A boy likes me! = Eeeeek! =

[Dangerously Amused]

We're in a theatrical production together. We've gone out a couple of times after rehearsals either with other cast members or just us, but it was always very casual, like just to get something to eat while still in our dance clothes. He never made a move or did anything to suggest that he thought we were "a couple" or "on a date," and I've also taken care to not hint at wanting us to be a couple, or to lead him on in any other way. Nor did I expect or want it to head in that direction. I really enjoy his company, we've been getting along so well in a platonic relationship... I have been very grateful for that opportunity and was hoping it might continue that way beyond the show.

Last night we went out after rehearsal again. He gave me a hug just as I was leaving - very comfortable as we all hug each other in the show anyway - but he stole a kiss at the last moment. Yikes! I was taken very much by surprise, left quickly and and drove home with my eyes about as big as dinner plates.

= sigh =

I suppose it's time to have the "Let's Just Be Friends" talk. I really, really REALLY hope it doesn't destroy what we've built up so far. I so don't want to lose that, but I know I couldn't give dating an honest effort right now. My heart wouldn't be in it, and that wouldn't be fair to him.


Crap. x(



And thanks for humoring my thinking-out-loud Lounge Therapy.

[billyskank]

1. More than one, sweetie

:loveya:



The Let's Just Be Friends talk... :cry:

[Dangerously Amused]

4. Yay!

:loveya:



I know, about the talk... I'm going to hate it, too.


:cry:

[billyskank]

5. I know

but I think he's going to hate it more, I'm afraid. :(

I'm familiar with that one...

[Dangerously Amused]

10. Oh, sweetie...

:hug:

[Whoa_Nelly]

2. One kiss doesn't wreck the friendship

because friends are open to understanding when you let them know you like things the way they are already. :hug:


OK...now DISH!!

Was it a good kiss??????

[lizziegrace]

6. Yea, spill it

how *was* that kiss?

;)

[Dangerously Amused]

11. Full report below. :-)

:hi:




PS - I'm glad you got your keys back! Whew!

[Dangerously Amused]

9. Oh my goddess, you always have the best advice!

I know, I will have to very strongly emphasize the "how much I value what we already have and don't want to risk losing it" aspect of the relationship. Because I really don't want to lose that. I am glad that we will continue to see each other at least through the run of the show, which is a little over a month. I intend to make an obvious effort to continue our friendship during that time so he can see that I am sincere and it wasn't just a line.


And no, the kiss was... not good; I didn't see it coming AT ALL. No time to anticipate it, no time to prepare... it happened before I knew it. Heh - maybe he will think I'm a lousy kisser and be glad to get rid of me.


Thanks.


:hug:

[Whoa_Nelly]

21. Am glad you are feeling sure about how you're going to approach him

That can make all the difference in the world. Sounds like you've already rehearsed in your mind what you want to say and how to say it...always a good thing...and am getting the sense that you're going to be very open and accepting of going with the flow regarding his response. It's clear you are a sincere friend, and hopefully he'll see that, too.

As for asking about the kiss: Was just following the Lounge Nosiness rule regarding sudden kisses :evilgrin:

Have had unexpected kisses before....and one of them turned out to be a really good thing (for a while) to follow. :D
(Sorry. No further explanation on that remark!...no SEX threads allowed... :rofl: )

Hang in there, DA! You know I think the world of you! :hug:

[Dangerously Amused]

26. You know, my very best friend

...ever since we were kids is a guy. And even though he is attractive and well educated and compassionate and successful and really everything a girl could ever want in a guy... and even though I love him with all my heart and I would take a bullet for that guy... our relationship has always remained strictly platonic. And we have always agreed that what we have as Best Friends is too special and too valuable to risk losing or altering by subjecting it to any potential romantic challenges. Our friendship is so strong that a romantic relationship is not even plausible: he is like the dearest brother I never had. Unfortunately he lives clear across the country, and has for many years now. But of course we visit and keep in touch.

But anyway I get that same kind of vibe from this new guy. And besides the fact that dating just isn't a good choice for me right now... I think I might like him too much to date him anyway. How lucky - and frustrating - is that?!


:banghead:

[Guava Jelly]

3. You have a kind heart D_A

You can't blame the guy for liking you.
Just be gentle as i am sure you will be.
Try to pick a word besides "friends" to use.
Try buddy's.

[Dangerously Amused]

12. Thanks. I try!

And thanks for the advice.


:hug:

[lizziegrace]

7. I'd wonder about him it he didn't

:hug:

Like GoPsUx said, try not to use the dreaded "friends" word. I know that's what you mean, but...

[Dangerously Amused]

13. Thank you for the compliment and the as-always good advice.

You're the best, you are.


BIG :hug:

[Vanje]

8. uh oh. You dot 'like him" back?

[Dangerously Amused]

15. It's not that I don't like him, I do.

It's that I'm not in a good place to be dating right now; my heart is still smarting from my last few relationships. It's going to take some time - and some insight - before I'm willing to trust someone with my heart again. You know?

[BarenakedLady]

25. And that is exactly what you should tell him

during the talk

It will still hurt him (I know), but at least it may soften the blow a bit.

Good luck to you. I hope you can salvage the friendship.

:hug:

[Botany]

14. Give him a shot .... what the hell

Maybe he will turn out to be a "gifted" and talented lover .....
or not ..... :rofl:

@ which point you have a real problem on your hands.

Glad to help.

[Dangerously Amused]

16. Yeah, that whole "what the hell, give him a shot" thing

...is what got me into trouble in the first place.


But thanks anyway.

[Botany]

24. Go ahead take "that horse out of the barn" and let him run around

"the track" a few times. Who knows you might have a big old stud
like Secretariat on your hands. A strong finisher who is done in under
2 minutes ..... :rofl:

http://www.joergs-horse-racing.com/mediac/400_0/media/DIR_59964/Secretariat$2520The$2520Photo.jpg

[Starbucks Anarchist]

17. Want me to kick his ass?

:D

[billyskank]

18. Edit

Delete

[billyskank]

23. Never mind

:eyes:

[Dangerously Amused]

27. Aww, I thought that was a nice reply...

:shrug:



:)

[billyskank]

30. It doesn't matter

[Starbucks Anarchist]

29. Yeah, I can't blame the guy.

:D

[Dangerously Amused]

19. Ha ha!

No ass-kicking needed, he's one of the good guys. But it's always good to know you have my back.


:7

[Starbucks Anarchist]

20. I got your front, too.

:evilgrin:

[S n o w b a l l]

22. Good luck...

I'm having the same problem. Unfortunately, it went too far for us to ever just be friends, but he refuses to admit that. If you can address it now, I'm sure it won't be too late to remain friends. Hope you have better luck than me!




:hide:

[Dangerously Amused]

28. Heh heh, I just stole that gif.

Thanks. Sorry about your situation though. I've learned a few things the hard way like that, too.


:hug: