42. I think you need to look at your life through the eyes of your children.

They have a beautiful Mom who loves them and takes care of them.
So maybe you sucked at picking men in the past.
The past is just that It is the Past! let it go.
You have your whole life ahead of you!
You don't give yourself enough credit Crim son.
Aint a thing at all wrong with you. :loveya:

[crim son]

48. You're a good person, GoPsux,

but you don't know the advantages I've had and how I've pissed them away. Most of the guilt about not being everything that was expected of me is in the past and I've come to terms with myself. Still I recognize that I have failed to live up to my potential... not even close.

Don't argue with me! Lisa knows! :hug: :loveya: :hug:

[Guava Jelly]

50. Well my dear friend

You have your whole life ahead of you to correct what you can.
And anytime you need someone to argue with you.
You have my email :)
Heck I havent lived up to mine.
You sure arent the lone ranger here .
:loveya: :hug:

[crim son]

51. ...

I like having you as a friend. :hug:

[Guava Jelly]

52. As I you

:)

[mdmc]

6. Myself, I guess

maybe the Big Dog and his lack of liberalism...

[youthere]

8. At this moment I'd have to say my mother...

but that's just because I am incredibly pissed at her right now.

[Roon]

9. My little brother

he grew up advocating against smoking, drinking, and drugs. Never touched any of that all the way through college and law school. Started practicing law in boston and one night one of his tricks handed him a meth pipe.Now, it's all over.

[derby378]

34. Oh, man...

Methamphetamine, crack cocaine, heroin, and oxycodone are supposed to be the worst in terms of addiction. I hope your brother gets some serious help and turns his life around.

[Roon]

45. He has been in rehab a dozen times

Meth users LOVE going to rehab and jail. They can get rested and fat and be ready to use again once they are out. It's a vicious cycle.

[Mad_Dem_X]

79. Aww, man

How awful.

[MissMillie]

10. My son's father

Walked out of his life when he was almost 2... never again tried to contact him.

He died almost 3 years ago (alcoholism). His family has been very generous in sharing the estate, despite their not wanting any contact w/ my son either.

[Hugin]

11. I'm pretty lucky...

Few disappointments.

But, then... I'm a pessimist.

[bigwillq]

15. No one really comes to mind.

I have a really good family and great friends.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

17. I'd have to say.......myself.

I'm not liking myself much today.......

[Hugin]

18. What?!?!

Why not?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

20. My dear prag.........

I'm not liking myself much today because of some difficulties in my life......

I'm not handling them right...........

Not to worry, sweetie.......this too shall pass.....:hug:

[Hugin]

22. Well I should hope so...

What you need is to give someone a good soaping!

;)

I hope the difficulties dissipate and leave a sunny disposition!

:D

:hug:

[Generic Brad]

69. You make life sound like a kidney stone!

We like you, California Peggy. You are perfect just the way you are.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

75. My dear Generic Brad.......

Thank you! But I'm not perfect......

I appreciate your kindness nonetheless!

:hug:

[idgiehkt]

19. I'm one of those too

just because I've screwed up so much in my life that about the only thing I have to be proud of is that I didn't become a teen pregnancy, though looking back I probably would have made a good mom, even then.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

21. My dear idgiehkt.........

Aw, sweetie...........don't be so hard on yourself, OK? :hug:

[idgiehkt]

24. you either!

:hug:

[Guava Jelly]

25. Oh you are fine idg.!!

And a heck of a nice person

[idgiehkt]

27. no you are!

lol

thanks GoP :hi:

:loveya:

[Guava Jelly]

28. Anytime

:hi: :loveya:
and i wasn't kidding.

[Guava Jelly]

23. well we love ya!!

:loveya:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

35. I know you do...........my dear GoPsUx........

And I am honored by it......:loveya:

[Writer]

26. Hey, CalPeg...

I think I'm in a similar boat at the moment. During the year, I bellyached over not having a job, writing prospects, and other odd difficulties in my life. Now that Mr. Writer is also enduring a complication, it's so easy to let my situation overcome me, as opposed to proactively working to better it. I am quite disappointed in myself when I can't just look forward and tell myself, "Well that was bad, but I'm still alive and healthy. So what if it happened?" I bellyache and get depressed - privately at least.

I understand how you feel, CalPeg. :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

36. My dear Writer.......thank you......

Grief, no matter how trivial, can really isolate folks......

Your thoughtful words helped me today.......... :hug:

[Writer]

44. I'm really glad I could help you, Peg.

You've helped me on many occasions before. :)

[BlueIris]

29. Lessee, there was the boyfriend of three years who left me after

I found out I couldn't have kids, the best friend of a decade who got so "busy" with work that she could not find the time to return my e-mail about the recent, sudden loss of my beloved grandfather from lung cancer, the mother with thirty plus years sobriety who recently decided to start drinking again, and the father who doesn't give a shit about anything except his money (oh, and sometimes, his professional "reputation"). Those stellar examples of civilization are about an even tie between them for Most Disappointing Person I Have Known,

[lizziegrace]

30. Without a doubt

myself. Wrong decisions for the right reasons. I'm the queen of not getting it right - relationships, jobs, education, you name it.

[Guava Jelly]

31. I say you raised a beautiful and smart daughter

You have many here that just love you.
You are nice and compassionate.
And Just because events in life have not turned out how you would like.
It still doesn't take away from the fact that you are a sweet woman and a wonderful person.
I sure am proud of you..And to think of you as a friend

[lizziegrace]

33. You're right

She's my greatest accomplishment. But I wish I'd done a few other things in life better or at least differently.

:hug:

[Ariana Celeste]

32. I have a couple.

My Uncle and his wife. They have been living in my gramma's basement for years, which is no big deal. Except that they never help her out, can't even check the mail for her, have never had to pay rent yet still need to borrow money from her, tell lies about my other Uncle, preach their religious right crap to everyone who will listen (and unfortunately to those of us who don't want to), only paid attention to me and my cousins long enough to try to convert us (they have no kids so prey on their nieces and nephews), and much much more- right now they are dancing on my Gramma's grave while she is upstairs sick and dying and can't even walk to the bathroom on her own.

[BarenakedLady]

37. Just myself

No one else has come close to disappointing me.

[Guava Jelly]

40. You also have beautiful children and a lot going for you.

You are nice and attractive
you are funny.
And In the short time you have been on DU.
You have made many friends and made an impact on many lives.
I just wish you liked you as much as I do!
:hug:

[BarenakedLady]

41. Thank you so much

That was a really lovely thing to say. :hug:

[BikeWriter]

38. Exes, who've never learned the meaning of forever love...

...although they could talk a good marriage.

[Connonym]

39. myself n/t

[Omphaloskepsis]

43. Myself...

Considering I had cinder blocks strapped to my legs from the tender age of eight.. I showed potential until 19 and then I fell.. A consensus has been reached. I have completely destroyed my fucking life. But, the family can go fuck off too, I'm not here to make them proud.

</rant>

[La Lioness Priyanka]

46. myself.

[judaspriestess]

47. my father who took off when I was two

and never looked back. Even though we lived in the same city and he had other kids older than me from his first marriage who were never abandoned. He's dead now, asked me for forgiveness from the other side and of course I said yes. I had already gone through all the hurt growing up. There was a point in my life where I just had to let go of it.

[usaftmo]

49. Ex-wife

She left me without a peep, and took our 6 month old son. No notice at all. No phone call, no letter/note, nothing...except a $1600.00 phone bill that arrived 2 weeks later.

She is definitely the person that I'm most disappointed in.

[skygazer]

53. I have absolutely no expectations of other people

Saves me a lot of disappointment. Besides, I'd be a fine one to talk - I'm sure I've disappointed several people and I'd hate to judge anyone the way I've been judged.

That said, I've had many, many people pleasantly surprise me. That's much nicer.

[Redstone]

54. Myself, of course. Who else has done so many stupid things?

Redstone

[AlCzervik]

56. besides myself i will say my father, now i expect nothing so i won't be disappointed.

my sister still holds out hope, i don't, he is who he is and he will never change or treat us any different.

[some guy]

57. like most people, myself.

I've done things that were not very smart; not done other things I should have done - that sort of thing.

It's hard to regret though, because it's impossible to know how making different choices at different points in time would have affected my life.

:shrug:

[Hosnon]

58. Definitely myself. Mark Twain:

"When people do not respect us we are sharply offended; yet deep down in his private heart no man much respects himself."

[huskerlaw]

59. Honestly, nobody

I've been disappointed by things that people have said or done, but I can honestly say that there's nobody directly in my life that I'm disappointed in as a whole.

We're all human. We all make mistakes. I see a lot of people in this thread that are being WAY too hard on themselves.

So to everyone who answered "Myself"...I offer this: :hug: Now stop being so hard on yourself, damn it!

[SPKrazy]

60. Well, I'd Have To Say

my wife

which is why, despite the fact that I've paid the mortgage for years without any contribution or effort, or desire to contribute to the family income, I've moved into the guest room.


But, the guest room rocks!

It's like a party room for me! :sarcasm:

I'm not holding my breath that any of this is going to get any better thank you very much.

:popcorn:

[Ekirh]

61. Yah I'm going with the myself answer. . .

Heck I did a post on here once about it.. but then I deleted it (and was thankful the Mods removed it shortly after that) . .

But yah, I'll spare you all the self venting though.

[Darth_Kitten]

62. Any so-called father figure in my life......

bio dad was a troubled, I'm guessing schizophrenic who my Mom divorced when she was very young and never got any support from. It would have been nice to get some support so I could like, go to university or something. Small things like that.

Later she married a drunk. Sorry, but it's true. Imagine how embarrassing and disgusting a drunk can be in small town where everybody thinks they know your business. He still disappoints me, because although sober and different, he still has mannerisms or habits that annoy or disgust me.

There, I'm blunt. No wonder why I feel shy around men. Am I going to get better in life? :shrug:

[Bullwinkle925]

63. My 'Ex-Brother' ...

Long story and will probably have the sad ending of never seeing him again.

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

67. I'll second that

Although I'm also disappointed in our late sister for being so subservient to her husband and for ignoring the huge sore on her breast that turned out to be breast cancer. Oh, well - we can't all be perfect, can we? :cry:

[Bullwinkle925]

73. Waahhhhh .....

Not to mention her husband who ignored everything about her!

[YellowRubberDuckie]

64. My mom.

She's been pissed at me for breathing since my father died in 1996. It turned to a blind rage when my sister died instead of me in 2000. She was never happy unless I was miserable.
Duckie

[Nikia]

65. I'll go with the others who said myself

Nearly everyone in my life has disappointed me. I can find excuses for them, though. As for me, I should be able to be better than I am. If I know how I want to conduct myself and what I want to achieve, then why I can't I manage to do it? I can only conclude that I am a lazy and immoral person, even though I desperately don't want to be.

[leftofthedial]

66. me

[NNadir]

68. My brother.

A liar, a thief, a fraud, etc.

I'm not all that great, and I disappoint myself, but at least I'm not him.

[Blue_In_AK]

71. My most recent ex-husband, without a doubt. n/t

[eppur_se_muova]

72. Thesis advisor. If competence was too much to ask, he could have at least been honest.

Plagiarising your own advisee is about as low as you can get -- except for expelling him for complaining about it.

[S n o w b a l l]

74. As with others here...

my biological father who abandoned me at age 2. And committed suicide a couple years ago after we finally talked but never got the chance to meet.

[Amaya]

76. First I'd have to say me

recently, my boyfriend. Some people will never change. :(

[Brewman_Jax]

77. Unfortunately, that's an easy question to answer

My father, for being the drunken sorry bastard that he is and was never one for self-improvement. He and his health get to suffer for his inattentiveness. He has a pharmacy of prescriptions that he takes.

My mother, for being so low in self-esteem she put up with the sorry bastard for 45 years and stressed herself into poor health.

My brothers, for being the no-account slackers that they are. Couldn't depend on them for help when the parents were in hospitals over the past 5 years.

And me, for being so angry with the whole lot of them. :(


At least there's the cat.

[City Lights]

78. That would be my husband.

I come in 2nd.

[YankeyMCC]

80. I have to start with myself

Not because I think I'm particularly bad but I'm the one person in the world that I am responsible for making the world a better place. I could do better in many ways.

Other than that I can look to people who've acted towards me in a hurtful way or expressed hurtful ideas towards other people when I didn't expect it. And that would be my mother in both cases.

[PRETZEL]

81. I would have to consider myself also,

it's not that I'm upset with the way my life's been. But in the course of one's lifetime we make decisions (or fail to act) that we eventually regret later. My own personality is (unfortunately) one of timidity and unselfishness. I know I've been taken advantage of practically all my life but in some weird way it hasn't bothered me as much as it could have. Maybe that's by biggest fault.

It would be nice (at least for me anyway) if aspiration and aggressiveness would go hand in hand. If they did I guess I wouldn't be where I am today.