I have to give up my dog and I'm heartbroken

[Connonym]

Circumstances are forcing me to sell my house and I can't take my dog when I move. Of all the things that make me sad about losing my house, losing her breaks my heart more than everything else put together. The breeder is helping me find a new home for her but I don't know how to let go. I've failed in my responsibility to her and I don't know why I'm posting this here except that I need someone to tell me that I'm not the worst dog mom who ever lived.

[malta blue]

1. I am so sorry.

:hug: :hug:

[lizziegrace]

2. You're not

By finding her a good home, you're doing the right thing. I know how much this hurts. I had to leave my dog with my ex when we divorced. I couldn't find a place that would rent to me with a dog. :(

:hug:

[LynneSin]

3. I had a friend who had to give up her dog when she moved...

..the nice thing was that she found a new owner that didn't mind if my friend stopped by 1-2 a month to visit & walk the dog. In fact when the new family went on vacation one time my friend filled in as a dog-sitter

[LaraMN]

4. Oh no, honey, you're not the worst dog mom!

The worst dog mom just stopped over to borrow my candy thermometer, and I told her that her dog's been in my garbage about five times, this week. You're doing the best you can for your dog- that's a sure sign of a good and loving owner. Hugs to you.
:hug: :hug: :hug:

[San Diego]

5. I'm sorry to hear that.

But that doesn't mean you're the worst dog mom who ever lived.

When deciding on a new home for her, try to make some type of concession with the new owner so that you get visitation rights.

Take her to the park once a week. Or if you're near the beach, I know for a fact that dogs love going to the beach. Before my ex and I broke up, I would take our lab every Saturday. She knew what day it was and would nudge me awake at 5:30 so we could be on our way by 6:00.

It really sucks having to say goodbye.

:hug:

[miss_american_pie]

6. No, you aren't

:hug:

[ThomCat]

7. I'm very, very sorry.

:cry:
I wish you could take her with you. I would be just as heartbroken if I had to give up my cats.
:hug:

You are not responsible for situations beyond your control. You're doing the best that you can in a difficult situation.

[seemunkee]

8. Your being the best mom that you can

abandoning her would be the worst. Finding a good home is the best thing you can do. Your circumstances doesn't mean you failed her.

[AlienAvatar]

9. Is there no place you can go

where it's allowed to have a dog? Having a pet definitely makes relocating a problem, but it's certainly not an insurmountable one. I realize I'm saying this with no knowledge of your circumstance, but unless your going to jail or an institution it shouldn't be impossible to find a suitable home for the two of you. Difficult, but not impossible.

[Connonym]

11. Unfortunately, no

I'm relying on the kindness of family allowing my daughters and I to live with them until I can get back on my feet. The dog isn't negotiable.

[Karenca]

10. No, you aren't.

This situation is out of your control.
I had to face a similiar situation 2 years ago with my beloved Golden.

Just reading your post proves you're a good mommy.

I'm sso orry you have to go through this---I know how you feel. :hug:

[Wcross]

12. She is going to be OK.

I adopted three from a family in a similar situation. Their house burned to the ground, no insurance and had to move to an apartment in town. They are getting the best of care and are happy to still be together. As a matter of fact, I even kept the three pups the girl had two weeks after moving in.
There is nothing you can do to change the situation, you have to look out for your daughters well being first. You ARE NOT a bad dog mom, you are finding her a good home. How can that be bad?
A bad dog mom would drive her out to the country to "be free" or dump her at the pound.
You are far from being a bad mom.

[leftofthedial]

13. bummer!

I'm sorry you're losing your dog. You are not the worst dog mom by a long stretch. Shelters are full of abandoned and neglected dogs. Find a good home for her.

[Richardo]

14. I am so sorry - I understand your heartbreak

Under the circumstances, you are doing the best you can by finding her a home :hug:
I hope it will get better soon.

[xchrom]

15. you are loving your baby -- not abusing her.

that's what the worst dog mommy does.

you are being loving and caring -- in short -- wonderful -- the best way you can.

and yes -- it's going to break your heart.

i'm sorry.

[WindRavenX]

18. that's what I was going to say

A bad doggie mommy would not have gone out to make sure her baby has a good home.

Terribly sorry to hear about your loss though :hug:

[Virginia Dare]

16. Contact a breed rescue organization...

I'm not sure what breed your dog is, but there are many of them out there, do a google search, or go to petfinder.com. Most of these organizations will help find your dog a foster home and eventually a new forever home.

I provide a foster home for these dogs, and you're not alone, I'm just happy you're not one of those people who just abandons your pet, like many people do.

:hug:

[Connonym]

17. I can't find an official golden doodle rescue

Thus far I've only found one web site for people looking to "rescue" them but there aren't any credentials, just people posting a wanted ad basically, no information to determine whether they'd be appropriate. I've spoken to the breeder and he's going to be getting back to me today with a number for a nonbreed-specific rescue in the area. Thanks everyone for the reassurance and support. I know I don't have a choice but it's still agonizing.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

20. That's because a Golden Doodle isn't a breed. It's an expensive mutt, sorry but that's what it is.

That being said, I'm REALLY, TRULY sorry you have to give up your dog. I've had pets my whole life and it's a really hard thing to do.

I'd look into Golden Retriever or Poodle rescue groups. Oftentimes they'll accept dogs that are mixes of that breed, which is what a Golden Doodle is.

:hug:

[Connonym]

21. But a very sweet little mutt

She's got the golden retriever personality and looks like a muppet dog. It was love at first sight.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

19. Is it possible that a friend could foster her?

My brother took care of a neighbor's dog on a long-term basis when mental illness made it necessary for her to be hospitalized.

You are a great dog mom. The evidence is in your sorrow at having to give your dog away. I'm so sorry...:hug:

[mzteris]

22. where in WI are you?

My son volunteers with a good pet rescue group in Madison.... Maybe they could help.

PM me if we can help.

We'd take it, but we already have 3 dogs (and a ticked off cat!)

[riderinthestorm]

23. I'd be happy to foster her while you get back on your feet

or even take her if that would be better. I own a farm just west of Chicago that my female mutt is currently "ruling" by herself since I lost my 18 year old Jack Russell. We train, breed, buy and sell competition horses so I have a LOT of potential references from vets to clients and friends but more importantly we're pretty flexible amd have a lot of experience having a pet staying with us for a little while or forever. PM me if you want to talk more. We're just beginning our search for a second dog (we always have two) and rather than get another JRT, we've been leaning towards adopting another mutt since we really love this one we got at the local shelter.

I am so sorry for your hardships but you'll pull out soon I'm sure. Best of luck to you!!