Question ladies.

[HEyHEY]

When your ex-girlfriend (Who wants to get back together sometime in the future) is coming to town for christmas and says they'll be no lovin', but there WAS lovin' when you saw her a month ago, what are the chances there won't be any lovin? I mean REALLY?

EDIT: It's just that I wanna know how merry of a Christmas it's going to be.

[MrCoffee]

1. you're gonna score.

stock up on the magnums, bro.

[skygazer]

2. Depends

If there's been no lovin' from anywhere in the meantime, I'd say your chances of getting lucky are pretty good. Abstinence, after all, makes the heart grow fonder. ;)

[HEyHEY]

3. That's part of the reason I want to know

I wanna know if I am going to behave myself in the meantime. Cause if I don't then I am not going to touch her.

[JVS]

7. Oh my God, you're a slave!

Lemme get this straight! You think that because she might have sex with you that she has already claimed won't happen, that you should keep yourself "pure" for her just in case it happens. FUCK THAT. This is the one scenario where you are allowed to go out and get as much sex as you want and you're pining away! :puke:

[HEyHEY]

19. Dude.... think about it

If I go screw around and then her and I sleep together... that reduces her status with me to a booty call. Plus, it'd be behind her back.

[JVS]

21. It would not do either of those things.

Only you have the power to reduce her to the status of the booty call in your mind.

When you are broken up, sleeping with someone else is not behind her back. It's your right. Some would even say that the papers on a breakup are not official until the next occurrence of coitus.

[HEyHEY]

22. "Some" Like who? Your frat brothers?

[JVS]

23. I'm not in a frat.

But I do interpret the post-breakup celibacy thing as a possible manifestation of inability to accept the breakup. Ultimately the whole thing seems unhealthy.

[HEyHEY]

24. Hey, if she wasn't coming down in three days

I'd be out having a blast. But, she is, I DO care about her and I'm not going go screwing around then possibly sleeping with her as if I never touched another woman. It's about respect.

[JVS]

25. Have you been out having a blast in the recent past or not?

Why this need to act "as if I never touched another woman"? Is it not possible to just act as though you have been doing whatever it is that you've been doing? This is the three days before a visit, not freaking Lent we're talking about.

[HEyHEY]

27. Yeah, but there's a killer party on Friday

And there's a couple highly likely options

[JVS]

28. Go to the parties. Live it up. Have a good time.

Why are you so resistant to the idea that you deserve fun?

[HEyHEY]

29. That pesky emotion called love, man.

It's a bitch.

[JVS]

30. Spock just called. He said that you must overcome your emotions and party down

[JVS]

4. Previous uncontrolable loving is not guarantee of future happenings.

Maybe the girl learned something called restraint since then.

[HEyHEY]

5. I'd believe that if it was any other guy... but it's me, I'm irresistible

[JVS]

10. You seriously need to shit or get of the pot with this one.

Either she is your girlfriend or she isn't. Pick one, embrace it, run with it.

[HEyHEY]

13. Hey, if it was up to me we'd be married with kids now

[JVS]

14. How is she with this idea? Is she willing to commit, or is she stringing you along?

[HEyHEY]

18. She is willing to commit

But is going through some very serious personal issues and can't right now. And that's fair enough. SHe has strung me along at all. It's my inability to move on that is hampering me. But for good reason, you don't just walk away from a girl like this when things don't work out. You'll screw yourself for life.

[JVS]

20. This is beginning to look like the "long national nightmare" variety of relationship

[tigereye]

16. aw

:rofl:

actually that's rather sweet.

[youthere]

6. I believe the odds are favorable for some lovin'.

[BlueIris]

8. Oh, HEyHEY.

Dude--she isn't mentally healthy right now. Unless she's had the most miraculous therapuetic transformation in history (which, come on--get real) she isn't any more ready to be with you now than she was two months ago. I know it's tempting to pretend otherwise when you really wish she had her collective shit together, but this is opening yourself up for a world of hurt.

[HEyHEY]

11. Yes, this is true

Which is why I have told myself numerous times to not try anything. BUt then, if SHE tries something and I say no, that could make her feel bad. Damned, I hate being young.

[Taverner]

9. From a guy here: You're gonna score

Trust me on that one

[darkstar]

12. stop children, what's that sound...

Oh. It's the the rumble of HH/ex rockin' around the Chrismas tree...

[tigereye]

15. hmm, haven't we been down this road before?

"Hey baby it's cold outside..." ;)

[HEyHEY]

17. yup

And man was that outcome a surprise

[BarenakedLady]

26. Depends

Will she be staying in the same place as you overnight? Will there be any alcohol involved? Any snuggling?

If you answered yes to any of these question, then I would have to say yes you are going to have a very merry Christmas.

[LostinVA]

31. 80% chance of sex