I think I have reached the point of stress where I want to hit someone and just scream.

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

I feel so stressed out ...

I work 8 hours a night on my 3rd shift job from 10pm to 6:30 am. When I come home I am always taking care of my mom ,phone ringing every 5 minutes,making sure she gets her medicine. I only ate once yesterday. I am so fucking tired of my stepdad having a bad attitude with me. He has treated me like I was not shit since the minute my mom took his sorry ass in. And now he is being an asshole to her to. She is on so much medicine - sometimes it makes it hard for her to talk.He had the nerve to tell her to stop faking it - she had a damn ANEURYSM asshole ! Just because she is home does not mean she is dependant. I swear to God I want to knock the shit out of him. The other day he was talking mean to her while she was taking a bath just because she wanted the water warmer. I swear to God if something else happens to her he is gonna pay. She tells him that the big light in the bedroom hurts her head and yet he still cuts it on. I am so mad. I am moving out in a couple of months because I need my own peace. But I don't want to leave my mom here. Its so much other shit here that I won't post but damn I wish someone would knock the shit out of him because my mom does not deserve what she went through medical wise and she does'nt need him being an ass to her either. I am so fucking mad ... I am angry.

[some guy]

1. you have a right to be angry

I don't have any answers or advice, but I can kick your thread and maybe some else will have kind words...

:hug: for you

:hug: for your mother

:hi:

[Broken_Hero]

2. Your step/dad seems like a bonafide jerk...

Take heart CarolinaPeridot, things will get better, and hopefully your step/dad will realize what a jerk he is, before you stick a pen in his arm, and tell him to shut up...:D

I'm sorry that you are angry, your step/dad reminds me of how my father in law acts towards his wife from time to time. My FIL is a complete hypochondriac, and believes he is always mere seconds away from dying/going to the hospital, but he is just a big baby...meanwhile, his wife has diabetes, and suffers from that affliction 24/7, at times she can't even stand/walk, nor put on her own clothes, and he jumps up and down angry, when she doesn't want to go anywhere/run around, because she can barely function properly. My wife and I had to bring the hammer down on him, because he was being a complete ass....I hope that your step/dad realizes that he is making it worse...and if not, drop the hammer...

Take care, and I hope that things pan out...:hug:

[necso]

3. Your stepfather appears to be

an asshole (as a matter of inalterable character); and your mother will apparently suffer as a result. There's not much that you can do about this (ie, there's no easy way to make an asshole into a caring person).

However, letting yourself suffer as a result is something that you can do something about. Transcend as best you can, and recognize that the road ahead promises to be difficult. (But it too will end.)

And consider this: you getting upset isn't doing your mother any good.

One must be wise.

Life can be cruel.

[cwydro]

4. Take the light bulb out of the big light.

It'd be a start.

[SPKrazy]

5. Sorry Carolina!

That sucks

you are right-he's being an ass

you're a good daughter and seem very devoted and I know you've gone through a lot with your Mom lately and her aneurysm.

Glad she's home and man, just keep your spirits up.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[Sequoia]

6. Call Family Services and have him arrested.

I'm sure you fear that if you leave it may be more than mean words. Change the locks on the house when he leaves and don't let him in. Send him on a trip and then close up the house, sell it and you and your mom scram. Tell him the FBI called and he's under investigation for being anti-American. Get a voo-doo doll in his likeness and stick pins in his head and other painful places. Make a hamburger out of dog food and feed it to him. Drive him to the wilderness and say you forgot something in the car and leave him there. After all, there must be 50 ways to leave you step pa.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

9. At least call your local domestic abuse hotline

Your stepfather is being emotionally abusive to both your mother and you.

I once had a relative who was emotionally abusive to me for years, and I took it, because I was brought up to respect my elders. But one day she went too far and began ragging on me for the superficial aspects of a situation that was very painful to me and that she did not understand. I blew up at her--I don't think I've ever been so angry at an individual in my life--and told her the truth behind the appearances, something that really took her aback.

She shut up quickly and never tormented me again. Evidently fighting back works with emotional bullies as well as physical bullies.

[idgiehkt]

7. I really am sorry you are having to go through this

The stress of what you would be going through caring for you Mom would be more than enough without him causing trouble.

[Writer]

8. I think you should stand up to him...

if he can't care for her properly, then he should leave.

[crim son]

10. Some people deal badly with illness.

I have some experience with this and I doubt you are going to be able to change your stepfather's behavior in the short term. As terrible as your situation is, you have to be strong and take the lead for your mother's sake. It's such a shame that when times are hardest we are not all able to rise to the occasion. You are in my thoughts. :hug: