What is the best reply to a smear campaign?

[EFerrari]

My soon to be X is smearing me all over San Francisco.

It's a thing of beauty, actually, he's doing such a good job.

But, I was wondering what you all think about a response because my mommy mind just keeps saying, "it isn't his fault, etc, etc."

A good friend pointed out to me today that if I don't respect myself, that's a big red flag. What do you think?

Edit: k->g

[nini]

1. Depends on what he is doing

If it's something that will affect your ability to seek employment etc.. keep track and go after him legally.

If he's just being an asshole, ignore him - the truth always comes out eventually.

[EFerrari]

2. It's both. And at first I thought, he'll calm down. This is what people do

during a break up. :shrug:

But last night, I got some really nasty email from a total stranger that has apparently bought his story, hook, line and sinker.

I don't know. This kind of ugly is just beyond what I understand.

[nini]

3. Keep a log.. and save all those emails

if it doesn't die down I'd see about getting a bit of legal assistance just to see if there is anything you can do to get him to back off.


why the heck a total stranger feels it's ok to butt in is always amazing to me. What business is it of THEIR'S?????


good luck.

[EFerrari]

4. It's the 101 Keyboard Brigade.

Why ON GOD'S GREEN EARTH would you willingly get in the middle of someone ELSE'S divorce?

I hope I never hit that level of boredom. :shrug:

[EFerrari]

5. I could use some feedback here.

[Gormy Cuss]

6. nini covered it perfectly, IMHO.

I would have posted the same advice.

[EFerrari]

19. I tend to agree. It just needs to get into this thick skull.

[greatauntoftriplets]

7. Discuss it with your attorney.

I am certain he'd have some useful insight. And....

:hug:

[EFerrari]

13. I just don't understand how people can act this way.

But then, I can be dim. :(

[xchrom]

8. now that is something considering it's san francisco!

i'd consult a lawyer and keep a journal for sure.

and i'd enjoy my new found notoriety.

[EFerrari]

14. Okay.

lol

:)

[HEyHEY]

9. I'd need to know more about the situation

Revenge is a specialty of mine.
I would suggest sitting down and thinking about where he is weak.... then exploit that weakness.

[EFerrari]

15. There's something wrong with me. My brain won't do that.

:(

[JVS]

10. Release a flyer with a picture of you feeding soup to orphans

Wage the cheesiest PR campaign ever in your own defence

[EFerrari]

16. LOL

:rofl:

[Deja Q]

11. A toilet paper campaign, naturally...

:yoiks:

[EFerrari]

17. Okay. I'll try anything.

:)

[Redstone]

12. Save every bit of credible evidence you can, and KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT! Never, EVER let

the other side know what you're up to.

Speaking of which, ask the admins to delete this post. NOW!

Redstone

[EFerrari]

18. Oops!

:blush: